Slow down.
Black men don't see hair because they've pretty much accepted that fake hair comes with the package of a black woman. Sure, whatever, not ALL - but that's the situation.
Black women and their hair has always been like your well-off relatives good furniture. That shit was so off-limits until you built up a mind thing about even going in that direction.
In '03, I got into a relationship with a mixed race black woman, and I'll never forget the day she was combing her curls in the bathroom mirror..
...I was fucking mesmerized. It was like, 'Wow, this is REAL hair. Not a piece sitting on the dresser or bathroom sink waiting to be put back in. "Shit, I started touching the shit, and she didn't snap at me. From that point on, I refused to fuck with a woman, long-term, who didn't have real hair. A woman's hair is a major part of what makes her beautiful...
...and sometimes, a motherfucker just wants to take a big whiff.
