Sistas A brotha needs some input.

[Fatsack]

I met this woman.. Very nice, well educated, successful, owns a home, sex FREAK.

One problem...


She's well... um... how can I put this. kinda ugly.

We first met in a dark place.. convo was nice... I was a little tipsy.. whe talked on the phone for a while.. went out to small group functions..

To add some color for the fellas to really understand.

THink Blanka from street fighter... I'm not trying to be funny.. but thats what she kinda reminds me of.

Her eyess.. think of the father in the latest adams family movie.. big eyes.. not exactly in a good way.. but.. perhaps in a creepy way.

She may scare young children.. I feel bad even writing this..

I don't want to be shallow & I must admit, I feel slightly embarrased when we are in public.. She's not black.. so I get the HARD looks from the sistas.. 1 she's not black. 2, she may be considered not attractive.

As a GROWN ass man, I know in my head I need to get over this trivial shit. I should not care what people think.. I am considered quite handsome, I'm 6'3" and I work on Wall Street

I am writing this to women because I more often see pretty women with ugly dudes more than I see the other way around.

Give it to me plain... thanks.

 

[JofromthaNO]

Well damn...I don't even know how to approach this...

The main board would say, since she's a sex freak and you don't think she's attractive, just consider her a fuck buddy and keep it simple like that...

I would, eh, agree ...as bad as it sounds.

 

[Fatsack]

Well damn...I don't even know how to approach this...

The main board would say, since she's a sex freak and you don't think she's attractive, just consider her a fuck buddy and keep it simple like that...

I would, eh, agree ...as bad as it sounds.

She wants more.. I think she deserves it. She says she never been in a long relationship.. She says guys get "distant" after awhile.. It's just sad. She is a beautiful person inside.. well. she also has a body like one of those thick brazillian broads.. I voluntarily deleted my brazillian porn stash because she has that fantasy covered. I just don't need it.

Something tells me that its easier for a woman to date an ugly guy, than a guy to date a "less than attractive" woman.. any thoughts?

 

[LeroyDibiase]

Man, don't listen to Jo Etta Mae. I got you. Do not take this wildebeest in public. You must weigh the goodness of the sex vs the repercussions of people seeing you with Sloth from the Goonies...wait, she's not even Black?? You taking a big L for a non-sista???

You need to be:

 

[femmenoire]

You just have the curse of the white woman/pale skin. I mean it is the black man's kryptonite.

You may never ever rebound from that.

Good luck.

 

[Fatsack]

You just have the curse of the white woman/pale skin. I mean it is the black man's kryptonite.

You may never ever rebound from that.

Good luck.

I love black woman.. she does not look "white" per se.. She looks more exotic.. She is a thick olive complected portugese woman with long curly hair. I have had ALL kinds of woman. I prefer black, but i stay open to others. So race is not an issue for me.


I was joking around with my sifu (gung fu teacher) one day and I told him I have one standard with woman.. She must at least look better than me.

He says "how so? You are a very handsome man" he said matter of factly. I was befuddled because I assume that was the standard of most men.

She may not be as ugly as i described... completely... lets just say she slightly favors blanka and uncle fester... jus a little. Perhaps I am too obsessed with looks.

 

[ladyscorpio]

I met this woman.. Very nice, well educated, successful, owns a home, sex FREAK.

One problem...


She's well... um... how can I put this. kinda ugly.

We first met in a dark place.. convo was nice... I was a little tipsy.. whe talked on the phone for a while.. went out to small group functions..

To add some color for the fellas to really understand.

THink Blanka from street fighter... I'm not trying to be funny.. but thats what she kinda reminds me of.

Her eyess.. think of the father in the latest adams family movie.. big eyes.. not exactly in a good way.. but.. perhaps in a creepy way.

She may scare young children.. I feel bad even writing this..

I don't want to be shallow & I must admit, I feel slightly embarrased when we are in public.. She's not black.. so I get the HARD looks from the sistas.. 1 she's not black. 2, she may be considered not attractive.

As a GROWN ass man, I know in my head I need to get over this trivial shit. I should not care what people think.. I am considered quite handsome, I'm 6'3" and I work on Wall Street

I am writing this to women because I more often see pretty women with ugly dudes more than I see the other way around.

