How are you? Mental Health Check-In

[cocobeauty]

This board has been my safe space for a long time and I know life is really heavy right now and just wanted to check in and see how we are doing?

I know some of us are Federal Workers, some live in states where ICE is really doing the most, everyone is not a US citizen, and racist are becoming bolder in their actions. So just asking how are you? How is your family?

As for me I didn't think I was as bothered being in the 92% but lately I am, because I worry still about the black males in my circle of love, especially my grandsons and what could come from this administration, so I'm telling my kids watch them at all times, even in their own back yard. My Job just had yet another major re-org and my new boss is a red hat and we've already had to talk because she's with the bullshit but didn't realize only I know how to do what I do, but it doesn't make me safe because we know they are quick to think I'm a DEI hire. I haven't had migraines in years, but over the last few months they are more and more.

I'm not a smoker, but even now I find myself pinching off a piece of an edible to relax.

Anyway stay safe.

 

[Big Tex]

Hoping nothing but good for you Coco! We will make it though this.

 

[papi68]

Semiretired and living outside the US ½ the time.

 

[donwuan]

I'm good Sis. I work with a bunch of young progressives. I don't talk politics at work. My boss is in the UK so he's not MAGA. He hates all politics. One of my best friends just died of a heart attack last month. That shit is really putting things into perspective.

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

Thanks for the check in, Coco.


Work has been good over the years. We have a smaller environment with longer-term staffing and clients. Mental health field. Thankfully no fucking assholes as coworkers. We have plenty of independence, so luckily it's on us to run our shit and get things done. Don't have someone looking over our shoulder.


Condolences re: your friend's passing, @donwuan .


Side note / related re: "mental health check-in" ... my dad does the same for his friends & relatives in other provinces and states. He's old-school (no cellphone or texting) but keeps in touch via regular phone calls and emails. He especially made sure to do so during the pandemic for older friends and relatives who are of the same age, and up to 5 - 15 years older than him. Just checking in with them regularly to ensure they were good.
Get to see him (pops) on a weekly basis (we have a standing agreement), so that's good. Saw mom & brother in August. Gonna see mom again in December (visit her in her city). Did the same last December and had a good time with the cooler weather and lack of tourists (as it was a few weeks before Christmas). I've gone for past visits in the summer but it's too hot / busy.


Went to cousin's 50th birthday last week. It was good to see additional family and relatives. Cousin lost his dad nearly 30 years ago, and his mom around 13 years ago. Wrote him a good card and told him he's a reliable presence in the family. Told him to keep making the family proud (he's a family man with 4 kids) and from the mid-70s to the mid-2020s and well beyond ... cheers to many more. Crazy how time flies. His oldest just started university last month. I used to sit and read books with her when she was 2yo!

 

[Coldchi]

My job is driving me insane. We were already short staffed in my dept due to the company not backfilling 3 people in my dept that left.
Then another one quit last Friday....leaving just me and one other guy responsible for Access Management Security issues for an entire company. Pretty much making us have to do more with less. And my manager's manager requested that me and the other guy work 10 hour shifts going forward to compensate for being short staffed at the moment.
The devil is a lie.....FOH.
I've already worked thru my lunchbreak everyday last week. Enough is enough....I'm mentally burnt the fuck out and looking for a new job.

 

[mcguyver]

The economy is slowing down. Luckily I am a preferred contractor so the company i work for keeps us busy. I am worried about the economy/cost of goods. Any maga or black maga who says they don't see it is full of shit.

 

[cocobeauty]

My job is driving me insane. We were already short staffed in my dept due to the company not backfilling 3 people in my dept that left.
Then another one quit last Friday....leaving just me and one other guy responsible for Access Management Security issues for an entire company. Pretty much making us have to do more with less. And my manager's manager requested that me and the other guy work 10 hour shifts going forward to compensate for being short staffed at the moment.
The devil is a lie.....FOH.
I've already worked thru my lunchbreak everyday last week. Enough is enough....I'm mentally burnt the fuck out and looking for a new job.

