Successful, black and lonely

[tampabay904]

そうですね！My best friend graduated last year with a BA in Psych from an ivy league school and she is working at Macy's

Shes not applying herself. Theres no way that an Ivy league grad is under employed other than extenuation circumstances or theyre not applying themselves--literally.

 

[CPT Callamity]

That's really the problem.

They have the mentality that it's a man's job to provide when in reality it isn't. In a sense their feminist when it comes to having things their way but when it comes to men their not and they expect things.

Basically a bunch of lost idiots who choose to go in a door and come out whenever they please but the door has remained open for the last 20 years.

You're independent (feminism) Don't take any lip (feminism) free to speak your mind (feminism) but you want a man to provide for you.

He must make a higher salary since he's the head of the household... but you take advantage of the modern day liberal movement when it's convenient to you.



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Bingo again!

 

[tampabay904]

wife

 

[Mr MajestiK]

wife

Why not?

Have you seen the size of those tittays?

 

[josteen]

Proverbs 21:19

19It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.

 

[tampabay904]

Why not?

Have you seen the size of those tittays?

xactly. the face is very cute too

 

[Mr MajestiK]

xactly. the face is very cute too

And on a more serious note, putting aside all empty rhetoric and hyperbolic symbolism, the secret to black men and women meeting, mating and settling down to form viable family units lies solely upon the shoulders of us all.

There's really no point sitting on the fence and accepting negative prognostications for our ethnic group as a whole.

We all have a positive part to play for our collective advancement and it's high time we celebrated the strengths inherent in our differences and used these to build a stronger. more progressive future for all of our people from the motherland all the way out to the widespread and manifold diaspora.

Can you dig that peeps?

 

[Rick Ronson]

This thread is full of bitchassness and sorry ass people trying to disperse advice.

I hope my advice is considered cause its damn sure from experience.

shit comes from caring about the next man from me

advice on the things that kept me from getting caught up.

The logic i used to sift through the many I had.

I be at the job on lunch advising dudes man..its a job for me.

Im a nurturing type individual....that likes to right things.

I take it personal / to heart because going through some of the shit
I did with women were some of the lowest points in my life.

Really drained the fuck out of me and it fucks with your drive and focus
having a bitch that isnt really on your team...just faking posted up.

without any potential for reward with many of them.

bitches who not only cant help you but hinder any potential progress by overloading you with
petty trivial bullshit that has nothing to do with winning.

To help a mothafucka be aware of what he is potentially in danger of feels good to me mane.

I blink my headlights for the cars on the opposite side to let them know
the cops have a speed trap....cause I hate fucked up bullshit for anyone.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

I hope my advice is considered cause its damn sure from experience.

shit comes from caring about the next man from me

advice on the things that kept me from getting caught up.

The logic i used to sift through the many I had.

I be at the job on lunch advising dudes man..its a job for me.

Im a nurturing type individual....that likes to right things.

I take it personal / to heart because going through some of the shit
I did with women were some of the lowest points in my life.

Really drained the fuck out of me and it fucks with your drive and focus
having a bitch that isnt really on your team...just faking posted up.

To help a mothafucka be aware of what he is potentially in danger of feels good to me mane.

I blink my headlights for the cars on the opposite side to let them know
the cops have a speed trap....cause I hate fucked up bullshit for anyone.

Damn, this sounds like some Muddy Waters Blues my bro.

Real talk nonetheless.

 

[SaKem]

Then maybe you need to change your surroundings or at least ditch your decidely droll perspective on things. I refuse to believe that there are no other equally driven and positive black people in your immeadiate vicinity or surroundings.

But then again, maybe they're not overly attracted to your pessimistic and defeatist mindset.

How is my perspective amusing or funny?.....weird Who said there weren't any driven black people here........................Who said I needed to be around only black people.......... No thanks to changing my surrounding, my friends are awesome and my network is growing. How am I defeatist? AAHAHA Cuz I don't deal with ain't shit niggas? Sorry, you go deal with them

Nope, your response was very illuminating and probably more indicative of how you really feel about things in general.

