Sistas Real Talk: How do you feel when you see a brotha with a nonblack chick..

[GET YOU HOT]

I don't really care, If I like how bro looks, I will smile at him and make a bitch jealous, if he is good looking, well kept, looks at me too. Bro bro, is bound to look, so why the fuck should I care, half time he doesn't have a dime in his pocket and is living off that non black broad, cuz she needs to fill that mama role...

 

[youngfree]

I know this question was for the ladies on the board but..... I am a man and I don't like to see black men with white women!!! If you find love with a white person I can't hate but the opinion of 90% of the black men that date white women is that there is something inferior about black women and niggas like that need a good ass whoppin!! No hate but there is no race of woman that can understand me or fulfill my expectations more then a black woman..... just my opinion

 

[Mr MajestiK]

Not exactly the same distinction. I feel that women who date white men are like black men who want to experiment with something new or have some self-hatred issues.

^^^Thanks for getting back to me with this response.

In my experience, it's definitely been more of a self-hatred issue as most of the brothas/sistas that I know who date people outside of their ethnicity seem to have serious self-esteem issues and seem prone to being somewhat obssessed with claiming that their choices are not informed by their feelings of emotional impotence in the face of western supposed superiority.

 

[AlexandMorgan]

I used to have a problem with interracial relationships on a whole but now i just leave it up to the individual. If a black woman is with a white man and she uses the reason that they are no good black men out there FUCK HER. No one can write off an entire race and vice versa.But if it is love then i just shake my head and walk away.

Here in the Barbados the bajan whites may sleep with blacks but usually as a mistress or piece pon the side. U will not see many marraiges at all because there is a huge social stigma attached and there families will ostracise them for it.

 

[LeroyDibiase]

well then you better leave me the fuck alone on all the boards cause i sure as hell will be reporting you for harassment on any shit you say to me. put me on ignore and
LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE ALREADY

Only over here sweetie, hugs and kisses...on BGOL,

 

[bigirl]

Re: Sistas Real Talk: How do you feel when you see a brotha with a nonblack chic

Only over here sweetie, hugs and kisses...on BGOL,

no if you harass me on bgol i will report every single post.
any further comments to me on this board or any other will be considered harassment by me . if you post that stupid hug pic again it is harassment and STALKING and i will report it too. now once again
LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE ALREADY!!!!!!!

 

[LeroyDibiase]

You sound really arrogant so I guess you definitely did marry into the appropriate ethnicity.

None of the points you mentioned has any real merit and is more indicative of the fact that you have a low opinion of people who may not be as "succesful" as yourself.

It's attitudes like this that really get on my last nerve regardless of who the perpetrator is or what ethnicity they represent.

Any person of African descent who cannot find happiness or a sense of comonality in their own kind is sorely lacking in the self esteem department.

Does it bother me when I see a sister with a white man?

For the most part, yes. (Especially if she's one of those bitches who likes to belittle black men like it's going out of fashion)

But I feel exactly the same way about black men who feel that they're better than anyone else just because they just happen to be married to a woman who isn't black.

Nothing beats black-on-black love.

But to each their own I suppose.

Why can't he have a low opinion of people who aren't successful if he looking for qualities in a mate? I also tend to have a low opinion of women who aren't attractive? That's the right we have in choosing mates.

You could have two Black people, one from Bloomfield Hills, Michigan and one from Herschelwood, Texas and they have nothing in common but skin color. Are we to be mad at them if they find someone of a different race, but with similar interests??

 

[Harbinger]

Welp,

So much for peace, love and happiness. Ya'll sound like ya'll ready to hurt one another.

 

[Harbinger]

I don't really care, If I like how bro looks, I will smile at him and make a bitch jealous, if he is good looking, well kept, looks at me too. Bro bro, is bound to look, so why the fuck should I care, half time he doesn't have a dime in his pocket and is living off that non black broad, cuz she needs to fill that mama role...

Um, isn't this the same kinda generalization/put-down that has some of the other women here a little bent?

 

[Adam Knows]

None of the points you mentioned has any real merit and is more indicative of the fact that you have a low opinion of people who may not be as "succesful" as yourself.

no.... it's not about low opinion...it's about higher expectations...

Any person of African descent who cannot find happiness or a sense of comonality in their own kind is sorely lacking in the self esteem department.

and i can easily say one that limits himself is sorely lacking and fearful of taking a step outside of what's expected of you. limitations, as its called...

