Sistas Real Talk: How do you feel when you see a brotha with a nonblack chick..

[bigirl]

^^But that's because they're attracted to what they percieve as being the raw, unrestrained and uninhibited nature of a black man stretching them out.

Doesn't matter whether the brotha's a Kanye west "preppie" or a 50Cent thug type as long as he's packing in the dick department, the white chics good to go.



^^^I'm sure there must be white cats who do diss white women but like you, I doubt it'd be over a sista.

oh see now ya done fucked up. discussion over before i get in trouble for "hurting the mens feelings"

 

[Mr MajestiK]

oh see now ya done fucked up. discussion over before i get in trouble for "hurting the mens feelings"

^^^Why are you stressing?

Most if not all white chicks who get with black men do so because of the "myth".

That there is just one of the reasons why I'm not trying to waste my time with white chicks.

I'm not tryna be a beckys organic dildo.

I have my dignity.

 

[bigirl]

^^^Why are you stressing?

Most if not all white chicks who get with black men do so because of the "myth".

That there is just one of the reasons why I'm not trying to waste my time with white chicks.

I'm not tryna be a beckys organic dildo.

I have my dignity.

well why did you say whiteboys dissing white bitches are not doing it over a sista then?

 

[Mr MajestiK]

well why did you say whiteboys dissing white bitches are not doing it over a sista then?

^^^Because for the most part, white guys have the same mentality that their female counterparts do, they just see black people and most other non-whites as disposable sex toys.

To them, we're just here to satisfy their sexual fantasies about going "native" and being sexed by savages on the border fringes of civilization.

Where do you think the term "Jungle fever" originated from?

The only time a whiteboy will diss a white woman is after she's been with a black guy and become "spoiled goods" in his eyes.

 

[GET YOU HOT]

Um, isn't this the same kinda generalization/put-down that has some of the other women here a little bent?

I don't really care, my logic is most the men I know, the few, not a generalization, who date white women are broke, simply put.

They choose to depend on women, regardless of colors, who take care of them like an extension of mama's house... bent on what?

Black Women too Black too Strong...

 

[Harbinger]

I don't really care, my logic is most the men I know, the few, not a generalization, who date white women are broke, simply put.

They choose to depend on women, regardless of colors, who take care of them like an extension of mama's house... bent on what?

Black Women too Black too Strong...

This was basically Da Dons point. He based his point of view on his own personal history with women he encountered and expressed it in less than flattering terms. A few of the women got all bent out of shape about their perceived animus of his opinion, and a pretty good discussion turned into personal attacks about stuff that really wasn't even related to the topic.

You did virtually the same thing and..... *crickets*

"Black Women too Black too Strong" and what exactly is this supposed to mean?

 

[GET YOU HOT]

This was basically Da Dons point. He based his point of view on his own personal history with women he encountered and expressed it in less than flattering terms. A few of the women got all bent out of shape about their perceived animus of his opinion, and a pretty good discussion turned into personal attacks about stuff that really wasn't even related to the topic.

You did virtually the same thing and..... *crickets*

"Black Women too Black too Strong" and what exactly is this supposed to mean?

Pardon me if his point went right past my logic detector...

Where, when, do you see me getting bent out of shape? I'm a cool ass down to earth chick...

As for Black women being to Black and too Strong, the term may also be applied to Black Men, a plan put into motion, kind of like a coat of armour, bullshit comes at me and spashes off because I don't engage it...

 

[DreDee]

Coming from a dude, I don't care who a sista is with as long as she is happy why does it matter what skin color they are or where they come from.


Personally never dated a white chick though just haven't come across one that I have anything in common with.

 

[Harbinger]

Pardon me if his point went right past my logic detector...

Where, when, do you see me getting bent out of shape? I'm a cool ass down to earth chick...

As for Black women being to Black and too Strong, the term may also be applied to Black Men, a plan put into motion, kind of like a coat of armour, bullshit comes at me and spashes off because I don't engage it...

I wasn't talking about you being bent, just a couple of the other young ladies.

And cool ass down to earth chicks are worth their weight in gold.