In this very thread, serious knowledge is being dropped and we're all debating like adults with nary an insult thrown at anyone so far so I guess BGOL heads aren't that bad.

You ignored what I said so I'll ignore this.

Maybe in the beginning this was the case but we are now living in the 21st century where practically everyone and anyone has access to information via the internet.

Ignorance is no longer a viable excuse in the face of such access to the information highway and for someone who actually aspires to be an active architect on this digital road, you really come across as being incredibly depressing and somewhat bleak in overall outlook.

I guess you weren't lying when you said that you have no emotion.

With your ol' Michael Myers non-emoting self.

OOOooooo so it's black people's own fault they're oppressed....gotcha. Man ur fake *smh* First ur black power, then ur saying it's all black folks fault and fucking with white women lol

You're mind isn't free if your kicking such non-productive and atavistic logic.

You need to open it up a bit more.

You seem to be really hung up on imagery and whatever stereotypical mindset you ascribe to what you assume a person may or not be into based on what they choose to post on this site.

That my friend, is not cool but just to put a smile on your face I'll oblige you just this once.

Am I black or revolutionary enough for you now?

Nope.

I didn't think so.

I'm not "revolutionary" so I don't give a fuck. You brought this onto yourself with all the militant talk, now you wanna say I'm requiring some militant stamp of approval lol Look at the stereotypes you posted, nooowwww I get it. You shit on black women and think they're all the fat loser stereotype. Quit revealing yourself. My mind is very free. And it's def. free from fake niggas like you lol

Nah bro, that's your interpretation.

My appreciation of Gods good work on Raquel Welch shows that I'm a healthy, red blooded heterosexual male who loves to see all beautiful women in all their myriad and glorious manifestations.

That's not just nature, it's freaking poetry.

Great then shut up with the revolutionary militant talk, you're nothing of the sort. You worship white women and blame blacks for things whites have done to them.


Now will you please stop crying about my sig and its supposed symbolism.

Any white woman who got that close to me would know enough about me to recognize that I dont wear my feelings on my sleeve or play the role to appease anyone. (The same goes for all women regradless of ethnicity.)

As I said previously, I'm a take it or leave it kinda guy.

No ur a fake wishy washy kinda guy. Shut up and go chase your white women.

Dude, I lived, breathed and shat in Nigeria for thirteen solid years of my life and I can tell you now that I met more white women married to African men who could actually speak their husbands language fluently and cook Nigerian delicacies just as well as some of their Nigerian female counterparts.

Not every single brotha and sista rocking dreads or sporting Kente cloth is for the cause and you just may find yourself suprised or being made to look silly when you run across a non-black person who probably knows more about yourself than you do.

Defending whitey huh?

If I were to opt to settle down with a non-black woman why would I be concerned about the supposed ridicule of others? (black, white or any other variation.)

Why would I dumb down for her or anyone else?

With me it's a take or leave it proposition and I'd be damned if I buried my talents just live comfortably with someone who didn't respect or appreciate all of me.

That my friend, would not be revolutionary in the slightst.

Looks like I struck a nerve. I discovered ur insecurity. And there's no way you'd convince me you'd sit there and be like Khalid muhammad with some white woman on ur arm, get real faggot.

Date out of the race? I thought we all belonged to one race.

The human race?

lol Then wtf have you been talking about this whole time? Trying to switch it up now huh? You went from militant, to white girl loving, to "we're all the same" AHAHAHA go take a nap nigga you lost.

Probably the smartest thing you've said since you started posting on BGOL.

I'm still waiting on you to say something smart.

 

[SaKem]

And on a more serious note, putting aside all empty rhetoric and hyperbolic symbolism, the secret to black men and women meeting, mating and settling down to form viable family units lies solely upon the shoulders of us all.

There's really no point sitting on the fence and accepting negative prognostications for our ethnic group as a whole.

We all have a positive part to play for our collective advancement and it's high time we celebrated the strengths inherent in our differences and used these to build a stronger. more progressive future for all of our people from the motherland all the way out to the widespread and manifold diaspora.

