I never got that eitherI'll never fully understand why our women chose their hair over their health despite knowing the dangers of wigs, perms, and weaves.
Wigs & Weaves almost killed Countess Vaughn (from Moesha)
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Cuz the majority of the menfolx aren't actively checking for natural chix. If that was the visual preference, women would seek to attain it. They might SAY that is what they want, but actions speak louder than words, and they don't go unnoticed. Yes, I'm generalizing (somewhat), yes I've seen the afro/dreads/natural/curly hair threads on here, and no I don't have a perm or a weave so I'm not being defensive.
Women do a lot of things concerning beauty that have nothing to do with men, but more to do with themselves, and the views of other women.
As I have told people before on this subject, black women are the alpha and omega. If they say they want to be beautiful naturally, the men who like them for who they are will be there.
Now the issue is this, will those women be willing to accept men who love them in that natural state? Some will, but some will question that man's idea beauty. I believe the white ideal of beauty is something that has poisoned some of our women's minds beyond repair.
You've never heard the saying if it's nappy white folk ain't happy?
Black men don't see hair because it's mainly trivial. The emphasis on hair worth and beautification is something that has been imposed on black women by the system of white supremacy that determines what beauty is. This system has determined the beauty standard for decades and black women have blindly assimilated themselves into it w/o understanding how much it belittles and dis-acknowledges different types of beauties that fall outside of the blonde hair and blue eyes characteristics.
Black women preach the gospel of hair-hate to their offsprings at an early age. How many times do you catch a relative (aunties and cousins) saying something like "ooh, she got that good hair"?
Trust me bro, it's a self-inflicted shot that has devastated black folks.
I still believe black men are conditioned to think of it as trivial, because it was never allowed to be a factor.
Once upon a time, a woman's hair was trivial to me, until I was allowed to touch it and actually TALK about it.
Even Camille admitted the amount of attention she and other women receive is greater when it's straightened. That's not trivial.
A few years ago, at Thanksgiving dinner, my younger cousin had this expensive weave in her hair, and all of my aunts, grandmother, cousins, and mother were going crazy over it.
I had the AUDACITY to say, 'What's wrong with her NOT wearing weave, and wearing her natural hair? I don't get why everyone is going crazy over her buying expensive hair that ain't hers, and putting it in her head"
Man, everybody got .38 hot with me!
Even one of my uncles said something to me.
Like I just blasphemed the Holy Ghost(You church-going folks know what that means).
The fact that they REACTED in that way, IN MY OPINION, directly correlates to why black men trivialize black women hair.
You can't really talk about it, or touch it - so I guess you would trivialize it.
Not to mention there's been women who've been fired because of changing their hair.
I'll never fully understand why our women chose their hair over their health despite knowing the dangers of wigs, perms, and weaves.
They're not YOUR women if you perceive them as such. And what makes you think they know? What makes you think that an entire life time of getting perms and weaves are going to make them change if they do not want too?
I've known women to get weaves my whole entire life. And i've never once heard of anybody dying from hair glue.
Not that many watched it. And even if they did. Most were like so what. Anything you're accustomed to doing and it doesn't harm you directly it's high odds you're not going to change the behavior.
As I have told people before on this subject, black women are the alpha and omega. If they say they want to be beautiful naturally, the men who like them for who they are will be there.
Now the issue is this, will those women be willing to accept men who love them in that natural state? Some will, but some will question that man's idea beauty. I believe the white ideal of beauty is something that has poisoned some of our women's minds beyond repair.
It was through a lens that is the black man that it came to be.
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Everyone likes compliments. The last time I straightened my hair, I stopped at the store on the way home from getting my trim. This lil young dude told me how beautiful my hair was and gassed my head WAY up. Normally, I would have gone home and washed it out. LOL...I kept it straight the entire week...
Yes, to some degree we're all conditioned but not to the degree of totally dislinking natural hair.
Different argument. Hot combing the hair from time to time is not the same as continuously chemically-bathing your hair.
ALL WOMEN. Proves my earlier points.
Black women subconsciously compete with white women and they equate having long flowing hair with having equal value. Not nearly the case.
And as for you earlier point, yeah it's easier dating women with natural hair. Less complexes to deal with and worry about...
My point was, if you can lose attention from men based on length or texture, then, on some level, it's not TRIVIAL.
Men hate weaves that's what a lot of these women don't realize, not that a dude is gonna complain about it if all he wants is her draws.
Everyone likes compliments. The last time I straightened my hair, I stopped at the store on the way home from getting my trim. This lil young dude told me how beautiful my hair was and gassed my head WAY up. Normally, I would have gone home and washed it out. LOL...I kept it straight the entire week...
That's not what i've witnessed.
I think most dudes are just indifferent to weaves and all the other fake shit.
Nah u haven't been paying attention, where u think all those weave jokes came from back when weaves first started being popular. Weaves is about a woman being too damn lazy to do her own natural hair.
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LilMonique almost got fecked epp toying with the wiggins & shit trying to be cute, chasing toxic shock, cancer, immune sys breakdown & death, wearing that stupid shit all day like a never ending stage performance. Her whole shit is fucked up, metabolism & all as she doesn't even talk the same like she had a stroke or aneurysm, fucking off near the brain like that.
I guess pus aint enough.
Keep fucking with all that fugazi bionics, you'll see.......
LilMonique almost got fecked epp toying with the wiggins & shit trying to be cute, chasing toxic shock, cancer, immune sys breakdown & death, wearing that stupid shit all day like a never ending stage performance. Her whole shit is fucked up, metabolism & all as she doesn't even talk the same like she had a stroke or aneurysm, fucking off near the brain like that.