This is me right now, I work in Finance and end of Fiscal year tore me up this year. Then with the reorg merging three business units together. I had to wait for IT to align all systems as one, they called me Wednesday morning and said one of the IT guys walked out and the other just sitting there. Then the new manager said what does that mean for us, I said we don't program the system with pricing and new Tariffs have been implemented AGAIN. The bitch looking stupid, she said well we can jump on this weekend once it's updated. As you said The devil is a lie. But her dumb still didn't grasp IT doesn't have people to do it. I said after 19 years and I get this stupid one.

I'm sitting here on my chaise lounge drinking coffee. FTP.

Hang in there brother.

 

[cocobeauty]

I'm good Sis. I work with a bunch of young progressives. I don't talk politics at work. My boss is in the UK so he's not MAGA. He hates all politics. One of my best friends just died of a heart attack last month. That shit is really putting things into perspective.

My condolences for your friend.

I had a health scare a couple of months back and I just try to continue to live life to the fullest.

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

My condolences for your friend.

I had a health scare a couple of months back and I just try to continue to live life to the fullest.

That's the way to do it, CB.


As my pops would say - "Show love to your family and friends, but always look out for #1 - yourself."

 

[cocobeauty]

That's the way to do it, CB.


As my pops would say - "Show love to your family and friends, but always look out for #1 - yourself."

H, your pops is right, because for years I was taking care of everyone. I have a nephew in college I take care of, but he has really been a breeze for the most part, but I try to get away as much as I can and even more so because I'm 100% remote, so this laptop can go where I go..

 

[the artist]

I'm dealing with the weight of recently having to put my mom in a nursing facility. I hated doing it but her care was becoming beyond what I could provide. Its a double headed sword emotionally. I hate to visit her in there. I hate when I go to visit her and I hate when I don't. Dementia is a horrible thing.

Other than that, the wife and kids are good. I also just "landed on my feet" after losing my job after almost 20 years earlier this year, with 2 new contractual situations. Shit happened at the same time mom's medical status changed. It was a rough moment.

I'm good!

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

H, your pops is right, because for years I was talking care of everyone. I have a nephew in college I take care of, but he has really been a breeze for the most part, but I try to get away as much as I can and even more so because I'm 100% remote, so this laptop can go where I go..

Indeed - you're only 1 person, and can only do so much.


Shoutout to your nephew going down the right path. Shoutout to you too with being able to get away, and doing remote work (which is a good thing). We have to be there in person with our work but I remember telling a number of coworkers during the early days of the pandemic - "Make sure you keep your spirits up when at home. Focus on yourself. Make sure you've got a shitload of stuff to keep you sane / entertained ... be it books, tv series, movies, podcasts, music, workout equipment big or small. Keep that glass half full when the world is upside down"-type thing.


Regarding pops - that's probably one of his best traits / characteristics. Maintaining contact with people. His closest friends are guys he has known for 65+ years. Or friends and their wives that he knew through rec' league sports in his 30s. He's still friends with a few women he casually dated in high school, as they happen to be mutual friends with his current girlfriend. Funny story - he knew the other women in HS, but didn't know his current gf. Turns out she lived 2 blocks over at one point. Small world, huh? But yeah - the phone call / email stuff he takes seriously, lol. And of course in person with them when he can.

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

I'm dealing with the weight of recently having to put my mom in a nursing facility. I hated doing it but her care was becoming beyond what I could provide. Its a double headed sword emotionally. I hate to visit her in there. I hate when I go to visit her and I hate when I don't. Dementia is a horrible thing.

Other than that, the wife and kids are good. I also just "landed on my feet" after losing my job after almost 20 years earlier this year, with 2 new contractual situations. Shit happened at the same time mom's medical status changed. It was a rough moment.

