How Attracted Are You To A Mans Looks/Body/Physique?

Being a skinny dude myself, I noticed that sometimes when a "pretty" girl chooses a thin dude over a model type dude, other women and some men disapprove as if she committed a crime but if they see said "pretty" girl with a fat dude, they don't mind as much. WTF is up with that?
 
Good post. It really is about perspective. :) In bold is what I consider a higher priority than money for sure. I think it has a lot to do with where you are in life too. If a woman has her own means to support herself, has lived a little, been hurt maybe a lot (like a Mariah)then money is not her lube. If a chick is young, pretty, but broke may be a different situation.

Nail on the head sis. Nail on the frickin head. As a youngin, you're probably coming from your parents house. ESPECIALLY if you grew up WITH a father. You still are going to want that cared for feeling. My husband was older than me and where i was working at he would visit me and after awhile he started just caring for me. It was something i had never really had and i liked it. I loved how he took care of me. And watched out for me.

So yeah it is where you are in life. And bottom deal. You still want someone to watch over you in some kind of fashion. I think that's just what makes us female. It's genetic.
 
^^^^ Great Post
In all these situations thrown out people are prioritizing what they want and getting it. Different people, different priorities. I'm sure Russel's money is a HUGE (maybe the biggest) draw to a lot of women, but since I don't know him I won't diminish him by saying he's only an ATM. I'm sure those same tall beautiful women could have their pick of wealthy men, but they choosing Russel. Maybe all that yoga has given him superior penis skills like I suspect Nick Cannon has (..and I'd bet my last 10 cents Nick Cannon has superior penis because Mariah has a shitload of her OWN money :lol:).

At night (or in the day) when it's just the two of you (or more than two) you are naked and vulnerable and open there has to be SOMETHING that keeps you physically attracted. Unless money is the new lube, looks or some other tangible form of attraction has to matter to some extent.

Russel doesn't do it for me, but like Lone I'm not attracted to old dudes just like Russel is not attracted to short older chicks like me.
We could talk about kundalini over coffee at Starbucks though.


I'm taking a hiatus from y'all...I could have sworn I did this shit before...:smh:

I think I'm making a step in the right direction and becoming more mature with my selection of women and they just all seem to end up treating a brotha the same.

Thought I had my shit together but I guess it's not good enough. Goin' back to the drawing board and chillin' the fuck out.

Maybe it's because I'm anosmic and deep-seeded emotions are connected to smells or some shit...:smh: :dunno:
 

I'm taking a hiatus from y'all...I could have sworn I did this shit before...:smh:

I think I'm making a step in the right direction and becoming more mature with my selection of women and they just all seem to end up treating a brotha the same.

Thought I had my shit together but I guess it's not good enough. Goin' back to the drawing board and chillin' the fuck out.

Maybe it's because I'm anosmic and deep-seeded emotions are connected to smells or some shit...:smh: :dunno:

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This inspires me to do another thread.
 
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Being a skinny dude myself, I noticed that sometimes when a "pretty" girl chooses a thin dude over a model type dude, other women and some men disapprove as if she committed a crime but if they see said "pretty" girl with a fat dude, they don't mind as much. WTF is up with that?

:confused: I have NO idea. I'm not sure if i've even seen this before. Although i don't get the attraction to skinny guys. Or short guys. Are....alot of guys for that matter. I'm always thinking physically anyway. And then my mind automatically goes too, "well there must be something about his personality she likes".
 
Being a skinny dude myself, I noticed that sometimes when a "pretty" girl chooses a thin dude over a model type dude, other women and some men disapprove as if she committed a crime but if they see said "pretty" girl with a fat dude, they don't mind as much. WTF is up with that?

I likes me a streamline man :). Skinny dudes are all engine baby. Energy!


I'm taking a hiatus from y'all...I could have sworn I did this shit before...:smh:

I think I'm making a step in the right direction and becoming more mature with my selection of women and they just all seem to end up treating a brotha the same.

Thought I had my shit together but I guess it's not good enough. Goin' back to the drawing board and chillin' the fuck out.

Maybe it's because I'm anosmic and deep-seeded emotions are connected to smells or some shit...:smh: :dunno:

My dharma brother I don't know about you but the times I thought I had my shit together were usually when I was being the most delusional. I'll say from personal experience it's tough being a sex freak and yet wanting/desiring/questing to have an equilibrium that transcends the flesh. It can create a big and painful division between what you say you want and what you end up getting.

There's something called the Maltz hierarchy of sexual interaction and while it's particulars are a bit bizarre and romantic, I try to embrace the idea it proposes that sexual energy is neither negative or positive. It's a ground zero state and how you engage it makes it something more or less beneficial. That helped me a lot because I was I really conflicted- like pathologically conflicted. :lol:

Chilling is good. Re-evaluating is good. Liking a certain type of woman or man is neither good nor bad, it just IS. How you engage that person is probably what makes the difference.

You're going to be fine.:)

Funny you mention smell though since smell directly impacts the limbic system. *scratches head*
 
My dharma brother I don't know about you but the times I thought I had my shit together were usually when I was being the most delusional. I'll say from personal experience it's tough being a sex freak and yet wanting/desiring/questing to have an equilibrium that transcends the flesh. It can create a big and painful division between what you say you want and what you end up getting.

