What am I doing wrong? (White Women in the workplace)

I worked at a spot for 6 years. Nobody knew SHIT about me personally. I made shit up when they asked. I heard they was mad speculating about who I was and what I did in my private life. I heard one even thought I might be a terrorist cuz I was secretive. White peeps need a fucking life!!!
 
why the fuck is this thread still going...i kept it simple nigga...do that and you'll be alright....man the fuck up
 
Just read all the responses and GAWDDAMN. Some of you don't like to read, just came in the thread and responded w/out attempting to try to read, or are just plain dumb.

I don't know why some are saying quit telling them personal shit b/c I stated a couple of times on here that I don't talk to them and that I just do my work. Only slip up I did was talking to the white guy not WOMEN about how I'm just doing it for the money.

For the ones saying stop acting like a bitch or pussy ok cool maybe I am shit I'm new to this. Dudes like themainman and moblack wtf did you guys read?

OK thread can die now.
 
wait... you're THEIR boss and they got you running scared? nigga grow some balls and fire the cunts. that's what YOUR boss really wants to see out of you. don't be a pussy
 
women in general can be hard to work with. im kind of happy i work with a bunch of guys, women are drama queens.
 
To the OP

You need to realize some shit. You are not in a corporate environment... you are at Walgreens. Those bitches could give 2 fucks about their job....and they LIVE to create drama for anybody else that they see is trying to get ahead.

They are jealous of your age and position. So don't expect shit to really change.

Since you say you don't have the power to FIRE folks...MAKE THEM QUIT. Make them sorry hens WORK... and WORK. I mean when they need to be working from start to finish of their shift.

Can the favor of YOUR BOSS. Come up with a bunch of projects and shit you want to get done in the store. Hell make the boss even think those projects were her idea :rolleyes:
That way you can force the gossiping hens to work....and say.. "well you know boss lady want this stuff done". You will have the full faith/backing of your superior.
Trust me within a few months... some of the hens will quit. The hens that stay will respect you...because they know you don't play... any NEW hens that get hired will get the lowdown..from the older hens... and you should be good to go!

But Nigga I know we in a recession....but you need to get your ass out of Walgreens. You can get a corporate job with that shit on your resume. All Walgreens is preparing you for is getting other RETAIL MANAGEMENT JOBS:smh:
 
To the OP

You need to realize some shit. You are not in a corporate environment... you are at Walgreens. Those bitches could give 2 fucks about their job....and they LIVE to create drama for anybody else that they see is trying to get ahead.

They are jealous of your age and position. So don't expect shit to really change.

Since you say you don't have the power to FIRE folks...MAKE THEM QUIT. Make them sorry hens WORK... and WORK. I mean when they need to be working from start to finish of their shift.

Can the favor of YOUR BOSS. Come up with a bunch of projects and shit you want to get done in the store. Hell make the boss even think those projects were her idea :rolleyes:
That way you can force the gossiping hens to work....and say.. "well you know boss lady want this stuff done". You will have the full faith/backing of your superior.
Trust me within a few months... some of the hens will quit. The hens that stay will respect you...because they know you don't play... any NEW hens that get hired will get the lowdown..from the older hens... and you should be good to go!

But Nigga I know we in a recession....but you need to get your ass out of Walgreens. You can get a corporate job with that shit on your resume. All Walgreens is preparing you for is getting other RETAIL MANAGEMENT JOBS:smh:

hmmmmm :yes:... did someone mention chess?
 
But Nigga I know we in a recession....but you need to get your ass out of Walgreens. You can get a corporate job with that shit on your resume. All Walgreens is preparing you for is getting other RETAIL MANAGEMENT JOBS:smh:
I know but that week on week off schedule got my attention. I felt like I could be working on other stuff on that week off.

Other stuff you said was some real shit. Glad someone can actually read.

Gods Debris I can't fire anyone can only write them up. Like I said earlier no one has been fire for being written up and these employees know it.
 
hmmmmm :yes:... did someone mention chess?

