Sorry to CP ya'll!!
I have this friend (non-black chick) who started dating this guy, and later found out he was "separated" from his wife, who was pregnant with their 2nd child. He went on to say that things just weren't good there, yadda yadda. Like 3-4 months into the relationship, he said he was going to try and work it out with his wife (right after baby 2 was born). So, I'm like ok friend, he's made his choice, cut him off.. but she doesn't.
She met up with "as friends" for dinner. She went to the west coast for vacay in the summer, then admitted a few months later she hooked up with him out there. I'm tellin her this whole time that she's really bugging. She's like it wasn't sex, just fooling around and we hung out. Either way, a total no-go.
Recently, they had dinner, she said she told him they couldnt' do that anymore, it wasn't fair to her. I'm like OK, good. Like later that week she's like Ok, i met up with him again. So, I'm like yo, your bugging for real, this is NOT ok. Because everyone she's told her story to tells her like "well you can't help who you fall for, yadda yadda." I felt it was my job as her friend to tell her she was really fucking up, but in nicer words..
Last week, she books a spontaneous trip to Minneapolis to see one of her old high school friends she hasn't seen in forever. Flying out Saturday, coming back Sunday. I think nothing of it. I've asked her, has X tried to contact you and she said, "Yes, but I've ignored it." I'm like good, I'm so proud of you.
So since she came back from MN she's been acting funny. She admits today that she slept with him while she was out there. And he knew she was going, and she strategically kinda picked that place to visit, because yeah she wanted to see her friends, but she knew he went to college out there. She only told me because she was freaking out about a cold sore she has on her lips. she's freaking out like "OH no, what if I got him contagious and he gives it to his wife or kids" I didn't say anything. In my mind, I'm like "You didn't care about them when you were FUCKING him!!!"
I wish she hadn't told me, because she has totally tarnished her self in my eyes. I kept my mouth shut for this conversation, because I've made it clear that I felt she was wrong, and really fucking up. And every time we talk now, she finds a way to bring it back to her drama. I wanna be like "Friend, I don't care, you put yourself in the situation"
Am I wrong? Am I over reacting?? I'm definitely hurt she blatantly lied. If you want to keep it private that's one thing, but to lie???
I have this friend (non-black chick) who started dating this guy, and later found out he was "separated" from his wife, who was pregnant with their 2nd child. He went on to say that things just weren't good there, yadda yadda. Like 3-4 months into the relationship, he said he was going to try and work it out with his wife (right after baby 2 was born). So, I'm like ok friend, he's made his choice, cut him off.. but she doesn't.
She met up with "as friends" for dinner. She went to the west coast for vacay in the summer, then admitted a few months later she hooked up with him out there. I'm tellin her this whole time that she's really bugging. She's like it wasn't sex, just fooling around and we hung out. Either way, a total no-go.
Recently, they had dinner, she said she told him they couldnt' do that anymore, it wasn't fair to her. I'm like OK, good. Like later that week she's like Ok, i met up with him again. So, I'm like yo, your bugging for real, this is NOT ok. Because everyone she's told her story to tells her like "well you can't help who you fall for, yadda yadda." I felt it was my job as her friend to tell her she was really fucking up, but in nicer words..
Last week, she books a spontaneous trip to Minneapolis to see one of her old high school friends she hasn't seen in forever. Flying out Saturday, coming back Sunday. I think nothing of it. I've asked her, has X tried to contact you and she said, "Yes, but I've ignored it." I'm like good, I'm so proud of you.
So since she came back from MN she's been acting funny. She admits today that she slept with him while she was out there. And he knew she was going, and she strategically kinda picked that place to visit, because yeah she wanted to see her friends, but she knew he went to college out there. She only told me because she was freaking out about a cold sore she has on her lips. she's freaking out like "OH no, what if I got him contagious and he gives it to his wife or kids" I didn't say anything. In my mind, I'm like "You didn't care about them when you were FUCKING him!!!"
I wish she hadn't told me, because she has totally tarnished her self in my eyes. I kept my mouth shut for this conversation, because I've made it clear that I felt she was wrong, and really fucking up. And every time we talk now, she finds a way to bring it back to her drama. I wanna be like "Friend, I don't care, you put yourself in the situation"
Am I wrong? Am I over reacting?? I'm definitely hurt she blatantly lied. If you want to keep it private that's one thing, but to lie???
