Women in their 30's (serious question no BS please)

[Bigskinn2]

chick posted this on fb in response to it

NIGGA.....u just described ATLANTA again lol (stop it)....thats why a cat like me be picking off hoes like a sniper shooting from a mile away in CHURCH!!!!......the look of desperation that these sistas are trying to hide, it's blinking @ me like a big ass NEON sign (save me, I fucked up lol)..bitch 40 ain't the new 30, 40 is 40 dummy.....dog, do this in church... Go to a pew that has the most attractive women, sit in middle of sistas, when pAstor say "hug and greet yo neighbor", Just make sure u have on FLY new colonge and go to work on em lol (have biz cards ready) lol...man fuck DES hoes lol...no woman wants to be the old fly by myself honey in church (fuck the club)...sheeettt , I feel like I'm doing my civic duty....vote and fuck miserable, misguided, lonely bitches in church lol... Now all u nigga do yo civic duties lol

 

[nyeleman]

chick posted this on fb in response to it

Her response rings true especially how the media caters to these women by deluding them in further.

 

[DaddyDiesel]

^^^^^^^^^^
That's my sentiment. I give everyone a chance. I don't judge. But examine that chick with a wise eye. Some chicks are unwise and that's a liability. Stupidity doesn't erode; it corrupts everything around it. If a chick was an idiot in her 20's, she better be Alice Walker, Maya Angelou, and Nikki Giovanni in her 30's. And in the bed or the kitchen....hope you got that waka flocka flame. Old weak pussy gets no love.

That's my only gripe. Be better than you were at 20, and I'll see what's up. I teach urban ballroom dancing/stepping so I'm around stacks of women from 20 to 60 in age multiple nights a week. I can almost smell the difference between each age group.
20's: can't tell them shit.
30's: have an attitude but are willing to work things out.
40's: just want a dude that can keep his dick hard.

Its ice cold out there. Religious thinking in the black community has chicks thinking they can literally have it all. Jesus saves, I don't.

Real Spit...

 

[big pimp]

some of these women live in a world of denial. They truly believe that they are different and are not like any other woman. In conversations with them you will hear them talk down on other women saying they have lower standards and date thugs ect. Essentially what they are saying is these other women are hoes. This is where the denial kicks in. They believe that having a career, education, and a certain lifestyle makes them different. So they date lawyers, ballers, and high profile men. Just like the woman who his getting passed around by thugs...this high profile woman in her 30's is getting passed around by the lawyers, ballers, and high profile men. Not realizing they are in the same exact situation of the female they looked and talked down on...they are just a high profile naive hoe to these men.

Then they fantasize about this wonderful man who does not exist and in all of their fantasies they are always on the receiving end and not giving. Now they want men to jump through hoops to save them. But unknowing to them men ask themselves that one question. "why should i jump through hoops when you were passed around just like the girl with out an education was that you talked down on"

c/s.

 

[ss2020]

Some of these women live in a world of denial. They truly believe that they are different and are not like any other woman. In conversations with them you will hear them talk down on other women saying they have lower standards and date thugs ect. Essentially what they are saying is these other women are hoes. This is where the denial kicks in. They believe that having a career, education, and a certain lifestyle makes them different. So they date lawyers, ballers, and high profile men. Just like the woman who his getting passed around by thugs...this high profile woman in her 30's is getting passed around by the lawyers, ballers, and high profile men. Not realizing they are in the same exact situation of the female they looked and talked down on...they are just a high profile naive hoe to these men.

Then they fantasize about this wonderful man who does not exist and in all of their fantasies they are always on the receiving end and not giving. Now they want men to jump through hoops to save them. But unknowing to them men ask themselves that one question. "Why should I jump through hoops when you were passed around just like the girl with out an education was that you talked down on"

Nothing more really needs to be said on this topic.

