Why Black Men ARE REFUSING to Play Step DADDY!

[Tiger_Hood]

Bitches act like we owe them this. Painted it like we see less of a man for refusing to. It all spins the blame our way. Oh so you aren't strong enough to raise a child??? No, it isn't mine! The day must come where men force women to own their circumstances. For any man to think his options are limited if he avoids weave, kids, attitude and tattoos, you need to step your perception of yourself.

Hallelejah!

 

[Joe Money]

What ever happened to "it takes a village...."?

Some of you "brothers" need to man up! Joseph did!!

 

[Mrfreddygoodbud]

What ever happened to "it takes a village...."?

Some of you "brothers" need to man up! Joseph did!!

for older healthy established men, I could see it, I wouldnt suggest it for younger childless dudes...

or for old heads who are the still tryin to become a rapper type, fifty years old and tryin to pimp their mix tape.. it wont work..

 

[Joe Money]

for older healthy established men, I could see it, I wouldnt suggest it for younger childless dudes...

or for old heads who are the still tryin to become a rapper type, fifty years old and tryin to pimp their mix tape.. it wont work..

Are you doing YOUR part? You talk that "black shit" but what are you really doing for the community and these fatherless kids and single black moms out here?!?!

 

[Mrfreddygoodbud]

Are you doing YOUR part? You talk that "black shit" but what are you really doing for the community and these fatherless kids and single black moms out here?!?!

whaa da hell you talkin about.. everything is in divine order..

its just over your head...

 

[RUDY RAYYY MO]

Not even a page long mayne...

HOW THE FEMALE EAGLE CHOOSES HER MATE
(As told by the Wintu Tribal Elders of California)

When it comes time for the female Eagle to choose her mate, she prepares herself for many suitors. And many come before her. She looks them over quite well and then picks one to fly with for awhile.

If she likes the way he flies she finds a small stick, picks it up and flies high with it. At some point she will drop the stick to see if
the male can catch it. If he does, then she finds a larger stick and flies with it much higher this time. Each time the male catches the
sticks, she continues to pick up larger and larger sticks. When she finds the largest, heaviest stick that she herself can carry, the stick is at this point almost the size of a small log! But she can still fly very high with this large stick.

At any time in this process, if the male fails to catch the stick, she flies away from him as her signal that the test is now over. She begins her search all over again. And when she again finds a male she is interested in, she starts testing him in the exact same way. And she will continue this "testing" until she finds the male Eagle who can catch all the sticks. And when she does, she chooses him, and will mate with him for life.

One of the reasons for this test is that at some point they will build a nest together high up and will then have their Eaglettes. When the babies begin to learn to fly, they sometimes fall instead. It is then that the male must catch his young. And he does!

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The female Eagle and their Eaglettes have depended on him to be strong for them. Just as we Native women and children need to depend upon our Native men.

So what I would like to offer to you my friends is this. Sisters, how well do you "test" your suitors before you allow them into your life? And my Brothers, how well have you caught the "sticks" for your women and your children?

True. But women also decide whom to have a baby with by watching single fathers how they are with their kids. I've had a few women tell me they wanted to have my baby simply due to my parenting skills. Same with a friend of mine

 

[Ballatician]

Plenty of brothas out here playing step daddy, it’s not the kid that’s the problem, but it’s about finding the right woman.

 

[Adam Knows]

Being a step father is like someone asking you to come help clean up after a party you were not invited to.

 

[Amajorfucup]

Cause of crazy ass dudes like this!!!

NY niggas....

 

[Amajorfucup]

Apparently Black men don't want to be Dads at all if it's so many Black women left with children on their own. Is that what y'all are acknowledging?

Dam.

 

[ballscout1]

Men are refusing to play step daddy because they are busy staying at home and being taken care of by their mommies.


But seriously today's generation is too selfish and it goes beyond step daddy, they are refusing to be mentors and coaches too

 

[Naha-Nago]

What ever happened to "it takes a village...."?

Some of you "brothers" need to man up! Joseph did!!

I don't agree with what Joseph did...

"So you let some Super Nigga named 'Angel'- he Cuban ain't he- from the "Heavens" come through in the middle of the night, fuck raw, and now I'm suppose to help you raise the 'Son of God'???

Nah bitch, get your shit and imma see you in court."

*two cents*

 

[Mrfreddygoodbud]

NY niggas....

NY kniggas... we alpha out here facts

ya heard..


master chief kniggas facts

ya heard..

you betta put some respeck on it

ya heard

 

[Naha-Nago]

But seriously today's generation is too selfish and it goes beyond step daddy, they are refusing to be mentors and coaches too

I think women people are unfairly blurring the line between obligation and doing good deeds.

