It's not an easy thing to get axed, but you have to admit that was the case and move on. If you are dealing with a person that ain't about you, then its always a loosing proposition anyway. Don't ever care more about someone who cares less about you.
BGOL, How did You Get Over Getting Your Heart Broke?
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Honestly ask yourself
If you got back together ... would anything really change?
or would it be worse?
If you got back together ... would anything really change?
or would it be worse?
Time will heal your mind and heart. Right now you are 24 and still young! Trust me there are at least 1 million other women of other races, nationalities who would appreciate, cooperate, and reciprocate the way you treated them. Obviously your ex did NOT otherwise she would be with you and remember, next time to dump the woman first before she dumbs you! Only 1 parachute in the dating game and the first one to get out first is the least likely to get hurt
on some real shit man.... im going through the same shit right now. been with wifey for almost 4 yrs and we juss broke up for real like a week ago. we are both at fault but we were also both very unhappy. she finally juss bounced now im fuckin depressed like a mofo and trying to keep busy to not think of her but boy is it hard lol. but like the other nigs said....juss try to find some new ass im in that faze as we speak.
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1. Whatever happens, don't go back. A man never walks back.<br/>
2. Millions of man who have their shit together emotionally, went through this. Now is your turn... Take it as a growth excercize.<br/>
3. Take as many numbers and go out with as many women. Not necessarily sleeping with them.<br/>
4. With time it will go away but the benefit will be that you know how shit feels and you'll not be as attached next time and so giving you control of all future relationships.<br/>
5. You'll feel better tomorrow...<br/>
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1. Whatever happens, don't go back. A man never walks back.<br/>
2. Millions of man who have their shit together emotionally, went through this. Now is your turn... Take it as a growth excercize.<br/>
3. Take as many numbers and go out with as many women. Not necessarily sleeping with them.<br/>
4. With time it will go away but the benefit will be that you know how shit feels and you'll not be as attached next time and so giving you control of all future relationships.<br/>
5. You'll feel better tomorrow...<br/>
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Man you are too young to be worried about shit like this. Go beast pussy for another two years then check back in. meh, make it three years. Peace
Using your pictorial analogy...you STILL should use temporary mending tho in addition to waiting for time to heal it...so it doesn't have to be some either/or or A to Z shit
This is probably the realist advice on this thread. Dont listen to most of these niggas. They barely leave the house much less interact with real women. Most of them will tell you to man up and fuck bitches. Thats the cold unemotional "lion when they really are a lamb" tough guy persona that dominates the internet. Most people who deal with females will get they hearts broken at least once, happens to the best of us. Nobody goes through life undefeated. Thats real life shit and it goes beyond trying to impress a bunch of chronic masturbators on this site
You got a handful of niggas on here who are real about they shit. Who aint burnt out, jaded cynics. There are a few in this post who are giving good advice.
My recipe.
Perspective: You might like x,y, and z about your ex, but the next chick you meet might be totally different and she might make u miss what you liked about the ex. Its just like when you eat chicken all of your life, and are suddenly introduced to turkey wings, different but still good as fuck. Also when you realize that you have your health, and your fam, some chick riding out you aint the end of the world.
Time:
When added with perspective and you see other interesting women out there you gonna get to the point where you say "damn i was silly thinking that the world revolved around that broad". Then you can fully move on.
Exactly...it doesn't hurt to have a distraction whether it's new pussy or a hobby or w/e...but just sitting back tryna bide time can be agonizing as hell if you don't have your mind on something else
Depends on the nigga...I'd be damn if I fuck 100 ho's and I'm still crying over 1...I would love to see the woman who could make me do that
If the above statement ain't the truth, but honestly man I don't know the answer it's been a couple years later and honestly I'm still stuck on her I guess I am waiting on someone that will replace her but to no avail they say time and other womenn will help but it hasn't, they say when I move on to the next phase of my life I will meet better newer women but I just don't know man I'm still struggling I lie awake at nite and think of the relationship and about her, did me breaking up with her help me or hurt me, I don't know, I just know that I was not happy where the relationship went man and it was changing me into someone I did not like I am sure I will move on but I don't know when
Yep.
OP, I've been in your shoes. Honestly it's been a while and I STILL think about her. Honestly, the main reason I probably "obsessed" over the chick is because of how pretty she was and her sex... and her cooking... and her cleaning.. and her.. aw hell. Bitch!
Back on topic. Realistically, expect to have her on your mind for a LONG time and just fucking other bitches ain't going to cure you. Just don't go emailing the broad and blowing her phone up. DO NOT STALK HER either fam... stop going to Facebook gazing at her pictures and trying to see who is hitting that. You going to see how much she really "care" about ya'lls break-up... and you AIN'T going to like it. 
Catching feelings on the holidays is a bitch, aint it?