Does it bother me when I see a sister with a white man?

For the most part, yes. (Especially if she's one of those bitches who likes to belittle black men like it's going out of fashion)

But I feel exactly the same way about black men who feel that they're better than anyone else just because they just happen to be married to a woman who isn't black.

Nothing beats black-on-black love.

But to each their own I suppose.

again people are "angry" for things that do not concern them to begin with.

 

[Adam Knows]

Um, isn't this the same kinda generalization/put-down that has some of the other women here a little bent?

it is, but you have to remember it's only wrong when we are accused of doing it to women.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

Why can't he have a low opinion of people who aren't successful if he looking for qualities in a mate? I also tend to have a low opinion of women who aren't attractive? That's the right we have in choosing mates.

You could have two Black people, one from Bloomfield Hills, Michigan and one from Herschelwood, Texas and they have nothing in common but skin color. Are we to be mad at them if they find someone of a different race, but with similar interests??

^^^Stop being silly.

I refuse to believe that it's impossible to find a mate from within ones own ethnicity who shares similar interests, ideals and aspirations.

And what does a womans/mans attractiveness have to do with ones opinion of their self worth or strength of character?

I work with a white chick who has a degree in mathematics gained from Oxford University. She's been gangbanged on many a work related social occasion by multiple black guys but there are still hads breaking thir necks to wife up this woman.

For the most part, she's intellectual, has good conversational skills and to some, would appear cultured but like I said earlier, to each their own.

Not trying to knock you but you're not making a whole lot of sense here.

 

[Izayoi]

Only over here sweetie, hugs and kisses...on BGOL,

Cot dammit Leroy. You ruined that card for me now. Relentless I tell ya!

I truly dont care who dates who....I just know that pink-dicks, red balls make me puke.

Well alrighty then.

 

[Adam Knows]

^^^Stop being silly.

I refuse to believe that it's impossible to find a mate from within ones own ethnicity who shares similar interests, ideals and aspirations.

And what does a womans/mans attractiveness have to do with ones opinion of their self worth or strength of character?

Not trying to knock you but you're not making a whole lot of sense here.

i don't ever remember saying that it was impossible. i do remember saying i wasn't willing to take the time to look for a needle in a haystack.

and as far as a person's attractiveness, that is usually the first thing you do acknowledge of a person before you can even venture to learn anything else about them.

back to your comment of being able to find a mate within your race...

for some reason you went on a tiny fraction of what i said. if you had read my very first post you would have probably understood it more. and i don't know how many times i've made this comment on bgol but " i don't go chasing after women" if i meet anyone it's gonna be within the places i go or within the boundaries of whatever interests i may have which was the case with me and mine. on top of that, again..a very large percentage of wome here are sorely lacking outside of the physical. kids...various limitations...there's a reason why cleveland is the worst place for singles...next to pittsburgh this isn't atlanta where women ooze success and independence. this is more or less "i'm trying to get by as best as i can" sounds bad but that's how it is up here....

 

[Mr MajestiK]

no.... it's not about low opinion...it's about higher expectations...

and i can easily say one that limits himself is sorely lacking and fearful of taking a step outside of what's expected of you. limitations, as its called...

again people are "angry" for things that do not concern them to begin with.

^^^I'm an exceptionally well travelled individual so I dont think I have any fear of interacting with the world around me or expanding my horizons so please take a step back with your insipid generalizations.

I was brought up within a family with an exceedingly strong academic and work related ethic and there are Doctors, Lawyers and Bankers numbered amongst us.

I'm culturally aware and reasonably knowledgeable about other peoples cultures without having the need to permanently bond with their women and I see no reason to change this status quo anytime soon.

It's not like any of these other etnicities are knocking themselves out to learn more about our cultural mores and ways of thinking so I see no reason to waste my time living in the delusional mindstate that equates mating with people who for the most part feel they're cultures are superior to mine.

 

[Adam Knows]

^^^I'm an exceptionally well travelled individual so I dont think I have any fear of interacting with the world around me or expanding my horizons so please take a step back with your insipid generalizations.

I was brought up within a family with an exceedingly strong academic and work related ethic and there are Doctors, Lawyers and Bankers numbered amongst us.

I'm culturally aware and reasonably knowledgeable about other peoples cultures without having the need to permanently bond with their women and I see no reason to change this status quo anytime soon.