There's something called the Maltz hierarchy of sexual interaction and while it's particulars are a bit bizarre and romantic, I try to embrace the idea it proposes that sexual energy is neither negative or positive. It's a ground zero state and how you engage it makes it something more or less beneficial. That helped me a lot because I was I really conflicted- like pathologically conflicted. :lol:

Chilling is good. Re-evaluating is good. Liking a certain type of woman or man is neither good nor bad, it just IS. How you engage that person is probably what makes the difference.

You're going to be fine.:)

Funny you mention smell though since smell directly impacts the limbic system. *scratches head*

She's a work in progress too Ons. Something like that you probably wouldn't know and def can't control. That's probably the hardest part about loving somebody- you can love em but you can't really claim to know them to the core and predict their behavior. Sometimes I look at Mr.Iz like :hmm: ninja what??? But then I have to step back and realize that it's his life and his journey and I don't get to run that.Sometimes shit is a leap of faith for real.smh


Thanks Kyoshi. :) I miss our convos...I learned a lot. I'll definitely contemplate on what you expressed here. It's funny Sean and I were having a discussion about my condition and he asked me if it had an adverse impact on my relationships or personality.

I told him that sometimes I have to try harder to empathize with people by using the senses of sight, sound, and touch a lot more keenly...my mom taught me this when I was very younger so I could compensate sometimes for being kinda shut off from other's emotions. We were recounting all the things that have been impacted by my loss of smell like memory, hunger, emotions, sleep cycles...this got me feeling kind of weird about who I am but it surely makes me unique. I went to sleep and in a dream I could hear this guitar riff playing in it and it woke me up...

I'm trying to understand what significance this has to me...I understand some of it but if y'all can help, especially with what I've said in this and the other thread it would be greatly appreciated. I couldn't help but feel a sense of levity when I woke up this morning...

Here is the song:



Beautiful song and beautiful woman...
 
:confused: I have NO idea. I'm not sure if i've even seen this before. Although i don't get the attraction to skinny guys. Or short guys. Are....alot of guys for that matter. I'm always thinking physically anyway. And then my mind automatically goes too, "well there must be something about his personality she likes".

Yeah this is pretty much the response most couples get. But would you date a "fat guy". If he was say 6'4 300 pounds of mostly body fat?

I likes me a streamline man :). Skinny dudes are all engine baby. Energy!

:cool:
 
I told him that sometimes I have to try harder to empathize with people by using the senses of sight, sound, and touch a lot more keenly...my mom taught me this when I was very younger so I could compensate sometimes for being kinda shut off from other's emotions. We were recounting all the things that have been impacted by my loss of smell like memory, hunger, emotions, sleep cycles...this got me feeling kind of weird about who I am but it surely makes me unique.

That's so interesting. Some evolutionary biologists believe smell is how we sense genetic mismatches too (genes too similar).
I can imagine if that's true maybe your body would be a bit camera shy about getting close to certain people. We also sense so much danger by scent I can see the lack there of creating a sense of hyper protection.

Sean is a brilliant dude. He have my mind spinning on the im at the crack ass of dawn when I can't sleep sometimes :lol:. He's the smartest insomniac a girl could ever hope to encounter.


I'm trying to understand what significance this has to me...I understand some of it but if y'all can help, especially with what I've said in this and the other thread it would be greatly appreciated. I couldn't help but feel a sense of levity when I woke up this morning...

Here is the song:

That's a great song and yeah "sometimes you start over...":)
 
No. I wouldn't. Why does it have to be 1 extreme or the other?

It doesn't. You stated that you don't get the attraction to skinny guys as well as short guys but you didn't mention the "big-boned" fellows. Just curious. Of course most women like a guy with a little meat on their bones so it seems like 9/10 a woman would choose a fat guy over a skinny one if the "model" guy wasn't available. Just an observation.
 
You said you were skinny. So that's what i spoke on. I'm apologize. But as for the bigger guy? I think that's just kind of primal. He's well fed. He'll be able to take care of you SOMEHOW lol
 
Looks is what get's you in the door. If you ain't in the door, I can't get to know the rest. Now, there are definitely occasions where I meet someone as a friend and get to know him and really like his personality, so he gets in the door as a friend first. I haven't dated any of my friends though...

I wouldn't say I would never date a guy that isn't my type... but it didn't happen too much before.

I like em very tall. I am 5'8" and can't stand feeling like I am the same size or bigger.

I like em dark, big eyes, beautiful smile, straight teeth is a must.

I can't do fat guys. No tubes around the belly... that turns me off. :smh:

The question also varies when you are talking about dating versus marriage. I couldn't marry a guy I didn't love looking at cuz I have to look at you every damn day.

My husband makes my eyes very happy.
 
It doesn't. You stated that you don't get the attraction to skinny guys as well as short guys but you didn't mention the "big-boned" fellows. Just curious. Of course most women like a guy with a little meat on their bones so it seems like 9/10 a woman would choose a fat guy over a skinny one if the "model" guy wasn't available. Just an observation.

Nah Homie! Give me the skinny one any day. No fat ones.
 
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