I cut my friend that I knew for 24 + yrs. I been cutting a lot of friends & family members lately... I trust no one...
BGOL Men 35+: Do you have a long time best friend?
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Yep...three and I feel blessed to still remain close to guys who I grew up with since grade school.
Last weekend we all took our gfriends and spouses to a really nice beach house for friday and saturday night...it cost about 2 grand for the weekend.
When we were putting it together, i told my girl that friend x and me would carry most of the costs so our other two friends could come.
She couldn't understand why we didn't either make everyone pay equal or not come....she couldn't understand that we were like 'fuck the money' ...we want our homeboys to hang because that's what we do.
Before we left I told her i was running up to the the atm to get friend x some money to put on the weekend, since he paid when he booked it. She was like, 'he hasn't already asked you for the money?" I said nahhhh....ain't no biggie, be right back.
this is just one example, but she had a look on her face of pure bewilderment....
Last weekend we all took our gfriends and spouses to a really nice beach house for friday and saturday night...it cost about 2 grand for the weekend.
When we were putting it together, i told my girl that friend x and me would carry most of the costs so our other two friends could come.
She couldn't understand why we didn't either make everyone pay equal or not come....she couldn't understand that we were like 'fuck the money' ...we want our homeboys to hang because that's what we do.
Before we left I told her i was running up to the the atm to get friend x some money to put on the weekend, since he paid when he booked it. She was like, 'he hasn't already asked you for the money?" I said nahhhh....ain't no biggie, be right back.
this is just one example, but she had a look on her face of pure bewilderment....
damn...sorry about that fam
but I understand I think that is a product of getting older and different circles and just changes in taste and environment.
And I think some 'housekeeping' is healthy
Maybe ,but if you "clean" and throw away too much things.. you might find your self with little or nothing...
I have fewer friends as I get older. I am still great friends with a girlfriend I had in high school. My best male friend from my youth hasn't spoken to me since he became a religious fanatic. But find that I just don't want that much drama in my life and the more people you speak to the more drama you have.
Now, my wife knows too many people. We can't go anywhere in our town without her stopping five or ten times to talk to someone.
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Now, my wife knows too many people. We can't go anywhere in our town without her stopping five or ten times to talk to someone.
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Maybe ,but if you "clean" and throw away too much things.. you might find your self with little or nothing...
I said clean not renovate
I think you do outgrow some people over time or some people can be come more of a hindrance and negative influence.
SO I think we should ALL take inventory of ourselves and our circles just to see where have been where we are now and where we want to go (and what is impeding us from getting there)
Yep...three and I feel blessed to still remain close to guys who I grew up with since grade school.
Last weekend we all took our gfriends and spouses to a really nice beach house for friday and saturday night...it cost about 2 grand for the weekend.
When we were putting it together, i told my girl that friend x and me would carry most of the costs so our other two friends could come.
She couldn't understand why we didn't either make everyone pay equal or not come....she couldn't understand that we were like 'fuck the money' ...we want our homeboys to hang because that's what we do.
Before we left I told her i was running up to the the atm to get friend x some money to put on the weekend, since he paid when he booked it. She was like, 'he hasn't already asked you for the money?" I said nahhhh....ain't no biggie, be right back.
this is just one example, but she had a look on her face of pure bewilderment....
love hearing things like this...
I think this is natural and a just progression, thinning the herd so to speak.
The ones you have NOW hopefully are reliable and have your trust and a history.
my bestfriend called me on mother's day and let me know that she was 3 months pregnant...
her and her newlywed husband both have blessed me with the privilege of being their child's godfather....
Yup. Most of my buddies from the army, and people I've worked with in my current field.
I'm curious what made you cut off a friend of 24 plus years? Most of been something serious.
I have a real good friend I known since we were like 9. We live in different areas but talk everyday. Coolest white dude I've ever known.
I have another two good friends I met when I was 16. I transferred to a different high school and we have been cool ever since.
Also have two good female friends I known since I was 14. Both beautiful women but I've made sure to just keep it as platonic friends.
its just me myself and I
It's not even normal to not have friends please don't try to make it seem like it is
^^^^
I definitely got a best friend and we speak almost daily....and i also have a group of friends and we keep in contact on the groupme app greatest app to stay in touch with a groupd of good friends....we take trips annually we have gone to florida, vegas and this year new orleans....i really appreciate their friendship.
