FB Question, that I’d love to know the brothers point of view.....
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That last sentence isn’t true.. some of us have big respect for women over all.. but not every female is build equal and some are on some fuck shit.. everybody don’t get the top position cause they were born with a vagina.. like jobs there’s position to this shit.. some are at the top level, some are at mid level with the capability of going higher and some are at the bottom with no chance of going higher.. sometime I think some of ya think every1 deserves the top position even if they not qualified and have lots of liabilities.. if this was a biz you wouldn’t give the highest position to a person that might completely mess up your operation, so why would you not treat your relationship in the same regard as an work environment? People will be tough as nails and not tolerable with a lot of issues when it comes to the work place but be very lax when it comes to their love life., not every1 is that nice and tolerable.. treat your relationship like you would treat your biz.. the people that are worthy for position is the 1s you hire/keep around, others don’t get to even fill out applications, or are temps
A man that doesn’t want to be married is a man that doesn’t want responsibility and continue to play the field. All that other stuff you mentioned is BS and any woman with sense will see right through that.
If you have to really split a light bill and water bill, what type of man are you?
What if he just dosent like the marriage term but believes in a life partner? Kinda like some people believe in god and are spiritual but they don’t follow any religion... just like you don’t have to follow any religions in order to have a relationship with god, you don’t have to go through the act and ceremony of marriage to be with 1 particular person forever.. this is 2021 the World is not 1 dimensional you can go through alternative routes in order to land pretty much in the same situation
As a man you should want to take care of you women that you are in love with. I just can’t see tripping over a light gas and water bill. In most cases that is about $400 combined. Do I really need to split that?
A person that believes in a team/ dual responsibility.. a Person that dosent believe in a one sided situation.. obviously he was able to pay for his bills without her..he got a whole home without her..he’s obviously capable of handling his own shit.. but somebody wants to become a team, which means we share the same jersey, which means ya strive to be winners..this is a team sport which means everybody rocking that jersey better be ready to go out there and make it happen.. no rings, no champagne, no holding on the trophy if you think you gonna sit on the sideline and benefit off of somebody else blood and sweat
That’s your belief.. just like some religions think pork is bad while others don’t.. what you believe ain’t everybody thought process..the world don’t revolve around your belief system..this world ain’t one dimensional it’s versatile
Black men need to stop being afraid to love and of leadership. Believing women are gold diggers or looking to come up off you is laughable and a deep insecurity. Seriously, what do most of you have that a female would want? You would be surprised that most females don’t want or consider what you got to hold any value.
Why so much negativity towards the female? So she is a gold digger and hoe who is just looking for a free ride because she questioned his arrangements? But you label him the good person? If they were splitting everything in half, who has $1600 worth of utilities and cable bills? Is he trying to come up off his girl.
Without a mortgage there is nothing to pay. Are you going to tax your girl rental fees for driving your car also? If your woman was already responsible, there is no lesson to teach here.
Believe me when I say this. Most women can’t stand the shit you think is valuable and they damn sure don’t want it. But be realistic also. What female with morals don’t want a man to take care of her and the household? How can you desire a submissive women but get mad when she is?
Why so much negativity towards the female? So she is a gold digger and hoe who is just looking for a free ride because she questioned his arrangements? But you label him the good person? If they were splitting everything in half, who has $1600 worth of utilities and cable bills? Is he trying to come up off his girl.
Without a mortgage there is nothing to pay. Are you going to tax your girl rental fees for driving your car also? If your woman was already responsible, there is no lesson to teach here.
Believe me when I say this. Most women can’t stand the shit you think is valuable and they damn sure don’t want it. But be realistic also. What female with morals don’t want a man to take care of her and the household? How can you desire a submissive women but get mad when she is?
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Do you want her to be submissive also?
This there situation homie.. I don’t know what they into.. I never really like that word submissive to tell you the truth
If you was going into bizz with somebody you would prob want them to split the invesTment right? Especially if the partner wanted 50 percent of the profit right? Well what if you were nice enough to put most of the money up but still expected them to put up some percentage of it and they started acting funny would you want to continue being partners? Imagine a person expecting you to put up all the money but in the end think they deserve 50 percent of the profit off your investment and product you’d think they were tripping.. yet if you remove the concept of biz and switch it to a relationship scenario you wouldn’t have no problem with it.. like I said people go harder for biz than they do their relationship and than wonder why they have so many bad war stories..cause you tolerate more dumbshit in your love life than with your biz
Been down that road too! Real talk though....did you fuck her sister? Be honest lol
‘Let’s keep it honest. That wasn’t the proposition. He asked her to split the bills AND pay an additional 800 in rent. She was not flabbergasted at splitting the bills, but the 800 in rent. Now, it may be all the same to you, but let’s make sure we are having a genuine discussion and not a misunderstanding. Carry on!
