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Married brothers or long term relationship brothers, I need some advice on dealing with live in girlfriend.
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Rinse, clean, and repeat
17 years for me. And when that baby came along I gave the fuck up on everything.
You should see our bedroom. My side is tidy as fuck. Her side…well like you said, cluttered. I do it that way intentionally. Makes her feel like crap at times, but she grown.
When my wife cleans, she spend hours trying to organize her clutter instead of just picking it up or throwing shit away. Then she realize she done created more of a mess. But don’t let me do it because I’m throwing shit away. Then she be mad like shit because I threw something away she wanted.
Nicca whattttt??? I have a section in the garage called “the shit we will never use again for the rest of our lives but my wife won’t let me throw away” corner.
Cut your losses. You ain’t married. Move on.
I learned anything (clutter) you don't use in the garage for a year (or so), throw it away.
I used to have computer cables (SCSI) that were over $100 each. Now worthless. Took me years to just dump that and a lot of other computer stuff.
I used to have so much things that "used to cost" all kinds of stuff. And outdated, garbage. Dump that chit
You aren’t going to take the good advice you get
Craigslist or Offer up. Turn it into a few unexpected dollars.
I have people meet me at Costco or you could sell at your police dept.
Well aware. I have sold many things on CL and Ebay. Bought as well. But these things had no more value. I was holding onto things that were outdated tech from a forgotten era. Lol
For no damn reason.
My wife go thru the crates in the garage and would start dumping everything.
Majority of my garage now is just tools and parts for my biz.
Cleanliness is big, if you are the Mr clean type and she is a dirty little rascal, believe me that can be a deal breaker.
I'd put that in my top 5 list for why I divorced my first wife.
I'd put that in my top 5 list for why I divorced my first wife.
Because I build computers every now and again, I keep cables around. Now I have an entangled mess of them. I need to do the same.
I got way too many power cords and usb cables.
I need you to be my spring cleaning jedi master bro
I never seen a Jedi clean anything, but I did see Dumbledore clean an entire house after some death eaters ransacked it looking for Professor Slughorn.
I used to be an IT Admin. So had stuff from a past era of tech. Power cords and USB stuff, is still in use. Keep all that. You'll find PC cords are universally used for many things not PC. Projectors, printers, and the likes. Just a few weeks ago my daughter had this school PA speaker and asked me for a power cord and it was the same used on PC's. I gave her a spare. I have tons of those.
May I just vent.
Why is it that the women in my home suddenly forget how to comprehend English when I speak cleaning?
Can you pick those up? Just put those there and that there? And I'll finish...
What?
I said...
I don't understand put what where?
Just take...
What? Throw everything out?
No no no! Just put..
What did you want me to do then?
Forget it. Thank you.
Ok. Just trying to help.
Bro I need to jedi mind trick these people to get anything done
Bruh, first i'm going to tell you to pick your battles. This might not be one you want to waste time on. But, it it matters that much to you, then the only thing women and children know anything about is money. If you are the money dude in your house, meaning you pay for everything and give an allowance. Cut the check. Start paying the bills if she is paying them and put all the money in your pocket. After not getting her basic needs, then you can sit down and have a conversation. Here's where you let her know you want things a certain way. Now, if you are splitting the bills and she is doing her share, then find something in the house that she cherish and fuck it up. She will be angrier than a rattle snake getting kicked in the head by a horse, but she will get the message.
May I just vent.
Why is it that the women in my home suddenly forget how to comprehend English when I speak cleaning?
Can you pick those up? Just put those there and that there? And I'll finish...
What?
I said...
I don't understand put what where?
Just take...
What? Throw everything out?
No no no! Just put..
What did you want me to do then?
Forget it. Thank you.
Ok. Just trying to help.
my daughter: “how can I earn extra money?”
me: “you can do chorus around the house”
my daughter: “is there anything else I can do instead?”
me:
Bruh, you talking to the wrong person. I'm a hoarder, I keep all kinds of shit. I have double of tools and all kinds of stuff.
My wife? She throws everything away.
She is the clean freak.
