I asked a question. How do you turn it around?
Dray, thanks for posting this, I like intelligent discussions like this.
I think they way we turn it around is on multiple fronts
We have to know our purpose enough to take relationships more seriously. We, as black men, must value ourselves more and apply our worth to our families.
We shouldn't be having unprotected sex with women we dont want children with.
We shouldn't be in relationships or have children with women we don't genuinely love.
We shouldn't date women we know that we can do better than, or that don't deserve us.
We must have the confidence to go after exactly what we want and take it serious when we find it.
We must have the self-discipline to strap up when it's only casual or just fucking. Protect our seeds!
I know much of this starts in the home as a child and many of us are products of broken homes, so there's the effects of being products of our environments that we have to shake off, too.
I personally have a wife list and some of the things on it are non-negotiables.
My children deserve more than to be mistakes.
My children deserve a great mother.
I want my children to know Mama & Daddy love each other (even if it doesn't work out)
My children deserve for me to go to the ends of the earth to keep my family together, that means doing everything in my power (before & during) to make it work with their mother.
I want all my children to have the same mother (unless I go the polygamous route, even then they are only having my children, no step children)