Give it to me plain... thanks.

She wants more.. I think she deserves it. She says she never been in a long relationship.. She says guys get "distant" after awhile.. It's just sad. She is a beautiful person inside.. well. she also has a body like one of those thick brazillian broads.. I voluntarily deleted my brazillian porn stash because she has that fantasy covered. I just don't need it.

Something tells me that its easier for a woman to date an ugly guy, than a guy to date a "less than attractive" woman.. any thoughts?

Ok you know what you need to tell the lady that you not feeling her. I mean c'mon man you for real Why take her for a ride when you all about the superficial....

Man, don't listen to Jo Etta Mae. I got you. Do not take this wildebeest in public. You must weigh the goodness of the sex vs the repercussions of people seeing you with Sloth from the Goonies...wait, she's not even Black?? You taking a big L for a non-sista???

You need to be:

Leroy you messed up...

 

[Blunt]

Get over yourself.

 

[jedimasta]

Give her some time. If you can't get over her 'Street Fighter'-esque appearance then look for someone else more aesthetically appealing to you. If you do decide to stay fuck what everyone else thinks, you're with her not them.

But if you do decide to dump her don't drag her through the mud. She sounds like a good person and they don't deserve that shit.

 

[Adam Knows]

You just have the curse of the white woman/pale skin. I mean it is the black man's kryptonite.

You may never ever rebound from that.

Good luck.

i gotta ask

what does your statement have to do with anything he's said????

 

[SxxxyBlckBtch]

She wants more.. I think she deserves it. She says she never been in a long relationship.. She says guys get "distant" after awhile.. It's just sad. She is a beautiful person inside.. well. she also has a body like one of those thick brazillian broads.. I voluntarily deleted my brazillian porn stash because she has that fantasy covered. I just don't need it.

Something tells me that its easier for a woman to date an ugly guy, than a guy to date a "less than attractive" woman.. any thoughts?

Then i think you need to let her go so she can find a man that could a ppreciate her look... a Vet maybe...

 

[Shadow]

Then i think you need to let her go so she can find a man that could a ppreciate her look... a Vet maybe...

What kind of Vet?


TO THE OP:

I'm going to tell you something a little different than what you've been generally been getting.

I say take her and and keep building with her. Let it go smoothly. If this chick is a beautiful INSIDE as you say, and everything about her is what you want. Then why are you still concentrating on the physical? Is she homely(i.e. kinda ugly) or is she a straight up beast?

I'm just saying, if I had that situation I would definitely be sticking with it. (Femme, don't say a word)

 

[thebxbomber]

you fucked the wookie??????? the white wookie?????????????

 

[SxxxyBlckBtch]

you fucked the wookie??????? the white wookie?????????????

LMMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOO thank you.. niggahs kill me tryna justify fuckin white bitches... smmfh... lemme go, right now...

 

[Chicutie]

What kind of Vet?

I think she meant veterinarian.


But to the OP, if she's ugly. . . but you're still attracted to her, what's the issue? If you still like her regardless of looks, then you should get over what others think.

 

[ATLKingpin]

I feel you mane, I am fighting f*cking the ugly ones. I have so many after me, I could start a six month rotation Hold out!

 

[ladyscorpio]

What kind of Vet?


TO THE OP:

I'm going to tell you something a little different than what you've been generally been getting.

I say take her and and keep building with her. Let it go smoothly. If this chick is a beautiful INSIDE as you say, and everything about her is what you want. Then why are you still concentrating on the physical? Is she homely(i.e. kinda ugly) or is she a straight up beast?

I'm just saying, if I had that situation I would definitely be sticking with it. (Femme, don't say a word)

Shadow the OP thinks that his woman should "look at least better than him". It seems that as much as he wants to have the part of her that is successful and beautiful inside he needs to have that "dime" vibe. He needs to give her the respect and bow out gracefully. Why would you lead her on just to get your freak on.
And any one that thinks a person has real beauty on the inside never looks for the outside. In my experience anyways.

Like Blunt said he should get over himself.

 

[Shadow]

Shadow the OP thinks that his woman should "look at least better than him". It seems that as much as he wants to have the part of her that is successful and beautiful inside he needs to have that "dime" vibe. He needs to give her the respect and bow out gracefully. Why would you lead her on just to get your freak on.
And any one that thinks a person has real beauty on the inside never looks for the outside. In my experience anyways.

