I need a males perspective

Esther

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A guy is holding my stuff hostage. I have asked him several times to return my items but he just wont respond back. Why do guys do this? This is not the only guy that has done this to me. What is the reasoning?
 
Lord knows how many women have kept my books and wouldnt return em after we broke up......call a cop
 
As some of the other posters said you need to give more info. What does he have. What do you have of his (be honest, you already have anonymity on your side). What happened in the relationship to end it (if you cheated with his brother then keeping your stuff isn't warranted, but it would be kind of understood
 
well its painfully obvious, he doesnt want to loose u. and wants to control what is left of your bond together..........the last of your possesions.

real talk, unless its worth more than $200 let that shit go, chalk it up, and start rollin with the next next nigga, sittin in the passenger seat rollin up ur EX block.lol niggas hate to see an ex chick rollin in the next man's whip.

but honestly, he will give u back ur stuff if u dont end ur relationship. thats the mentality of some cats these days, i dunno why.
 
A guy is holding my stuff hostage. I have asked him several times to return my items but he just wont respond back. Why do guys do this? This is not the only guy that has done this to me. What is the reasoning?

:hmm:

It's a good thing that women don't do this. A better question is, what is the reasoning behind this thread?
 
Nothing...he got caught with me by his 'girlfriend'. We're just friends, though. We use to date but it didn't work out.

huh? If you gonna play "drop hints" then you don't want a answer. Tell the enitre story first
 
CONFUSCIUS SAY:

" IT IS NOT ABOUT YOUR THINGS, IT'S ABOUT THE QUALITY OF GUYS YOU CHOOSE TO ASSOCIATE WITH"

"A BUM DOES, WHAT A BUM DOES"

"UPGRADE YOUR MAN, UPGRADE YOUR LIFE"

ALSO:

"LEAVE YOUR SHIT IN YOUR OWN HOUSE, YOUR SHIT IS YOUR SHIT"
 
Sound like that bratha is still in love with you. I normally throw away shit that ex-girlfriends leave though I most say, I did keep a Burberry cologne this Indian chick I fucked gave me obviously because it's Burberry and I collect colognes. :lol::lol::lol::lol:
 
Let him keep that shit, and if it's expensive, just start replacing a lil bit at a time, if you must have it, call the police (and I hate to even suggest that)...that's his way of trying to hang on, and he's trying to weaken you.
 
Let him keep that shit, and if it's expensive, just start replacing a lil bit at a time, if you must have it, call the police (and I hate to even suggest that)...that's his way of trying to hang on, and he's trying to weaken you.

Heffa she said male perspective you just enjoy reading your own words huh?
 
As some of the other posters said you need to give more info. What does he have. What do you have of his (be honest, you already have anonymity on your side). What happened in the relationship to end it (if you cheated with his brother then keeping your stuff isn't warranted, but it would be kind of understood

We use to date but it didn't work out. We were still cool and sometimes we would go to the movies and out eat and stuff like that. He always tells me that he loves me and wants to marry me but then he tells me , in front of his 'girl', to never call him again so I say, Okay.....just give me my shit and I'll never talk to you again. Well, he's not responding back to my calls or text messages.
 
if it's highly sensitive personal shit, let it go. Move on.

He's using it as leverage in an effort to keep a line of communication with you.

If youre serious about moving on, then move on. If it can be replaced, then replace it.
 
Nothing...he got caught with me by his 'girlfriend'. We're just friends, though. We use to date but it didn't work out.
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A guy is holding my stuff hostage. I have asked him several times to return my items but he just wont respond back. Why do guys do this? This is not the only guy that has done this to me. What is the reasoning?


Maybe you just were'nt a nice person to him and this is just his way of 'paying you back' ... Don't you get why this is regularly occuring to you?
 
Lola = Esther = bigirl..........I swear ya'll make some dumb ass threads.
 
We use to date but it didn't work out. We were still cool and sometimes we would go to the movies and out eat and stuff like that. He always tells me that he loves me and wants to marry me but then he tells me , in front of his 'girl', to never call him again so I say, Okay.....just give me my shit and I'll never talk to you again. Well, he's not responding back to my calls or text messages.
2 potential reasons

1. his girl is on his ass, and he may be using your calls as proof to her that you are the one pushing up on him

2. he doesnt want you to stop seeing him. I'd bet if you left a message like, "you better be more careful the next time we hang out"... he'd call u on the quick

Esther.... don't lead him on if you don't see any possible future with him... unless of course you guys still have sex... then it is a whole lot more complicated
 
chalk that shit up as a loss. I hate havin to do that shit wit women but sumtimes thats the easiest way. But if you really feel it necessary to get ur shit back, trick him into thinkin you wanna get back together. Go get ur shit n bounce up never to be heard from again. That shit works, I've done it plenty times before.
 
He got caught with you? Why didnt you tell his girl that? Baby girl stop fronting. You know it's more to this shit. Why do you want yo shit back if his girl caught you with him and your just friends? Why he got yo shit if yall use to date? You don't want a male perspective. You wanta bullshit like we bitchz.
 
He got caught with you? Why didnt you tell his girl that? Baby girl stop fronting. You know it's more to this shit. Why do you want yo shit back if his girl caught you with him and your just friends? Why he got yo shit if yall use to date? You don't want a male perspective. You wanta bullshit like we bitchz.

Yes, he got caught with me, not once, not twice but three times. The third time is when he told me to leave him alone so I do what I'm told.
 
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