The only friends i got is my money,mom,Dr,and computer!
BGOL Men 35+: Do you have a long time best friend?
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The only friends i got is my money,mom,Dr,and computer!
just cause i know you dont make you my friend, i used to think like alota of ya'll in hea, dont trust nobody.
then i grew up, you guys can make your own choices for me i found through out my life a couple fools who's always stood by me w/o question or hesitation and i by them, its a really short list but after 20 yrs + god cant come between us, so yea i got a couple friends.
then i grew up, you guys can make your own choices for me i found through out my life a couple fools who's always stood by me w/o question or hesitation and i by them, its a really short list but after 20 yrs + god cant come between us, so yea i got a couple friends.
One of those you have to work for. One you have to pay to see. One you had to flat out buy. And one was literally a birth right.
Your life sucks.
i'm getting a little older and you know you friends start to get married or whatever my thing is i never know what to do when i am around their wives do you go for the hug do you go for the kiss on the chick or do you just give the head nod and say what up. it is always awkward for me.
Hug/kiss whats the problem
Yeah, I do.
Fuck you "ridin' solo" ass niggas.
48 laws of power belivin' ass niggas don't realize the power of a team.
As good as Mike Jordan was, he could never beat a whole team of pro players by himself. Such is the same in life.
Life ain't like that at all. The number of situations in an average person's adult life requiring a team of 2 or more to solve a problem compared to the total number of possible situations in said person's adult life is a very small ratio.
Life is far more about acquiring the skills & experience to solve your own problems than it is about solving problems thru teamwork.
I'm happy with my life!
money:i can buy just about anything i want!
Dr:to make sure that i'm in good health!
mom:i use her wisdom to help to make wise decisions!
I tried that friend shit years ago.It don't work for me!
Everybody got their own goals and game plans in life.Some friends will use you to help them achieve their goals;why your goals are not being achieved.I know people i speak to every blue moon.But that friend shit has been played the fucked out for over 20 years!
Ill say this the BIGGEST BETRAYAL I have ever suffered came from a dude I would have taken a bullet for and actually took the fall for once...
all over some chick...
but I got older learned from it and it does change your outlook on EVERYONE.
But I still think WE as Black Men aint even cool or even civil with each other like back in the day...
That Aint Right
This is big problem over here. No brother hood.
This is why we got the cops killing us like it ain't shit, black females on that disrespect all black men shit, the media portraying us in all kind of fucked up ways, black dudes killing each other, too much self hate, the list goes on and on.
If we can unite on a national level then we unite on global level. If we can do that then we can get that pan Africanism going again.
Thats how they did back in the 60s.
me and my female best friend go back about 14 years,....she actually helped coordinate my wedding (with my wife's blessing and approval)....and my male best friend goes back to about 20 years. its hard to break strong friendships and bonds like that. which is why i look at my daughter stupid when she's calling these chicks her bestfriend and some of em she's only known a year.
In my 20's but Ive had the same 5 friends since I was 5 years old.
Groomsmen at one of their weddings
was there for the birth of their kids
And above all else I know that if i needed something they wouldn't ask questions they'd just do it to help and I would and have done the same for them
I remember in high school one of them was partying or some shit and got stuck in Sacramento. He called me at like 1am and asked me could I come and get him he had no way home...I got up out of sleep got in the car and made that drive (2 hours there and 2 hours back) and thought nothing of it
Special bonds.. when 2 of my friend's girls at different times had no place to stay...they lived with me and my friends who were struggling in their own right thought nothing of it because they knew that I would never in a million years violate the code, and I didn't.
Been through a lot and will always remain the same
Groomsmen at one of their weddings
was there for the birth of their kids
And above all else I know that if i needed something they wouldn't ask questions they'd just do it to help and I would and have done the same for them
I remember in high school one of them was partying or some shit and got stuck in Sacramento. He called me at like 1am and asked me could I come and get him he had no way home...I got up out of sleep got in the car and made that drive (2 hours there and 2 hours back) and thought nothing of it
Special bonds.. when 2 of my friend's girls at different times had no place to stay...they lived with me and my friends who were struggling in their own right thought nothing of it because they knew that I would never in a million years violate the code, and I didn't.