I'm good!

Thoughts are with your mom. Good on you for getting her full support / care.

 

[cocobeauty]

I'm dealing with the weight of recently having to put my mom in a nursing facility. I hated doing it but her care was becoming beyond what I could provide. Its a double headed sword emotionally. I hate to visit her in there. I hate when I go to visit her and I hate when I don't. Dementia is a horrible thing.

Other than that, the wife and kids are good. I also just "landed on my feet" after losing my job after almost 20 years earlier this year, with 2 new contractual situations. Shit happened at the same time mom's medical status changed. It was a rough moment.

I'm good!

I'm glad things have turned around for you because one thing we know these jobs don't care when it comes to cutting cost.

I understand about your mom also because we had to do it with my grandmother after a stroke and every time I would come in town it was hard going there but if I didn't I felt bad too. Keeping you in my prayers.

 

[4 Dimensional]

Personally, I’m doing well. Mentally, physically, financially, and job-wise. I’m ok.

I’m always looking for ways to stay ahead. I tend to be a systems thinker, so I try and figure out how to remain resilient through chaos. Systems are forward moving, and I have to move along with it.

However, there are folks close to me that are suffering in some type of way. I try to be there as best as I can, but there is only so much I can give and I have to be honest to myself about my limitations.

I try and remain positive when reality is saying something different. I think we will be ok. Just probably not in the way we think it should look like.

 

[dade305]

Mentally, I’m holding up given the current climate.

It’s not easy but I maintain.

Others, not so much and I try to be a confidence booster anytime when I’m present.

 

[Z MONSTER]

Mentally I'm OK. I'm 57 semiretired and in pretty good shape. This year I had a friend, 51 who had a slight heart attack. Another friend, 47 just had a stroke. Another thing I'm stressing about is this rogue administration. It hasn't been one year yet.

 

[woodchuck]

CB! Long time, sis! Retired and living in Panama, but still trying not to let the bullshit affect me. Lost my baby brother in July, so that's been a load on me. Overall, I'm maintaining. Thanks for checking on us assholes!

 

[Texas Catdaddy]

constantly looking out for the fam as they all seem to be doing well. according to them, living their best lives. me, been losing it for yrs, so I'm good. Lost an aunt to breast cancer last week, my oldest brother last yr, my aunts brother before that. family getting smaller. just started living MY best life, and gonna gift myself a motorcycle for Xmas .....

 

[Texas Catdaddy]

CB! Long time, sis! Retired and living in Panama, but still trying not to let the bullshit affect me. Lost my baby brother in July, so that's been a load on me. Overall, I'm maintaining. Thanks for checking on us assholes!

what up chuck .....

 

[woodchuck]

what up chuck .....

Not too much. How about you, fam?

 

[cocobeauty]

CB! Long time, sis! Retired and living in Panama, but still trying not to let the bullshit affect me. Lost my baby brother in July, so that's been a load on me. Overall, I'm maintaining. Thanks for checking on us assholes!

Hey!!! I think it's time I start looking to move somewhere as well. How do you like it? Are you fluent in Spanish?

I was just telling Papi, it's easier for me to move because it's just me, but my parents are still living so I try to be there for them because I know my dad won't move.

I will always check on us because this love on here is unmatched even with being assholes

Mentally I'm OK. I'm 57 semiretired and in pretty good shape. This year I had a friend, 51 who had a slight heart attack. Another friend, 47 just had a stroke. Another thing I'm stressing about is this rogue administration. It hasn't been one year yet.

I'm 57 and just recently I started thinking about retirement. This is part of the reason I said I had to stop trying to be the family savior and let these people take care of themselves. Funny is my kids are doing well, it's siblings and others.

I think about so many people our ages having medical issues that creep up suddenly and it becomes life altering instantly.

I seen someone post yesterday on IG I think it was, it's only been 256 and it seems like he's been in office a life time, how do we continue to survive....I said to myself, we just keep going.

