BGOL, How did You Get Over Getting Your Heart Broke?

[SaKem]

If the above statement ain't the truth, but honestly man I don't know the answer it's been a couple years later and honestly I'm still stuck on her I guess I am waiting on someone that will replace her but to no avail they say time and other womenn will help but it hasn't, they say when I move on to the next phase of my life I will meet better newer women but I just don't know man I'm still struggling I lie awake at nite and think of the relationship and about her, did me breaking up with her help me or hurt me, I don't know, I just know that I was not happy where the relationship went man and it was changing me into someone I did not like I am sure I will move on but I don't know when

You haven't been fucking pussy. Bottom line. There's no way you can be heartbroken over a bitch for two years unless you haven't been fucking and getting new girls. Go out there and get at 5 women a day until you have a new girlfriend, and only get at attractive women. The girl who left you doesn't give a FUCK about you; so stop caring about people who don't care about you.

 

[Stick2dascript]

Girls aren't dumb, they secure a new guy to avoid loneliness, heartbreak and dry spells. When she broke up with you she had already secured something with a another guy, usually they fuck before they leave you; there's really not much you can do, other than meet someone new asap. If she still likes you after she's done with the next guy, she'll call you, if not, you just stay with a new girl. BTW you contradicted yourself a little in this post. You said BGOL niggas say they always have dimes on deck etc. then you did the same thing in this very post. If you really have all those dimes on deck, start fucking them, you won't care as much anymore. Best of luck man, we're close in age and I live a very similar college lifestyle, so I know how it can be.

Yeah, that's what I try to tell cats. A man's pride is no joke and a. She. Left him, b. She met a new dude. Those two alone is enough to walk away, you're just gossip for when she's a old married hoe looking back on old dick she had.

Let it go son.

Women don't like being alone, not like the majority are into hobbies, mostly men and money, outside of that they don't know how to entertain themselves.

Trust me, your pride will thank you later.

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[IMDATDUDE]

Girls aren't dumb, they secure a new guy to avoid loneliness, heartbreak and dry spells. When she broke up with you she had already secured something with a another guy, usually they fuck before they leave you; there's really not much you can do, other than meet someone new asap. If she still likes you after she's done with the next guy, she'll call you, if not, you just stay with a new girl.

From what I have witness this is correct. Also I noticed depending on the type of break up the girl will still be trying to figure out the new guy but they still will go back with the ex to have sex and shit until the situation with the new guy is official. I know not all girls are like this I guess it just the ones that don't want to ever be lonely ? Seems they always have dick on-hand for them.

Anyway OP you sound like you were an asshole and I personally don't think you changing your ways anytime soon that is just who you are getting mad and shit. I'm sure if you got her back you will be good at first but your old ways will come back. I'm gonna go with the "time" group and say move on.

 

[zx10 rider]

Time heals all wounds, no doubt. Get busy...pick up a new hobby...find a new passion and pursue it...spend some time with your grandmother, moms, sister, nieces - the women in your life that matter. You'll look up in a lil bit and find that your swagger has returned.

100% real life right there.

 

[marcvoi]

you are luck. if you get an opportunity to travel or go out of state you see different flavors you feel alive again. understand te fact your young and you can put your energy in gym, career getting your money up. keep dating ....

 

[2 ONE 3]

you are luck. if you get an opportunity to travel or go out of state you see different flavors you feel alive again. understand te fact your young and you can put your energy in gym, career getting your money up. keep dating ....

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[big pimp]

^^^

 

[Osca Lee]

Girls aren't dumb, they secure a new guy to avoid loneliness, heartbreak and dry spells. When she broke up with you she had already secured something with a another guy, usually they fuck before they leave you; there's really not much you can do, other than meet someone new asap. If she still likes you after she's done with the next guy, she'll call you, if not, you just stay with a new girl. BTW you contradicted yourself a little in this post. You said BGOL niggas say they always have dimes on deck etc. then you did the same thing in this very post. If you really have all those dimes on deck, start fucking them, you won't care as much anymore. Best of luck man, we're close in age and I live a very similar college lifestyle, so I know how it can be.