Yes I am a black man in corporate america and hate that shit. Cuz its all "games".

I have learned the best way for me to operate is to pay attention to my boss's superior. Find out what my direct manager is held responsible for by their boss.
Then I work hard to help MY BOSS get the shit done that they need for their boss.

So my direct manager now loves me:rolleyes: Because I make them look good to their superior.

But the chess move is here. My manager's boss is not stupid. They can look and know who is really doing the work. But by keeping my mouth shut and playing the game... they know that I am a "company man"... or "team player":hmm:

So I get promoted up for that bullshit.

Like I said I hate corporate america...... but you got to know how to play the game.

As a black man you can't come in all bold and agressive. Work hard to make your superiors look good... stay humble... and get involved.
 
Yes I am a black man in corporate america and hate that shit. Cuz its all "games".

I have learned the best way for me to operate is to pay attention to my boss's superior. Find out what my direct manager is held responsible for by their boss.
Then I work hard to help MY BOSS get the shit done that they need for their boss.

So my direct manager now loves me:rolleyes: Because I make them look good to their superior.

But the chess move is here. My manager's boss is not stupid. They can look and know who is really doing the work. But by keeping my mouth shut and playing the game... they know that I am a "company man"... or "team player":hmm:

So I get promoted up for that bullshit.

Like I said I hate corporate america...... but you got to know how to play the game.

As a black man you can't come in all bold and agressive. Work hard to make your superiors look good... stay humble... and get involved.

So in your experience or what you seen are the ones that stay quiet and just do their work be the ones that get fucked the most?
 
So in your experience or what you seen are the ones that stay quiet and just do their work be the ones that get fucked the most?

You got to figure out your work environment... and what gets "rewarded". It is different across companies.


But usually just look and see what your superior's duties are. Do all of the shit that they don't want to do (yes I know)..and do a good job at it. Make your superior look good. But be humble about it...
Got to all the social events or outings... so that you can meet all the top level people. Again be friendly...but stay humble
Pretty soon they will start to pay attention to you in the workplace. Again stay humble bide your time.

If you are doing all the shit folks don't want to do.... you become VALUABLE. Folks will take notice. At that point you might get offered some high level shit.
When they ask you "what do you want to do with the company" don't say some cocky shit like C.E.O :smh:
Say "Right now I'm just trying to learn my job to the best of my ability... once I have done that... I seek to learn more in other areas of the company and take on additional responsibility". :yes:

The whole shit is a game.... and sometimes it takes time for the moves you set up... to unfold. Be patient.
 
man, i feel for you. office politics are the worst.

i could not be an asshole boss, which brings trouble all its own, but i always managed places that were mostly male dominated, and if you take a pirate captain's approach (make mutineers walk the plank) you can handle it.

white women are another animal all together.

do NOT share your feelngs about work with them.

stay aloof.

identify the trouble makers, give them job assignments that they may not like but HAVE to do, if they give you shit DOCUMENT IT, WRITE THEM UP, MAKE A SPECTACLE OF IT BY BRINGING IN A SUPERIOR TO WITNESS IT. after 3 documentations FIRE THEM.

no worries after that, cause you will have sent the message that YOU ARE THE MANAGER, and they MUST RESPECT you as such.
 
Yea that may be my biggest weakness right there. I just can't be an asshole i'm too laid back for that.

you dont have to be , you have to find the management style that best suits your personality.

DiamondDeuce gave you some EXCELLENT advice.

and a workplace full of women is a challenging place to work, but you can get through it, it takes time to develop the skills, so give yourself some slack to grow into it.

it's war, but it's winnable.
 
I know but that week on week off schedule got my attention. I felt like I could be working on other stuff on that week off.

Other stuff you said was some real shit. Glad someone can actually read.

Gods Debris I can't fire anyone can only write them up. Like I said earlier no one has been fire for being written up and these employees know it.

Then put the power of the PEN in their lives.

Young White women are the worst. I mean like 21-28. Entitlement like a motherfucker.