Like Blunt said he should get over himself.

I was getting that from the post, too.

Sad thing if that is really the case. Very shallow.

Alright, going to work now. I've fucked off all morning and am 2 hours late.

 

[SxxxyBlckBtch]

I think she meant veterinarian.


But to the OP, if she's ugly. . . but you're still attracted to her, what's the issue? If you still like her regardless of looks, then you should get over what others think.

yeah i did... smmfh @ slow ass niggahs...

 

[Izayoi]

Give her some time. If you can't get over her 'Street Fighter'-esque appearance then look for someone else more aesthetically appealing to you. If you do decide to stay fuck what everyone else thinks, you're with her not them.

But if you do decide to dump her don't drag her through the mud. She sounds like a good person and they don't deserve that shit.

What kind of Vet?


TO THE OP:

I'm going to tell you something a little different than what you've been generally been getting.

I say take her and and keep building with her. Let it go smoothly. If this chick is a beautiful INSIDE as you say, and everything about her is what you want. Then why are you still concentrating on the physical? Is she homely(i.e. kinda ugly) or is she a straight up beast?

I'm just saying, if I had that situation I would definitely be sticking with it. (Femme, don't say a word)

Shadow the OP thinks that his woman should "look at least better than him". It seems that as much as he wants to have the part of her that is successful and beautiful inside he needs to have that "dime" vibe. He needs to give her the respect and bow out gracefully. Why would you lead her on just to get your freak on.
And any one that thinks a person has real beauty on the inside never looks for the outside. In my experience anyways.

Like Blunt said he should get over himself.

Good words above. The bottomline, when you are really feeling someone they are beautiful to you without qualification (she's sweet BUT she looks like uncle fester a little )

Don't miss out on a good woman BUT if its really bothering you then you are not in a place yet where looks don't matter and that's ok. Doesn't make you a bad person. Stringing this lady along however will make you a complete jackass, because there is someone out there that will think she's beautiful inside and out. Please if you care for her do not stand in the way of letting her find that person. It sounds like she deserves it.

...and fuck people hating on her because she's Portuguese. Ninjas need to get a life and stop worrying about who somebody else is falling in love with.

 

[SWATLANTA]

Good words above. The bottomline, when you are really feeling someone they are beautiful to you without qualification (she's sweet BUT she looks like uncle fester a little )

Don't miss out on a good woman BUT if its really bothering you then you are not in a place yet where looks don't matter and that's ok. Doesn't make you a bad person. Stringing this lady along however will make you a complete jackass, because there is someone out there that will think she's beautiful inside and out. Please if you care for her do not stand in the way of letting her find that person. It sounds like she deserves it.

...and fuck people hating on her because she's Portuguese. Ninjas need to get a life and stop worrying about who somebody else is falling in love with.

I couldn't agree more, I love reading Izayoi's posts !!!

 

[DaleMabry]

Izayoi wins. That's your answer homie.

Clearly ya girl knows by now: guys love fucking her (body) but get weird on locking her down (face).

You're already fucking her so if you're gonna shake her off you best get it over with.

Otherwise I suggest you get used to being seen in public with her and passing her off as "just your friend."

 

[Adam Knows]

...and fuck people hating on her because she's Portuguese. Ninjas need to get a life and stop worrying about who somebody else is falling in love with.

exactly.....

 

[Izayoi]

I couldn't agree more, I love reading Izayoi's posts !!!

Oh thank you. I feel the same way about your posts Swat- you always manage to slip a funny in there with good old common sense.

Sorry Op- no threadjack intended.

 

[tp2001]

To add some color for the fellas to really understand.

THink Blanka from street fighter... I'm not trying to be funny.. but thats what she kinda reminds me of.

If you're not trying to be funny then I'm trying so hard not to laugh...


But Izayoi is exactly right with this:

Don't miss out on a good woman BUT if its really bothering you then you are not in a place yet where looks don't matter and that's ok. Doesn't make you a bad person. Stringing this lady along however will make you a complete jackass, because there is someone out there that will think she's beautiful inside and out. Please if you care for her do not stand in the way of letting her find that person. It sounds like she deserves it.