If you're not losing friends, that means your're not growing up.
anyway...personally I have no friends, I don't need them.
on the other hand...4 of my best associates are:
1. MYSELF
2. MY MONEY
3. MY LAWYER
4. MY ACCOUNTANT
thats all.
anyway...personally I have no friends, I don't need them.
on the other hand...4 of my best associates are:
1. MYSELF
2. MY MONEY
3. MY LAWYER
4. MY ACCOUNTANT
thats all.
GAMETHEORY;14330593[U said:
This is not true. If you lose friends that easily , it means that you're surrounded by losers. I have kept all my friends that I grew up with and we've all made real men of ourselves. Pilots, nephrologists, builders, lawyers, farmers, etc. We have all contributed to each other's lives and remained friends since 7 years old.
"A pimp is the loneliest bastard on Earth. He's gotta know his
whores. He can't let them know him. He's gotta be God all the way."
whores. He can't let them know him. He's gotta be God all the way."
Me & 2 of my high school teammates (c/o 95)are taking our wives & kids to Sea World this weekend.
3 brothers grew up 2 houses down from
me, known them all my life. We stay tight like family.
Me & my old college roommate (same high school, little league football & baseball) daughters go to same elementary school. His daughter calls me uncle & visa versa. they tell kids at school they are cousins.
Weddings in Jamaica,trips to Vegas & new york. Birthday parties. Crawfish boils, Rockets games. etc. GREAT Times!.
Man I can relate to these...
3 brothers grew up 2 houses down from
me, known them all my life. We stay tight like family.
Me & my old college roommate (same high school, little league football & baseball) daughters go to same elementary school. His daughter calls me uncle & visa versa. they tell kids at school they are cousins.
Weddings in Jamaica,trips to Vegas & new york. Birthday parties. Crawfish boils, Rockets games. etc. GREAT Times!.
Man I can relate to these...
Yep...three and I feel blessed to still remain close to guys who I grew up with since grade school.
Last weekend we all took our gfriends and spouses to a really nice beach house for friday and saturday night...it cost about 2 grand for the weekend.
When we were putting it together, i told my girl that friend x and me would carry most of the costs so our other two friends could come.
She couldn't understand why we didn't either make everyone pay equal or not come....she couldn't understand that we were like 'fuck the money' ...we want our homeboys to hang because that's what we do.
Before we left I told her i was running up to the the atm to get friend x some money to put on the weekend, since he paid when he booked it. She was like, 'he hasn't already asked you for the money?" I said nahhhh....ain't no biggie, be right back.
this is just one example, but she had a look on her face of pure bewilderment....
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you did the right thing.
Lol yeah I dunno where this guy got such a negative attitude about friends. Prolly from that bullshit "48 laws of power" book.
I have friends from every era of life (I've moved a few times) that I hold dear for different reasons. Sure, some of us have grown apart in different ways, but I love and respect em all the same as I did from back then. It helps a lot too cuz when I travel I get to see em and kick it.
Dwyane Wade: Still gonna be friends
LeBron James is no longer with the Miami Heat, but his former teammate -- Dwyane Wade -- knows that they'll always be close.
Wade, in an interview with Bleacher Report, has new priorities, new teammates and a new perspective after James left this offseason to rejoin the Cleveland Cavaliers.
Dwyane Wade said he and LeBron James were friends before they were teammates with the Heat, and Wade said that will continue with James back in Cleveland. "We're not really worried about it," Wade said. "We know what we have, who we are."
"Me and LeBron, I'd go to Cleveland, we'd go to the movies," Wade told the website of their relationship before James joined the Heat. "He'd come here, we'd hang out. And then we'd go on the court, and we'd compete. And then after the game, that's my boy.
"Then we got here, we teamed up, became even closer. And now it's the same thing. You know, we're still gonna be friends, and we're still gonna compete our ass off, until the day we can't compete no more."
Wade, a 10-time All-Star, has a fresh outlook entering his 12th season with the Heat as he'll be surrounded by fresh faces. The goal, however, is still the same: Get to the playoffs.
But this time, he wants to savor the journey a little more.
"We went to the Finals four years in a row, and it was everything we wanted from that standpoint," Wade told Bleacher Report. "But sometimes throughout that run at certain times, it just wasn't fun.