Over the years, as I said earlier, she will put away papers and things and I can't find for months. I have paid bills late in the past that she tossed cause I didn't know the date. She's thrown things away and I had to buy over cause she "didn't want to see that on my counter/table".
Shit has cost me. So I learned, to put shit out of her sight if I want to keep it. But now she puts things in a plastic bag and will put it in my office.
But when she comes in my garage and starts on "what's in that box", I cringe.
The things in the plastic bag just sent me!
I do the exact thing to my wife.
There is about 3 or 4 Food Lion bags of shit for her to go through. And she ain’t went through none of it.
Your problem is probably calling it a "chore"my daughter: “how can I earn extra money?”
me: “you can do chorus around the house”
my daughter: “is there anything else I can do instead?”
me:
To make these dwellers of my home do things for money when they were younger, they used to come up with stuff and make up prices.
What used to be funny was them wanted me to pay them to clean their own bathroom or bedroom. We would say that you're supposed to do.
Clean not only your bathroom, but clean the other two spare baths, and how much you want for that?
Or not only vacuum your bedroom but do other rooms that are carpeted as well
Don't call it a chore. Sounds negative.
If their goal is money, have to earn it and you can't by cleaning your own mess. That's mandatory in my house.
Short for honey...
I don't talk anymore I do what I would do if it was my child who did something I asked them not to do and they continued to do it anyways;I TAKE THE ITEM OR THE PRIVILAGE AWAY FROM HIM UNTIL HE UNDERSTANDS THAT I AM SERIOUS.That way I don't have to worry about it possibly hurting him,someone else and for my piece of mind.
A sun room? with plants,makeup and trash?who in the fuck puts on makeup and leaves trash in a hot ass sunroom where it can melt and cause a fire from the trash?.Brother not to get to deep into your situation but you might need to have her checked mentally cause a sunroom is the last place I would expect any female to be getting dolled up and hanging out in to be able to leave trash.......I would put a lock on the door and tell her it's off limits go put makeup on in the bathroom like normal women do or wait til you get in your car.
Is that her only flaw? If so let it go, shit could b worst...
No respect cuz else this request wouldn’t be an issue.
Women play the long game they wear you out with the same thing until you give up. It’s like challenging a stubborn person. You either quit her or compromise your standards and if you compromise your standards then there is even less respect for you.
So how much does keeping that room weigh in your relationship or just cleanliness period? Is it just this room or other shit too?
Women play the long game they wear you out with the same thing until you give up. It’s like challenging a stubborn person. You either quit her or compromise your standards and if you compromise your standards then there is even less respect for you.
So how much does keeping that room weigh in your relationship or just cleanliness period? Is it just this room or other shit too?
Carry on! U did well in my book! She gon learn today! And if things continue down this road then things will never change and as such by then u know what u should be doing...
my daughter: “how can I earn extra money?”
me: “you can do chorus around the house”
my daughter: “is there anything else I can do instead?”
me:
My brother...
You understand me
You really understand me
And I wear wife beaters often so that gif is truly art imitating life.
She doesn't respect you enough or herself enough to take 5 fuckin' minutes to keep one room clean.
Very selfish and a sign of how it will be forever.
You can not "potty train" an adult. She should have those skills/manners coming into any relationship.
If you can't deal with it, might be time to move on.
Very selfish and a sign of how it will be forever.
You can not "potty train" an adult. She should have those skills/manners coming into any relationship.
If you can't deal with it, might be time to move on.
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Having just watched The Colour Purple for the first time recently, there is only one answer.
https://youtube.com/clip/UgkxiZdVALGxZOid8kZkEBHvo5RWclRVxrZ3
I called them wife beaters in front of my oldest once...
And my Cis gender straight antiquated misogynistic ass still putting 20 a month on her nintendo account. Her mother frowning looking like at me like I actually used to hit her.
Yey they both were too TIRED to participate in both recent women's matches though
In college I was heading programs for at risk girls and abused women.
I just need a few days alone bro.
Be true to your word. It's the same way you deal with your boys, your family, and even your woman. Stand by your word. If she has no respect for your space, it is a reflection of her not respecting you.
It's your house. Your word is law. She needs to respect your house.
She'd do the same to you if it was her house you were staying in.