This alone should be place in the Hall of Fame of man logic 101

Yeah, that's what I try to tell cats. A man's pride is no joke and a. She. Left him, b. She met a new dude. Those two alone is enough to walk away, you're just gossip for when she's a old married hoe looking back on old dick she had.

Let it go son.

Women don't like being alone, not like the majority are into hobbies, mostly men and money, outside of that they don't know how to entertain themselves.

Trust me, your pride will thank you later.

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another Hall of Famer

young fellas need to pay attention to this wisdom

 

[bgbtylvr]

I knew mine was on some hoe shit, and still caught feelings like a cold. Just realized what led me to get wrapped up in the shit. Time, distance and NEW PUSSY are always good remedies. Start doing the shit your relationship prohibited you from doing.

 

[Jae]

Uh, get her back. I know it's not the standard bgol answer

"Never make someone a priority in your life, if you're still an option in theirs"

 

[Osca Lee]

I knew mine was on some hoe shit, and still caught feelings like a cold. Just realized what led me to get wrapped up in the shit. Time, distance and NEW PUSSY are always good remedies. Start doing the shit your relationship prohibited you from doing.

another HoF

 

[Anthony-Cruz]

I've read every single post in this thread and I've got some really amazing advice from cats on here. I really appreciate it. After reading this thread, I really feel a lot better about the situation cause in almost every post, cats were saying some real shit, a lot of it I agree with.

I've already been on the gym shit, mostly hooping but I'm really gonna hit the weights hard and just get cut. I'm 6'0, 195 but I'm not as lean and cut as I want to be and this is the perfect time to do it. I'm gonna continue to focus on my school and getting good grades, continue working part time and doing my volunteering, continue kicking it with my nigs, continue my little side hustles and just focus on me. I'm really gonna do the things I need to do for myself. Every time I've ever done that, chicks come out of nowhere and are on my dick.

I find when I'm looking for broads, especially replacement girls, I only feel shittier. If I just focus on myself and still talk to girls here and there at school, work or whatever, I'll eventually meet someone cool that I'm interested in. But that's not even my focus right now. I'm just gonna focus on me and it feels good to think about. After reading this read and reflecting, looking back, she obviously didn't care about me as much as I cared about her and maybe I got a little caught up with her but fuck it, I can't be thinking about her if she's not even thinking about me. Just wanted to thanks again for the advice fam, it's greatly appreciated.

 

[footloose]

damn, no jokes yet

 

[Non-StopJFK2TAB]

I've read every single post in this thread and I've got some really amazing advice from cats on here. I really appreciate it. After reading this thread, I really feel a lot better about the situation cause in almost every post, cats were saying some real shit, a lot of it I agree with.

I've already been on the gym shit, mostly hooping but I'm really gonna hit the weights hard and just get cut. I'm 6'0, 195 but I'm not as lean and cut as I want to be and this is the perfect time to do it. I'm gonna continue to focus on my school and getting good grades, continue working part time and doing my volunteering, continue kicking it with my nigs, continue my little side hustles and just focus on me. I'm really gonna do the things I need to do for myself. Every time I've ever done that, chicks come out of nowhere and are on my dick.

I find when I'm looking for broads, especially replacement girls, I only feel shittier. If I just focus on myself and still talk to girls here and there at school, work or whatever, I'll eventually meet someone cool that I'm interested in. But that's not even my focus right now. I'm just gonna focus on me and it feels good to think about. After reading this read and reflecting, looking back, she obviously didn't care about me as much as I cared about her and maybe I got a little caught up with her but fuck it, I can't be thinking about her if she's not even thinking about me. Just wanted to thanks again for the advice fam, it's greatly appreciated.

smh youre thinking about her right now.

 

[sherminator]

You haven't been fucking pussy. Bottom line. There's no way you can be heartbroken over a bitch for two years unless you haven't been fucking and getting new girls. Go out there and get at 5 women a day until you have a new girlfriend, and only get at attractive women. The girl who left you doesn't give a FUCK about you; so stop caring about people who don't care about you.

Well I have I don't know what's wrong with me I just can't help it I have had girls trying to please me and everything and I end up pushing them away for whatever reason I don't think I'm doing something silly like comparing them to ol girl but I maybe I don't know though I'm just working out and focusing on getting my doctorate and when opp comes I will make it happen

 

[ShortyCumStain]

Took my little cheap ass chain back and punched the bitch in the back of her head.

