Ask a black man a question thread (for the ladies that want to know)

[BrownTurd]

Re: Ask a man thread (for the ladies that want to know)

But if his only intention with her is sex then wether she makes him wait or not he will end up just fucking her and leaving right???

So how is a woman supposed to differentiate between a guy that is "testing" her and a guy that is a straight up dog???

This is a very easy answer. Don't make a man have to lie to get the sex. If you do this then he would not lie. Try not to tie sex and a relationship together. Men tend to have sex because they choose to...but women tend to have sex for an exchange of something. Meaning she may want to have sex with him but put stipulations on the sex unless he provides her with some sort of label or relationship.

This is the wrong way to go about things with a man. In a mans head he is thinking...I know she wants me to hit...so let me feed her this story that she wants to hear. Funny thing is that half the time you woman know he is lying but you just want to hear it.

 

[BrownTurd]

Why are men so ungrateful when you do something nice for them??? This guy I was seeing told me how he loves lazagna ... I went out of my way to learn how to make it and cooked it for him ... he takes his first bite and says "next time put some more cheese on it" ... he didn't say thank you for trying or I appreciate you going out of your way for me or nothing

In this situation you were allowing your emotions to control you. If you really wanted to please him then accept the mild criticism he gave you. All he did was tell you how he likes his lasagna. This goes back to what I said earlier about how women indirectly force men to lie to them. You would have preferred him lie and say he loved it instead of telling you the truth.

 

[LoneStar29]

I wanted him to say thank you along with the criticism ... show some appreciation of my efforts ... is that a bad thing???

And your suggesting that women have casual sex with men in the hopes that one will decide to settle down???

 

[BigUnc]

In this situation you were allowing your emotions to control you. If you really wanted to please him then accept the mild criticism he gave you. All he did was tell you how he likes his lasagna. This goes back to what I said earlier about how women indirectly force men to lie to them. You would have preferred him lie and say he loved it instead of telling you the truth.

I would have to respectfully disagree with this sentiment. If a woman goes out of her way to learn something new to show how she's feelin' a man and the first thing out that man's mouth is something negative then he's being an ungrateful asshole. He shouldn't expect that kind of effort to be repeated and probably has closed the door to many other possibilities.

 

[sexylegz33]

O.K., here's my question. How often should a healthy 39 year old black man want to fuck his woman? Is once a week really enough? Cause I really want it, need it more often. Just had to go in the bathroom with my beaver and make my own legs tremble cause he was snoring by the time I got out of the shower.

 

[Harbinger]

O.K., here's my question. How often should a healthy 39 year old black man want to fuck his woman? Is once a week really enough? Cause I really want it, need it more often. Just had to go in the bathroom with my beaver and make my own legs tremble cause he was snoring by the time I got out of the shower.

Could be many things. Has he always been this way? Does he work a lot? Is his environment stressful?

These are all things that can affect his sex drive. Is he steppin' out on you? Is he attracted to you?

In general, I think the average man in his late thirties to early forties has sex 2-3 times a week. (if married) I think it's about once every 2-3 WEEKS if single and not cohabitating.

So depending on whether y'all are married or living apart, he may be ahead of the curve.

 

[BigUnc]

O.K., here's my question. How often should a healthy 39 year old black man want to fuck his woman? Is once a week really enough? Cause I really want it, need it more often. Just had to go in the bathroom with my beaver and make my own legs tremble cause he was snoring by the time I got out of the shower.

Depends on the individual. I would have to ask too many questions that's none of my business to probe what's going on with him.Generally speaking, Is this normal behavior or a change? Has it happened before then he got back in the saddle? Things like that.

Good luck

 

[sean69]

Why are men so ungrateful when you do something nice for them??? This guy I was seeing told me how he loves lazagna ... I went out of my way to learn how to make it and cooked it for him ... he takes his first bite and says "next time put some more cheese on it" ... he didn't say thank you for trying or I appreciate you going out of your way for me or nothing

Yo, just fucking put some more cheese in it!! ... jesus fuckin Christ!!
It's like pulling teeth with y'all. Gawd!