 

[thereason]

You can look at it like sports

Women in their 30's still think they have the value of a number one draft pick who is in their prime. When they were in their prime and got drafted they were selfish and held out because they were like I don't want to play on that team(average good guy)even though their skill set would have matched perfectly with this team(good guy). Instead they decided to force a trade and sign on draft day to play for the glamorous team(bad guy/playa)in which their skill set was a terrible match. They end up on a team with bad chemistry and complain why they are not winning(married). They end up getting traded to another team with the same results. Now when you look back at their 13 year career. She was a parade All American number one draft pick who never won anything(married) been traded to 8 different teams(Passed around by niggas) and injuries that hold her back(kids)While the second draft pick took the opportunity to play with the first team(good guy) and won multiple titles(married with a great husband/family)

Now they are in their 30's and still trying to reup that number one draft pick money. Teams(niggas) laugh at her silly ass offers..and offer her the vet minimum(Jump Off)

my dear sir i must acknowledge this post to be top 5 off time posts i have ever witness on bgol including posts of pussy for thy knowledge that thou has drop shall live pass the edges, theses are words of the sages

i salute u

 

[Rick Ronson]

Yall take it easy out here with these hoes man.

 

[bigirl]

39 year old woman here who has been on her own since young teenage years and is now in a relationship and none of what so many of you wrote applies in this situation This man is really nice and really cool and we have a great time just doing simple things like eating, watching flicks, sippin wine in the garden, etc and on one hand it is really cool to have a companion and cooking for 2 instead of one BUT on the other hand yes I am very used to doing what I want when I want and also having a lot of SPACE so it is a bit difficult to get used to the "WE" thing like what are WE going to do, what are WE going to eat etc but it has nothing whatsoever to do with $ or status or any of those other things you guys said Also it is nothing that communication can't solve

 

[Naha-Nago]

39 year old woman here who has been on her own since young teenage years and is now in a relationship and none of what so many of you wrote applies in this situation This man is really nice and really cool and we have a great time just doing simple things like eating, watching flicks, sippin wine in the garden, etc and on one hand it is really cool to have a companion and cooking for 2 instead of one BUT on the other hand yes I am very used to doing what I want when I want and also having a lot of SPACE so it is a bit difficult to get used to the "WE" thing like what are WE going to do, what are WE going to eat etc but it has nothing whatsoever to do with $ or status or any of those other things you guys said Also it is nothing that communication can't solve

You are a snow flake; special and unique.... And that being said I will now ignore everything that all the other posters have stated. Regardless of its relevance, insight, and logic...


If you give me your address I will send you a medal in the shape of a cookie with a gold star sticker on it.

*two cents*

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

A couple more replies..lol

I have a co-worker who is in her late 30's. She is *constantly* complaining about how she can't find a man. When someone asks her why, her first response inevitably has to do with the fact that she has an 8 year old daughter, and guys are scared off by that. When I hear this, I chuckle to myself because, in the year and a half that I've worked with her, I've seen some very unattractive personality traits in her. Her personality flips on a dime, and when things aren't going her way, WATCH OUT! Most of the time, I can barely stand working with her, and can't imagine someone dealing with this on a relationship level. And, never mind the "woe is me" attitude that she has. But, ask her outright, and the reason she can't find a man is because of her daughter. Period.

 

[BrownTurd]

great analogy either you saw this on another website or you been thinking about it alot and hard

I was in deep thought one day...chick had pissed me off

 

[bigirl]

You are a snow flake; special and unique.... And that being said I will now ignore everything that all the other posters have stated. Regardless of its relevance, insight, and logic...


If you give me your address I will send you a medal in the shape of a cookie with a gold star sticker on it.

*two cents*

the fuck is wrong with you

Yes there are a lot of women out there who exhibit the described behaviours but there are also plenty who don't so perhaps if you don't look for a stereotype you won't end up with one

 

[Top_Bunk]

Man...

 

[True Real Info]

the fuck is wrong with you

Yes there are a lot of women out there who exhibit the described behaviours but there are also plenty who don't so perhaps if you don't look for a stereotype you won't end up with one

then instead of trying to dominate him by using basic ass dismissals that reek of guilt....why dont you recommend where the non-stereotypical ones can be found...or do you even know???

 

[wiZe]

i fill you

suspect

 

[Louis Koo]

suspect

that's gay

 

[Top_Bunk]

1) Look good
We have no control over how we look. We can look the best we can with what we have but at the end of the day a shitty attitude will wipe out any gains in this dept

2) Act right
A can of worms.
Simple words, complex statement.
We all need someone compatible. How one woman acts that suits you might be incompatible with my needs.
e.g. some of you might place a priority on cooking etc while I place a priority on knowledge of self. The cooking shit I can do for myself but passing on knowledge to my kids is my numero uno priority.



In other cultures women who are in there 30's are physically fit and toned, possess some worldly knowledge and has a solid head on her shoulder.

