a lotta niggaahz here ONLY have friends here! 
BGOL Men 35+: Do you have a long time best friend?
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It's true even when we don't know each other and are just walking past each other on the street.
I call it cowardice... to see someone that looks just like you and see them as a threat of any kind. We already get that shit treatment from every other demographic in the country, why do it to ourselves.
I analyzed that shit years ago and have been bringing it to people's attention whenever they'll listen ever since.
I agree with the first part very much. I think learning to solve your own problems us part of becoming a man and self-reliant.
But...I've learned as business owner that once you learn every skill in your industry there's not enough time in the day for YOU to do every one of them and still accomplish your goals. Time is very valuable. In order to take advantage of the time I have to learn to manage, both time & people, as well as resources.
Gotta be able to delegate
As far as friends go... I've always been kinda socially inept.
I'm sure it started with my family's dysfunction. My mama didn't have many friends & wasn't social at all. Still haven't met my father.
I was thinking back on 1st & second grade and some of the people I still know but we ain't close & have never been. Hell, we wasn't ever friends, we just know each other. I was thinking that if I asked them if they've ever known me to have any friends what would they say?
I got 1 close friend, I consider and call him family. We've known each other for like 13 years, both been thru ups & downs and still there for support. He jokes about being my only friend, but it's true
I put him as emergency contact for everything.
He disappointed me recently when I got locked up for a warrant I ain't know about. I had left my pup out to run around at my shop, and I ain't know how long I was gonna be locked up. The officer called him for me on his cell and I told him that Isis was running loose and to go get her for me, that she was house trained and he could take her home. Man, when I got out 4 days later, Isis was locked up and animal control was calling me threatening felonies for neglect and shit.
He said he went out there and waited for 2 hours. It just seem like he ain't wanna take her home to his house. He married with a 5 year old daughter, and I don't think him or his wife like the idea of a dog in the house.
I know its my dog and it ain't his responsibility, but... iunno man, it was hot outside, like 95+, and she was without food & fresh water.
I try not to be petty so I don't sweat it & haven't brought it up. I guess I've dropped the ball a couple times too, so it's whatever...
I'm sure it started with my family's dysfunction. My mama didn't have many friends & wasn't social at all. Still haven't met my father.
I was thinking back on 1st & second grade and some of the people I still know but we ain't close & have never been. Hell, we wasn't ever friends, we just know each other. I was thinking that if I asked them if they've ever known me to have any friends what would they say?
I got 1 close friend, I consider and call him family. We've known each other for like 13 years, both been thru ups & downs and still there for support. He jokes about being my only friend, but it's true
I put him as emergency contact for everything.
He disappointed me recently when I got locked up for a warrant I ain't know about. I had left my pup out to run around at my shop, and I ain't know how long I was gonna be locked up. The officer called him for me on his cell and I told him that Isis was running loose and to go get her for me, that she was house trained and he could take her home. Man, when I got out 4 days later, Isis was locked up and animal control was calling me threatening felonies for neglect and shit.
He said he went out there and waited for 2 hours. It just seem like he ain't wanna take her home to his house. He married with a 5 year old daughter, and I don't think him or his wife like the idea of a dog in the house.
I know its my dog and it ain't his responsibility, but... iunno man, it was hot outside, like 95+, and she was without food & fresh water.
I try not to be petty so I don't sweat it & haven't brought it up. I guess I've dropped the ball a couple times too, so it's whatever...
My two best friends/brothers from college and I have been in each others weddings and are Godparents to each others children. I have a few female friends from college and work that have been around for almost 20+ years. I don't see anything wrong with building and maintaining relationships.
bump
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On a related side note ... definitely appreciate the quality time you do spend with friends, family, coworkers, etc. Life isn't guaranteed and is definitely precious. Have lost many people over the years. Illnesses, suicide (several), old age, car accidents. Gonna visit pops this evening. Got together with the crew this past weekend. Grabbed lunch with a friend celebrating her bday the other day. One of my best friends is 62yo. Suffered a brain injury decades back (carbon monoxide poisoning), and a stroke last year and was hospitalized for 2 months while re-learning to speak from May-July. Also, had a fall earlier this year and luckily just had a black eye but could have been a more serious head injury (morning fall in their washroom before their support worker arrived to admin' meds). On a number of meds nowadays (high blood pressure, anti-seizure, etc) and their mood has fluctuated a lot. They feel helpless and hopeless at times, but I remind them of their worth and get in good talks & visits/coffee, etc. Just a genuine person who has been dealt a few serious health setbacks. Great friend for nearly a decade now. Has taught me plenty about life and general appreciation of the day-2-day goings on, and to be more in the present.
yep!!!
1 from childhood
1 from my hs years..... older like most of all my friends have always been
3 from college days
5 from life outside all of the above
everybody has @least 15 years in most have @ least 25, only 1 has 35 yrs in.
My ex gf is 1... friends for 4-5 yrs b4 we dated then 7 yrs damn near living together, & back to friends... she's in the 25 yr club. I still stay there when Im in town, sometimes I have mail sent there....
shit most of my very good friends are women. w/ the exception of my ex none of them were chicks I fucked wit. Never understood how or why most dudes didnt & dont know how to have a solid platonic relationship w/ a woman. I guess it has a lot to do w/ how they were raised.... what they saw & copied or what they were .
1 from childhood
1 from my hs years..... older like most of all my friends have always been
3 from college days
5 from life outside all of the above
everybody has @least 15 years in most have @ least 25, only 1 has 35 yrs in.
My ex gf is 1... friends for 4-5 yrs b4 we dated then 7 yrs damn near living together, & back to friends... she's in the 25 yr club. I still stay there when Im in town, sometimes I have mail sent there....
shit most of my very good friends are women. w/ the exception of my ex none of them were chicks I fucked wit. Never understood how or why most dudes didnt & dont know how to have a solid platonic relationship w/ a woman. I guess it has a lot to do w/ how they were raised.... what they saw & copied or what they were .
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This nigga did a 180, back in the church(sda)
Didn’t even come to my house for our Xmas party, but he said he would.
Got no answer as to why he didn’t show, guess Jesus didn’t teach you how to be honest with people.
Just say you don’t want to come cause of the atmosphere, I’ll respect that more than a no call no show.
Enjoy church nigga.
Didn’t even come to my house for our Xmas party, but he said he would.
Got no answer as to why he didn’t show, guess Jesus didn’t teach you how to be honest with people.
Just say you don’t want to come cause of the atmosphere, I’ll respect that more than a no call no show.
Enjoy church nigga.
to my brother @Mixd
Holding me down on this journey
My baby girl in the hospital right now need ya'll prayers
f*ck Sickle Cell Disease.
Black Fathers United.
Thoughts and prayers up
thank you
This. I still have a 1 friend from highschool. But I had to let most go. My old best friend snorts coke, lives with his mom, and still has a makeshift studio in the basement where he is still burning cds and making songs. FOH nigga. You 36 years old
My current friends are older than me and act their age.
I still have the friends I met back in 1984-85, my crew. I was blessed on that dept.
GOTTDAMN!!!!! Best Friends for almost 30 years!!!!
2 from childhood, 1 from hs, 4 from college.
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