The Internet is the last place to get advice but B*tch wont leave

[TENT]

Thanks brotha. I was just gonna say this too.
The courts don't give a fuck who gave you money for the down payment.
They gave that money to a married couple and that is HER money too.

@OP I suggest whatever she wants you to do, just do that shit.

I may be missing something , but why don’t you start the divorce and serve her? Also, the fact that your family put the money down on the house does not count when you are calculating the equity to be split when the house is a marital home.
This is a good time for you to get out of the marriage which seems irreconcilable because you are in your fifties and can still establish a good relationship with a beautiful woman.

 

[TENT]

Word to the wise. You can be High Value and getting married. Hahaha.

 

[Flawless]

Looks like you will lose the house anyways, you may have to sell and split the proceedings.

Brah just think of all the young twenty something pussy you could be swimming in right now if you divorce her.

 

[havelcok]

buy her the tummy tuck and mommy make over
sounds like she wants to feel special again

fuck her like one of your mistresses
and she will act right

at least for a few months

she us responsible for ehr own happiness

 

[Bounty Killah]

Thanks brotha. I was just gonna say this too.
The courts don't give a fuck who gave you money for the down payment.
They gave that money to a married couple and that is HER money too.

@OP I suggest whatever she wants you to do, just do that shit.

Not true bro!!! simply not true. I sold one home that had only my name on the deed and bought this home with the proceeds, where she didn't put shit down but I bought it in the "entirety", which hooked her up. Now she trying to ride that crap into the ground but she will lose.

 

[NightMare Paint]

Well written bruh. I got nothing for you though. Wish you the best.

If "Cool story, bro" was a person

 

[Bounty Killah]

buy her the tummy tuck and mommy make over
sounds like she wants to feel special again

fuck her like one of your mistresses
and she will act right

at least for a few months

she us responsible for ehr own happiness

She don't wanna have the surgery again. Had two C-secs for the kids which will give you the bulge. Tried to offer without being mean, but hard heads will always feel.

 

[Bounty Killah]

You need to get you a good white woman you wouldn't be in this situation now had you married a white woman to begin with. Stay away from these trifling hoes that you will eventually regret getting with.

You not right in the head dude.... I don't mix wit dem pink toes.

 

[Bounty Killah]

This gon' be me and my house....

 

[jagu]

Not true bro!!! simply not true. I sold one home that had only my name on the deed and bought this home with the proceeds, where she didn't put shit down but I bought it in the "entirety", which hooked her up. Now she trying to ride that crap into the ground but she will lose.

That’s not what you said earlier but if this is the case now, then you might be able to deduct that down payment. Your earlier statement was that it came from you but it was a gift from your parents. A gift is just that.

You can sell the house before the divorce but make sure that you split proceeds as you wish So that a judge does not have to make that decision for you.

 

[Bounty Killah]

That’s not what you said earlier but if this is the case now, then you might be able to deduct that down payment. Your earlier statement was that it came from you but it was a gift from your parents. A gift is just that.

You can sell the house before the divorce but make sure that you split proceeds as you wish So that a judge does not have to make that decision for you.

The facts are getting lost in the translation. A was given one home, which was in my name. I eventually sold that home and built this one with the proceeds. No joint account. So the paper trail doesn't have her name on it prior to the the purchase of the second home.

 

[REDLINE]

You not right in the head dude.... I don't mxi wit dem pink toes.

That's literally the last poster in this thread that you should've replied to or took what he said seriously.

 

[Cross]

You need to get you a good white woman you wouldn't be in this situation now had you married a white woman to begin with. Stay away from these trifling hoes that you will eventually regret getting with.

Neopolitan your full of shit, white bitches wrote the fucking playbook, gtfoohwtbs.

 

[Entrepronegro]

Neopolitan your full of shit, white bitches wrote the fucking playbook, gtfoohwtbs.

I'm just trying to help the man out that's all white women will take good care of a black man she will keep herself up and not talk back acting all masculine.

 

[Cross]

I'm just trying to help the man out that's all white women will take good care of a black man she will keep herself up and not talk back acting all masculine.

 

[Entrepronegro]

The great legend Sidney Poitier was married to his sweetie Joanna since 1976 until his passing in 2022 I'm sure she treated him good they lasted for a long time.

 

[knightmelodic]

Step one is a lawyer.
Step two is a private detective.
Step three has to wait until fireworks. Then a junkie (I shouldn't have to tell you why a junkie is better than a crackhead). A cold toolie. Done.

IIRC in NY and NJ you have to charge the person with something. In other words, you have to sue for divorce and they can contest it. That's when it gets nasty and the only winners are the lawyers.
So don't go getting any sidepiece and if you have one now, dump her because the pictures the judge sees might just be of you.