It's like there's someone else out there like Kanye: "She may be nothin to you, but she the shit to me"

 

[Hey Julian!]

If your gonna date outside the race, she's gotta be top notch in just about everything. You got most issues covered ,but the most important for people affairs........LOOKS! If your gonna get stares and take shit for people she better be worth. In your case she's not ,but on the bright side, for a side piece I'd hold on to the number.

 

[bigcrazymike]

You should let her go because she deserves to be with someone who thinks she's beautiful and wants a future with her. Can you see yourself spending the rest of your life with this woman? They say looks fade. But the truth is...when you grow old with someone, you always see the person you remember when you first met. So when you guys grow old and ugly together, you'll look into her eyes and remember just how damn ugly she was when you first met her.

You bet get out of this one before she accidentally turns up pregnant.

My motto: I've never met a woman who I could really get along with. So I might as well find a pretty one so I have something nice to look at for a while.

Good luck....

 

[Fatsack]

I really appreciate the help ya'll. we were out last night and on the way home she said I was physically distant. I felt bad because it was subconscious.. I did that "she's just a friend" vibe, but she likes public displays of affection.. Like a test.. We are both in our 30's .. so you know she knows..

I am going to grow up in '08 and ride with it.. life too short.. I have dated MANY pretty woman that think they are the shit they are very hard to manage because they are pretty and thats how they define themselves. She deserves a man that makes X amount of money because she looks good, even though she lives at home with her folks..

I should hope not to become what I despise. I know this is a porn board, but I certainly appreciate the comments. Real Talk.

 

[Shadow]

yeah i did... smmfh @ slow ass niggahs...

 

[DaleMabry]

I really appreciate the help ya'll. we were out last night and on the way home she said I was physically distant. I felt bad because it was subconscious.. I did that "she's just a friend" vibe, but she likes public displays of affection.. Like a test.. We are both in our 30's .. so you know she knows...

Yeah man this is what I'm talking about. Exactly.

She did exactly what I would do if I were ugly: accentuated everything else to deliver a better total package (the sex, her body, her mind, her hustle.)

If you can't get pass the judgement and shame, chalk it up to a nice time dating her for however long and let her find the person she deserves, real talk.

Know thyself, homie!

 

[Criptonite187]

It doesn't matter what we think......... Ur gonna do what u want anyway. Ur gonna keep her around for a while and maybe decide u dont care wht other people thik and keep her or ur goonna keep her around until u find something Better, it's simple.

 

[buck_ya_bitch]

Then i think you need to let her go so she can find a man that could a ppreciate her look... a Vet maybe...

co-sign
stop playing with the womans emotions...
I usually give a woman a month...
if I don't feel like this is a person I want to be in a long term relationship with
I end it..

it's best to end it early
before she invests a lot of her time and effort...
dudes drag women along cause they want that gurantee booty call...
even thought they know they have no real feelings for the woman..

that's how dudes end up with female stalkers..
bitches keying your car, sleeping outside your apartment door...etc..
fatal attraction shit...

 

[lilsexii]

I love black woman.. she does not look "white" per se.. She looks more exotic.. She is a thick olive complected portugese woman with long curly hair. I have had ALL kinds of woman. I prefer black, but i stay open to others. So race is not an issue for me.

From your description, I thought "The Dragon Lady" from the Cosby Show - Sonia Braga...

Clearly you're feeling her and you're having thoughts of turning it into something serious. You've won half the battle in just FINDING her. Besides, how she looks on the outside is a reflection of what she feels inside...she's already told you about the men in her past and how they dipped on her, so a good relationship just might work wonders. Some people are more attractive than they are "pretty" any ol way.

Damned if you do, damned if you don't - people will talk about you regardless. So, you can impress other people in public and be miserable or you can do you and be happy...

 

[deezchocnuts4ru]

Yo. If you gonna fuck with a DEVIL she betta be the best looking bitch on the block. I can name 10 sistas with all the same qualities that you wouldn't even dream of fucking with if they didn't look decent. Nigga you's a fucking sellout. Nuff said. Peace.

 

[kissmyazz]

if you date a broad outside of your race and she is ugly......you need to kill yourself........if any real niggas see you with this rat-faced bitch they're gonna rob you