 

[GET YOU HOT]

I wasn't talking about you being bent, just a couple of the other young ladies.

And cool ass down to earth chicks are worth their weight in gold.

Very well then, carry on...

 

[Buttnaked]

Hater!
We've all had a fling w/ a non-black person, including you.

I personally like seeing brothas with non black women exploring their options. The same thing goes for the ladies. I think in order to really mature and become wordly, one must explore all of their dating options. At the end of the day I do however see myself with a sista.
I am however bothered by brothas dating puerto rican women.
I don't like em or trust 'em. Oh, well, do you...

can you spell h-y-p-o-c-r-i-t-e...

 

[Buttnaked]

this might sound corny as shit, but when it comes to sex, a human is essentially a human. dick is dick, and pussy is pussy. the rest of this shit is cultural, economic and whatever other socialized bias people have accumulated throughout life's travels.

i personally prefer thick asses and skin with some goddamn color to it. at the same time, while i prefer not to see them, a European that is built to fit what i find appealing would get booger slammed under the correct circumstances. i must admit though that i have only ever boned African women. no Europeans, Asians or Latinos. i don't feel like i'm missing out on shit either...

it's all pink on the inside...

 

[Adam Knows]

This was basically Da Dons point. He based his point of view on his own personal history with women he encountered and expressed it in less than flattering terms. A few of the women got all bent out of shape about their perceived animus of his opinion, and a pretty good discussion turned into personal attacks about stuff that really wasn't even related to the topic.

You did virtually the same thing and..... *crickets*

"Black Women too Black too Strong" and what exactly is this supposed to mean?

lol

because it's only good when black women say what i said in reference to black men, not the other way around. women can categorize you all day as weak, strong, etc. you can be beneath her, or completely out of her league. but when a black man says it.....WW3 and WW4 combined. When jennifer hudson dumped her boyfriend of soooo many years for dude in the nfl exclaiming "he was not on my level any longer" after she came up, women applauded. If a black man does it, we're the scum of the earth.

but overall, black women hold the power as to who they want to be with. it's more realistic that a black woman can say i want to fuck him and she will fuck him then it is for a man to see a woman and say i want to fuck her and actually fucks her.


something i've said for a long time. if the prerequesite to get into a black woman's leg was a college degree and being a homeowner, guess what there would be a lot of college educated homeowning black men out there.

 

[Adam Knows]

^^^Because for the most part, white guys have the same mentality that their female counterparts do, they just see black people and most other non-whites as disposable sex toys.

To them, we're just here to satisfy their sexual fantasies about going "native" and being sexed by savages on the border fringes of civilization.

Where do you think the term "Jungle fever" originated from?

The only time a whiteboy will diss a white woman is after she's been with a black guy and become "spoiled goods" in his eyes.

hence the reason most white porn stars will not do black/white scenes. they'll lose their white crowd.

 

[harlem1nyc]

I can deal with anything besides White or Chinese. Puerto Ricans and Domincans are simple confused....LOL

It was brother long dick that started it all in Puerto Rico (Boricuan) and the Republic of Dominica...

 

[sakinnuso]

I date black women EXCLUSIVELY, and I consider myself extremely cultured. On the other hand, Los Angeles seems to be a place dominated by the mentality of Blacks dating anything OTHER than Blacks. This is jarring considering that I was born and bred in DC/MD. You can't imagine how many online ads I've seen that read: "SBF for SWM or SAM" or, they'll list everything BUT black men in their preferences and exclaim, "Sorry black men, that's just my preference. I've had bad experiences with black men, and I have more in common with XXX..."

I had to be more accepting of brothers dating outside their race, although I'd never do it. One of my brothers from college was distraught over a bad relationship in Florida, went to Japan for a year, and came back married to a Japanese woman who's cool as hell. Since then, I've stopped judging. It's simply not for me.

On the other hand, another college friend moved out here to Cali, got angry at how sistas were treating him, started fucking white and asian woman like they were being awarded to him. He realized his behavior change, pulled back, got some perspective again, and during a visit to DC got with a beautiful black woman there. They're both living here in LA now trying to make it work.

