I hear stuff like this from women all the time.
I have always talked to, interacted with and loved dark skin women the way I do all hues of the brown spectrum.
The problem I have is any woman I have not shown "attention" to has never had anything to do with complexion.
I think many black men are the most forgiving of all american men and it shows when you look around in our neighborhoods. We deal with body shapes that are not accepted by society. We deal with attitudes, traumas, insecurities that are snubbed and frowned upon by society at large but somehow we make women feel ugly.
Many of these women internalize snubs from OTHER WOMEN and then bring that to an interaction with black men that can be a big turn off. You want to remain empathetic to their woes, but I never hear black men complaining about their hue being the hinderance to their dating/love/selection in the dating market place.
Women, whether they like to admit it or not, do not like to compete on any level with other women although it is almost always necessity. It's easy to say "a man does not like me because I'm dark" but is that the only thing?
Are you interesting?
Do you actually listen (which goes back to a post that
@bgbtylvr hit on about actually listening or CONSIDERING what men think)?
Are you in decent shape? Do you dress well and not appear homely and frumpy?
Do you have personal interests and passions?
Do you go overboard and follow the current culture of over accessorizing and embracing add-ons [Weave, lashes, clown ass makeup] or do you come to the table with your natural, Universe (GOD) granted features and exude a level of confidence about them?
I see sistas shit on Nerdy black guys, short dudes, etc...and say they need to grow a pair and get some game if they want to win out here yet they make pieces like this that always scream "I think I'm flawed and ugly therefore except me flaws and all."
This isn't how any of this works.
