Yea, I left out a lot.... (deliberately, to be honest).
A few answers. We own a home. The down payment was sourced solely from my family, which the paper trail can prove. Sooooo, sale of the house entitles to her to half of the growth in equity (measured from the time the home was purchased). My initial down payment, which came from my bank account via my parents, would come out upfront, then the remainder would be split 50/50 after all costs (whatever that would be). No disputing this, or getting around it.
We live in the NY/NJ/CT Tri-State area.
Long term marriage.... I'm one of those HVM (Kevin Samuels rip) that you catch when they're young and before they become established. So, yup, I DO pay a substantial portion of the bills.
Kids are all over 18. One is a college grad (so no child support maintenance). Second is 19 but not in college (refuses to go; not the discussion here). So, no child support for the second one.
She has a job. MBA from a top-top Business school but, predictably, her corporate life fizzled out.... Now working a job simply to have income. Me, on the other hand, I just keep going from strength-to strength. I make multiples of what she makes (even before bonus).
We are middle aged....
Granted, I could leave but why do I walk away from it all? Why do I walk away from what my parents worked hard to establish and allow this chic to wind up with everything? Does that make sense?
Short of beating this donkey dead heffa's ass, I am wondering why she just don't leave. I'm not leaving cause, morally and technically speaking, this is my house. Granted, it's our home but only cause this is where we live.
A little more too. She developed a Quaid/Fupar, and I told her when she was younger that she needed a tummy tuck but she refused. Now that shit has developed into a full blown FUPAR!!! She was never a "busty" woman so now you see her gut coming around the corner before you see anything else (not a good look).
(Remember, this is the internet so duck tales rule, but lets assume the situation is true and go from there.)