Another DC-to-LA buddy said that he was down for black women but after meeting chicken after chicken out here, his most recent woman of interest - that looks promising no less - is Latina. He's found that this has been one of the best women he's met since he's been here.

As a guy, i used to get FURIOUS seeing black women with OTHER men. As a guy looking myself, It's difficult knowing that you could - if you wanted - *easily* spark the conversation and interest of non-black women. There was a point when I used to want that validation from sistas. Now? As with the people that choose to date inter-racially, I simply let it go.

At 33, I'm at peace with the fact that I'd rather not date at all than date outside my race. I'm also cool enough now not to judge anymore. On the other hand, I'm certainly a hypocrite because I don't financially support professional brothers & sistas that do dip out (Taye Diggs, et al).

 

[femmenoire]

There was a point when I used to want that validation from sistas. Now? As with the people that choose to date inter-racially, I simply let it go.

At 33, I'm at peace with the fact that I'd rather not date at all than date outside my race. I'm also cool enough now not to judge anymore. On the other hand, I'm certainly a hypocrite because I don't financially support professional brothers & sistas that do dip out (Taye Diggs, et al).

This is the realest thing I've read.

Unlike you I did experience it for myself but it taught me a valuable lesson.

If I have to be alone for the rest of my life, so be it. No other man can replace a black man in my book, faults and all.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

I don't really care, my logic is most the men I know, the few, not a generalization, who date white women are broke, simply put.

They choose to depend on women, regardless of colors, who take care of them like an extension of mama's house... bent on what?

Black Women too Black too Strong...

^^^Not sure what class of men you've seen in these situations, but cats like Seal (married to Heidi Klum) are anything but broke and I dont think anyone in the right mind would call him weak willed.

As far as I understand it, he was turned down by x amount of sistas because of his facial scars but ended up with one of the worlds top supermodels who just happens to be white.

I guess she was able to look beyond his facial disfigurement and relate to the man beneath.

 

[Mt. Yukon]

^^^Not sure what class of men you've seen in these situations, but cats like Seal (married to Heidi Klum) are anything but broke and I dont think anyone in the right mind would call him weak willed.

As far as I understand it, he was turned down by x amount of sistas because of his facial scars but ended up with one of the worlds top supermodels who just happens to be white.

I guess she was able to look beyond his facial disfigurement and relate to the man beneath.

Like I said I could care less who a brotha dates, but Im not sayin its right to be turned off by his face, but if a chick asked you out with all those scars on her face whats your first thought. Im just being real, but how can you date someone who you cant even look in the face??? I read she looked at the mans package first when he walked in a lobby with biker shorts or some shit, so I dont think shes PC and would date him just because of his personality. Hell shes probably living some little African warrior, little snow queen fantasy, also dosnt hurt that the man is rich. I wouldnt peg her as a saint just yet.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

lol

because it's only good when black women say what i said in reference to black men, not the other way around. women can categorize you all day as weak, strong, etc. you can be beneath her, or completely out of her league. but when a black man says it.....WW3 and WW4 combined. When jennifer hudson dumped her boyfriend of soooo many years for dude in the nfl exclaiming "he was not on my level any longer" after she came up, women applauded. If a black man does it, we're the scum of the earth.

^^^It all depends on how the message is put across.

Men get blamed for everything by some women anyway, so there's no real reason for us to follow suit.

If someones not for you or not up to your standards then you're entitled to keep it moving and get with someone more to your liking.

Unfortunately, some people dont leave it at that and just seem to be obssessed with pontificating from the rooftops about how good they have it.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

Like I said I could care less who a brotha dates, but Im not sayin its right to be turned off by his face, but if a chick asked you out with all those scars on her face whats your first thought. Im just being real, but how can you date someone who you cant even look in the face??? I read she looked at the mans package first when he walked in a lobby with biker shorts or some shit, so I dont think shes PC and would date him just because of his personality. Hell shes probably living some little African warrior, little snow queen fantasy, also dosnt hurt that the man is rich. I wouldnt peg her as a saint just yet.

^^^I dig your honesty but you gotta admit that no amount of money will help if there isn't an initial spark of attraction.