Older White women love Black dudes...well me. :D
 
you dont have to be , you have to find the management style that best suits your personality.

DiamondDeuce gave you some EXCELLENT advice.

and a workplace full of women is a challenging place to work, but you can get through it, it takes time to develop the skills, so give yourself some slack to grow into it.

it's war, but it's winnable.

Alright thx and yea Deuce seems to know what he talking about.
 
Word of Advice, You go to work to make $$$$, not to make friends and enemies, Do your Job and stop concentrating on silly issues.
If you take this brothas advice you will be just fine. The corporate world is a mutha. First thing you need to learn is you dont have any friends at work, they are you rivals. Do your job, keep your mouth shut and your ears, eyes wide open and watch your back. That friendly face at work will be your downfall.
 
I worked at a spot for 6 years. Nobody knew SHIT about me personally. I made shit up when they asked. I heard they was mad speculating about who I was and what I did in my private life. I heard one even thought I might be a terrorist cuz I was secretive. White peeps need a fucking life!!!

Damn right. I was on some Usual Suspects shit.
 
It's not just white women, it's women in general in the work place. If you work around alot of them, it makes for a scandalous enviornment.
 
one question? is this job in any relation to what you got a degree in. If so, then you best best to STFU and worry about you own life. If you want to make a bond with them, forget it. You're worried about the ones who speak on you when you should just being worried about the job. You might not like the job but you'll hate being unemployed. Its not a black or white thing, its about your paycheck and options against theirs. If someone wants to talk to you inside the workplace about work, they're setting you up regardless if they're cool or not. Stop trying to fit in with whom you're supervising and focus on who your money and possibly who's in a higher position than you. Leave you friendliness tendencies outside the workplace and make friends elsewhere.
 
one question? is this job in any relation to what you got a degree in. If so, then you best best to STFU and worry about you own life. If you want to make a bond with them, forget it. You're worried about the ones who speak on you when you should just being worried about the job. You might not like the job but you'll hate being unemployed. Its not a black or white thing, its about your paycheck and options against theirs. If someone wants to talk to you inside the workplace about work, they're setting you up regardless if they're cool or not. Stop trying to fit in with whom you're supervising and focus on who your money and possibly who's in a higher position than you. Leave you friendliness tendencies outside the workplace and make friends elsewhere.
Thats the thing I'm not trying to fit in. When the white women of management at the job would ask me to go eat with them I would always say I brought my own lunch which I always did.

Like I said earlier one of the women came up to me and said we know nothing about you, you just come and do your work and not say anything to us.

Also I got a degree in HR. I was going the MIS route but that didn't work out.
 
:hmm: I guess I should have said what job I had so you can understand why I'm getting so pissed. I am an assistant manager at Walgreens. So these white female customers know they can come in and talk shit and get away with it. I have worked at a total of 2 stores and at one White lady told our asian photo girl to go back where she came from. The bosses knew of this and do nothing b/c the lady brings money to the store..
I was a Customer Service Manager at Caldor --> remember that store:yes::yes::yes:!! around 98

I was just like you fresh out of college happy to be making $28K /year
Here I was young black kid learning how to run the damn store and you had these other workers (white/black....mostly white) who were department managers for YEARS!

Suffice it to say they was hating on my ass and sabotaging shit when they got the chance. I learned how to swim through the madness and succeed

I stood my ground did my job and I was able to deal with it......but I sure enough quit BEFORE the Christmas season cause Caldor was headed to Bankruptcy
AND
Retail Management is the worse fucking job I ever had.....

You got haters hating on your spot who want to see you get got............

There is really not 1 good answer to give you....

Just keep your Personal Life Personal......do what's expected social wise.....
but when they decide to get drunk and do dumb shit dont join them
As you already know they will hold it against you.