Can you dig that peeps?

There's no such thing as "black" there's no races....remember?

 

[Rick Ronson]

You young dudes are lucky to have some shit like this.

we had to wait for dad uncle or big cousin to school us or get burned to learn.

Proverbs 21:19

19It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.

my bad slim...i was hot that day...you aight mane

I was on a date two weeks ago with a black guy from Northwestern. He was a communications major and I suggested we go for Ethiopian food and he looked at me like I was crazy and said "I don't eat that african shit. Let's get pizza" Needless to say, I never called him back.

One line blew the puu

He was cocky wit it too i bet.

 

[JD Walker]

JD do you hold a degree?

Yes. BOTH DEGREES didn't do JACK SHIT for me in the job market. The skill I learned however enabled me to start my own business.

Now if these bitches want to play that degree game, we can do it, and I'll shit on their Liberal Arts/Social Sciences BAs all day long.

Now it's tough not to get caught up in this bullshit, but if you let the dust settle and allow yourself to see the picture clearly, you will realize that this is a BLACK BITCH'S PROBLEM, NOT A BLACK MAN PROBLEM.

These "degree bitches" hootin and hollerin are nothing more that a squeeky wheel. The bitches know that they are damaged good and they are begging for takers.

If you as a Black man have no problem pullin women, why should you make it your problem that these bitches can't pull men?

 

[Delta7]

He was cocky wit it too i bet.

No, she was too cocky to bet, dude didn't relate to her on one subject and it's over...

It's that liberalism these women (especially sistas) stand behind that totally fucks them up in the head.

Can you imagine if brothas left a woman at the table over how she keeps her hair?

 

[D Town Redd]

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dy...2/09/AR2009120904546.html?sid=ST2009120904680




I wonder why she can't find a man and always has to settle. At least she realises that she will be alone for the rest of her life.

This is a joke so yall don't get on my dick (no homo):
Those lonely black women with attitudes should hook up with lonely asian men who's women were taken by the white men who's women were taken by black men

 

[John_Gault]

This is a joke so yall don't get on my dick (no homo):
Those lonely black women with attitudes should hook up with lonely asian men who's women were taken by the white men who's women were taken by black men

Then, they can all have a ton of mixed race kids, that will grow up and be chased around by color struck men, starting the bullshit cycle all over again by giving folks more to complain over, and everything will be just 'fine'.

JG

 

[Mr MajestiK]

Blah, Blah, Blaaaaaaaaaag!

You obviously have nothing constructive to add to this, or any other debate of note hence your having to resort to the catch all phrase "faggot" (how original)which is the usual refrain of the truly ignorant and mentally bankrupt when their card gets pulled during a debate.

Everyone else in this thread has dropped positive reasoning and perspectives from different angles male and female without having to resort to negativity but you on the otherhand, always switch up on some Dr Jeckyl & Mr Hyde shit when things dont go your way.

What kind've an idiot judges things off of what race of a woman a person chooses to rock in his sig and then have the audacity to cry "faggot"?

The only person lost in the mix here is you so please get a fucking clue before you do yourself an injury by way of deeply ingrained stupidity.

You're an empty vessel with nothing original to add or say so you'd probably be better off logging off and just jumping from the highest building you can find since you feel things are so pointless.

You talk as if black and white are the only colors in the spectrum thus revealing yourself to be truly blind to the overall stupidity of your personal views and skewed take on reality.

But hey, do you if it keeps your emotionless ass happy and smiling.

Just leave the left of us grown folk to keep the debate flowing nicely.

 

[Chitownheadbusa]

They WON'T hear you tho'.

Listen up ladies on the board. To a man of accomplishment, educated or otherwise, you are nothing special . . . because THAT'S what we expect of EVERYBODY. Women in general, and Black women in particular, are NEW to power and status, relatively speaking(check your history . . . while you're getting all cute). And many of you wield it, well, as if you're NEW to it . . . like ole' girl in the article. She's VERY immature, like a child with new toy that she was always deprived of. That said, it's not going to be your titles but your CHARACTER that determines the outcome. The power of women, from the stand point of a man . . . lies in THAT which make you a woman . . . not that which makes you a worthy adversary. No man that is a leader will let you lead, not because you can't, because it's not your job. We want navigators to help chart the territory . . . not useless ass ambassadors, trying to hi-jack the 'domestic policy'.