Sounds like you was trying to be one with the emotional superiority role in the relationship. That shit sounds alot like me, fam. For some girls, it works. But a good girl with a decent head on their shoulders, that shit gets played out after awhile, son. The only types of girls who like constant belittlement or feelings of lowered self worth are the types you bitches you see on ghetto gaggers or meatholes.com Shit might be cool to beat off to, but would you really want to wife that up?
When she says sorry, take it and accept it, and let it go. Holding it over her (especially for some dumb minuscule shit like telling them something at 3am and expecting them to remember the whole shit) and bringing up shit from the past only pushes her further away. Getting mad over little things shows insecurity plus it also closes a fuckload of doors to communication. Why is your girl gonna tell you something, if she knows it's gonna make you mad. No matter what?
Kats on the board will clown you, but that's how they dealt with it. Sure, it is the fastest way to deal with a break up. They look back on when they caught feelings for a chick and now, they are embrassed or feel silly about the whole thing. In all honesty playa, this relationship will have very little insignificant impact on your entire life as a whole. The feelings you felt with that chick can be replicated but the time you spend dwelling on the what-ifs can not.
Most likely, you came to the board looking for answers and not judgement, start looking here and make your own conclusions.
Big props to 456.north.side for posting this. This helped open my eyes to alot of shit females think about and want from a long-term relationship. *WARNING* Do not use the information in this book to get yo chick back. Gave my bro the heads on this book after he went through a tough breakup and it backfired like a muthafucka. Being "supportive" in a non-committed relationship makes you a fucking simp. Word. It only works when both parties are willing to work things out.
[audiobook][fs] His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage
http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?t=570536&highlight=Building+Affair-Proof+Marriage
Next, props to (0_0)..l.. finger, cause this was like the final piece to my puzzle. You see, my ex never knew her father so she had mad daddy issues. Though there are many cases far and in-between, many girls look for a man with similar qualities to their prime father figure, or personified father figure. Many will never admit it or even realize it, but its there.
THE IMPORTANCE OF A FATHER'S LOVE IN THEIR DAUGHTER'S HEALTHY DEVELOPMENT
http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?t=637654&highlight=fathers+daughters
Lastly, Do you, homie. Even if you were to get her back, it would just happen again a few months down the road. If not her, then the next chick. Recognize your taste and patterns you have in women and figure out what attracts you to them. The next step IMO, is to weigh out your options with your long term goals and the type of girl that will fit with those goals. Takes the fucking butteflies and goosebumps out of finding true love but what life has taught me is that sometimes love isn't enough to make a relationship work. I hope you had a good christmas with the fam, playa.
Sounds like you was trying to be one with the emotional superiority role in the relationship. That shit sounds alot like me, fam. For some girls, it works. But a good girl with a decent head on their shoulders, that shit gets played out after awhile, son. The only types of girls who like constant belittlement or feelings of lowered self worth are the types you bitches you see on ghetto gaggers or meatholes.com Shit might be cool to beat off to, but would you really want to wife that up?
When she says sorry, take it and accept it, and let it go. Holding it over her (especially for some dumb minuscule shit like telling them something at 3am and expecting them to remember the whole shit) and bringing up shit from the past only pushes her further away. Getting mad over little things shows insecurity plus it also closes a fuckload of doors to communication. Why is your girl gonna tell you something, if she knows it's gonna make you mad. No matter what?
Kats on the board will clown you, but that's how they dealt with it. Sure, it is the fastest way to deal with a break up. They look back on when they caught feelings for a chick and now, they are embrassed or feel silly about the whole thing. In all honesty playa, this relationship will have very little insignificant impact on your entire life as a whole. The feelings you felt with that chick can be replicated but the time you spend dwelling on the what-ifs can not.
Most likely, you came to the board looking for answers and not judgement, start looking here and make your own conclusions.
Big props to 456.north.side for posting this. This helped open my eyes to alot of shit females think about and want from a long-term relationship. *WARNING* Do not use the information in this book to get yo chick back. Gave my bro the heads on this book after he went through a tough breakup and it backfired like a muthafucka. Being "supportive" in a non-committed relationship makes you a fucking simp. Word. It only works when both parties are willing to work things out.
[audiobook][fs] His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage
http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?t=570536&highlight=Building+Affair-Proof+Marriage
Next, props to (0_0)..l.. finger, cause this was like the final piece to my puzzle. You see, my ex never knew her father so she had mad daddy issues. Though there are many cases far and in-between, many girls look for a man with similar qualities to their prime father figure, or personified father figure. Many will never admit it or even realize it, but its there.