Why do fat guys complain about women being too big???

Because she's big.

Why does it take a woman walking out or leaving the relationship for a man to decide "I love her, damn she's the one"?

Because sometimes when you throw away an emoty box of Rice Crispys and then you realize that it's some cereal that was left in it, you're like

"ffffaaaaaccckkk!!!" And then you want it even more now.

Why do men find it completely okay to share women? I don't understand the whole mentality of keeping a female around that has had sex with 2 and 3 of your boys as well as you.

You mean ho's right? That was a typo?

Why do men feel like it is okay to tell their girl "no sex right now I'm watching the game or something... but if she even acts like she doesn't want it when he comes calling for it, there is a problem?

Cuz if he mistakenly suddenly and distractedly nuts in your nose while you're givin' him head with no hands during the game because Dick Bevetta called a bullshit blocking foul then you're gonna get mad and be like "Yo WTF!! WTF!!! and star slapping him and he's gon be like ... and then the answer to your question will now be obvious.

No Collin.

Why don't men think about who they get pregnant before they do it? I mean is it really to hard for you to take a second and realize that that female in the corner of the club probably won't make a good mother...So wear a damn condom and at least act like you weren't trying to get caught up...

Because the relative functional viability of our cerebral cortex is inversely proportional to regio-intravenous dick rheology when we see this ...

... or this ...

... and we picture this walking to the room ...

... and then this ...

... in our minds ...


... and later that night driving home we're like ...

Why do men always think they can come back whenver they want to?

Why do women always think it's their house?

Why is is so hard to believe that you can tell the truth to a female and still get what you want? I mean I am capable of making a decision based on reality and not what you think I want to hear and you just might be surprised by my answer..

Because you and most of the rest of the females on this thread will respond to my answers with this ...

O.K., here's my question. How often should a healthy 39 year old black man want to fuck his woman? Is once a week really enough? Cause I really want it, need it more often. Just had to go in the bathroom with my beaver and make my own legs tremble cause he was snoring by the time I got out of the shower.

Beavergrown?

 

[bigirl]

Because you are an enabler of his shit...


A stray dog will continue to go to a house if the owner continues to feed it. Even if the food is not that good...


Stop feeding him.


*two cents*

I don't like you stop replying to my posts put me on your ignore list

 

[BrownTurd]

I wanted him to say thank you along with the criticism ... show some appreciation of my efforts ... is that a bad thing???

And your suggesting that women have casual sex with men in the hopes that one will decide to settle down???

Sex will never lure a man into a relationship. He could have said thank you but it was not needed. When you do something from the heart validation is not needed. I feel you blew that way out of proportion.

 

[BrownTurd]

I would have to respectfully disagree with this sentiment. If a woman goes out of her way to learn something new to show how she's feelin' a man and the first thing out that man's mouth is something negative then he's being an ungrateful asshole. He shouldn't expect that kind of effort to be repeated and probably has closed the door to many other possibilities.

How is saying you should have put some cheese on it disrespectful Now I am not trying to categorize and say all women do this...but I hear women say often that they want their man to be honest with them. This guy was being honest. Women wonder why men lie. Because if we tell the truth just like in your reply... privileges and other things get cut off. Now yall making the brotha eat some nasty as lasagna over and over again because if he tells the truth shit will start to get cut off. It seem like some women would have preferred him to have lied and said baby this was the bomb. Simple remedy....just put some more cheese on it

 

[BrownTurd]

Why does it take a woman walking out or leaving the relationship for a man to decide "I love her, damn she's the one"?

A man will never close the door on some pussy. It is as simple as that. Goes back to what I said earlier about women not wanting to hear the truth. The truth was in his actions. He told you what type of person he was. Now he is just telling you what you wanted to hear.

Why do men find it completely okay to share women? I don't understand the whole mentality of keeping a female around that has had sex with 2 and 3 of your boys as well as you.

Because it is just sex. Men don't tie sex together with love and relationships.

Why do men feel like it is okay to tell their girl "no sex right now I'm watching the game or something... but if she even acts like she doesn't want it when he comes calling for it, there is a problem?