It's not like any of these other ethnicities are knocking themselves out to learn more about our cultural mores and ways of thinking so I see no reason to waste my time living in the delusional mindstate that equates mating with people who for the most part feel they're cultures are superior to mine.

lol you make this sound like this is a war with the nazi's......

tell me something..would you marry the fry girl at mc d's? you know, the one with the two kids at home, being as cultured and all as you stated.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

i don't ever remember saying that it was impossible. i do remember saying i wasn't willing to take the time to look for a needle in a haystack.

and as far as a person's attractiveness, that is usually the first thing you do acknowledge of a person before you can even venture to learn anything else about them.

back to your comment of being able to find a mate within your race...

for some reason you went on a tiny fraction of what i said. if you had read my very first post you would have probably understood it more. and i don't know how many times i've made this comment on bgol but " i don't go chasing after women" if i meet anyone it's gonna be within the places i go or within the boundaries of whatever interests i may have which was the case with me and mine. on top of that, again..a very large percentage of wome here are sorely lacking outside of the physical. kids...various limitations...there's a reason why cleveland is the worst place for singles...next to pittsburgh this isn't atlanta where women ooze success and independence. this is more or less "i'm trying to get by as best as i can" sounds bad but that's how it is up here....

^^^With all due respect, I'm not knocking your choice in mate, but I do find it odd that an individual as seemingly well-cultured as yourself would not have seen travelling abroad to find a suitable partner from the Motherland as being a viable option.

By your own assertion you mention Atlanta as being a place that fairly overflows with sistas who are successful and independent so what stopped you from venturing out to that region?

Once again, this is not a personal attack against you, but merely m commenting on a vein of reasoning that I find somewhat vexing.

 

[Izayoi]

I refuse to believe that it's impossible to find a mate from within ones own ethnicity who shares similar interests, ideals and aspirations.

Not impossible Majestik, but it is definitely more difficult at times depending on where you are and what you do even if you are in contact with your community. The raisin in milk phenomenon is real! Its rare one finds a like-minded pool of folks of any ethnicity really.

All skinfolk aint kinfolk as the saying goes. That's not about holding onself above. Common interests like others mentioned.


Cleo-J I appreciated your posts and your tat. I come from a broke background as well. My parents were the only sober/ unaddicted people in my family and for that I am grateful. They didn't have a lot of education (father never graduated from HS, mom did got back to school eventually) but they were well read, articulate, and more cultured than 3/4 of these boogy ninjas I meet. They raised us to be the same- spiritual wealth not material wealth. Bless, sis.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

lol you make this sound like this is a war with the nazi's......

tell me something..would you marry the fry girl at mc d's? you know, the one with the two kids at home, being as cultured and all as you stated.

^^^If the fry girl at mc d's was studying for a degree whilst working part-time I see no logical reason why I'd look down on her and discount her as being a viable mate.

Very few people I associate with on a personal level have children outside of wedlock so I guess it all depends on the social mores that obtain in ones surroundings and who one decides to socialize with.

 

[Adam Knows]

^^^With all due respect, I'm not knocking your choice in mate, but I do find it odd that an individual as seemingly well-cultured as yourself would not have seen travelling abroad to find a suitable partner from the Motherland as being a viable option.

By your own assertion you mention Atlanta as being a place that fairly overflows with sistas who are successful and independent so what stopped you from venturing out to that region?

as i said before this isn't "coming to america" and i do not chase after women. i stopped that a long time ago. no it's not about me being some "pretty nicca" or anything but some folks at one point fucked the game up so bad that a casual hello could get your head bitten off. if a woman is that interested in you she'll say something to you. trust me on that.

and trust me this debate with some of the people would have been no different if i brought back a "black" wife from overseas......

 

[Adam Knows]

^^^If the fry girl at mc d's was studying for a degree whilst working part-time I see no logical reason why I'd look down on her and discount her as being a viable mate.

Very few people I associate with on a personal level have children outside of wedlock so I guess it all depends on the social mores that obtain in ones surroundings and who one decides to socialize with.

unfortunately here men and women flourish with kids out of wedlock. your faster to hit the daily numbers 3 times in one week before finding a woman without a kid.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

Not impossible Majestik, but it is definitely more difficult at times depending on where you are and what you do even if you are in contact with your community. The raisin in milk phenomenon is real! Its rare one finds a like-minded pool of folks of any ethnicity really.

