Damn Napoleon, tell em why you mad.
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Damn Napoleon, tell em why you mad.
I kid you not,that was what Wesley Snipes said and is one of the reasons he doesn't date black women like that.But you shouldnt group all of us in a category of shallow females.
I really don't give a fuck, never have. You love who you love, end of story.
thats the point...owning up to the fact the we all play into the generalizations and hatreds and player haterisms....most of us just don't want to admit it..even on anonymous message board..
Truth is, it depends. Like when I went to St. Louis, it's like all the black men are with white women. That mess was shocking and disappointing to me because I love seeing black love. But otherwise I wouldn't care if it something rare
I don't care if I see a black man with a white woman...if she's ugly and/or he's trifling...lol
Otherwise, it might sting a nerve, but I think about the sexy thing I call my boyfriend, and I get over it...lol
Otherwise, it might sting a nerve, but I think about the sexy thing I call my boyfriend, and I get over it...lol
more than once unfortunately and yeah i have seen them talk that shit too.
home alot of them fuck their first rastaman and then try and get braids or locs and wear rasta colors and get a drum and sometimes wear the head to toe kente cloth and try and talk "Jafakean" too
then the ones who fuck their guru or yoga teacher start dressing in saris and shit and only cook curry.
That is sad.
that's a very narrow minded view.
how about not wanting to put up with the inadequecies that was found in a lot of black women surrounding him?
in northeast ohio show me a woman who:
made more then 45k (and that's not asking a lot with the fact i bring in 240k yearly)
has no children
toned physique
has not been sexually abused (your going to say i'm generalizing but i swear this is true. every black woman i've dated has been sexually molested in some way shape or form...from all walks of life)
not bitter...too many women carry the woes of their past relationships onto the next man...i can't deal with it.
physically attractive to me (majority of the women who may fit the bill on these prequesites are 9 times out of 10 unnattractive to me.)
able to understand the purpose and importance of a prenuptial agreement for what it is, not some "your not trustworthy" tactic
most importantly understands the fundamentals of the title "husband and wife".
husband and wife does not mean struggle, sidestep, dominate, or overpower. I'm a firm believer that both participants carry a role. However, I do acknowledge and understand the fact that black women, the majority being single mothers are forced to play the role of both participants. which is probably the most important reason i never date women with children. the family structure is already in place, for you to marry into that family, your just an addition for the most part. The mother is already the dominant figurehead in that household.
Also black women feel the need to have to prove more. Hey, i truly respect and understand that. But that's not what's needed in a potential mate for me.
And then, for the women on the "dark side"....the spiteful, scheming fake conniving cutthroat women out there. unfortunately you mask what good women are out there. the negative always outshines the positive.
other then that are shared interests..time and time again my interests do not coincide with black women's perception of what a man's interests should be.
for the record
i never dated a white woman and never will.
i never dated a white woman and never will.
When I was in my teens I messed around with savages. But as I grew up became more aware of my people and the world around me I can't stand those people. As far as dating other races it's just not my thing. I can't relate to people outside my race and they make me uncomfortable. I can't blame a person for just fucking some "other" but when i see someone IN A RELATIONSHIP it bothers me and makes me think why and how.
And why do you have to date outside your race to experience another culture. Shit I had some Indian food last night and been to a fly ass Indian bar, in Brooklyn, danced to their music and I don't know not one Indian personally.
This is some bullshit right here. I am in no way some flag waving "I Heart America" type of person but to say that a country has no culture is asinine. It might not be the long cultures of some other nations but damn. American culture is ugly It's Slavery. . . Reservations. . .the trail of tears. . . American culture is Monday night football . . .Mcdonald's
. . .Enron. . .Reality TV. . .George W. Bush
Just because it is not what you like it to be doesn't make it insignificant.
And please don't disrespect Duke Ellington, Richard Pryor, Benjamin Banneker, Malcolm X, Lorraine Hansberry, Paul Robeson, Collard Greens, Fried Chicken, Candied Yams, The Wop, The Electric Slide, And my grandfather by saying there is no Black-American Culture.
And why do you have to date outside your race to experience another culture. Shit I had some Indian food last night and been to a fly ass Indian bar, in Brooklyn, danced to their music and I don't know not one Indian personally.