I will trump all these niggas advice

You would be going through much less trouble if you were winning and focused on that

Pussy and relationships are side bar consolation type shit.

Now go chase that second prize trophy ass bitch you strung out on.

Chemistry is also important in relationships

This guy stay droppin' gems.

 

[M.H.C.]

lol If ur going thru it....Do not, I repeat..Do not listen to slow Songs.

I make this mistake every time. I can't avoid it. It's like i'm addicted to R&B. But it does no good for the wounded heart.

 

[footloose]

dont listen to any drake songz either and call the bitch drunk while shes with her new nicca, tellin her she can do better.
its hard for a bitch to leave knowing you wont miss her or think about her

 

[nyeleman]

One thing I did when I went through the same was to occupy my mind at all times. Whether movies , videogames or going out all the time helped a lot. Plus I trained my mind to keep my thoughts off her by destroying everything that reminded me of her. I have not looked at her pic for 2 years , listened to any music she listens to or movies. I changed my damn number to cut off all contact. One thing I learnt which was the hardest lesson is no never have one woman and put you all into her because once she is gone theres a huge void that will be left. If you fill that void with many activities and women as possible over time you will look back and laugh at how silly you acted. Theres no point in wasting mental real estate on someone who has moved on

 

[1MAttDRippah]

Time heals all wounds, no doubt. Get busy...pick up a new hobby...find a new passion and pursue it...spend some time with your grandmother, moms, sister, nieces - the women in your life that matter. You'll look up in a lil bit and find that your swagger has returned.

Some of the best advice I've heard on bgol...

But with my wife and I, when we were just dating, I had issues like that and I told her not to be so soft. When I get mad and yell or get to trippin, just tell me to shut the fuck up. Let me know and before I get to you let me know its gettin there. Soon as we started communicating our feelings better we got a lot closer. The key is to not sweat the small stuff and just be glad shes there with you at all. Especially if shes as awesome as you're making her to be... Go get ya Shawty mane..

 

[SaKem]

Well I have I don't know what's wrong with me I just can't help it I have had girls trying to please me and everything and I end up pushing them away for whatever reason I don't think I'm doing something silly like comparing them to ol girl but I maybe I don't know though I'm just working out and focusing on getting my doctorate and when opp comes I will make it happen

Nah man you just can't get any pussy cuz ur self esteem is shot and you're scared to go out and get bitches. Go out and start bagging bitches, ur getting pathetic. I'm just being honest. Your ex has prolly fucked like 20 dudes and has a new man. She doesn't give a fuck about you, and prolly hasn't since a day after the break-up.

 

[alexw]

Nah man you just can't get any pussy cuz ur self esteem is shot and you're scared to go out and get bitches. Go out and start bagging bitches, ur getting pathetic. I'm just being honest. Your ex has prolly fucked like 20 dudes and has a new man. She doesn't give a fuck about you, and prolly hasn't since a day after the break-up.

you put way too much value in pussy

dude like you, do this because you dont fuck regularly

the best thing a person can do is take time evaluate the relationship and then move on without the baggage

pussy doesnt change this at all

it so easy to see why feminists are winning

 

[True Real Info]

you put way too much value in pussy

dude like you, do this because you dont fuck regularly

the best thing a person can do is take time evaluate the relationship and then move on without the baggage

pussy doesnt change this at all

it so easy to see why feminists are winning

bingo...

 

[SaKem]

you put way too much value in pussy

dude like you, do this because you dont fuck regularly

the best thing a person can do is take time evaluate the relationship and then move on without the baggage

pussy doesnt change this at all

it so easy to see why feminists are winning

I fuck whenever I want. The best thing for YOUR bitch ass to do is walk around and sulk, I'm on to the next bitch, that's how I roll. Don't try to push your faggot crybaby shit on me. I don't keep baggage I keep it movin. You ugly ass cry baby ass bitch. YOU put too much value on pussy. You want to sit around for months and years trying to figure out why a bitch doesn't want to fuck anymore lolololol Meanwhile I've already started chillin with a new piece, and didn't waste time altering my fucking young life over a bitch. C'mon you bitch nigga get real.

