Say it again, louder from the back!
Ive been with my girl 15 years and I have OCD when it comes to cleaning and repairs needed around the house, but it wasnt til last year that I finally got "it" when it comes to cleaning the kitchen after making something. Its taken me 14 years to learn how not to piss her off when it comes to the kitchen. I finally understand that when things are "out of place", it throws everything out of balance for her. Id alway leave something like a dirty fork or knife, missing the mess on the stove from seasoning food, throwing utensils and pots in different drawers or cabinets, etc... The only reason I came to understand this was because after the pandemic, Im still working from home with my tech job, while she's now out of the house most of the day at work, so that means that Im now cooking for myself. Now I understand how much it pisses her off when you just want to get in and out of the kitchen quickly but nothing is where it is suppose to be. But i can only blame myself because im the one that doesnt put things back where i found them. Strange thing is, I would crucify her if one of my tools was out of place (very rare) in the garage. But couldnt give her the same respect for the kitchen. So now I do let a lot of shit go because Id rather have my house clean the way that I want it and that takes work on my part, the same way i keep my favorite spot(the garage) in spotless condition. Ive just made peace with focusing on how i want things then to wait around or expect someone to be on the level I think they should be. If something gets to the level of having to worry about roaches or something, best believe Ill be all up in that ass.
As Gestapo as she is about the kitchen, her cleanliness when it comes to her organization of her personal area and clothes is infuriating where as my clothes are alway hung up and wrinkle free. Ive actually found a lot of women to be like this. On her end it doesnt matter because no guest ever go to that room, but I gotta see it everyday and cant understand what is so hard about it. I started leaving my clothes all over both bedrooms with the same argument, "no one will ever see it" and now she gets angry because I end up grabbing her stuff and putting it in my laundry basket. So now she has to better organize her stuff so that i dont get it confused with hers
...Shes not perfect but has now been better about keeping her spots clean because she can see that I stopped doing the one thing that was pissing her off. Just having an effort to do better is fine with me for now.
My boy was dating this Thai girl... perfect girl in my eyes.. but they broke up because he felt the house was always dirty because of her(probably because she spent most of her time making 3 meals a day for both of them... every day without complaint.) So he got rid of her. The next girl he got with kept his house spic-and-span. She kept it real clean so those other Ni66as she invited over during the day felt more comfortable getting they dicks sucked in a clean environment. The Thai girl got pregnant in her next relationship, but the dude committed suicide before the kid was born. So now my boy really wants her back but the baby is the way because he doesnt want to be a step dad. Hes really bitter because he knows his pettiness wrecked both of their lives and theres no fixing it. He traded away 80% of what was good for him expecting there to be a bigger prize behind door number 2. So be careful taking others advice who are just cool with throwing away the time (possibly years or decades) youve invested in getting along with a significant other.