Heidi Klum still gets inordinate amounts of hate mail for marrying Seal and having children by him so it's not all plain sailing.

Never said she was a saint but I have'ta give props where they're due.

I've got a colleague of mine who's a parplegic.

Dude gets no play from sistas whatsoever but has white chicks falling all over each other in a mad dash to take a spin with him in his wheel chair.

Not saying that there are no sistas out there that would give him the time of day, but he hasn't met any yet.

Dude get's crazy amounts of pinktoe pum pum.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

This is the realest thing I've read.

Unlike you I did experience it for myself but it taught me a valuable lesson.

If I have to be alone for the rest of my life, so be it. No other man can replace a black man in my book, faults and all.

^^^I think I love you!(No simp)

 

[Mt. Yukon]

lol

because it's only good when black women say what i said in reference to black men, not the other way around. women can categorize you all day as weak, strong, etc. you can be beneath her, or completely out of her league. but when a black man says it.....WW3 and WW4 combined. When jennifer hudson dumped her boyfriend of soooo many years for dude in the nfl exclaiming "he was not on my level any longer" after she came up, women applauded. If a black man does it, we're the scum of the earth.

but overall, black women hold the power as to who they want to be with. it's more realistic that a black woman can say i want to fuck him and she will fuck him then it is for a man to see a woman and say i want to fuck her and actually fucks her.


something i've said for a long time. if the prerequesite to get into a black woman's leg was a college degree and being a homeowner, guess what there would be a lot of college educated homeowning black men out there.

Ohh aint that about a bitch!!! But yeah if a brotha would have done that women would have a little Waiting to Exhale moment about how men get some money and then dump you after they come up. And Yeah females always seem to want a "certain" guy. I had this one chick damn near in the bag, then we somehow got on the topic of cars and I told her I drive a Wrangler, she said"them shits whieboys be drivin" I was like I guess, her next question was "you got rims on it atleast???" I was like yeah they come stock with 16"s why, "No I mean like 24s"... I thought about it for a second then was like, dont you drive a Neon??? "yeah but its not a white car" I was like aight yo, Ill holla at you later.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

Ohh aint that about a bitch!!! But yeah if a brotha would have done that women would have a little Waiting to Exhale moment about how men get some money and then dump you after they come up. And Yeah females always seem to want a "certain" guy. I had this one chick damn near in the bag, then we somehow got on the topic of cars and I told her I drive a Wrangler, she said"them shits whieboys be drivin" I was like I guess, her next question was "you got rims on it atleast???" I was like yeah they come stock with 16"s why, "No I mean like 24s"... I thought about it for a second then was like, dont you drive a Neon??? "yeah but its not a white car" I was like aight yo, Ill holla at you later.

^^^damn it's that bad?

What's with this fucking obssession with rims?

 

[Mt. Yukon]

^^^damn it's that bad?

What's with this fucking obssession with rims?

Hell I cant call it, My shit came with chrome 16s and that shits cool as far as Im concerned. I guess because its not a "black persons car" I have to ghetto it up to get play from some chicks.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

Hell I cant call it, My shit came with chrome 16s and that shits cool as far as Im concerned. I guess because its not a "black persons car" I have to ghetto it up to get play from some chicks.

^^That's just fucked up.

To me, a car is a car and I'd use mine to get me from point A-B.

all that additional drama is just that, drama.

Some chicks need to recognise what's real as opposed to all that illusion shit.

 

[bigirl]

Hell I cant call it, My shit came with chrome 16s and that shits cool as far as Im concerned. I guess because its not a "black persons car" I have to ghetto it up to get play from some chicks.

If thats the type of women some of you encounter I guess I can overstand why you say some of the things you do about women. Alot of us are not like that at all.

 

[Adam Knows]

^^^

If someones not for you or not up to your standards then you're entitled to keep it moving and get with someone more to your liking.

the problem with that is some people don't understand rejection and turn it to something else. someone's behavior here yesterday pointed that out.

other examples on websites such as blackpeoplemeet.com and blackplanet.com when i was single i use to lay that list out that i posted earlier in here about what i was looking for in a woman. Guess who contacted repeatedly and on a daily basis trying to show me the "errors of my ways"? those women who didn't fall into my preference.