Relationships are not transactional. His girl would have more than likely helped out where needed but he never gave her the opportunity.
He didn’t respect his woman by not giving her the opportunity and treated their relationship as transactional. That would cause issues with many people
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Him not trusting his girl to do the right thing was also an issue. She probably would have asked to help out anyway
Communication is 1 of the top 5 things in a relationship.. he broke it down and told her what is up.. he didn’t sneak it in when she moved in he told her upfront what his expectations is..yet he getting bashed for trying to share his blueprint to her.. she didn’t agree oh well enjoy your rent increase
There’s hope and there is actuality.. he sounds like a person that dosent wait on hope he goes with reality.. many people have been disappointed when hope never arrived..if he would of had her move in without having a discussion and she didn’t help out with funds people would of scrutinized him for not telling her beforehand.. he did and now people are still upset..damn if you do damn if you dont
“He” broke it down. Did he include her in the decision making process? If not that was not proper communication
He gave her an option and told her the stipulations.. she either could agree or disagree.. she chose to disagree..enjoy your rent increase
That is not reality but only his insecurities he is going off of. If you are going to have a conversation like that include the woman. Sit down together and come up with a plan and include her in the decision making process. Don’t do it for her. That is where he messed up
He still got his house, his car, his job.. I don’t think he’s the person that messed up... the person who just got an added $180 to her monthly expenses might be the 1 who messed up.. enjoy your rent increase
One thing about relationships is they can't be measured in dollars. I would rather pay all the bills and rent and live alone than split the bills with someone I am not on the same page with......seems they BOTH dodged a bullet.
Im sure the Golden Pussy bishes can't imagine paying for a kot damn thing
This is why I say only seriously date a chic on your level. If I own a home and she is renting, let me level you up so you can own a home like I do
All this living off me cause I got it like that, yea that shit is out.
This is why I say only seriously date a chic on your level. If I own a home and she is renting, let me level you up so you can own a home like I do
All this living off me cause I got it like that, yea that shit is out.
What about the women, that ain't worth marrying? Trying to Finesse a Mayne? I ain't never seen a Mayne that couldn't find a wife, but I see alot of women that can't find a got dam boyfriend? A Mayne can see through the bullshit, most black men are married, while most black women ain't...and that's a fact of life... jackkkk
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The homie ain't fucked up nowhere, he ain't complaining noun time, about his situation...his shit paid off... I don't think he ever gone have a problem, with his house being paid off, never gone be a shortage of women looking to live in it.. brah...I thought these women, want to be treated equally, like a Mayne, I guess until it's time to pay up.....the muffuckin house didn't pay itself off....he did it with hard work, now some got dam girlfriend want to come reap the benefits....HELL NAW...BRAH.... WHERE WAS SHE AT, WHILE HE WAS SHOOTING IN THE GYM? FOLK
I think its more that people are not obligated to put up with anybody's nonsense. just so happens we are talking about a situation in a romantic relationship.
if you look in other topics where its a falling out between the homies niggas be like fuck that nigga..... i think that CH and Zo thread gives examples of what i am saying.
FAM!
had a chick researching argument styles and trying to draw me in. I was like maybe we should see why everything becomes an argument instead. of course that became an argument lol
come on now, u knw they gotta make sure d whip is social media fresh 4 d fake stuntin
it was 800 total, reread the op
I sir, and to all the sirs before you who I was lambasting with half assed information, do hereby withdraw and resend all my previous statements.....
You are correct.
u good fam
it does make the whole scenario seem silly as hell 800 total living expenses vs 2k+ its a no brainer
thats why a bunch of us are like he only messed up by breaking it down and using the r word
shit if he sees the extra money as a way to pay off other debt, get into a hobby or to put away 4 a ring shouldnt matter to anybody but him
and he nicer than me- i woulda been like let me get 1k and u dont have to worry bout living expenses, and any major shit break we work it out and you pay whatever percent and i'll pay the bulk.