***edit - actually, now that I think about it forget #3.

For one thing, despite popular opinion, cops aren't that stupid. And they have tons of manpower hours to go over and over shit.
For another, if you ain't on the dark side, anything you do there will stick out like a sore thumb. eg. purchasing a piece. And people who inhabit the dark aren't afraid, impressed, or intimidated by those in the light because those in the light have something to lose. Those in the dark not so much. So when the cops start to squeeze, how fast do you think those darklings will give you up?

You've got too much to lose; stick to lawyers, they're dark enough for all of us anyway.

 

[Entrepronegro]

You not right in the head dude.... I don't mxi wit dem pink toes.

Your loss then.

Passing up something like this means you’re not right in the head.

 

[Drayonis]

Yea, I left out a lot.... (deliberately, to be honest).

A few answers. We own a home. The down payment was sourced solely from my family, which the paper trail can prove. Sooooo, sale of the house entitles to her to half of the growth in equity (measured from the time the home was purchased). My initial down payment, which came from my bank account via my parents, would come out upfront, then the remainder would be split 50/50 after all costs (whatever that would be). No disputing this, or getting around it.

We live in the NY/NJ/CT Tri-State area.

Long term marriage.... I'm one of those HVM (Kevin Samuels rip) that you catch when they're young and before they become established. So, yup, I DO pay a substantial portion of the bills.

Kids are all over 18. One is a college grad (so no child support maintenance). Second is 19 but not in college (refuses to go; not the discussion here). So, no child support for the second one.

She has a job. MBA from a top-top Business school but, predictably, her corporate life fizzled out.... Now working a job simply to have income. Me, on the other hand, I just keep going from strength-to strength. I make multiples of what she makes (even before bonus).

We are middle aged....

Granted, I could leave but why do I walk away from it all? Why do I walk away from what my parents worked hard to establish and allow this chic to wind up with everything? Does that make sense?

Short of beating this donkey head heffa's ass, I am wondering why she just don't leave. I'm not leaving cause, morally and technically speaking, this is my house. Granted, it's our home but only cause this is where we live.

A little more too. She developed a Quaid/Fupar, and I told her when she was younger that she needed a tummy tuck but she refused. Now that shit has developed into a full blown FUPAR!!! She was never a "busty" woman so now you see her gut coming around the corner before you see anything else (not a good look).

(Remember, this is the internet so duck tales rule, but lets assume the situation is true and go from there.)

If you make all that crazy money like you say you do, why don't you just buy another house and leave? If you get a divorced, demand she pay you for half the home (in the divorce) if she can't pay it, then demand it be sold to get your money on it back and buy another crib.

Do you have to stay in New York?

 

[4 Dimensional]

Tell her to take a trip to Tampa Bay around Wednesday.

 

[ZuluSam]

The facts are getting lost in the translation. A was given one home, which was in my name. I eventually sold that home and built this one with the proceeds. No joint account. So the paper trail doesn't have her name on it prior to the the purchase of the second home.

In Texas the proceeds from the sale of the house you were given would be considered your separate property. When you converted those separate funds into another house, that house also became your separate property. If you were paying notes she would be entitled to a credit for the reduction in principle of your separate property and any community funds used to improve the separate property; plus an equitable division of the increase in equity, if any. Since you paid for it out right then the only thing she can argue for is an equitable division of the increase in equity, if any; and a reimbursement for her share of community funds used to improve the property.

My experience is that it makes absolutely no difference who moves out when the court decides the marital property. All that 'abandoned the house' garbage is just that....garbage. I have a broker selling two houses right now for clients where the man moved out because they were getting a divorce. The fact that they moved out has not come up even once, other than they had to keep paying bills. Has no impact on who gets the house, especially if the kids are grown.

But you ain't in Texas....and like I said earlier, if you REALLY wanted to be divorced, you would be sitting in a lawyer's office.....

 

[neptunes007]

bruh. life is short.

look at it like this. you have no idea how many days you have left on this earth....AND you are CHOOSING to spend them with a woman you no longer want to be with....

SAY THAT SHIT OUT LOUD....

you can replace the money breh....

figure out what to do with the house and go live your life....your kids will understand....and if they dont....

last i checked caskets dont come with bunk beds.....

behave accordingly

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

Call my office tomorrow

The brotherhood is undefeated.

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

fuck her like one of your mistresses
and she will act right

Mayne you can be the kang of slangin' dangalang, but if the broad is defective none of that will matter.

 

[TheFuser]

She expecting YOU to leave. Her homies were prolly telling her how she's entitled to your spot.

 

[tallblacknyc]

I'm just trying to help the man out that's all white women will take good care of a black man she will keep herself up and not talk back acting all masculine.

So why did your father dump your mom?

 

[REDLINE]

You need to get you a good white woman you wouldn't be in this situation now had you married a white woman to begin with. Stay away from these trifling hoes that you will eventually regret getting with.