I guess pus aint enough.
Keep fucking with all that fugazi bionics, you'll see.......
A few dudes. The majority by what i've witnessed? Go with the woman with the weave.
I work with chicks who wear wigs and weave daily. I just always figured they were too lazy to get up and do their hair. When I was growing up, it was the old ladies who wore wigs to church. Nowadays, you got young women doing this shit.
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I'll never fully understand why our women chose their hair over their health despite knowing the dangers of wigs, perms, and weaves.
Even after her scalp was screaming "STOP!" bitch stayed in denial mode, exactly whose fault is that?!?
ANYTHING that is abused can & will be bad for you, for this chick to not go see a doctor for 6 months after she was in pain is HER OWN DAMN FAULT!!!
fuck that shit.
black females ain't giving up that weave/wig even if consequences results in their death.
i peeped some black high school girls (on the bus stop) sporting wig/weaves like it's a fucking coat of amour.
black females ain't giving up that weave/wig even if consequences results in their death.
i peeped some black high school girls (on the bus stop) sporting wig/weaves like it's a fucking coat of amour.
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Cuz the majority of the menfolx aren't actively checking for natural chix. If that was the visual preference, women would seek to attain it. They might SAY that is what they want, but actions speak louder than words, and they don't go unnoticed. Yes, I'm generalizing (somewhat), yes I've seen the afro/dreads/natural/curly hair here, and no I don't have a perm or a weave so I'm not being defensive.
Women wearing wigs/weaves have nothing to do with pleasing men.
They do it to compete with other women. To look like the Indian or the white or the asian or the latina.
Because they say its hard to manage their own hair, and its easier to perm.
Because its more acceptable in the workplace.
Because straightened hair helps them attain a certain “look" that you find in the magazines or on TV.
It ain't got nothing to do with pleasing men.
Legacy does your Signifiant other have weave?
This.......and I wish that women would stop saying that "if men would like when my hair is natural then....."
excuse me, Miss......"If YOU would like when your hair is natural."
*munches*
First off...
Shea Butter: 2 for $10.00
HH : $2.50
Water : free
Oils : maybe $8.00 every few months
Expensive? No.
Second...
Men like straight hair. They do. Either subconsciously or otherwise. They follow what they deem to be attractive. There are no models, porn people, actresses, people in power that have locks, twists, short cuts - natural hair. Hell even people with short cuts now a days wear wigs (Ms. Leaks, whatever the purpose of that shit is). My coworker is blond (cause she likes it) but natural with a short cut. Her hair shits on that wig piece every day.
Want to change the outlook of a perception? Change the climate. Chris Rock and these puss scalp stories are only the warnings. IF people like Lupita stay natural and there are other high profile women of color who take that route, that will be the storm. Seeing more women mimic what God gave them naturally will be the eye. We won't talk about this. It would be our safe haven.
First off...
Shea Butter: 2 for $10.00
HH : $2.50
Water : free
Oils : maybe $8.00 every few months
Expensive? No.
Second...
Men like straight hair. They do. Either subconsciously or otherwise. They follow what they deem to be attractive. There are no models, porn people, actresses, people in power that have locks, twists, short cuts - natural hair. Hell even people with short cuts now a days wear wigs (Ms. Leaks, whatever the purpose of that shit is). My coworker is blond (cause she likes it) but natural with a short cut. Her hair shits on that wig piece every day.
Want to change the outlook of a perception? Change the climate. Chris Rock and these puss scalp stories are only the warnings. IF people like Lupita stay natural and there are other high profile women of color who take that route, that will be the storm. Seeing more women mimic what God gave them naturally will be the eye. We won't talk about this. It would be our safe haven.
Cuz the majority of the menfolx aren't actively checking for natural chix. If that was the visual preference, women would seek to attain it. They might SAY that is what they want, but actions speak louder than words, and they don't go unnoticed. Yes, I'm generalizing (somewhat), yes I've seen the afro/dreads/natural/curly hair threads on here, and no I don't have a perm or a weave so I'm not being defensive.
I'm glad you said majority and not all men. Give me natural every time.
Men like women.....if alll women were bald with nice tits and ass men would still be going after them with intentions to smash.....period....
Not a man on this board would even see her hair....."what? I don t remember what her hairstyle was?."she was bald?..dat ass tho...."
Its not about men...its in the heads of the women doing this weave and wig stuff....
It's not about afros and dreads and shit. It's about getting your hair done or doing it, in a style or even a ponytail or hot comb or whatever. At the end of the day a weave is not gonna be a dealbreaker, but I think most men would rather the woman NOT have it.
Dude I love chicks that rock their own hair. Be good with what cards DNA has dealt you, and then work on your mental. The most important thing isn't what's on a girl's head, but what is in it.
The funniest thing in the world is that more women will spend a bunch of money for weaves and hair hats and not spend the money for a gym membership to be fit
then they use the weave as an excuse not to exercise and most look like Countess Vaughn - the black women who you see in the gym fit and rocking their natural hair can tell you - they DO NOT have a problem with men approaching them -
Natural hair is the best and I am so glad my daughter has never permed her hair and now rocks locks and is beautiful young lady that know her worth is not on her scalp but whats in her head.
then they use the weave as an excuse not to exercise and most look like Countess Vaughn - the black women who you see in the gym fit and rocking their natural hair can tell you - they DO NOT have a problem with men approaching them -
Natural hair is the best and I am so glad my daughter has never permed her hair and now rocks locks and is beautiful young lady that know her worth is not on her scalp but whats in her head.
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