THE IMPORTANCE OF A FATHER'S LOVE IN THEIR DAUGHTER'S HEALTHY DEVELOPMENT
http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?t=637654&highlight=fathers+daughters
Lastly, Do you, homie. Even if you were to get her back, it would just happen again a few months down the road. If not her, then the next chick. Recognize your taste and patterns you have in women and figure out what attracts you to them. The next step IMO, is to weigh out your options with your long term goals and the type of girl that will fit with those goals. Takes the fucking butteflies and goosebumps out of finding true love but what life has taught me is that sometimes love isn't enough to make a relationship work. I hope you had a good christmas with the fam, playa.
Good Luck Bruh.. i feel u tho..Never question ur own judgement. Finding the perfect girl is hard as hell, but settling with a bitch u dont really want or cant give ur all to will fuck u over even more somehow some way... If u were with a chic for 5 yrs..u need another 5 away from her to counter act tht shit, but only if u really loved her...imho
lol If ur going thru it....Do not, I repeat..Do not listen to slow Songs.
Uh, get her back. I know it's not the standard bgol answer but I'm happily married and don't play that hardcore shit.
You already realized your mistakes, if she meant that much to you and you can change, prove it to her and get her back.
New pussy will not do it since you keep comparing them to her. If you can't get her back, tough shit, time will heal, in the mean time stop comparing others to her, you might be missing out on something great.
Good luck!
You already realized your mistakes, if she meant that much to you and you can change, prove it to her and get her back.
New pussy will not do it since you keep comparing them to her. If you can't get her back, tough shit, time will heal, in the mean time stop comparing others to her, you might be missing out on something great.
Good luck!
Ah, fuck whatever anyone else is saying, what I'm about to tell you is REAL TALK and is 100% fail proof.
First of all, watch her house without being detected. If possible, try and a get a view of her changing or showering all times of the day. Get some good binoculars or a telescope if you wish.
Second of all, if you find out she's seeing a new guy, this is what you do. The next time they are together, burst in the house, tie them both up and pistol whip both of their asses (if you don't have a gun, a bat will suffice). Tie them up and pour gasoline over them and the whole room. Then smear their blood over your chest and make tribal signs with it. Then light a match and leave the room.
Go outside and start dancing and singing tribal songs under the moon while they both burn down. Give or take, the police should come in under 20minutes and they'll take you away. You should get given a charge of two first degree murders and you'll have plenty of time to heal and you'll be begging for new pussy in no time.
First of all, watch her house without being detected. If possible, try and a get a view of her changing or showering all times of the day. Get some good binoculars or a telescope if you wish.
Second of all, if you find out she's seeing a new guy, this is what you do. The next time they are together, burst in the house, tie them both up and pistol whip both of their asses (if you don't have a gun, a bat will suffice). Tie them up and pour gasoline over them and the whole room. Then smear their blood over your chest and make tribal signs with it. Then light a match and leave the room.
Go outside and start dancing and singing tribal songs under the moon while they both burn down. Give or take, the police should come in under 20minutes and they'll take you away. You should get given a charge of two first degree murders and you'll have plenty of time to heal and you'll be begging for new pussy in no time.
<div style="margin:0; padding:0; font-size:13px; font-family:verdana">I respect everything others have said, whatever you decide to do, don't go back. Take your time with this. You might even find out the real reason she left - no the sugar coated sh*t she just gave you. Maybe some loser promised to marry her...
You need this lesson in your life... [One day your son will be in this position. Just think what you will tell him.]
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You need this lesson in your life... [One day your son will be in this position. Just think what you will tell him.]
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Get a hobby or something to do that makes you happy so that'll keep your mind off of it. If you just sit around acting all miserable and shit, you might get emotional and do some shit you'll regret (like trying to talk to her again). You'll need time to get over it so you might as well find something to do with your time.
See that's the problem with you niggaz. You get hurt and the first thing you do is go out and bag a bunch of low levels and create an addiction and a hate for women. That's the way soft niggaz hide their feelings. Then you are more fucked up than you were before. Or jump into a another fucked up relationship and end up with a baby with some rat. I see it happen all the time.
Take time and be by your self homie. Take a break from women period. Atleast two or three months to focus on nothing but you. Get your mind right and get your body right. Don't even look for women but trust they'll be flocking to you. Say focused in school. With out a girl your money will be right too. Stack what you can.
Do shit by your self some times. No homiez just you. Before the years out a dime will fall in your lap. She'll be in the places you go by yourself doing the same shit you are doing. Chilling by her self. This is 100% fool proof, trust.
Take time and be by your self homie. Take a break from women period. Atleast two or three months to focus on nothing but you. Get your mind right and get your body right. Don't even look for women but trust they'll be flocking to you. Say focused in school. With out a girl your money will be right too. Stack what you can.
Do shit by your self some times. No homiez just you. Before the years out a dime will fall in your lap. She'll be in the places you go by yourself doing the same shit you are doing. Chilling by her self. This is 100% fool proof, trust.
If all else fails...
Stalk that bitch
Stalk that bitch
Seriously its time. Stings for a while but if you're doing other things to keep busy and socializing with new females it'll pass.