Also, in America the lifestyle has women crashing hard at 30 years old.
Between the diet, lack of exercise and stressors that exists, their bodies tend to start falling apart earlier.........
If they live in a major city it is worse.
For those in NYC (BX, BK, Harlem etc) how many women do you see in the gym regularly? Those who are there are already trying some body reconstruction after the crash.

Another thing is this sexual liberation by women.

You can screw who you want but don't expect men to pay full price with 100 000 miles on your odometer!

You shine up the car (reconstruct your body)
Stop driving it (stop having sex before marriage)
Hire a salesman (start going to church)
And want full price even though the odometer has 100 000 miles on it.


Shit doesn't work that way............

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

 

[LavishTHINGS]

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Nigga your list is super long, what did these people do to your ass?

 

[Louis Koo]

Nigga your list is super long, what did these people do to your ass?

gotta look at it in context. look how many members there are and how many are on that list.

 

[Joe Money]

I don't know what you guys are seeing out there, but I'm seeing A LOT of women in their mid to late 30s dating men in their mid to late 20s or early 30s. I briefly dated one myself but I saw all the bullshit that's being talked about in this thread. Point is, these women aren't all sitting at home alone. I even know a woman who married a 25-year old guy when she was 39.

 

[Naha-Nago]

I don't know what you guys are seeing out there, but I'm seeing A LOT of women in their mid to late 30s dating men in their mid to late 20s or early 30s. I briefly dated one myself but I saw all the bullshit that's being talked about in this thread. Point is, these women aren't all sitting at home alone. I even know a woman who married a 25-year old guy when she was 39.

You right, alot of them chicks aren't sitting home alone. It is relative easy for any woman to get dick on the regular but you fail to mention that the men (myself included in my early 20's) attached to those dicks see these chicks as nothing more than the scout team/ taxi squad. Sure, she will be on the team, get plenty of reps and what not but when it is time to suit up her ass will not be traveling and will have to watch the game from home.


Oh, and practice will be on Monday, and she better not be late.


*two cents*

 

[Kush]

damn u just described so many females in the A...They think a career and or masters degree makes then good catches...fuck that.. bitch can you cook..fuck suck and nurture and give SPACE.....all the other shyt is irrevelant.

Game Ender!

 

[slick_chris]

Great thread.

 

[Ziongate]

Its a porn board... and to save this thread, you MINUS WHALE post some porn!

Einit?

 

[lazarus]

does jennifer love hewitt fall onto this category?

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

Here's a few fb replies from the past few days...

What you may think is an unreasonable list of requirements another person may think is perfectly understandable. I think it's only natural for people in their 30s to have a more specific idea of who they're looking for. People in their 30s are more experienced when it comes to relationships. They know what works and what doesn't and they know what things to be flexible on and what things to never compromise on. A 25 year old who hasn't had a lot of experience with relationships may naively assume that love conquers all. So she marries someone who's all wrong for her, has a kid or two, and then gets divorced. Now she's in her 30s and, because of her past, knows what NOT to accept in a guy. I also don't buy into this logic that says if a person were marriage material, they would've been married by now. Some people spend their 20s focused on their careers. Some, like the example I just gave, may have already been married and learned the hard way why it's dangerous to not have enough requirements.

Often the people who have unrealistic expectations do so as a defense mechanism. Set the bar high enough and you don't have to worry about getting hurt. Instead of them rejecting you, you can take preemptive action and reject them. So if you meet a woman who you think has unrealistic expectations, instead of immediately dismissing her as someone who's standards are too high, maybe you should ask why. Was she always like this or did something happen to her that made her raise her standards?

Society tells them they're worth it and deserve, nigh, are entitled to have their cake and eat it too. That's the subtextual message our culture inundates girls/women with. See also: Disney films & TV shows, Sex in the City, et al. If a man isn't willing to put up with your narccisism and neurosis, HE's the one that's wrong and isn't a "real man" and just can't handle your 'you go grrl strong a-type personality' self. /s There's very little personal accountability in modern society and it's part of what's driving this "it's not my fault" attitude in the dating realm.

Females generally are attracted to the more potent men. Now if there are ten tribes instead of one, there will be ten potent men. However what happens when this consolidates? The media does expose women to a better man. We men also have a low threshold for now. If men cannot get a 10 or a 7, he will just settle for a 5 for the evening or more. He suffers little stigma for number of partners and may even benefit from pre-selection. So even as he might see a swimsuit model, he always takes what is available. Any wrung on the ladder will do. Women on the other hand maintain a higher threshold, and I do not doubt Hollywood glamour pushes this up.