Because he is watching the game. Never understood why some women don't understand this. Give the brotha his two hours to watch the game. There is always time for sex...But Kobe Bryant hitting that buzzer beater after coming back from 20 points down in the 4th with 8 minutes left can never be replaced.

Why don't men think about who they get pregnant before they do it? I mean is it really to hard for you to take a second and realize that that female in the corner of the club probably won't make a good mother...So wear a damn condom and at least act like you weren't trying to get caught up...

This is equally both people fault

Why do men always think they can come back whenver they want to?

Like I said before. Men never close the door on some pussy. we know that all women don't operate off logic and truth. We know that in some cases all we have to do is feed into her fantasy and simply tell her whats she wants to hear and we good.

Why is is so hard to believe that you can tell the truth to a female and still get what you want? I mean I am capable of making a decision based on reality and not what you think I want to hear and you just might be surprised by my answer..

Look at some of the answer to Lonestar about her cooking Lasagna. Also this is for my women. Why do you need validation if you already know. Men don't need to hear the truth from a female. If we have evidence then we proceed with our case without a confession. We know you are going to lie anyway so why waist time

...

 

[LoneStar29]

How is saying you should have put some cheese on it disrespectful Now I am not trying to categorize and say all women do this...but I hear women say often that they want their man to be honest with them. This guy was being honest. Women wonder why men lie. Because if we tell the truth just like in your reply... privileges and other things get cut off. Now yall making the brotha eat some nasty as lasagna over and over again because if he tells the truth shit will start to get cut off. It seem like some women would have preferred him to have lied and said baby this was the bomb. Simple remedy....just put some more cheese on it

Never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever insult my lazagna again ... EVER I cook from the heart and my food is never nasty so GTFOH with that bullshit

I don't think you are or want to pay attention ... I never said I had a problem with the criticism ... my problem is that he didn't show any sort of appreciation along with it ... a simple "thanks but next time put more cheese on it" would have been fine ... some of ya'll aint got no gat damn manners and act as if a woman owes you all this nice treatment ... but with an attitude like that you wont get any good treatment from women

 

[LoneStar29]

How is saying you should have put some cheese on it disrespectful Now I am not trying to categorize and say all women do this...but I hear women say often that they want their man to be honest with them. This guy was being honest. Women wonder why men lie. Because if we tell the truth just like in your reply... privileges and other things get cut off. Now yall making the brotha eat some nasty as lasagna over and over again because if he tells the truth shit will start to get cut off. It seem like some women would have preferred him to have lied and said baby this was the bomb. Simple remedy....just put some more cheese on it

Never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever insult my lazagna again ... EVER I cook from the heart and my food is never nasty so GTFOH with that bullshit

I don't think you are or want to pay attention ... I never said I had a problem with the criticism ... my problem is that he didn't show any sort of appreciation along with it ... a simple "thanks but next time put more cheese on it" would have been fine ... some of ya'll aint got no gat damn manners and act as if a woman owes you all this nice treatment when we don't ... a little appreciation is all I ask for ... and btw I say thank you all the time

Edit: BTW even he eventually figured out that he was being an ass ... but by that time I was already gone sooooooooooooooooooo

 

[patience54]

He did behave badly about the lasagna. And I suspect that was only one brief example of his general stumbling and bumbling along.

After giving some praise for the effort, he could have waited a few days before even mentioning the cheese. A casual, "Honey, I was thinking. Maybe if..."

It's not what you say, but how and when you say it.

 

[LoneStar29]

He did behave badly about the lasagna. And I suspect that was only one brief example of his general stumbling and bumbling along.

After giving some praise for the effort, he could have waited a few days before even mentioning the cheese. A casual, "Honey, I was thinking. Maybe if..."

It's not what you say, but how and when you say it.