Sent from my Rezound
Sent from my Rezound
There is nothing wrong with loving someone. There is no set time table for getting over a relationship. Sometimes it it takes a couple of days/weeks to months to get over someone.
Don't deny that you love her because that is only going to delay the grieving process. Never kick it with females just to use them as therapy to get over your ex. That will only lead to prolonged grieving. What happens is that you will kick it with these random females for therapy who are not complete and the qualities they lack will reming you more of the qualities that your ex had.
Honestly,you just have to do what the old saying says and that is to "Sweat it out". It will be tough but just do it.
Trying to get her back maybe a bad move. Sometimes as humans we cant see past our own nose. This woman may seem all world but in a year or two you may laugh at the thought of wanting her so badly.
All you can do know is prepare yourself for the next female. To be a fine, sexy, and handsome brotha that women trip over their feet to get to dont require a gym body, 12 inch dick, a beautiful face or drive a Bentely. The man only has to have a dream(plan) and females will follow. This means be about business. Women are suckers for mysterious men. A quite but confident man is a magnet for chicks. They will wonder why you dont sweat the females in the office like all the other men do and why you ignore their advances. This makes them more aggressive in pursuing you.
So be about business, stay clean with your dress attire and you will get another chance at love
Don't deny that you love her because that is only going to delay the grieving process. Never kick it with females just to use them as therapy to get over your ex. That will only lead to prolonged grieving. What happens is that you will kick it with these random females for therapy who are not complete and the qualities they lack will reming you more of the qualities that your ex had.
Honestly,you just have to do what the old saying says and that is to "Sweat it out". It will be tough but just do it.
Trying to get her back maybe a bad move. Sometimes as humans we cant see past our own nose. This woman may seem all world but in a year or two you may laugh at the thought of wanting her so badly.
All you can do know is prepare yourself for the next female. To be a fine, sexy, and handsome brotha that women trip over their feet to get to dont require a gym body, 12 inch dick, a beautiful face or drive a Bentely. The man only has to have a dream(plan) and females will follow. This means be about business. Women are suckers for mysterious men. A quite but confident man is a magnet for chicks. They will wonder why you dont sweat the females in the office like all the other men do and why you ignore their advances. This makes them more aggressive in pursuing you.
So be about business, stay clean with your dress attire and you will get another chance at love
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Exaaactly.
Time and Acceptance heals all wounds...What doesnt kill you will make you stronger..
Funny this thread was made, I'm at work talking about that earlier, honestly it hurts I'm still tryna get over it after 5yrs, now while I still date and shit it still lingers, just keep it moving and try to get over it.........
What that gone solve?
Everything. She'll think they broke up but he'll know they are still together.
We all know every nigga on BGOL is a pimp that fucks 4-5 different dimes a week, broads that are finer than the baddest bitches posted on here dailywe know we know but on some real shit, I was just looking for advice from the BGOL fam on Christmas. Niggas can come in here and clown, that's expected but I've been on BGOL since I was 16 (I'm 24 now) and I've just gotten so much good advice from cats on here over the years about a lot of things that I apply to my life. So here's my question, for the cats that have had to deal with a really tough break up with a woman they loved, how did you handle it?
For most of this year, I was with this really amazing girl. To make a really long story short, her feelings towards me changed over the course of the relationship because of the way I would be at times. Holding on to grudges, not being patient, being too prideful, not being understanding, being quick tempered.. I can honestly say that at times, I was really an asshole to her. Not in the sense that I treated her badly at all.. but for example: if we were meeting up and she was late, 15-20 minutes, no matter the reason, I would just be really mad. I'd talk to her about it and she'd sincerely apologize but I'd stay mad for 20-30 minutes after the fact.. not talking to her at all, instead of just brushing it off and it would just kill the vibe between us after I got over it. There were a lot of other times small things like this happened and it got in the way of us.
I thought because I treated her really well and that because I was always a good boyfriend to her in terms of my actions that my behavior at times would just be overlooked by her but eventually the fighting just became too much and although we had an amazing relationship outside of the bickering, we couldn't get past the bullshit.
Eventually, we broke up and I just haven't been able to shake her off. I'm in university full time, I work part time, I volunteer, kick it with my niggas weekly, I'm always meeting girls at schools and different events, I'm kickin it with these broads, I hoop weekly but my ex is just still on my mind. None of the girls I talk to compare to her at all. I don't even have any interest in these girls, even though a lot of them are fine as hell and really cool. She's always on my mind. I was with my one ex for years and when we broke up, I wasn't upset about it like this at all but it's different with this girl.
I know there's cats on the board who's been in my shoes, that's why I'm asking. How did you get over someone that you really loved and cared about?
Time and doing what you doing: keeping busy. But mainly, taking the time to heal...
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