The rule "any woman is better than nothing" applies much more then "any man is better than nothing". He could ruin her chances for something better. A man can even increase his chance for something better when he settles.

 

[nyeleman]

Here's a few fb replies from the past few days...

Society tells them they're worth it and deserve, nigh, are entitled to have their cake and eat it too. That's the subtextual message our culture inundates girls/women with. See also: Disney films & TV shows, Sex in the City, et al. If a man isn't willing to put up with your narccisism and neurosis, HE's the one that's wrong and isn't a "real man" and just can't handle your 'you go grrl strong a-type personality' self. /s There's very little personal accountability in modern society and it's part of what's driving this "it's not my fault" attitude in the dating realm.

Thats a wise answer

What you may think is an unreasonable list of requirements another person may think is perfectly understandable. I think it's only natural for people in their 30s to have a more specific idea of who they're looking for. People in their 30s are more experienced when it comes to relationships. They know what works and what doesn't and they know what things to be flexible on and what things to never compromise on. A 25 year old who hasn't had a lot of experience with relationships may naively assume that love conquers all. So she marries someone who's all wrong for her, has a kid or two, and then gets divorced. Now she's in her 30s and, because of her past, knows what NOT to accept in a guy. I also don't buy into this logic that says if a person were marriage material, they would've been married by now. Some people spend their 20s focused on their careers. Some, like the example I just gave, may have already been married and learned the hard way why it's dangerous to not have enough requirements.

So let me get this straight if a bottle says poison you need to drink it in order to know it's poison. If I am to guess this is a woman with a checked past . Wisdom and integrity has nothing to do with age if you have to wait until you are 30 to realise certain things about marriage then you are fucked

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

Spoke to a chick who was a friend with benefits some years ago.
She has since had a child, I think is 3 yrs old etc...
She said she wants to see me but no sex since she is saving it for marriage.

"Saving"?

 

[parkwood1116]

You can look at it like sports

Women in their 30's still think they have the value of a number one draft pick who is in their prime. When they were in their prime and got drafted they were selfish and held out because they were like I don't want to play on that team(average good guy)even though their skill set would have matched perfectly with this team(good guy). Instead they decided to force a trade and sign on draft day to play for the glamorous team(bad guy/playa)in which their skill set was a terrible match. They end up on a team with bad chemistry and complain why they are not winning(married). They end up getting traded to another team with the same results. Now when you look back at their 13 year career. She was a parade All American number one draft pick who never won anything(married) been traded to 8 different teams(Passed around by niggas) and injuries that hold her back(kids)While the second draft pick took the opportunity to play with the first team(good guy) and won multiple titles(married with a great husband/family)

Now they are in their 30's and still trying to reup that number one draft pick money. Teams(niggas) laugh at her silly ass offers..and offer her the vet minimum(Jump Off)

Straigt Truth. Gospel. Chuuch. Water. Couldnt be said better.

 

[EGO-TRIP]

good question, great answers. anything i add will just be ego.

 

[dwarf1]

You can look at it like sports

Women in their 30's still think they have the value of a number one draft pick who is in their prime. When they were in their prime and got drafted they were selfish and held out because they were like I don't want to play on that team(average good guy)even though their skill set would have matched perfectly with this team(good guy). Instead they decided to force a trade and sign on draft day to play for the glamorous team(bad guy/playa)in which their skill set was a terrible match. They end up on a team with bad chemistry and complain why they are not winning(married). They end up getting traded to another team with the same results. Now when you look back at their 13 year career. She was a parade All American number one draft pick who never won anything(married) been traded to 8 different teams(Passed around by niggas) and injuries that hold her back(kids)While the second draft pick took the opportunity to play with the first team(good guy) and won multiple titles(married with a great husband/family)

Now they are in their 30's and still trying to reup that number one draft pick money. Teams(niggas) laugh at her silly ass offers..and offer her the vet minimum(Jump Off)

This analogy is classic. I couldn't have said it better.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Very interesting thread. Cool to see how men view women sometimes.

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

Very interesting thread. Cool to see how men view women sometimes.

Which is why I wwould like to get a BGOL guys on Women thread

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

bmp...