who wants to be a stepfather in the last 30 years? Dont we CLOWN dudes and call them SIMPS for stepping to take care of another mans kid? lets not act like that hasn't happened.
Yes we do, but what does that have to do with a guy dealing with a woman with a kid nowadays, which is the standard? Most stepfathers don't decide to just jump into the role, it's part of the package when they get involved with the mother.
You want talk about how shit went down some 30 years ago?? Remember that song U.N.I.T.Y by Queen Latifah back in the early 90s? You know what inspired it? She went to the Greek Picnic and saw Black men calling women bitch and ho so much and so fluidly thats she was just fuckin shocked. Thus the song.
Where did that come from?
So, wait...you're comparing a song & women being called out of their name to the current climate of these wild ass kids & women that choose to go against all reason to "do them"? That's foolish.
I guess the song does work...just not how you think it does. If you listen to the song, even Latifah had
NO PROBLEM with being called a bitch or a ho, long as you just "playing". So why is it a problem then? Either you stand for something or nothing. This is the crux of female logic. They paint in colors, then expect you to "know" what part of the rainbow they on today. Ain't no black man gonna let somebody call him "jigaboo", just playing but get mad when somebody says it for real. Stand for something or nothing.
theres a PERCEPTION of black women rejecting black men but somehow they keep managing to HAVE BABIES? Now how the hell is that happening??
You misunderstand. Black women reject black men that have some semblance of responsibility, standards & maturity for immature, childish men, all under the guise of living their best lives. I have no issue with women enjoying their youth, don't get me wrong. But you know the analogy of the lock & the key, right? And what do these women do? They get impregnated by those immature, childish men & expect them to be the responsible, mature men they rejected previously. When they are not (big surprise!!!), they then go on a mission to boost their ego with foolishness like being the baddest bitch & men having to meet bullshit requirement to even have a conversation with them.
Then, when all of this bites them in the ass, they try running for that mature, responsible man...who is mature & responsible enough to steer faaaar away from the shit show that is their lives. Spurned by the mature men, used for sex & materialism by the immature men, the women then decides to group all men into an ain't shit bucket to mask their bruised ego & loss of femininity.
They then pass on all of this rage, anger & aggression to their sons & daughters in various ways, which forces the children to overcompensate. Thus, damaging the next generation. Add this up for about 2-3 generations & you have today. The onus is on women. It always has been. It always will be.
But heres the real question...if that preception is true then how is bitching about it on social media solving the issue? When are we as black men going to step up and LEAD by example?
"Bitching" about it on social media is essential because it gives a voice to the voiceless. For at least 15 years, all you've been hearing is the woman's side of things. And sorry, women do not paint men in a positive light 99% of the time. But social media (and the camera phone) equalizes things a whole lot. What you consider bitching is the men finally having their say & proving their side of things. Most men don't do the back & forth...most make the point, stand on it, hear out whatever fallacies may be there & either work it out or further prove their point.
Maybe you not noticing, but black men are stepping up & leading by example. What do you think the incel movement is? The passport brothers? The dating & marrying of other races?
See, you are too emotional to see the logic of what these men are doing.
Logically, these men know that ain't shit going to change with black women no time soon; not until the government cuts them off the titty (no pun intended) & they finally get the equalization of the genders like they keep begging for but really don't want. So these men
logically make other moves. Some devote time & effort to themselves & totally shut out the female gender. Some keep it 100% & tell the women we just got a situationship & do it like that. Some get they money up & go overseas to see if they can find something that's not as Westernized & radicalized in feminism. Some just start dating other races. Some just say fuck it & be like if you ain't shit, I ain't gonna be shit & we just gonna not be shit together.
But black men are stepping up & leading. They
STEPPING up,
STEPPING away &
LEADING themselves to the women that want, need & appreciate them. Unfortunately, most times, it isn't a black women anymore.