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

constantly looking out for the fam as they all seem to be doing well. according to them, living their best lives. me, been losing it for yrs, so I'm good. Lost an aunt to breast cancer last week, my oldest brother last yr, my aunts brother before that. family getting smaller. just started living MY best life, and gonna gift myself a motorcycle for Xmas .....

Condolences re: your loved ones.

 

[woodchuck]

Hey!!! I think it's time I start looking to move somewhere as well. How do you like it? Are you fluent in Spanish?

I was just telling Papi, it's easier for me to move because it's just me, but my parents are still living so I try to be there for them because I know my dad won't move.

I will always check on us because this love on here is unmatched even with being assholes

I'm 57 and just recently I started thinking about retirement. This is part of the reason I said I had to stop trying to be the family savior and let these people take care of themselves. Funny is my kids are doing well, it's siblings and others.

I think about so many people our ages having medical issues that creep up suddenly and it becomes life altering instantly.

I seen someone post yesterday on IG I think it was, it's only been 256 and it seems like he's been in office a life time, how do we continue to survive....I said to myself, we just keep going.

I love it here. I'm not fluent in Spanish, but it's getting better everyday. I can communicate easy, but I'd like to be fluent. If you're trying to learn Spanish, the people here are really patient with you.

 

[Texas Catdaddy]

Not too much. How about you, fam?

it's funny, the shyt that keeps my wits about is the shyt that's detrimental to my physical health ..... so I'm trying work it in in moderation .....

 

[Bumpee]

Just waiting on that one RIP notification

 

[dik cashmere]

I’m not great but trying to fight through it

 

[Z MONSTER]

I'm 57 and just recently I started thinking about retirement. This is part of the reason I said I had to stop trying to be the family savior and let these people take care of themselves. Funny is my kids are doing well, it's siblings and others.

I think about so many people our ages having medical issues that creep up suddenly and it becomes life altering instantly.

I seen someone post yesterday on IG I think it was, it's only been 256 and it seems like he's been in office a life time, how do we continue to survive....I said to myself, we just keep going.

I've been feeling like this for the past year. I made a list of all my bills and accounts for my son to manage if something happens to me. I too try and save everyone.

 

[cocobeauty]

Just waiting on that one RIP notification

I don't think it will be no time soon. Sometimes EVIL lives on forever.

 

[cocobeauty]

constantly looking out for the fam as they all seem to be doing well. according to them, living their best lives. me, been losing it for yrs, so I'm good. Lost an aunt to breast cancer last week, my oldest brother last yr, my aunts brother before that. family getting smaller. just started living MY best life, and gonna gift myself a motorcycle for Xmas .....

Enjoy your bike and just be careful. Also my condolences.

 

[tallblacknyc]

Just turned 45 beginning of the week… mom still doing great after I saved her life over 3 yrs ago.. sis tapped into the real estate biz and doing great, older bro running around doing a lot of trips, my peeps doing pretty good, seem to be adding more friends with benefits to the roster, nice chunk a change that fell in my lap end of last yr holding me down, the adult entertainment game keep slowly pulling me back in, overall can’t complain

 

[Texas Catdaddy]

Enjoy your bike and just be careful. Also my condolences.

we appreciate you sis .....

 

[cocobeauty]

Just turned 45 beginning of the week… mom still doing great after I saved her life over 3 yrs ago.. sis tapped into the real estate biz and doing great, older bro running around doing a lot of trips, my peeps doing pretty good, seem to be adding more friends with benefits to the roster, nice chunk a change that fell in my lap end of last yr holding me down, the adult entertainment game keep slowly pulling me back in, overall can’t complain

Happy Birthday!!!

Adult entertainment? Elaborate lol

 

[cocobeauty]

we appreciate you sis .....

I appreciate yall too because I really know on my worse day I can log on here smile, or literally laugh out loud and feel like I'm with family.