"I think now I'm at the point where I want to enjoy the game. Because once I've won three championships and been so successful, you've got to have something to play for. And I want to be able to play for my teammates and just the joy of the game."
Wade said that joy was missing last season as the Heat lost to the San Antonio Spurs in the NBA Finals -- Wade's fifth.
Wade, however, said that vibe no longer exists as he returns to being the sole face of the franchise.
"Just this year, coming in, I can see, even the coaches, there's just a different renewed focus and energy," Wade told Bleacher Report. "No one knows what it's going to lead to. No one knows if that's going to lead to a Finals win or Finals loss or not the Finals at all.
"But right now, it's good for everyone to come in every day and want to be here."
Even with James not by his side.
"Whether we are playing together or not, we're friends," Wade told Bleacher Report. "Me and Chris [Bosh], we all have our certain friends, no matter what the game of basketball brings or doesn't bring.
"Those are friends beyond. People are gonna try to make it something. But we're not really worried about it. We know what we have, who we are. We've never let it get in between our friendship."
LeBron James is no longer with the Miami Heat, but his former teammate -- Dwyane Wade -- knows that they'll always be close.
Wade, in an interview with Bleacher Report, has new priorities, new teammates and a new perspective after James left this offseason to rejoin the Cleveland Cavaliers.
Dwyane Wade said he and LeBron James were friends before they were teammates with the Heat, and Wade said that will continue with James back in Cleveland. "We're not really worried about it," Wade said. "We know what we have, who we are."
"Me and LeBron, I'd go to Cleveland, we'd go to the movies," Wade told the website of their relationship before James joined the Heat. "He'd come here, we'd hang out. And then we'd go on the court, and we'd compete. And then after the game, that's my boy.
"Then we got here, we teamed up, became even closer. And now it's the same thing. You know, we're still gonna be friends, and we're still gonna compete our ass off, until the day we can't compete no more."
Wade, a 10-time All-Star, has a fresh outlook entering his 12th season with the Heat as he'll be surrounded by fresh faces. The goal, however, is still the same: Get to the playoffs.
But this time, he wants to savor the journey a little more.
"We went to the Finals four years in a row, and it was everything we wanted from that standpoint," Wade told Bleacher Report. "But sometimes throughout that run at certain times, it just wasn't fun.
"I think now I'm at the point where I want to enjoy the game. Because once I've won three championships and been so successful, you've got to have something to play for. And I want to be able to play for my teammates and just the joy of the game."
Wade said that joy was missing last season as the Heat lost to the San Antonio Spurs in the NBA Finals -- Wade's fifth.
“
You know, we're still gonna be friends, and we're still gonna compete our ass off, until the day we can't compete no more.
”
- Dwyane Wade, on LeBron James
"We wanted it," Wade told Bleacher Report. "... But sometimes you can put too much on yourself, all of us, and it becomes a black cloud. Last year wasn't fun. I mean, there was no stretch of it fun. That whole season, to me, it's amazing we made it to the Finals. It's just honest."You know, we're still gonna be friends, and we're still gonna compete our ass off, until the day we can't compete no more.
”
- Dwyane Wade, on LeBron James
Wade, however, said that vibe no longer exists as he returns to being the sole face of the franchise.
"Just this year, coming in, I can see, even the coaches, there's just a different renewed focus and energy," Wade told Bleacher Report. "No one knows what it's going to lead to. No one knows if that's going to lead to a Finals win or Finals loss or not the Finals at all.
"But right now, it's good for everyone to come in every day and want to be here."
Even with James not by his side.
"Whether we are playing together or not, we're friends," Wade told Bleacher Report. "Me and Chris [Bosh], we all have our certain friends, no matter what the game of basketball brings or doesn't bring.
"Those are friends beyond. People are gonna try to make it something. But we're not really worried about it. We know what we have, who we are. We've never let it get in between our friendship."
Same here, I am cool with all of them as long as I deal with them separately. Put em in the same room, they all act different. I stay in touch with them all, but rarely hangout with the same friend on back-to-back weekends. They all know I hate gossip, start that shit, won't see me again for years. All of them have different strengths, agendas, and weaknesses. I deal with them accordingly, on my terms.
We were all tighter and had more fun, when we didn't have shit.
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