Exactly ... he had a habit of acting like he had a sense of entitlement ... like I owed him all this wodnerful treatment ... I did actually try to make him happy but his ungratefulness turned me off and I stopped seeing him

A few years went by and we became friends again nothing more and he would tell me how much he missed the way I took care of him and that he felt bad for the way he treated me cuz he didn't meet another girl that was liek em after ... he tried to get back with me but my feelings for him were done so

 

[sexylegz33]

Could be many things. Has he always been this way? Does he work a lot? Is his environment stressful?

These are all things that can affect his sex drive. Is he steppin' out on you? Is he attracted to you?

In general, I think the average man in his late thirties to early forties has sex 2-3 times a week. (if married) I think it's about once every 2-3 WEEKS if single and not cohabitating.

So depending on whether y'all are married or living apart, he may be ahead of the curve.

Well guess it could be stress related, IDK. Is he attracted to me? Well if he aint he must be blind! But yeah, I guess he is we still do it once a week. Maybe he's steppin out! We live together but until he sublets his apartment, he still goes there twice a week after work.

Thanks

 

[sexylegz33]

Yo, just fucking put some more cheese in it!! ... jesus fuckin Christ!!
It's like pulling teeth with y'all. Gawd!





Because she's big.





Because sometimes when you throw away an emoty box of Rice Crispys and then you realize that it's some cereal that was left in it, you're like

"ffffaaaaaccckkk!!!" And then you want it even more now.



You mean ho's right? That was a typo?





Cuz if he mistakenly suddenly and distractedly nuts in your nose while you're givin' him head with no hands during the game because Dick Bevetta called a bullshit blocking foul then you're gonna get mad and be like "Yo WTF!! WTF!!! and star slapping him and he's gon be like ... and then the answer to your question will now be obvious.

No Collin.






Because the relative functional viability of our cerebral cortex is inversely proportional to regio-intravenous dick rheology when we see this ...

... or this ...

... and we picture this walking to the room ...

... and then this ...

... in our minds ...


... and later that night driving home we're like ...

Why do women always think it's their house?






Because you and most of the rest of the females on this thread will respond to my answers with this ...






Beavergrown?

??? The Beaver is one of my toys. I don't have a big collection; I have a rabbit, bullet, and a beaver.

 

[sean69]

??? The Beaver is one of my toys. I don't have a big collection; I have a rabbit, bullet, and a beaver.

Rabbit, beaver and a bullet ... sounds like the aftermath of a rodent hunting expedition.

Get it?

No seriously, where's the grown?

 

[mzmillion]

I'm loving this thread, funny and honest.

 

[patience54]

Exactly ... he had a habit of acting like he had a sense of entitlement ... like I owed him all this wodnerful treatment ... I did actually try to make him happy but his ungratefulness turned me off and I stopped seeing him

A few years went by and we became friends again nothing more and he would tell me how much he missed the way I took care of him and that he felt bad for the way he treated me cuz he didn't meet another girl that was liek em after ... he tried to get back with me but my feelings for him were done so

My experience tells me this happens in both directions. I've met my fair share of women with a sense of entitlement, and I can say it is exasperating. In my humble opinion, anyone with a sense of entitlement is delusional.

Nonetheless, there are no shortage of people who cling to their sense of entitlement, to their arrogance, to their habits of self-absorption, to their own little vicious circle of me, me, me.

Yet they have attributes that obviously appeal to us, and we gravitate toward them like lemmings. Most of us have done it at one time or another. Many of us repeat that behavior pattern. For men, it's generally written off as the little brain dominating the big brain. For women, it's couched in the belief they can change him or he will change. Are we that gullible as human beings that we can't see, or choose not to see, the little tales of self-deception we weave? Do we even want to? Or would we rather go through it and then complain about it afterward?

 

[dwnsouth]

O.K., here's my question. How often should a healthy 39 year old black man want to fuck his woman? Is once a week really enough? Cause I really want it, need it more often. Just had to go in the bathroom with my beaver and make my own legs tremble cause he was snoring by the time I got out of the shower.

depends on if he is in shape....what kind of work does he do. is all his energy used up doing his day job? I would say that 2-3 times on M-F and at least 2 or more times on Sa-Su.

for me if i start to become lazy it affects my performance in the bedroom. but if my work days is somewhat busy, i am just as energized when it comes to that night for sex. strange i know....plus if i work out here and there...raising the heart rate, my sex get longer and more often (like every other day or every day)

 

[dwnsouth]

Well guess it could be stress related, IDK. Is he attracted to me? Well if he aint he must be blind! But yeah, I guess he is we still do it once a week. Maybe he's steppin out! We live together but until he sublets his apartment, he still goes there twice a week after work.