"so your saying you'd pass on a good woman if she had a child?"

"you don't know anything about a big woman, until you give her a chance"

"just because i'm from the projects doesn't mean this"

"everybody smokes weed, nothing wrong with that"

^^^Unfortunately, some people dont leave it at that and just seem to be obssessed with pontificating from the rooftops about how good they have it.

then you basically just described everyone. because in some way shape or form everyone does it.

 

[Adam Knows]

^^^damn it's that bad?

What's with this fucking obssession with rims?

it is viewed as a high ticket material possession. it gives you the "facade" of money even when you don't have it.

 

[Adam Knows]

If thats the type of women some of you encounter I guess I can overstand why you say some of the things you do about women. Alot of us are not like that at all.

again, it's "where your at".

 

[Mt. Yukon]

If thats the type of women some of you encounter I guess I can overstand why you say some of the things you do about women. Alot of us are not like that at all.

What have I said about women that make you think I view you in a negative light??? I know all women arent like that, that was just an example of how materialistic some women can be.

 

[bigirl]

What have I said about women that make you think I view you in a negative light??? I know all women arent like that, that was just an example of how materialistic some women can be.

I wasn't referring to you specifically thats why I said some of you. Alot of horrible things are said about women all over this board on a daily basis. That rim thing you just said is the tackiest most low class and idiotic thing I have ever heard. I don't know any women like that nor have I even met any so its hard for me to comprehend.

The closest I encountered was years ago leaving some hiphop party and a guy in a benz pulled around and asked me if I wanted a ride. I declined gracefully. Apparantly this man was Jay Z but I didn't know or care. So some real ghetto fabulous looking girls also leaving started cursing me out telling me I am crazy and that was Jay Z and I coulda got a coach bag. I thought that was very rare and extreme and have never encountered anything like that since and that was like 15 years ago. It sounds like you guys see this everyday.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

the problem with that is some people don't understand rejection and turn it to something else. someone's behavior here yesterday pointed that out.

other examples on websites such as blackpeoplemeet.com and blackplanet.com when i was single i use to lay that list out that i posted earlier in here about what i was looking for in a woman. Guess who contacted repeatedly and on a daily basis trying to show me the "errors of my ways"? those women who didn't fall into my preference.

"so your saying you'd pass on a good woman if she had a child?"

"you don't know anything about a big woman, until you give her a chance"

"just because i'm from the projects doesn't mean this"

"everybody smokes weed, nothing wrong with that"


then you basically just described everyone. because in some way shape or form everyone does it.

^^^In all honesty, I can't knock your observations in this regard so it's all peace from here on in.

 

[Adam Knows]

Hell I cant call it, My shit came with chrome 16s and that shits cool as far as Im concerned. I guess because its not a "black persons car" I have to ghetto it up to get play from some chicks.

i learned to run from them. or play their game on them. i have a car that's definitely not a "black person's car" it's a civic that's been fixed up like you see white boys do. i was with the one girl i was dating at the time and i switched up cars one day just because i wanted to drive it. her reaction? she damn near had a heart attack. went on about "i'm a lady, and i can't be seen in that"

 

[Mr MajestiK]

i learned to run from them. or play their game on them. i have a car that's definitely not a "black person's car" it's a civic that's been fixed up like you see white boys do. i was with the one girl i was dating at the time and i switched up cars one day just because i wanted to drive it. her reaction? she damn near had a heart attack. went on about "i'm a lady, and i can't be seen in that"

it is viewed as a high ticket material possession. it gives you the "facade" of money even when you don't have it.

^^I guess some women are too easily satisfied with the trappings of wealth as opposed to the reality of real monetary independence.

It's not like Bill Gates, Microsoft's monarch feels the need to style and profile because he's immensely wealthy.

The fellow still has the air of a nerd about him evn though he's rich enough to do almost anything he wants.

I guess people who really have that self generating wealth have no need to floss or otherwise advertise their financially comfortable status.