This is some bullshit right here. I am in no way some flag waving "I Heart America" type of person but to say that a country has no culture is asinine. It might not be the long cultures of some other nations but damn. American culture is ugly It's Slavery. . . Reservations. . .the trail of tears. . . American culture is Monday night football . . .Mcdonald's
. . .Enron. . .Reality TV. . .George W. BushJust because it is not what you like it to be doesn't make it insignificant.
And please don't disrespect Duke Ellington, Richard Pryor, Benjamin Banneker, Malcolm X, Lorraine Hansberry, Paul Robeson, Collard Greens, Fried Chicken, Candied Yams, The Wop, The Electric Slide, And my grandfather by saying there is no Black-American Culture.
I am totally against that b.s! I admit it doesn't infuriate me as much as it should when I see a black guy with a hispanic girl or indian girl as much as it does when I see him with a cave b*tch! Ugh, sometimes, I just want to spit on them because I feel disrespected. I know so many GOOD black women, college educated, no kids, good jobs who are single and you wanna be IN A RELATIONSHIP all out in public with this HONKY???? I just don't get it. I realize later that these are NOT men that I would affliate with. I hate even more when I see them (white girls) trolling where I'm from, which is the "ghetto" looking for a "soldier" that shit gets me mad!!! I swear it does!!!
I used to not get angry when I saw black women doing it, but that angers me now too. College made me extremely militant, and I definitely am a bit more racist than I should be, which isn't good I guess. But I'm not about people who aren't about my people! Idk, that's just me.
I used to not get angry when I saw black women doing it, but that angers me now too. College made me extremely militant, and I definitely am a bit more racist than I should be, which isn't good I guess. But I'm not about people who aren't about my people! Idk, that's just me.
Big ups to Femmenoire, BiGirl and Cleopatra J for their passionate disgust toward white people lol. I love that in a female. 
why does it anger you what another person does?
to just get angry because you see two people that are happy? why? were you going to give that guy the time of day?
Does it anger you when you see young black kids selling drugs or messing up in school? I'm sure they are happy doing what they are doing, right?
It angers me because not too long ago black men were HUNG and LYNCHED for looking at those devils, but now you abandon black women for them... If a dude is a nice guy and he hollers, I would give him a chance, I don't believe that black guys get with white girls because black girls won't give them the time of day, that's just an excuse.
It angers me because not too long ago black men were HUNG and LYNCHED for looking at those devils, but now you abandon black women for them... If a dude is a nice guy and he hollers, I would give him a chance, I don't believe that black guys get with white girls because black girls won't give them the time of day, that's just an excuse.
I don't want to get this thread off-track but I will say this and bow out.
And that is why it is my mission to do everything I can to preserve our beautiful black-american culture
not apples to apples. your comparing a criminal act to a personal and perfectly legal "choice"
i don't know about the abandon part. because even though mine is asian....i don't ever remember seeing an asian slave owner.
and even because i do not do white doesn't mean someone else shouldn't./couldn't
you can't place your values upon the next man that you probably wouldn't have had anything to do with anyway.
Personally, I believe everybody should be with who whoever makes them happy. For purely sexual purposes, every color's fair game. In terms of a relationship, I can kick it with any color chick but sistas definitely get first shot in my book just because they do. I have to admit that when i see a sista with a white dude, it stings a little but then i can't look down at her because i done ran up in my share of snowflakes. Love it or hate it, Sistas tend to have a bit of attitude. To me, nothing can beat an educated, intelligent sista. But I'll take a whitegirl over a hoodrat any day.
Its not illegal for kids to mess up in school, but every time I hear about it I am still mad and angry. But that's a digression!
Why wouldn't I have something to do with a guy, I don't disriminate.. I even dated an ugly guy once
but anyway! I dont agree with the interracial dating thing whether she's black, white, asian, indian, batzwalian, whatever. What does she have that a black woman doesn't? Asian's promote marriage within the Asian culture. Chick at my job is Korean, her parents want her to marry a Korean, she says nothing against anyone else, but it's true, I'll marry a Korean. How can this person who doesn't understand your struggle, relate to you. If you have a beautiful black daughter, how can she understand what struggles she's going to face growing up and feeling like her brown skin isn't right??
Co Fuckin Sign.....
Its not illegal for kids to mess up in school, but every time I hear about it I am still mad and angry. But that's a digression!
Why wouldn't I have something to do with a guy, I don't disriminate.. I even dated an ugly guy once
1st question. why is there a struggle? there's only struggle if you make it difficult for yourself. my only struggle in life right now? which pair of tennis shoes am i going to wear each day.