Thanks

stress my ass.....I use to pass on sleep for sex knowing i had major meetings the next morning. I would suspect that he is stepping out....or had enough of you and is going through the motions, till he can find another place to live. The last thing he want is to be kicked out with no place to go....

 

[Naha-Nago]

I don't like you stop replying to my posts put me on your ignore list

1. When you throw a rock into a pack of dogs, the one that yelps is the one that got hit... Which is you.


2. I'm not your man, your "boo", or that nigga you letting come over your place all the time and lazy fuck you so your emotions, or the fact that you "don't like me" do not concern me. I bet your emotions don't concern Mr. Lazy-Fuck either thus the lazy fucking...


3. Put me on your ignore list... Your the one yelping...





THANKS FOR RESPONDING! JESUS SAVES!

*two cents*

 

[jjUSTAZZ]

I'm loving this thread, funny and honest.

I'm loving your sig.... Just saying...

 

[onyxfemme]

THIS PIC IS HOT!!!!!!!!!!!! SIG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Harbinger]

I like this thread and idea!

I hope it stays positive
It better stay positive dayum it!!!!

I hope that some of the other fellas chime in and post in response to questions.

I have one:

Why do men tell women what they want to hear when they know they are telling them wrong. I know a dude that gave a sista wrong advice that made her look foolish and stupid and she doesnt even have a clue
But now dude is laughing at her behind her back at how gullible she is.....WTF?

I think some of y'all that answered this, overthought it. The guy that gave the advice, wasn't in a relationship with the girl, he apparently just didn't like her, and decided to have some fun at her expense.

 

[mpthaking89]

I don't want to sound like a jerk, but most of the problems

women have with men is usually THEIR faults. I think it's

because of how naive almost all women are. Women do not realize

how much power they have over men. You pick and choose who you

decide to have sex with. You pick and choose how long you want

to stay in a relationship with a man (how often do you hear

about a man breaking up with a woman? Exactly, it's rare). I do

not get how a grown woman will continue to keep dating these

losers guys and not learn to pick up on the type of bad men that

are out there. Lol some of ya'll really got some nerve to come

on here and complain. Men are not that complicated. Initially,

we will want to have sex with ANY woman we find attractive. If

she is a decent girl with a good head on her shoulders, we will

procede to become serious with this woman and we will continue

to chase this woman. (THIS IS HOW YOU KNOW IF A GUY IS REALLY

INTERESTED IN YOU) Now, the man will still want to fuck you or

else he would'nt talk to you..sorry..that's just how guys

operate, but if you can honestly say you are a decent and level

headed girl AND you haven't given up the pussy yet AND this man

is still chasing you and trying to do nice things for you and

being respectful to you, THAT MEANS HE's INTO YOU!! Is that so

hard to understand?? no. Women do it the other way around. They

have to feel emotionally connected to a guy before she gets into a relationship with him and wants to have sex. Guys want an attractive, decent kind girl that they want to fuck, but want her to make HIM feel like he's the only guy she wants.

Woman!! stop being so dumb! If a guy isn't making you happy just call it off with him cause he most likely won't break up with you... and don't compromise for nothing less until you get a better guy than the last one you had.

 

[Harbinger]

I'll bite.

What one quality is the common thread for all your past (real) loves? This could be physical traits or "otherwise"; however, I am mostly looking for "otherwise".

What hooked you?

Hmmm....interesting question. Beyond the physical, I look for high self esteem, and high self worth. Women with low self esteem tend to be self destructive, passive aggressive, and expect you to be responsible for their happiness. I don't want to save you or take care of you, I'm looking for a person to complement me.