Congrats on the Degree!
I know how hard it is to get it done

Stay Strong like you have been and you will get through it

Yes... you play by a different set of rules.... these rules are unjust and unequal

Welcome Black Man to corporate America!
Love it, Like it, Deal with it, or Leave it
 
Man, retail tends to be like that, especially stores like Walgreens and clothing stores that cater to a white, female customer base. I worked at a clothing store in customer service for a couple of years and dealt with similar bullshit.

On another note, has anyone here who works in a corporate environment ever bought a new car and had white men, especially middle-aged ones, look at your with envy and hate? I bought a used 2003 Accord a couple of years ago, nothing flashy or on rims or anything like that, and you could feel the hate. "Ahhh, I see you got another ride", like I was supposed to be footing it or pushing a hooptie!:smh:
 
My brother the problem is not you; it is Walgreens, I was an assistant manager fresh out of college from 11-06 to 11-08; the same bullshit that your going through is the exact bullshit to the tee that I had with my employees when I was a manager. The issue is not exactly the white women its the fact that Walgreens hires slack jawed yokels and meth heads and expect college educated assistant managers to deal with them.

The biggest problem with that company is that they promote high school graduates to store manager and hire college graduates as assistant managers. The best advice for you is to hang in with this bullshit job for one year, build your resume and get a real job and say fuck retail. While your still working there, become a task oriented dickhead and work your employees to the bone. Walgreens employees will not respect you until you make them respect you. Your a manager, your employees will never be on your level. You should go to www.jobvent.com and type in Walgreens and read all the horror stories from MGT's all around America.
 
"What am I doing wrong? " its not you its them bruh

you havent earned there respect yet .... its all a GAME ,but you;re not playing correctly


Put the Smack Down on those white bitches ,they'll LOVE it

they see you has a fresh (weak) young cat ... you have to assert yourself more .... and they'll be running to you ...not against

try it , I guarantee it will work
 
The issue is not exactly the white women its the fact that Walgreens hires slack jawed yokels and meth heads and expect college educated assistant managers to deal with them.
:eek: The chick that is really pissing me off is an ex meth head. Question I have for you is did having the experience of working at Walgreens help you get good job? Experience was my problem out of college but I was able to land a job at Walgreens easily b/c of someone I knew.
 
:smh: I always felt like I could not be rattled but these bitches are pissing me off. I'm so laid back, calm, quiet and hardly ever argue with people, it's usually b/c I don't give a fuck or it's just not that big of a deal. They got me stressed the fuck out and drinking like a mothafucka man. The ones under me try to act like they my boss.

I finish college at OU not too long ago and started that real world job about 8 months ago. I was warned before I started the job about how scandalous people are in the workplace when they want to move up. I was just like yeah yeah whatever. OH BOY this shit here is real.

Like Martin said in You So Crazy "White people them some telling mothafuckas." I almost got let go when I first started b/c word got back the the head white lady in charge that I just only doing the job just for the money, and that I don't really like it. Who told? A WHITE GIRL. She overheard a white guy and me talking about the job. He said the same things I did even worse that he was actually looking for another job but his name never got mentioned. When I got called to the office the chick that told on me was there to be a witness against me. I just had to sit there and take it.

I was closing up one night and 3 white chicks were complaining about how they had to be back early in the morning, so I let them leave early(told them they did not have to finish their jobs) since I was opening in the morning and that I would handle it. :hmm: One of them told on me.

All they do is talk shit about everyone, even each other and claim they "love each other." Shit one is about to get another one fired for smoking weed. The reason she knows is b/c the one that smoke weeds thinks she is her friend so she thought she could tell her. I am actually cool with the weed head but fuck I can't warn her about what might go down not my problem.

I work in area that has a high population of mexicans. Never had a problem with any mexican chicks ever, the ones I work with or the customers.

People I have problem with on the job WHITE WOMEN
Customers I had problems with so far WHITE WOMEN(one called corporate headquarters on me).

FUCK THEY ACT LIKE THEY RUN SHIT AND THEY ARE FUCKING EVIL


What am I doing? I pretty much stay to myself, never try to get all up in their business and don't tell them mine. Is this just how white women are or are all women in the workplace like this?