 

[DoDaDamnThing]

new pussy is the best cure,,, sounds shallow until you try it,,, time is the next factor

Yes!!!

 

[alexw]

I fuck whenever I want. The best thing for YOUR bitch ass to do is walk around and sulk, I'm on to the next bitch, that's how I roll. Don't try to push your faggot crybaby shit on me. I don't keep baggage I keep it movin. You ugly ass cry baby ass bitch.

so new pussy makes you forget about a woman you loved?

yeah until you nut



you sound like a no pussy getting ass child

stop faking it bruh

its easy to spot you dudes acting like a player on the net (but somehow pussy is your answer to everything)

when a man is only focused on pussy its a clear indicator that you dont get none

players know pussy is just a 15-30 min toy...but go head pimpin

 

[SaKem]

so new pussy makes you forget about a woman you loved?

yeah until you nut



you sound like a no pussy getting ass child

stop faking it bruh

its easy to spot you dudes

Not everyone is a big cry baby like you. a week to two weeks is enough time to mope around like a bitch. If you want to mope around, GOOD FOR YOU. Realize there are dudes out there who aren't afraid of women who are on to the next. I don't have time to put all my time and energy into a bitch, I really don't. Do you know how many bad bitch there are out here??? I got over that sulking shit a long time ago, that shit is for suckers, and scary ass niggas like yourself.

 

[True Real Info]

so new pussy makes you forget about a woman you loved?

yeah until you nut



you sound like a no pussy getting ass child

stop faking it bruh

its easy to spot you dudes acting like a player on the net (but somehow pussy is your answer to everything)

when a man is only focused on pussy is a clear indicator that you dont get none

players no pussy is just a 15-30 min toy...but go head pimpin

I dont get some of these dudes..they advocate doing what some women do (ie go on the rebound immediately) to avoid their emotions yet call the dude a pussy for feeling emotions while simultaneously advocating that they should imitate how many women handle these situations! That puts the woman in question in control just like she wants it to be. respect the fact that you feel some kind of way and recover. Its not "her" that seems to be the focus, but rather what "you" did. Dont beat yourself up.

its simple

 

[SaKem]

so new pussy makes you forget about a woman you loved?

yeah until you nut



you sound like a no pussy getting ass child

stop faking it bruh

its easy to spot you dudes acting like a player on the net (but somehow pussy is your answer to everything)

when a man is only focused on pussy its a clear indicator that you dont get none

players know pussy is just a 15-30 min toy...but go head pimpin

YOU put too much value on pussy. You want to sit around for months and years trying to figure out why a bitch doesn't want to fuck anymore lolololol Meanwhile I've already started chillin with a new piece, and didn't waste time altering my fucking young life over a bitch. C'mon you bitch nigga get real.

 

[alexw]

Not everyone is a big cry baby like you. a week to two weeks is enough time to mope around like a bitch. If you want to mope around, GOOD FOR YOU. Realize there are dudes out there who aren't afraid of women who are on to the next. I don't have time to put all my time and energy into a bitch, I really don't. Do you know how many bad bitch there are out here??? I got over that sulking shit a long time ago, that shit is for suckers, and scary ass niggas like yourself.

man i know you bgol brothers dont have any emotions, any feelings....anything

you niggas are just the ultimate players from the school of tariq nasheed

i get you bruh

youre running from woman to woman because one fucked your head up

dude, i dont even think you are doing that....i just can tell niggas like you who rarely get ass at all

yall put pussy on the grandest of pedestals and then yall sweat the wackest bitches on porn message boards....

ive even seen you complain about dudes running females off the board

thats the ultimate i dont get any pussy in real life shit ive ever seen

i see through u dude....you may fool these dumb niggas but youre not fucking

 

[SaKem]

I dont get some of these dudes..they advocate doing what some women do (ie go on the rebound immediately) to avoid their emotions yet call the dude a pussy for feeling emotions while simultaneously advocating that they should imitate how many women handle these situations! That puts the woman in question in control just like she wants it to be. respect the fact that you feel some kind of way and recover. Its not "her" that seems to be the focus, but rather what "you" did. Dont beat yourself up.

its simple

You don't sit there and sulk like a bitch and alter your lifestyle. I'm the type of dude you gets at bitches NORMALLY. I also make sure I keep a bitch or two in the back pocket NORMALLY. So why would I alter my lifestyle because a bitch is not interested in continuing a relationship AHAHAHAHAHA what kind of faggot bullshit is that? You go back to your life man, nobody should be telling the OP to stop his life and sulk over a bitch. Men are supposed to get at bitches normally, there's nothing wrong with that. In fact, altering your lifestyle over a girl can put a hit on your self esteem. It's best to be normal.