Been through a lot and will always remain the same
This...I have family/coworkers/neighbors/random ppl I met that I'm cool w/ who I can actually depend on somewhat for help + shit but I'm not quick to throw that friend label on them...when it boils done to it I'm far more giving of myself/dependable than the ppl I have been around
I think part of it is a little bit of luck too in that you're fortunate to have been around ppl like that possibly like-minded + maintain contact and be able to trust them for so long...I had 3 good friends growing up but one died (@ the time of his death we had chosen diff paths by then and hardly spoke)...another got locked up...the third dude we was cool to an extent but like I said as cats get older they choose diff paths so we wasn't on the same wavelength
A man and a woman can't be best friends, it's impossible. I'm not saying u'r not telling the truth but ...."male, female and best friends" in the same sentence don't go together.
Yours Truly.....Professor
I'm not 35 yet, but I have 5 very close friends that I knew since the 4 grade(20+yrs). I don't really let anybody else come in my cirlce....
I have a best friend Ive had since 2 yrs old, we've been thru some shit together, our friendship has been tested and has remained strong for 36 years. Damn near every one of my childhood memories involve this dude in one way or another, he was there for every firsts i had in life.
Some of these posts on this topic have knocked me out of my chair. I am still very close with several of my boys from high school ('86). In fact I have gone camping with 3 of my closest friends from HS the last 10 years. It's a great bonding experience and believe me brothers, you only go camping with brothers that will give their life for you and vice versa.
I am also real tight with my boys from college as well. We are all like minded, have wives and kids, and have done well. Have I fallen out with a couple of them? Hell yeah! but blood is thicker than water.
I am also real tight with my boys from college as well. We are all like minded, have wives and kids, and have done well. Have I fallen out with a couple of them? Hell yeah! but blood is thicker than water.
Good thread and question, Playa.
I think the shitty thing about TIME INVESTMENT when it comes to close friends & contacts/aquaintances are the periods/needs they serve at certain points in our lives. I've never really had any major falling(s) out(s) with people, and the only person I quietly cut ties with was a former best friend who was hyper-competitive (education / $ / future, etc.) and aiming to fuck a shorty I had feelings for back in the day. I just distanced myself from that scene and didn't hang around for any bullshit after he played the whole fake "bros before hoes" angle, and got her pregnant, and bounced (she had an abortion thereafter ... alone).
As for close friends from high school and college ... people just drifted apart and shit. People not being available ... not answering calls & emails ... all that other shit. I did my part and tried to maintain contact with people I knew since ages 5/6 and 17/18, and early-20s ... but whatever. You have to laugh though when you glance at peoples' profiles and see "800 friends", "1000 friends", and all that other mess. FUCK OUTTA HERE WITH THAT BULLSHIT. Liars - closest people I associate with now are a few from college 2003 era, and some coworkers & cats I hooped with.
I think the shitty thing about TIME INVESTMENT when it comes to close friends & contacts/aquaintances are the periods/needs they serve at certain points in our lives. I've never really had any major falling(s) out(s) with people, and the only person I quietly cut ties with was a former best friend who was hyper-competitive (education / $ / future, etc.) and aiming to fuck a shorty I had feelings for back in the day. I just distanced myself from that scene and didn't hang around for any bullshit after he played the whole fake "bros before hoes" angle, and got her pregnant, and bounced (she had an abortion thereafter ... alone).
As for close friends from high school and college ... people just drifted apart and shit. People not being available ... not answering calls & emails ... all that other shit. I did my part and tried to maintain contact with people I knew since ages 5/6 and 17/18, and early-20s ... but whatever. You have to laugh though when you glance at peoples' profiles and see "800 friends", "1000 friends", and all that other mess. FUCK OUTTA HERE WITH THAT BULLSHIT. Liars
- closest people I associate with now are a few from college 2003 era, and some coworkers & cats I hooped with.38 this year. Same group of friends since HS and college. Same 8 brothers at my wedding. We've all got lives, some of us families. However, when you trust people to be people, you accept their failings and don't count on them 100% because people can let you down. You roll with it and love 'em all the same.