Those are two different things.

It is selfish of a man to not honor his obligations - raise his own children. I don't think anyone is refuting that.

It is NOT selfish of a man to use his time and efforts as he sees fit after his obligations are met.

So while mentorships and coaching are excellent, needed, and applauded, I'm not going to lambast men who choose not to.

"Well what about his obligation to the community?"

That is a third tier argument that is ignoring the first two tiers...

Tier 1: Where is the biological father and why is he not honoring his primary obligation to the child?

Tier 2: Why is no one bringing the women's mate selection into question? She met dude, fucked, got pregnant, and carried the child to term? I count at least 3 milestones where she could have said..."Having your baby isn't the best decision." but now it 'takes a village' because she was reckless? Men shouldn't have to step up to cover her piss poor pussy management.

So ripping into men about why they aren't being mentors, coaches, and stepping up for fatherless children is like complaining how a car has faulty seatbelts in the back seat while ignoring the fact that the transmission is shot and it has no brakes.

*two cents*

 

[mailboxpimp]

All these niggaahz got kids talking about & complaining about dating women with kids
How da fuck does that work?

You cant ask of & expect more than what you have to offer your self...

How you think women woth no kids, no prison record, 1 or more college degrees, a career, paid for car, & her own house / condo & you dnt even have 1/2 that & you have kids by multiple women.... fohwtbs. Straight bitch ass niggaahz complaining. L

 

[ballscout1]

I think women people are unfairly blurring the line between obligation and doing good deeds.

Those are two different things.

It is selfish of a man to not honor his obligations - raise his own children. I don't think anyone is refuting that.

It is NOT selfish of a man to use his time and efforts as he sees fit after his obligations are met.

So while mentorships and coaching are excellent, needed, and applauded, I'm not going to lambast men who choose not to.

"Well what about his obligation to the community?"

That a third tier argument ignoring the first two tiers...

Tier 1: Were is the biological father and why is he not honoring his primary obligation to the child?

Tier 2: Why is no one bringing the women's mate selection into question? She met dude, fucked, got pregnant, and carried the child to term? I count at least 3 milestones where she could have said..."Having your baby isn't the best decision." but now it 'takes a village' because she was reckless? Men shouldn't have to step up to cover her piss poor pussy management.

So ripping into men about why they aren't being mentors, coaches, and stepping up for fatherless children is like complaining how a car has faulty seatbelts in the back seat while ignoring the fact that the transmission is shot and it has no brakes.

*two cents*

bullshit.


it is selfish to not feel an obligation to your community and as such to the children who are our future.

it has nothing to do with the women it has everything to do with the children.

Hopefully if you ever have a child in need of any type of nurture the community doesn't do as you think is okay and tell them to kick rocks.

and your analogy is stupid.....hope you didn't think to hard to come up with that shit.

 

[ballscout1]

I don't agree with what Joseph did...

"So you let some Super Nigga named 'Angel'- he Cuban ain't he- from the "Heavens" come through in the middle of the night, fuck raw, and now I'm suppose to help you raise the 'Son of God'???

Nah bitch, get your shit and imma see you in court."

*two cents*

did you really use a crakkas illustration to make a point to ignore OUR children ?

 

[YoungSinister]

What ever happened to "it takes a village...."?

Some of you "brothers" need to man up! Joseph did!!

what a stupid fucking post
im no tough guy, but i'd be tempted to punch you on the chin if you said that shit around me

 

[Texas Catdaddy]

bullshit.


it is selfish to not feel an obligation to your community and as such to the children who are our future.

it has nothing to do with the women it has everything to do with the children.

Hopefully if you ever have a child in need of any type of nurture the community doesn't do as you think is okay and tell them to kick rocks.

and your analogy is stupid.....hope you didn't think to hard to come up with that shit.

The last part .....

 

[Naha-Nago]

bullshit.


it is selfish to not feel an obligation to your community and as such to the children who are our future.

it has nothing to do with the women it has everything to do with the children.

Hopefully if you ever have a child in need of any type of nurture the community doesn't do as you think is okay and tell them to kick rocks.

and your analogy is stupid.....hope you didn't think to hard to come up with that shit.

You bringing feelings to a fact fight.

It's more selfish to bring a child into the world you can't support or raise then it is of people- who had no say in the bringing of said child into the world- to choose not to assist in it's upbringing.

Is it not?

Go ahead tell me other wise genius. I'll wait....