JG

lol
Very Nice.

They definitely arent in Chicago though so I'm pretty much giving up on this city.

very narrow minded statement.
Maybe you need to find a new crowd.

Ive been here all my life. And even though Ive been on both sides of the fence, i know for a fact that theres plenty of quality people in Chicago.....people of all ethnicities. Strangely, I didn't find the "right" crowd of people until i started getting involved with Chicago politics. Started going to a few social events, being more open minded and meeting new people...it really took me a long way from where i used to be.

Chicagoans have their issues. And a lot of them do seem to be extremely dumbfounded and more reactive instead of proactive. But like i said, we have plenty of mentally stable people here....you just need to get out more.

Broaden your horizon!

 

[SaKem]

You obviously have nothing constructive to add to this, or any other debate of note hence your having to resort to the catch all phrase "faggot" (how original)which is the usual refrain of the truly ignorant and mentally bankrupt when their card gets pulled during a debate.

Everyone else in this thread has dropped positive reasoning and perspectives from different angles male and female without having to resort to negativity but you on the otherhand, always switch up on some Dr Jeckyl & Mr Hyde shit when things dont go your way.

What kind've an idiot judges things off of what race of a woman a person chooses to rock in his sig and then have the audacity to cry "faggot"?

The only person lost in the mix here is you so please get a fucking clue before you do yourself an injury by way of deeply ingrained stupidity.

You're an empty vessel with nothing original to add or say so you'd probably be better off logging off and just jumping from the highest building you can find since you feel things are so pointless.

But hey, do you if it keeps your emotionless ass happy and smiling.

Just leave the left of us grown folk to keep the debate flowing nicely.

Yea I speak reality only, Period. You're a half sell out trying to pose as a militant, it's tired. You attempt to use big words, then misspell simple words, and use words incorrectly. You fail miserably.........Faggot I struck a nerve on your fake bitch ass. lol

"You talk as if black and white are the only colors in the spectrum thus revealing yourself to be truly blind to the overall stupidity of your personal views and skewed take on reality."

O really? Then why are you insisting I only network and associate with blacks lol Why shouldn't I network and associate with EVERYONE. And the reality is, in San Diego/L.A. Blacks don't do too much of shit. You can count the number of blacks in college on your fingers.

 

[FJP]

I would have to see what you deem attractive just to even entertain what your saying.

Shit half these knuckle heads think Michelle Obama is attractive.

The problem is that, he uses a vague ass term like "plenty"...Of course nothing is 100% but on the majority you are right. Alot of successful women who are successful through education are not attractive. And working in NYC you get to see ALOT of that. Michelle Obama isnt ass ugly but if she wasnt the first lady, cats would not fawn over her on this board.

 

[FJP]

As someone with experience in this situation its what I came to call....

"Academically Advanced, Socially Retarded"..

I used date this chick and she was the same way. She worked at Nickelodeon, MTV, now she's a professor at Rutgers. Great salary $100k+. Could have great conversations about a wide spectrum of topics...but when it came to really being in the relationship she just didnt really "know" what to do..

She was average looking. It was like a program. Her whole the entire goal was basically to become a successful person you have basically eliminate everything else except school/work... Its great to have goals but you have to advance socially as well as academically. She didnt have good people skills...like how are you gonna be break down the square root of Pi to 50 digits but you cant bake me a damn pie for dinner? I have a degree, but she used to always talk down on people from her high school or just people in general like on some "He doesnt have a degree, why are you friends with him?" type shit. Its like she's a robot.

She really grew up with the mentality that, "If I become successful, It will be happily ever after, I can have any man"...doesnt work like that though. We are still cool, but sad thing is she's still alone. She meets dudes off myspace and shit...thats crazy but thats life. People one day will learn you have to be well rounded.