As I always say ladies, bring something to the table other than just a wet pussy.

 

[Harbinger]

thanks for answering don and swat

i got a few more

so whats up with these guys that feel comfortable (and sometimes expect) for a woman to financially support them

These men are worthless, don't even waste your time. And stop trying to save them, and getting upset when they just take advantage of you.

is a woman ages 30 and up unmarried "damaged goods'?

Not necessarily, but if she's been burned repeatedly, most likely she's got some major baggage.

is it really true a way to a man's heart is thur his stomach

I think this is very important to most men. It actually shows you have some potential to be a homemaker.

what makes a woman special to you

This is too broad a question, but essentially "do unto others..."

is a sexually experienced woman intimadating or a turn off?

Of course not. On the other hand if I find myself falling into the pussy........well, I wasn't expecting her to have been run thru by a major sports franchise either.

what are some redflags/turnoffs/deal breakers u do not tolerate

Immediate talk of committment/marriage. And for gods sake, be neat and well groomed, can't stand sloppy, messily dressed women.

i would like to elaborate more on dating outside your socio-economic status...expecially u don...what were some of the problems as a man u experienced...and being u end up having to do it more often are there things u do make the situation work??

Most men do not want a woman that makes more money than he does. This fucks up the entire hunter/gatherer process. Alpha males find this especially difficult to deal with.

i love picking yall's brain

 

[DV8ed]

Because you are an enabler of his shit...


A stray dog will continue to go to a house if the owner continues to feed it. Even if the food is not that good...


Stop feeding him.


*two cents*

I don't like you stop replying to my posts put me on your ignore list

You mean that you don't like him because he struck a nerve, so don't bother telling you the truth.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

I don't want to sound like a jerk, but most of the problems

women have with men is usually THEIR faults. I think it's

because of how naive almost all women are. Women do not realize

how much power they have over men. You pick and choose who you

decide to have sex with. You pick and choose how long you want

to stay in a relationship with a man (how often do you hear

about a man breaking up with a woman? Exactly, it's rare). I do

not get how a grown woman will continue to keep dating these

losers guys and not learn to pick up on the type of bad men that

are out there. Lol some of ya'll really got some nerve to come

on here and complain. Men are not that complicated. Initially,

we will want to have sex with ANY woman we find attractive. If

she is a decent girl with a good head on her shoulders, we will

procede to become serious with this woman and we will continue

to chase this woman. (THIS IS HOW YOU KNOW IF A GUY IS REALLY

INTERESTED IN YOU) Now, the man will still want to fuck you or

else he would'nt talk to you..sorry..that's just how guys

operate, but if you can honestly say you are a decent and level

headed girl AND you haven't given up the pussy yet AND this man

is still chasing you and trying to do nice things for you and

being respectful to you, THAT MEANS HE's INTO YOU!! Is that so

hard to understand?? no. Women do it the other way around. They

have to feel emotionally connected to a guy before she gets into a relationship with him and wants to have sex. Guys want an attractive, decent kind girl that they want to fuck, but want her to make HIM feel like he's the only guy she wants.

Woman!! stop being so dumb! If a guy isn't making you happy just call it off with him cause he most likely won't break up with you... and don't compromise for nothing less until you get a better guy than the last one you had.

Dude, prepare for the crucifixion. (if it hasn't already happened)

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

Great thread so far.


Why is it when you break up with someone or they break up with you,they still try to catch an attitude if you are dating someone? I mean like questioning who you are talking to,etc...Then when you bring up the fact that you aren't together,they go into asshole mode.

 

[P.L.]

(Takes a look around) good job, carry on, carry on. Oh hey S.S.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

Great thread so far.


Why is it when you break up with someone or they break up with you,they still try to catch an attitude if you are dating someone? I mean like questioning who you are talking to,etc...Then when you bring up the fact that you aren't together,they go into asshole mode.

Probably because human beings (regardless of gender) have emotions and are territorial to some degree.

If you've been in a long relationship with someone and there's a breakup, it usually takes sometime to move on emotionally.

Some people handle breakups better than others.