You opened Your big ass mouth. Keep your mouth shut. Color doesn't matter many people are greedy, and sneaky. Your problem is You put race in it. People black, white or any other color are like that,




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Dont talk ...Just do your job, they cant knock someone that does a great job even if they are anti-social............Watch out, I heard some stories where whites were just trying to fill their ethnic "quota", so they dont get hit with any lawsuits at the end of the yr......As a result, I wouldnt be surprised if they let u go and got another black guy to fill that void...Watch ur back

#1. Never air out your personal feelings about the job in the office, and absolutely never discuss them with co-workers/subordinates. That is not the place and those are not the people for you to air grievances.

#2. In any supervisory position be firm and fair. Never do a subordinates work for them, you are the supervisor for a reason. It's find to help out if the workload dictates but never excuse a subordinate from their duties, it simply sends the wrong message.

#3. Understand that the corporate environment is incredibly cut throat and that there is always someone envious of your success. That being the case, keep conversations with co-workers polite but professional, never give anyone ammo that can later be used against you in any way.

In addition to the points listed above understand that women apply emotions to nearly every situation and the larger percentage of their actions are based on how they "feel", so don't waste time trying to find logic or fairness in their actions just do what you have to do to protect your own interest.

co-sign to the above. I've been working since i was in HS now im a college grad and I never discussed my opinions about the job with co-workers. Hell I never discuss my personal life to co-workers, the only thing I talk about is work related things. Anywhere you work people can be cutthroat, even managers. Thats why the best thing to do is to JUST DO YOUR WORK. Ninjas can say all the negative things they want about you but aslong as your doing your work they cant do nothing to you because your doing what you are supposed to.

And dont hangout with employees after work, I mean you can hangout with them not to look like a deadfish but do not and I mean DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES MAKE IT A HABIT OR AN EVERYWEEK KIND OF THING. situations like your job is full evidence theres actually alot of people in the work force and on the planet who dont have a life, so their only life is to stir trouble at work because at home they're single, lonely and a bunch of bums who got nothing exciting going on in their lives beside their job. ninjas look forward to comming into work everyday, where people who have a life dont(regardless if its a career) because they have a life outside of it.
 
:hmm: I guess I should have said what job I had so you can understand why I'm getting so pissed. I am an assistant manager at Walgreens. So these white female customers know they can come in and talk shit and get away with it. I have worked at a total of 2 stores and at one White lady told our asian photo girl to go back where she came from. The bosses knew of this and do nothing b/c the lady brings money to the store.

The workers know all the assistant managers can do is write them up. :smh:That don't faze them one bit b/c they will get a speech from the head boss and that's it. Since I am one of the newer ones there I don't have the pull like the white female assistants b/c well the head lady is white too. I just need this experience for my resume. I'm learning Photo, Pharmacy, and Managerial skills. Hope I can get that dream job soon.:dance:

Pissed off white women coming to get their medicine is the worst.

Assistant manger at Walgreens!!!!:lol:

And you got a degree from OU? :confused:

What's the purpose of getting a degree...shit 3 to 4 years as a Walgreen clerk and I would be qualified to be assistant manager...man make them employees do their job, make them work that fucking schedule and only letting mutha fuckas go home at the end of that shit PERIOD! Do YOUR JOB!

Fucking assistant manager...the customer is always right...:lol:
 
Assistant manger at Walgreens!!!!:lol:

And you got a degree from OU? :confused:

What's the purpose of getting a degree...shit 3 to 4 years as a Walgreen clerk and I would be qualified to be assistant manager...man make them employees do their job, make them work that fucking schedule and only letting mutha fuckas go home at the end of that shit PERIOD! Do YOUR JOB!

Fucking assistant manager...the customer is always right...:lol:
Well not having experience to go with your degree will make it hard finding that dream job, learned that very quickly. Yea after 3 to 4 yrs you would be qualified to a manager but I'm pretty sure you wouldn't get it. College grads get the first look. Also that week on week off schedule ain't bad.
 
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