2nd. For the record, for the few that didn't know, I'm married and my wife is of Vietnamese descent. does that mean she's better then black women in general? no. It means we have interests that are more common then what i did with any other women period. it was never about black women aren't shit, but black women that were available just "weren't there", when i say that i'm referring to lifestyle, interests, financially, and so on.
do you have any idea how annoying it is to have to had dated in cleveland? the avg black woman as a whole maxed out financially at about maybe 26k. The avg profession was STNA, beautician/related and clerical. where i'm at and where many black women are at here is the same as a socially clashing with another race.
and i'm not generalizing when i say this because, again this is women in northeast ohio. where i live/lived, blacks in general were at a minimum. Now i'm not going to say that all black women are scheming, but every last one that wanted to be/wants to be with me is out for what she can get out of it.
Dating in Cleveland was hard?? Try being from a town that is ONE square mile and the average income in less than 26000K for the black population. Most of the men sell drugs or some other illegal profession. Almost ALL of them have kids, and the STD rate is rampant in a town like that. Most of the girls theya re used to dealing with live at home, or on Sect. 8 with their kids in tow. The # of students in general who goto college is less than 20%, so try being a young black female with a college degree trying to find a decent dude? But I haven't given up on black men.. I still think that I will find him, he just probably wont be from where I'm from...
And I didn't mean your current struggle, but your historical struggle. Your wife understands when you get angry over injustices in the black community?
Personally, I think EVERYONE is a little bit racist. Whether they express it or not on an everyday basis, it still lurks!
And I didn't mean your current struggle, but your historical struggle. Your wife understands when you get angry over injustices in the black community?
Personally, I think EVERYONE is a little bit racist. Whether they express it or not on an everyday basis, it still lurks!
Don't mean to bumrush the conversation but this is a very good point I make to a lot of my friends. I tell them I could never be serious with anyone but a black woman.
I've fucked with girls of different races before and it is frustrating when they can't relate to you on that level.
but, are you a product of that community that made the right choice and took that giant step or, are you someone that was never a product of that environment to begin with?
I've tried women of other races, but u just cant beat a black woman. Think about, how can u come home and discuss being looked at like u had shit on ur face when u wrote a software and presented it to the executive board members who happen to be all white or just the troubles we see our people going thru everyday...I am in this world to please a black woman and cotdammit that's what imma do...So u dnt have to worry bout seein me with another
Hahaha, IMO, i was def. a product of that environment, from the Crackhead mother to No daddy and being raised by another family member. I don't think I was afforded any opportunity that someone else wasn't. But I think drive and determination played a great role. I saw what doing the same ol' two step got you and I didn't want that. My cousin who grew up in the same house as me with the same opportunities still fucked up.
historical struggle?
i see it like this. someone else made that sacrifice so i wouldn't have to. my job is to achieve that dream they paved the way for. that struggle that most refer to now is used for nothing more then a crutch. everyone wants to scream unfairness and unequality. Don't get me wrong, it happens but as pointed out by many in another post, you don't care anyways unelss it's benefitting you.
also when discussing with my wife events, topics, we both see it in black and white. for example, right now the 13 year old being sentenced for 60 years....she understands the reason why that is unusually excessive faster then most blacks who want to bury a 13 year old under the jail.
so, to you those that are around you are acceptable to some point. you all are on the same playing field, you just have a better advantage.
now when i say this do not take offense. but to me, your still on the same parking floor with them while i'm maybe 5 floors up. from my past experience we would have nothing in common, say sex if there was a physical attraction there. we would not find a common ground as far as conversation, music, interests, etc.
if i asked you about investments, business startups, t-bills, interest on accounts, a jdm oem turbo, the culture of gran canaria or the artwork of ernie barnes, would you be able to respond?
more then likely not. but my wife can. not because she's the better person, again, but it's because we have the same interests/likes, etc.
same as i wouldn't be able to tell you what's the newest "drank", what weed is the strongest, who's the best rapper or what the newest dance is and who's up in the club.
basically i'm just saying it's not about a race thing. it's a what level are you on thing. and unfortunately there are not many black women on that level. same as a guy from the projects more then likely wouldnt be dating halle berry, and elise neal wouldn't be dating a janitor.
C/S. I always feel at home with black men. It's a different level of intimacy because you don't have to explain all the little things or big things that define your experience as a black person.
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