*two cents*

 

[Naha-Nago]

did you really use a crakkas illustration to make a point to ignore OUR children ?

Did you really use CUCKOLD JOESEPH as a reason for men to step up and care for children not there's???

"Well, he might be the next Messiah!?!"

Go sit down...

*two cents*

 

[chitownsfinest]

Actual Coco...youre stereotyping. This thread is about Black MEN and single mothers. Doesn't mention Black women. Unless you think a brotha will date a white single mom and not a Black one, you have no case here.

Another thread about knocking black women.

I thank God I never had this issue, but who's leaving these black women with this kids that supposedly need a step-dad??? Black MEN.

It's times like this I hate yall because we keep shifting blame when some of you very niggas that take this stance are the ones that left or deny your own and kids are not taking care of what you left behind. Do your part and no one would have to STEP in.

 

[CptMARVEL]

What ever happened to "it takes a village...."?

Some of you "brothers" need to man up! Joseph did!!

That's 'cuz these motherfuckers have a watery man code and they take relationship advice from Black woman hating misogynists like Oshey Duke Jackson.
And what's worse; these same clowns will then turn around and blame Black women for the collapse of the Black family rather than to mentor young Black youth on what's needed to survive & thrive in this world.
They think you're a "simp" for raising some other man's child(ren) and investing your time & energies into ensuring that Black children are reared properly in a loving environment.

They'd rather say stupid shit like; "It's not my job to raise those ratchet ghetto thugs, just 'cuz their momma made poor choices in men".

 

[ballscout1]

You bringing feelings to a fact fight.

It's more selfish to bring a child into the world you can't support or raise then it is of people- who had no say in the bringing of said child into the world- to choose not to assist in it's upbringing.

Is it not?

Go ahead tell me other wise genius. I'll wait....



*two cents*

The child didn't ask to be brought in..

And trying to prove that point by ignoring the child not only hurts the child but it hurts OUR community.

So you think allowing the cycle to continue is not only smart but effective in stopping adults from being irresponsible.

And it will teach the mother/father about as well as the death penalty deters people from committing murder.


You sound like a republican who views the world with one eye closed

 

[ballscout1]

Did you really use CUCKOLD JOESEPH as a reason for men to step up and care for children not there's???

"Well, he might be the next Messiah!?!"

Go sit down...

*two cents*

Nah you the one ran up here with your bible graphic.....

Personally I am of the school that believes the saying originated in Africa long before the colonizers arrived with the blue eyed christ

'It takes a whole village to raise a child' reflects a social reality some of us who grew up in rural areas of Africa can easily relate to. As a child, my conduct was a concern of everybody, not just my parents, especially if it involved misconduct. Any adult had the right to rebuke and discipline me and would make my mischief known to my parents who in turn would also mete their own 'punishment.' The concern of course was the moral well-being of the community."

"If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together."

 

[Mrfreddygoodbud]

what a stupid fucking post
im no tough guy, but i'd be tempted to punch you on the chin if you said that shit around me

tell em why you mad sun....

sure there are a lot of bruhs out there that are fucked up and leave a trail of destruction behind them

but there are too many sisters that dont recognize a good man till its too late.

 

[chitownsfinest]

I am sooo glad I met (and eventually married) a chick with no kids. We needed that child-free time to get to know each other. Now that we now have kids, all we do is think back to the good-ole days...

 

[Mrfreddygoodbud]

I am sooo glad I met (and eventually married) a chick with no kids. We needed that child-free time to get to know each other. Now that we now have kids, all we do is think back to the good-ole days...

lol

when them lil brats grow up, then yall gonna be thinking about todays good times being the good ol days..

 

[chitownsfinest]

lol

when them lil brats grow up, then yall gonna be thinking about todays good times being the good ol days..

Hell-to-da-naw!!! I really miss sleeping past 7am.

 

[tallblacknyc]

Same nigs talking about be a leader take care of the community are the same nigs that will walk pass a homeless Nig and won't even give him a dollar...funny how hypocrites can be

 

[Cannibal]

If I was between 20-32 or so, prolly ain't taking up that roll. I have kids now, so I can't be all high and mighty on shit like that. I'd accept the roll now that I'm in my 40s kidless or not, after you get in your late 30s women without children are either trying to have kids big time and get married, are sterile, or fucking crazy and can't maintain a relationship. I can accept the first two. If a dude was 25 and asked my opinion on the matter, I would tell him to gone and find someone else. Doesn't make sense to deal with baby daddies at that age. The reason I would tell a young buck that is simple, you shouldn't do it because you don't have to. At the end of the day you fall in love with who you fall in love with, children or not, period. Live your life and love hard. It's "ideal" to find what you want, but guess what, you not perfect, i'm not perfect, she's not perfect, we not perfect, so let's go.