All skinfolk aint kinfolk as the saying goes. That's not about holding onself above. Common interests like others mentioned.


Cleo-J I appreciated your posts and your tat. I come from a broke background as well. My parents were the only sober/ unaddicted people in my family and for that I am grateful. They didn't have a lot of education (father never graduated from HS, mom did got back to school eventually) but they were well read, articulate, and more cultured than 3/4 of these boogy ninjas I meet. They raised us to be the same- spiritual wealth not material wealth. Bless, sis.

^^Definitely feeling where you're comming from on this one Izayoi and it's not like I dont understand what DD's saying.

It's just that I find these generalizations we keep throwing around about each other to be so annoying.

Peope will invariably gravitate towards whatever gives them the greatest measure of happiness and comfortable acceptance.

I just know that I feel a helluva lot more comfortable within the arms of a strong black woman who shares my core values, aspirations and sense of purpose.

 

[Izayoi]

People will invariably gravitate towards whatever gives them the greatest measure of happiness and comfortable acceptance.

Yes so true.

I just know that I feel a helluva lot more comfortable within the arms of a strong black woman who shares my core values, aspirations and sense of purpose.

I love that you said that.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

unfortunately here men and women flourish with kids out of wedlock. your faster to hit the daily numbers 3 times in one week before finding a woman without a kid.

^^^Damn! That soounds diabolically depressing.

How did things get so bad?

 

[Al Smith]

unfortunately here men and women flourish with kids out of wedlock. your faster to hit the daily numbers 3 times in one week before finding a woman without a kid.

You hit the nail right on the head. Every time I go into a fast food restaurant, I always ask the young ladies what are they doing with their lives. If they aren't going to school to better themselves, my attitude quickly turns to disgust.. and the women on here wonder why the good black men won't settle for a quitter.. she's given up before even trying. That's why I date whomever I feel like dating, regardless of skin color or religion, etc. I date who I have things in common with, which eliminates about 99% of black women that I meet.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

Yes so true.

I love that you said that.

^^^I just call it as I feel it.

The feeling of fulfilment I feel with a sista cannot be duplicated with any other woman.

It defies description and needs to be experienced to be believed.

The warmth in her eyes, assertiveness, sense of determination embodied within black women brings out the man in me and I wouldn't have it any other way.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

You hit the nail right on the head. Every time I go into a fast food restaurant, I always ask the young ladies what are they doing with their lives. If they aren't going to school to better themselves, my attitude quickly turns to disgust.. and the women on here wonder why the good black men won't settle for a quitter.. she's given up before even trying. That's why I date whomever I feel like dating, regardless of skin color or religion, etc. I date who I have things in common with, which eliminates about 99% of black women that I meet.

^^^But the same can be said for the young men working in similar establishments.

Going by your assertion would that disqualify 99% of black men available to upwardly mobile sistas or are you implying that 99% of the black women you've met work in fast food establishments?

No one in their right mind is advocating marrying someone who isn't ambitous or looking to improve their lot in life, but this wholesale embrace of all things non-black fairly reeks of the lacking.

 

[Adam Knows]

^^^Damn! That soounds diabolically depressing.

How did things get so bad?

environment.
lack of desire to be educated.
lack of appropriate services
lack of people who cared
lack of funds
plus loss of jobs/financial instability....in the past ten years alone thousands of upon thousands of jobs were lost. cleveland was a steel and automaker production industry. steel jobs are all gone, imported to overseas. factories were shut down.

that trickled over to other venues...retail sales dropped to the point where you once had vibrant bustling malls you now have abandoned centers where kids hang out filled with foreign jewelry merchants tennis shoe stores urban gear and rim shops. Randall park mall which was voted one of the biggest and best malls at one point is a ghost town, along with euclid square mall, southgate, USA and slowly being followed by richmond towne center.

lack of jobs meant decrease in homeowners due to losing homes...
municpal housings were constructed everywhere and quickly filled, and at least 90 percent of all of their occupations are by blacks. where you had very nice black communities all you have now are cities with half empty homes that are falling apart.


that's when the fraud crimes kicked in....people didn't want to work they wanted to take someone elses...that was more rampant then drugs sales out here.

blacks just didn't give a fuck anymore......