I was once blessed to have an incredible life lesson that caught me right on time. My one time gf, soul-mate, best friend, all that ... to this day, even married to another incredible lady, I've never had a relationship with a woman like that. if that 'unflappable' relationship can - and did - betray me, you begin to look at EVERYTHING with new eyes.
Those dudes are my brothers in spirit, if not blood. Can they do you dirty? Of course, that's that nature of man. That's the journey we all go through. But I'd still ride for them because that's the standard I hold myself to. That's friendship, I think.
I was once blessed to have an incredible life lesson that caught me right on time. My one time gf, soul-mate, best friend, all that ... to this day, even married to another incredible lady, I've never had a relationship with a woman like that. if that 'unflappable' relationship can - and did - betray me, you begin to look at EVERYTHING with new eyes.
Those dudes are my brothers in spirit, if not blood. Can they do you dirty? Of course, that's that nature of man. That's the journey we all go through. But I'd still ride for them because that's the standard I hold myself to. That's friendship, I think.
If you're lucky enough to get to my age, you will find that the few brothers that are about it will be your friends.
Me and the homies don't kick it like we used to, but if I need something, or they need something, it's a done deal.
Also, as men, you don't need to talk everyday like broads. I might now talk to a couple cats for months, but when hook up, shit is like the old days.
Me and the homies don't kick it like we used to, but if I need something, or they need something, it's a done deal.
Also, as men, you don't need to talk everyday like broads. I might now talk to a couple cats for months, but when hook up, shit is like the old days.
yup i do feel lucky
we grew into different men personality wise but the closeness means we've never had real fights or conflicts between us
and we always get along without exception.
we have each others backs totally
Not true, but the problem is with the people you're in a relationship with. My woman doesn't like my female best friend, and her (my friend) dude doesn't want me around.
So we just creep as friends on facebook.
That's ur opinion. My sons mother n I are close friends. And no there is no sex involved.
My best friend is someone I knew since the 2nd grade. We are the godfathers of each other's sons. He's like a brother ... That's my dawg right there.
* Everyone should read this.
Props, Sakinnuso. This is some of the REALEST shit I've ever read on BGOL, or the 'net for that matter. That's a great outlook (and life perspective) to have --------->
Props, Sakinnuso. This is some of the REALEST shit I've ever read on BGOL, or the 'net for that matter. That's a great outlook (and life perspective) to have --------->
Moms told me choose my friends wisely. Don't keep cats around who have no value (knowledge, skill, etc.). It was wise advice, whats the point of having ppl close to you who are worthless. Too weak to lift a sofa, and too dumb to give advice. It makes sense.
I have about 8 close friends. 6 of them are bright as hell, guys who I consider to be as bright as or smarter than me however you quantify that. The other two aren't college educated but are smart and have done well for themselves. Everyone is doing well for themselves and I've known most of these cats for 20-30 years.
My friends are the kind of dudes who could form some kind of business group, in fact, I'm working on that right now. We just have to figure out the industry and the angle and make it happen.
I do have a best friend out of the group. Sometimes, the shit you lgo through and learn from a friendship just trumps the other relationships you have. Me and my best friend have been through all kinds of shit together and have never let each other down, even when the pressure was tight. That makes us a little closer.
Friends are ppl, and ppl have character flaws, all of my friends do, and I have mine. But they are down for me, they are useful, they are smart. I don't even be trying to befriend new ppl really because im pretty good on the friend front.
I have about 8 close friends. 6 of them are bright as hell, guys who I consider to be as bright as or smarter than me however you quantify that. The other two aren't college educated but are smart and have done well for themselves. Everyone is doing well for themselves and I've known most of these cats for 20-30 years.
My friends are the kind of dudes who could form some kind of business group, in fact, I'm working on that right now. We just have to figure out the industry and the angle and make it happen.
I do have a best friend out of the group. Sometimes, the shit you lgo through and learn from a friendship just trumps the other relationships you have. Me and my best friend have been through all kinds of shit together and have never let each other down, even when the pressure was tight. That makes us a little closer.