 

[woodchuck]

Hell-to-da-naw!!! I really miss sleeping past 7am.

Nah, bruh. We're empty nesters, and although we do ENJOY our free time, you're gonna miss these days. Trust.

 

[SamSneed]

Another thread about knocking black women.

I thank God I never had this issue, but who's leaving these black women with this kids that supposedly need a step-dad??? Black MEN.

It's times like this I hate yall because we keep shifting blame when some of you very niggas that take this stance are the ones that left or deny your own and kids are not taking care of what you left behind. Do your part and no one would have to STEP in.

I did what I was supposed to do and wanted.

We had ther girls at an early age, we got married young(19&18)

I joined service cause I know it could help us and me with goals I put up( home ownership, good career, financially stable). I got theses goals in my mid 20s.

But it didn’t matter cause I was missing the family I did it for.

I took the words “ till death do us part” seriously. Then in a few moments out of fear she left.

I wasn’t perfect, I would be verbally abusive at times and only once did I ever grab her.

Before she left I set my pride aside and took some counselin, I was willin to work it out.

While I’m in nc and her in Houston, she fed me the whole “ we will work this out, I love you, just need time”

I go on vacation, my bro comes to the base. Says I have to show you something before you get home.

My youngest birthday party and her mom my wife preg like 7 or 8 months big.

The push happened in feb of 2001, she left for Texas in April.

My daughter party was may 2002

Do the math, I was bein lied to the whole time.

I’m out here on fuckin deployments, my family didn’t say anything to me cause they knew I was deployed.

Her mom( rest in shit ) lyin too, I’d call her home and bitch lied.

I have this family shit goin on, my friends who would die for me comin back in sealed caskets cause all they found were feet in boots and other bones. Plus the shit I put up with in Cuba at the prison camp.

I was humiliated by her and her family.

Then yrs later I find ms. Sneed and I’m good.

Never once did I take women around my daughters, but their mom has the nerve to tell me don’t be tellin the girls about your girls friends.

Bitch fuck you, I hung up.

I passed on a ton of females with kids, I’d ask you got kids. If yes, you was just a fuck and sacrifice for zod.

I ain’t no family mechanic, here to fix your salvaged broken family.

Ms. Sneed, no kids. Makes more than I do. Does what I won’t do, step parent. But more like a big sis to them.

 

[Osca Lee]

whaa da hell you talkin about.. everything is in divine order..

its just over your head...

Yeah it was over mine as well once upon a time.

 

[Osca Lee]

I did what I was supposed to do and wanted.

We had ther girls at an early age, we got married young(19&18)

I joined service cause I know it could help us and me with goals I put up( home ownership, good career, financially stable). I got theses goals in my mid 20s.

But it didn’t matter cause I was missing the family I did it for.

I took the words “ till death do us part” seriously. Then in a few moments out of fear she left.

I wasn’t perfect, I would be verbally abusive at times and only once did I ever grab her.

Before she left I set my pride aside and took some counselin, I was willin to work it out.

While I’m in nc and her in Houston, she fed me the whole “ we will work this out, I love you, just need time”

I go on vacation, my bro comes to the base. Says I have to show you something before you get home.

My youngest birthday party and her mom my wife preg like 7 or 8 months big.

The push happened in feb of 2001, she left for Texas in April.

My daughter party was may 2002

Do the math, I was bein lied to the whole time.

I’m out here on fuckin deployments, my family didn’t say anything to me cause they knew I was deployed.

Her mom( rest in shit ) lyin too, I’d call her home and bitch lied.

I have this family shit goin on, my friends who would die for me comin back in sealed caskets cause all they found were feet in boots and other bones. Plus the shit I put up with in Cuba at the prison camp.

I was humiliated by her and her family.

Then yrs later I find ms. Sneed and I’m good.

Never once did I take women around my daughters, but their mom has the nerve to tell me don’t be tellin the girls about your girls friends.

Bitch fuck you, I hung up.

I passed on a ton of females with kids, I’d ask you got kids. If yes, you was just a fuck and sacrifice for zod.

I ain’t no family mechanic, here to fix your salvaged broken family.

Ms. Sneed, no kids. Makes more than I do. Does what I won’t do, step parent. But more like a big sis to them.

Much respect for you...when i read the part about her being 7-8 months pregnant at your daughters party...i already knew what was up without reading any further.