 

[keysersoze]

A picture is worth a 1000 words. This thread direction =

 

[electrik_relaxation]

lol
Very Nice.







very narrow minded statement.
Maybe you need to find a new crowd.

Ive been here all my life. And even though Ive been on both sides of the fence, i know for a fact that theres plenty of quality people in Chicago.....people of all ethnicities. Strangely, I didn't find the "right" crowd of people until i started getting involved with Chicago politics. Started going to a few social events, being more open minded and meeting new people...it really took me a long way from where i used to be.

Chicagoans have their issues. And a lot of them do seem to be extremely dumbfounded and more reactive instead of proactive. But like i said, we have plenty of mentally stable people here....you just need to get out more.

Broaden your horizon!

Yes that was very narrow-minded and I normally don't think like that so I apologize. It's just very frustrating, I'm sure you can understand. I'm young but I have had a lot of life experiences that the average 21 yr old hasn't had. Coming from a very metropolitan and advanced city like Tokyo (of course it has its problems too but I prefer it over Chicago) so its been very difficult for me to adjust and find a "group" or niche that fits me. Of course I don't want people who are just like me, that would make life boring. After being here for three years now and still not finding anyone its just made me somewhat disillusioned.

 

[glueguy]

As someone with experience in this situation its what I came to call....

"Academically Advanced, Socially Retarded"..

I used date this chick and she was the same way. She worked at Nickelodeon, MTV, now she's a professor at Rutgers. Great salary $100k+. Could have great conversations about a wide spectrum of topics...but when it came to really being in the relationship she just didnt really "know" what to do..

She was average looking. It was like a program. Her whole the entire goal was basically to become a successful person you have basically eliminate everything else except school/work... Its great to have goals but you have to advance socially as well as academically. She didnt have good people skills...like how are you gonna be break down the square root of Pi to 50 digits but you cant bake me a damn pie for dinner? I have a degree, but she used to always talk down on people from her high school or just people in general like on some "He doesnt have a degree, why are you friends with him?" type shit. Its like she's a robot.

She really grew up with the mentality that, "If I become successful, It will be happily ever after, I can have any man"...doesnt work like that though. We are still cool, but sad thing is she's still alone. She meets dudes off myspace and shit...thats crazy but thats life. People one day will learn you have to be well rounded.

not exactly true if the bitch was hot enough you would have overlooked that shit (probably).
if you didn't a lot of other dudes would have.
shit a hot bitch that makes 100k she would have been fighting niggas off with a stick

 

[FJP]

not exactly true if the bitch was hot enough you would have overlooked that shit (probably).
if you didn't a lot of other dudes would have.
shit a hot bitch that makes 100k she would have been fighting niggas off with a stick

Not true. I pull a nice salary on my own. Bottom line if I dont LIKE you I cant be with you. She was a shallow person as a person. She had no depth, nor common sense. She had book sense, that only works at work.

 

[electrik_relaxation]

They never do that.

It makes me laugh on how they talk about how they have a "friend" that's a whore, uses men, takes pride in being a dinner whore, and still remains friends with the bitch.

I figure if a person was toxic, a mooch, a leech, a PARASITE like this, then they would want to distance themselves from them.

No, they continue to hang with these females...these CREATURES, and I have no idea behind their logic in doing this.

I agree, there's no reason to hang with toxic people. Most of my circle is positive folks but as with most, there's always an acquaintance or two who just refuses to change their ways. I let those girls make their own mistakes though because I realized whatever advice I had would fall on deaf ears. They have to learn from their own mistakes. One good thing out of it though--they show me everything I shouldn't be (which is why both of them don't have a man). LOL

 

[glueguy]

Not true. I pull a nice salary on my own. Bottom line if I dont LIKE you I cant be with you. She was a shallow person as a person. She had no depth, nor common sense. She had book sense, that only works at work.

ok so in a way you kinda agreeing with me average looking bitch who is successful career wise but is bitchy. (guys don't bite) now if she is hot/prosperous and has some of those same negative qualities cats would overlook her negative qualities (not saying you, but alot of men would)

 

[BCAA2009]

I agree, there's no reason to hang with toxic people. Most of my circle is positive folks but as with most, there's always an acquaintance or two who just refuses to change their ways. I let those girls make their own mistakes though because I realized whatever advice I had would fall on deaf ears. They have to learn from their own mistakes. One good thing out of it though--they show me everything I shouldn't be (which is why both of them don't have a man). LOL

Cutting those cunts loose will be the best thing you could do for yourself.