 

[alexw]

YOU put too much value on pussy. You want to sit around for months and years trying to figure out why a bitch doesn't want to fuck anymore lolololol Meanwhile I've already started chillin with a new piece, and didn't waste time altering my fucking young life over a bitch. C'mon you bitch nigga get real.

dude, i can tell im hurting you deep by all the name calling in each of your responses

the truth fucking hurts doesnt it

that name calling doesnt bother me bruh

the fact is that all humans should sit down and evaluate their failed relationships

if you dont, youre going to carry that baggage into your next relationship and so on

but youre a player tho....you fuck mad hoes

why does it sound like you dont even believe that shit

most players dont brag about fucking...they brag about bitches buying them shit and so on

thats another reason why i can tell you aint getting no pussy man

stop fucking lying

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

i think getting my heart broken and taking a sincere self assessment was the best thing that could ever happen to me relationship wise.

the mistakes i was making needed to be addressed, needed to be inspected and corrected.

it also helped me to find a woman who was as suited to be with me as i was to be with her, rather than trying to be what i thought SHE WANTED me to be, and what i was OBLIGATED to be.

in the 90's i was caught up in the feminine ideology that men werent shit, and i set out to prove i was a "good man", not knowing that no matter how good you were if the woman wasnt SHIT, it DIDNT MATTER how GOOD you were.

as for your situation, you need to be real honest about her, cause you're painting her out to be a saint, and that is never the case. dont BLAME it all on her, but explore the possibility that she may have contributed to how shit went.

 

[SaKem]

man i know you bgol brothers dont have any emotions, any feelings....anything

you niggas are just the ultimate players from the school of tariq nasheed

i get you bruh

youre running from woman to woman because one fucked your head up

dude, i dont even think you are doing that....i just can tell niggas like you who rarely get ass at all

yall put pussy on the grandest of pedestals and then yall sweat the wackest bitches on porn message boards....

ive even seen you complain about dudes running females off the board

thats the ultimate i dont get any pussy in real life shit ive ever seen

i see through u dude....you may fool these dumb niggas but youre not fucking

I have plenty of emotions Idiot. However, I'm not going to alter my fucking lifestyle over a bitch. I've liked the chase for as long as I could remember, it's fun to me, why would I stop? Because some girl bounced with the next dude? c'mon man get your emotions in order. I think it's stupid to act like you don't have emotions as well, but that doesn't mean you stop your life. Like I said, if you're really that shocked take 2 weeks off. After that hit the streets. I don't have to try to prove shit to some internet guy, you don't know shit about me You don't know shit about my life, what I look like or how I roll. I don't even give a fuck about internet bitches, go find a post where I'm big upping some average or fat net bitch posted on here. Not everyone is ugly like you.

 

[True Real Info]

You don't sit there and sulk like a bitch and alter your lifestyle. I'm the type of dude you gets at bitches NORMALLY. I also make sure I keep a bitch or two in the back pocket NORMALLY. So why would I alter my lifestyle because a bitch is not interested in continuing a relationship AHAHAHAHAHA what kind of faggot bullshit is that? You go back to your life man, nobody should be telling the OP to stop his life and sulk over a bitch. Men are supposed to get at bitches normally, there's nothing wrong with that. In fact, altering your lifestyle over a girl can put a hit on your self esteem. It's best to be normal.

Did anybody suggest that he alter his lifestyle because of what a woman did to him??? Are we suggesting that he sit there and sulk his life away?? No. Our point is that he sees it for what it is, and move forward. Period.

Please point out where we suggest he "sulk like a bitch"

your whole argument is off base...

and your projecting...

I know dudes like you, all it takes is one cold female and she will have your nose wide open....then "bam"....she gets you..

yet you get "bad bitches" normally...