I'm just trying to help the man out that's all white women will take good care of a black man she will keep herself up and not talk back acting all masculine.

The great legend Sidney Poitier was married to his sweetie Joanna since 1976 until his passing in 2022 I'm sure she treated him good they lasted for a long time.

Your loss then.

Passing up something like this means you’re not right in the head.

Fellas, can you please stop responding to him. Knowledgeable humans and intelligent people don't speak this way.

He's a troll and is simply replying in a slow remedial manner to get your attention and for you to talk to him.

@Entrepronegro don't reply to me, this is in hopes that members wake up and stop being the source of your entertainment.

 

[mcguyver]

Man, so you trynna give me real problems.

I prefer the word "options".

 

[keone]

Tell her to take a trip to Tampa Bay around Wednesday.

and why they keep asking for his age? this bgol that negro minimum 79

 

[4 Dimensional]

and why they keep asking for his age this bgol that negro minimum 79

At minimum!

 

[BronxBomber]

brothers we gotta stop thinking like this....

you can make more money...you cant make more time....

i'll be damned if i stay and be miserable because of money.....ESPECIALLY if you like OP and make a lot of it....

fuk that

@Bounty Killah may brother I hate that you are going through this, but if you have not experienced any family deaths / illness in the last couple of years you are indeed lucky.

Life is short, my personal stance is MY happiness comes first, I cant imagine wasting time with a woman who clearly does not respect what you once had.

Get a plan and execute it. It sounds like some of your position is based off fear, ninja if you dont get with a couple of the attorneys on here give them some bread and let them work on your behalf.

Sometimes brothers just hold the weight of issues because we dont want to fight. Fam put your gloves on, put your balls on the table and get busy.

 

[trstar]

Don’t

I did answer the question bro. Because I would need to sell the house without it being part of a divorce proceeding. That's why I haven't initiated it.

Your stipulations are noted but things don't always go as expected. By selling that removes one unpredictable.

Another unpredictable is aspect of a forced sale pursuant to a divorce decree. This would take away my flexibility.

Also filing a divorce could cause her to entrench and then it would be even worse.

Just move out and let me go from there....

Don’t move out. That proves you can maintain two households. That will work against you

 

[Texas Catdaddy]

You need to get you a good white woman you wouldn't be in this situation now had you married a white woman to begin with. Stay away from these trifling hoes that you will eventually regret getting with.

dis nukka hurr .....

 

[Bounty Killah]

@Bounty Killah may brother I hate that you are going through this, but if you have not experienced any family deaths / illness in the last couple of years you are indeed lucky.

Life is short, my personal stance is MY happiness comes first, I cant imagine wasting time with a woman who clearly does not respect what you once had.

Get a plan and execute it. It sounds like some of your position is based off fear, ninja if you dont get with a couple of the attorneys on here give them some bread and let them work on your behalf.

Sometimes brothers just hold the weight of issues because we dont want to fight. Fam put your gloves on, put your balls on the table and get busy.

FDR 1933 "We have nothing to fear except fear itself".... Not so lucky my brother... lost my Mother right before the pandemic. Lost a few Family members to the pandemic too. So perhaps I'm trying to regroup and not crumble under the weight of it all.

Part of the issue is these women hear different stories and believe it applies to themselves. This is what causes the positional thinking, and also causes women to believe they should continue to live their prior life style after repudiating the men. That is, I don't like you, I just want your money and the lifestyle.

There's some funny stuff being posted, along with some sage comments and points being made.

If you make all that crazy money like you say you do, why don't you just buy another house and leave? If you get a divorced, demand she pay you for half the home (in the divorce) if she can't pay it, then demand it be sold to get your money on it back and buy another crib.

Do you have to stay in New York?

Remember, this is BGOL and we all making crazy money and own mansions all over the world. I never said anything about the exact amount of money I make, i.e., I make multiple of what she makes (even before bonus). This doesn't say exactly how much or exactly what I can afford.

Besides, I ain't moving out of MY HOUSE!

 

[Drayonis]

Remember, this is BGOL and we all making crazy money and own mansions all over the world. I never said anything about the exact amount of money I make, i.e., I make multiple of what she makes (even before bonus). This doesn't say exactly how much or exactly what I can afford.

Besides, I ain't moving out of MY HOUSE!

I've been where you've been (divorced) and I kept my house from that divorce. Like you, my parents helped me get the house (sorry for your loss on your mom, I also know what that's like). I got remarried but if we were to divorce now, I'd let her keep the crib and just buy another one. I actually like where I live too *BUT* if my money is looking right....and I can do it on my own. I'd bolt....start over.

IMO I think you still love your wife - OR - you're fearful of the unknown. Usually the latter will keep you stuck where you are at....Trust bro. I've been through all of that.