If you have two friends that are nothing but dinner whores, and you walk into a room with guys that know of them...you're going to be AUTOMATICALLY lumped into the same group with them.

"Oh, there goes ******* and *******, those two skank ass bitches"

"Whose the other chick with em?"


"I don't know, she probably a hoe just like em"

You don't want that at this point in your life.

 

[electrik_relaxation]

Cutting those cunts loose will be the best thing you could do for yourself.

If you have two friends that are nothing but dinner whores, and you walk into a room with guys that know of them...you're going to be AUTOMATICALLY lumped into the same group with them.

"Oh, there goes ******* and *******, those two skank ass bitches"

"Whose the other chick with em?"


"I don't know, she probably a hoe just like em"

You don't want that at this point in your life.

Point taken

 

[Chitownheadbusa]

Yes that was very narrow-minded and I normally don't think like that so I apologize. It's just very frustrating, I'm sure you can understand. I'm young but I have had a lot of life experiences that the average 21 yr old hasn't had. Coming from a very metropolitan and advanced city like Tokyo (of course it has its problems too but I prefer it over Chicago) so its been very difficult for me to adjust and find a "group" or niche that fits me. Of course I don't want people who are just like me, that would make life boring. After being here for three years now and still not finding anyone its just made me somewhat disillusioned.

you'll be ok.
just dont let other confused people shape your character and youll be just fine.

 

[BCAA2009]

Point taken

 

[FJP]

ok so in a way you kinda agreeing with me average looking bitch who is successful career wise but is bitchy. (guys don't bite) now if she is hot/prosperous and has some of those same negative qualities cats would overlook her negative qualities (not saying you, but alot of men would)

Oh hell yeah dont get it fucked up, I would have overlooked it too, if it wasnt so prevalent. But yeah if she was gorgeous I probably coulda let it go a while longer Shit why lie?

 

[Rick Ronson]

If you have two friends that are nothing but dinner whores

 

[DeSiRe]

whoever wrote that winter boo shit is an asshole

and whoever follows that philosophy is retarded

grown women on that teenage bullshit

 

[Mr MajestiK]

Yea I speak reality only, Period. You're a half sell out trying to pose as a militant, it's tired. You attempt to use big words, then misspell simple words, and use words incorrectly. You fail miserably.........Faggot I struck a nerve on your fake bitch ass. lol

"You talk as if black and white are the only colors in the spectrum thus revealing yourself to be truly blind to the overall stupidity of your personal views and skewed take on reality."

O really? Then why are you insisting I only network and associate with blacks lol Why shouldn't I network and associate with EVERYONE. And the reality is, in San Diego/L.A. Blacks don't do too much of shit. You can count the number of blacks in college on your fingers.

You couldn't strike a nerve on me even if you tried biatch so go kick rocks with your depressed ass.

You claim to hate whitey so much but you expect cats to believe that you network with everyone?

GTFOH with your cheap ass attempts at a comeback nigga.

You're simply a mentally disturbed nobody that totally sucks at life and it's no ones fault but your own that you lost even before you started.

Stupid fuck talking about having no emotions like you're on some pointy eared Mr Spock Vulcan shit and you're talking about the next mans sig and selling out?

You sound psychotic and in need of immediate psychiatric evaluation.

The Dr will see you now.

I swear some of you bitch made niggas are delusional to the extreme living vicariosly through the internet and expecting heads to quake in their boots when you throw temper tantrums like fucking toddlers.