you know what jobs women aspire to have out this way? STNA's and hairstylists.....

shit niccas don't want to work at all....people would rather live in a dump for 200 bucks a month then to get out and better themselves.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

environment.
lack of desire to be educated.
lack of appropriate services
lack of people who cared
lack of funds
plus loss of jobs/financial instability....in the past ten years alone thousands of upon thousands of jobs were lost. cleveland was a steel and automaker production industry. steel jobs are all gone, imported to overseas. factories were shut down.

that trickled over to other venues...retail sales dropped to the point where you once had vibrant bustling malls you now have abandoned centers where kids hang out filled with foreign jewelry merchants tennis shoe stores urban gear and rim shops. Randall park mall which was voted one of the biggest and best malls at one point is a ghost town, along with euclid square mall, southgate, USA and slowly being followed by richmond towne center.

lack of jobs meant decrease in homeowners due to losing homes...
municpal housings were constructed everywhere and quickly filled, and at least 90 percent of all of their occupations are by blacks. where you had very nice black communities all you have now are cities with half empty homes that are falling apart.


that's when the fraud crimes kicked in....people didn't want to work they wanted to take someone elses...that was more rampant then drugs sales out here.

blacks just didn't give a fuck anymore......

you know what jobs women aspire to have out this way? STNA's and hairstylists.....

shit niccas don't want to work at all....people would rather live in a dump for 200 bucks a month then to get out and better themselves.

^^^I find this breakdown of facts seriously disturbing and depressing to say the least.

Things are slightly different in my neck of the woods (London, UK) but there seems to be a general state malaise amongst blacks over here as well which is really leading me to believe that there's something about so-called western "civilization" that has a somewhat negative effect on the psyche of people of African descent at home and in the diaspora.

 

[bigirl]

Kinda funny how many high level power executive black women I know. CEOs, CFOs, hedge funds, etc. I guess everyone sees what they want to see.

On the flip side, how come only black people are "self hating" when we date outside our race? We put so many stigmas upon ourselves its beyond oppressive and depressing.

 

[Adam Knows]

Kinda funny how many high level power executive black women I know. CEOs, CFOs, hedge funds, etc. I guess everyone sees what they want to see.

On the flip side, how come only black people are "self hating" when we date outside our race? We put so many stigmas upon ourselves its beyond oppressive and depressing.

where are you in NY? that's why. the highest position a black woman usually holds is "school principle" or school administrator

that goes for black males as well.....which is why black entrepreneuralship was something i strongly pushed for a long period of time.....

the avg hourly wage in NE ohio? 8 bucks.....

 

[Mr MajestiK]

Kinda funny how many high level power executive black women I know. CEOs, CFOs, hedge funds, etc. I guess everyone sees what they want to see.

^^It's just the way some humans stay. Some of us are so jaded with pain and shattered dreams that we close our third eyes and just look out at life from behind tainted crosshairs

On the flip side, how come only black people are "self hating" when we date outside our race? We put so many stigmas upon ourselves its beyond oppressive and depressing.

^^^I guess we call it "self hating" because 7 times out've ten, the black half of the interracial pairing usually cites the unavailability or unreliability of available partners from their own ethnic group as their primary resoning for hooking up with a pinktoe.

I'm yet to meet a white woman or man who slags of their own people whilst running into the arms of a non-white person so I guess that's why we stay steady losing in the eyes of the world.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

Which is why black entrepreneuralship was something i strongly pushed for a long period of time.....

^^^This I totally agree with.

 

[bigirl]

I'm yet to meet a white woman or man who slags of their own people whilst running into the arms of a non-white person so I guess that's why we stay steady losing in the eyes of the world.

Oh I have heard white women go off on small dick no rhythm hairy pasty whiteboys after they get their first taste of some black dick.

Hmm...never heard white men who like sistas dis white women tho

 

[Mr MajestiK]

Oh I have heard white women go off on small dick no rhythm hairy pasty whiteboys after they get their first taste of some black dick.

^^But that's because they're attracted to what they percieve as being the raw, unrestrained and uninhibited nature of a black man stretching them out.

Doesn't matter whether the brotha's a Kanye west "preppie" or a 50Cent thug type as long as he's packing in the dick department, the white chics good to go.

Hmm...never heard white men who like sistas dis white women tho

^^^I'm sure there must be white cats who do diss white women but like you, I doubt it'd be over a sista.