looks at thread title
knows that could NEVER apply to a black man
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For the most part, this is true.
The problem we place too much emphasis on the white mans "education" for non "business" related affairs , domestic relationships and emotional self worth....
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This made me very, very, very sad. It disturbed me greatly and it showed me the link the establishment went through to eliminate anything it did not understand.
Random. I might be wrong but don't most Southern women know how to cook quite well????
Let me put in context. In comparison to black women in other regions around the country, yes. In today's society compared to yesteryear, NO.
I see and interact with these women on a daily basis.
What I hear most often:
"Black men aren't on my level, financially, intellectually, spiritually."
What I see most often:
These women will over-educate themselves and under-socialize themselves. They will place so much emphasis on being fabulous and going fabulous places, with their fabulous friends...but if a man were to be minding his business AND happen to be in the same vicinity as them...they would wait for him to magically be attracted to their shining aura and expect him to drop what he is doing to approach. After all...education and success just oozes from their pores.
It's a never ending cycle. However, chicks like this in the article simply need to learn from those who are actually getting married and living great lives with men. I don't pay attention to any of these silly broads because the two ladies that I give a fuck about are married and happy (Sis and Mom). I know WHY they are married straight from the men who are with them: They make them happy. Both of them have degrees, both of them have done great things with themselves, but they know what it takes to work with a man and have his back. The chick in the article sounds like the everyday career woman who complains about being lonely but would be comparable to the idiot that locks himself in a supermarket and starves to death. No sympathy for anyone that doesn't know how to correct their own behavior in order to achieve results.
The last line spells out, "God Bless, thanks for coming, good night, and don't let the door hit you on the way out.
Proverbs 21:19
19It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.
そうですね！My best friend graduated last year with a BA in Psych from an ivy league school and she is working at Macy's
This is not uncommon. I have a friend that possesses an Ivy League degree as well and bar tends at a favorite lounge of mine. I understand it, but, I don't understand it.
I think there is some bitterness & resentment with women like these.
They feel like they are owed something.
They have followed "the script" but now things are not working out.
I'm sure women like these look down on the UPS and Fedex guy
Last night I was talking to a girl whose number I got on friday. She asked me where do you work. I put her on probation.
The first convo? Nah.....
Not "what do you do", she ask "where do you work", she sent signals that she didn't even know........
You get 'em in and push 'em out, huh, kaya? I feel where you are coming from, though.
Herein lies the problem in my opinion. A lot of women have become what THEY'RE attracted to. The delusion in that is they assume men are attracted to the same thing women are. If a woman has an advanced degree, that's a turn on and an added bonus for me. But it's not a necessity. If she has BMW, again, nice bonus. But not a necessity. Ivy League degree? Same thing. That doesn't encapsulate "everything" to me though. Does she cook? What does she read? Is she capable of free thought outside of the academic shit she's read? How is her relationship with her father? Does she understand and accept the different roles of men and women. These are what's important to a lot of men. What a lot of these sistas fail to realize is they've become what they wanted in a man. And that's why on a Friday night, they're dating themselves.
Much love for the queens though and good luck.
You hit the nail squarely on the head with this post. And the women don't even realize it.
As someone with experience in this situation its what I came to call....
"Academically Advanced, Socially Retarded"..
I used date this chick and she was the same way. She worked at Nickelodeon, MTV, now she's a professor at Rutgers. Great salary $100k+. Could have great conversations about a wide spectrum of topics...but when it came to really being in the relationship she just didnt really "know" what to do..
She was average looking. It was like a program. Her whole the entire goal was basically to become a successful person you have basically eliminate everything else except school/work... Its great to have goals but you have to advance socially as well as academically. She didnt have good people skills...like how are you gonna be break down the square root of Pi to 50 digits but you cant bake me a damn pie for dinner? I have a degree, but she used to always talk down on people from her high school or just people in general like on some "He doesnt have a degree, why are you friends with him?" type shit. Its like she's a robot.
She really grew up with the mentality that, "If I become successful, It will be happily ever after, I can have any man"...doesnt work like that though. We are still cool, but sad thing is she's still alone. She meets dudes off myspace and shit...thats crazy but thats life. People one day will learn you have to be well rounded.
For some reason, this post made me really sad. I mean, I feel for her situation although I don't feel bad for her in her situation, if that makes sense. You can't look down on people like that. Women are putting that degree on a pedestal and it is just not what it used to be. The hoodwinking of our community and culture and way of life continues...
My two cents, it depends on how you define success. There is a group of people that would argue you can't be lonely and successful.
What I mean by that is, it is a holistic approach to success. If a woman cannot have a meaningful relationship with a man, then for me she is not successful. Balancing a relationship with animate and inanimate objects is what makes her successful.
Who gives a damn how well you get along with inanimate objects (degrees, homes, cars, jewelry, clothes) when an animate object (good man) doesn't want to be around you.
So, in my opinion, these women are just black and lonely. If they were successful, they would have learned how to insert a meaningful relationship with a man into the picture. I, however, do understand what they mean by successful in this article.
That's my wooden nickel.
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