Friends are ppl, and ppl have character flaws, all of my friends do, and I have mine. But they are down for me, they are useful, they are smart. I don't even be trying to befriend new ppl really because im pretty good on the friend front.
got a few close friends, but im finna go solo soon, these niggas aint on my level, 1 thing i cant stand is no lovey dovey ass nigga and all my friends are sucka for love ass niggas so im cuttin em off. 1 of em just got locked up because of a bitch, and i told him not to fuck with her now he expect me to get him out, fuck em.
Yeah I'm 32i have friends I've known since 4th grade still around that i consider my brothers....one of the guys, i hooked him up with a chic I've known since pre-k....other than those i rarely let new people into my circle....and these are people that if i killed someone they'd be in jail too as accessories to murder
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My main ace carried the shit out of me some years back. We fell out to the point that I found myself in his house yelling at him, about to rush him on some fighting shit, and he had his pistol under his pillow reaching for it like he was gonna buss me. Bro was a big ol fat dude who was also a special police officer (fake ass cop). He always had that bama .38 on him but I never thought he would pull the joint on me. I saw it in his eyes man, had I hit him he would have shot me instead of fighting like men. We didn't speak for like 10 years after that, but time heals a lot of shit, me and that dude been through all kinds of shit together, and I held him down, he held me down.
Long story short, we happen to get back in contact with one another and it felt really good to squash all that old shit with the big homey. We both got married in that time, and I got a son within that time. We chopped it up just like nothing happened. I don't know if I would say he was a best friend, but even after all we been through I would still ride for big bro.
Long story short, we happen to get back in contact with one another and it felt really good to squash all that old shit with the big homey. We both got married in that time, and I got a son within that time. We chopped it up just like nothing happened. I don't know if I would say he was a best friend, but even after all we been through I would still ride for big bro.
If you're lucky enough to get to my age, you will find that the few brothers that are about it will be your friends.
Me and the homies don't kick it like we used to, but if I need something, or they need something, it's a done deal.
Also, as men, you don't need to talk everyday like broads. I might now talk to a couple cats for months, but when hook up, shit is like the old days.
yup that's the mark.
me and my friends could not speak for years at a time
and kick it one day and its like there was no time apart.
and we don't talk on the phone at length unless its about sports and arguments commence
Gotta coupla homies I know would break bread if there was no bread and I try to reciprocate that. We don't speak all the time but it's a given.....
Life changes the dynamics of the interactions but if ya'll really homies then everybody knows where they stand.
Truth
Life changes the dynamics of the interactions but if ya'll really homies then everybody knows where they stand.
If you're lucky enough to get to my age, you will find that the few brothers that are about it will be your friends.
Me and the homies don't kick it like we used to, but if I need something, or they need something, it's a done deal.
Also, as men, you don't need to talk everyday like broads. I might now talk to a couple cats for months, but when hook up, shit is like the old days.
Truth
Threads like this pop up every once and a while and some make me and at the same time trying to justify not having friends. I have a close and strong circle. The same mufuckas you will see me with now are the same ones you saw me with 10+ years ago and will see me with 20 from now. One thing I will say is fuck new friends I got people I can't trust and count on and it's too rare to find to believe a mufucka I barely know will be down to that extent.
and at the same time trying to justify not having friends. I have a close and strong circle. The same mufuckas you will see me with now are the same ones you saw me with 10+ years ago and will see me with 20 from now. One thing I will say is fuck new friends I got people I can't trust and count on and it's too rare to find to believe a mufucka I barely know will be down to that extent.
I got 1 ride or die from age 5, and one from college. I got a few others that come in and out of my life but I generally wouldn't look towards any of them to save me ass. But I'm a generally well off, play it by the book type of guy so I haven't really had a chance to test people in those kind of situations. Also in real life I have a hard time making friends/aquaintences, so as long as people aren't trying to dick me over I won't ignore their phone call.
Threads like this pop up every once and a while and some make me
exactly
but then again when i think about it years dont really say shit. its about the person himself. im just a real dude. i dont like bitchassness so i tell a bro upfront the way i am. and niggas see im down for them no matter what. shit all the niggas i know that were homeboys all are beefing cause of money, girls etc. and these were the type of dudes that would wear the same matching clothing and shit
homeboy in my circle im cool with 8years now. and he realer than most dudes i know 20plus years. so it all depends
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