Successful, black and lonely

[Brigade4Radiant]

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dy...2/09/AR2009120904546.html?sid=ST2009120904680

Andrews: "I don't find him attractive. If he was funny, that would go a long way. He could be my winter boo. I need a boo. My life sucks. When your life sucks, a winter boo with his own apartment would be awesome to have."

What is a winter boo? you ask.

And they explain a winter boo is someone you hook up with when it's cold outside, someone good enough to take to office holiday parties, someone who has a car and who can drive when the wind is whipping down the sidewalk.

"It's like a booty call, but it's not," Andrews says.

"It's like you like him enough to bring him out to public settings. They, like, serve a seasonal purpose."

But what happens in the summer, you ask.

"There is no such thing as a summer boo. You are supposed to be out. Be free."

The catch?

"A winter boo doesn't know he's a winter boo," until summer comes and he has been set free.

I wonder why she can't find a man and always has to settle. At least she realises that she will be alone for the rest of her life.

 

[Brigade4Radiant]

From one point I can see it may be difficult to get a man with an advanced degree. 71 percent of black grad students are female and that they outnumber black men in the general population 7 to 1

 

[LegalMoney]

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dy...2/09/AR2009120904546.html?sid=ST2009120904680




I wonder why she can't find a man and always has to settle. At least she realises that she will be alone for the rest of her life.

It's her self-defense mechanism; she even admits so in the article:

That is her way of moving through the world. That way you don't get hurt, you mask any softness or weakness inside.

Having gone through undergraduate and law school in Washington DC, I see these type of beautiful, successful yet lonely sistas everywhere. And just like any young brotha in the DMV, I have my share of experiences with these sistas.

A commonality that many of these sistas share is that they let their professional and academic achievements define them as individuals. Just because one graduates from a Top 10 University and a T100 law school does not mean that you are a good person, specifically a good black woman that a black man would want to marry. Being a "Bitch" is a cop out.

 

[ron_mexico]

This what Kills me when sistas talk about Black Men are bashing black woman. The only time you hear black men's opinion is on the internet and such. Sistas been shitting on brothas for years in THE MAINSTREAM MEDIA!!






Granted I haven't read the full article yet...

 

[UniqueStyles82]

I saw that article and thought about posting it here too. Ole girl is delusional. This article would fit well into the steve harvey/rihanna post. These broads dont want boyfriends or husbands. They just like the idea so they can convince themselves there is nothing wrong with them, which in turn, allows for them to write books and make videos about said shit.

 

[LennyNero1972]

I can see right now, we are eventually going to go back to the Conan days where dudes just snatched hoes up. In reality what women want is a powerful man to control them and care for them. However, the feminist mindset tells them not to ever admit to this.

 

[duppy_maka]

In a series of essays, Andrews documents the lives of so many young black women who appear to have everything: looks, charm, Ivy League degrees, great jobs. Closets packed full of fabulous clothes; fabulous condos in fabulous gentrified neighborhoods; fabulous vacations, fabulous friends.

real talk
anyone that knows any black women like this pm me there phone number
these the type of women I'm looking for...
can't seem to find her though

They are post-racial feminists who have come of age reaping the benefits of both the civil rights movement and the women's movement

some of the realest shit I've read about black women in a long long time...

 

[ron_mexico]

Andrews is speaking with two polished girlfriends, a lawyer and a political staffer, who didn't want to be named because of their jobs.

"I went on a date last night with Cornrows," Andrews says, using the nickname that her friends have given the man. "I got in his car and there was this strawberry smell fragrance. I had to roll the window down by hand. I assume it's paid for."

Cornrows, she says, seems nice, but that is the problem. "He can put together coherent sentences, but they are not in any way related to my life," she says. She laughs, but catches herself. She knows the man is trying hard. She also knows Cornrows doesn't stand a chance.

I'm a mean woman. I don't date nice people. That's why I'll be alone for the rest of my life. I will always have to settle."

I guess it's all in our heads.

 

[chitownsfinest]

I swear the Washington Post publishes articles about the "woe is me sista" shit every 5 or so years. This is the third on that I can remember.

-CTF

 

[Duece]

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[FLASH]http://www.youtube.com/v/VCD1gQWMzBg[/FLASH]

 

[Naha-Nago]

Below this sentence is the world's smallest violin playing a tune for (black) women who are a success at everything but getting/keeping a man...












Them independent- yet have a soul crushing need for validation...go figure- broads can find the nearest retention pond a fill that bitch with their crocodile tears and then use their diplomas to wipe away their dampened make up and they asses back to work cause the only boxes that are going to get filled in them hoes lives have the prefix "in" in front of it.


Self inflicted doesn't count bitches...

*two cents*

 

[JD Walker]

This bitch Andrews, along with the rest of the Black bitch populous are just too dumb to get it. NATURAL SELECTION is coming in to play, and these bitches weren't meant to be happy and procrete because of the choices they. So fuck'em, and focus on the women who DO GET IT, like Shanel...

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[Flawless]

stuck up lonely bitches, you never hear a rich, sucessful, educated brother having women problems

 

[ron_mexico]

Helena Andrews says she is a mean girl. That is where the title of the book comes from.

"It's much easier if you have a mask, 'Don't [expletive] with me.' Then you don't have to worry about office politics." She once asked a colleague, "Why does no one say hi to me in the morning?"

"Because you are a bitch," the colleague replied.

Andrews wasn't offended. That is her way of moving through the world. That way you don't get hurt, you mask any softness or weakness inside.

I guess she is expecting someone to see through her bitch exterior and see her inner beauty just like in the movies.

 

[ron_mexico]

stuck up lonely bitches, you never hear a rich, sucessful, educated brother having women problems

That is until they marry them.

 

[SaKem]

That is until they marry them.

I know right?

 

[Naha-Nago]

I can see right now, we are eventually going to go back to the Conan days where dudes just snatched hoes up. In reality what women want is a powerful man to control them and care for them. However, the feminist mindset tells them not to ever admit to this.

The paradigm shift has already started.... It becomes more visible with each passing year.


*two cents*

 

[Flawless]

That is until they marry them.

problems fter marriage isn't a black thing, its a universal thing

 

[donwuan]

Reak Talk: My 14 year old son came up to me today and asked why are the pretty girls dumb, and the smart girls ugly.

 

[JD Walker]

Reak Talk: My 14 year old son came up to me today and asked why are the pretty girls dumb, and the smart girls ugly.

Because "Education is for ugly people".

Pretty women will always have a simp to save them, while ugly women have to save themselves.

 

[duppy_maka]

Reak Talk: My 14 year old son came up to me today and asked why are the pretty girls dumb, and the smart girls ugly.

I notice this a long time ago
especially with black women
all the fine black women are either want to be models,strippers or plain whores using there body to get things from men..

show me 10 "successful black women who can't find a good black man"
8 are average to below average looking...

 

[ron_mexico]

I notice this a long time ago
especially with black women
all the fine black women are either want to be models,strippers or plain whores using there body to get things from men..

show me 10 "successful black women who can't find a good black man"
8 are average to below average looking...

Or the man they want doesn't want them.

They don't necesarrily want a good man, they want an exciting man to compliment they jet-setting lifestyle they envisioned for themselves.

 

[Rick Ronson]

shit is what it is mane

only a fucking fool can get burned now days with the amount of information on
relationships and the mentalities of people going into them these days.

intuition is what im so thankful for...

but the fucked up things we go through in life become lessons if we learn from
our mistakes and grow.

 

[Flawless]

Reak Talk: My 14 year old son came up to me today and asked why are the pretty girls dumb, and the smart girls ugly.

bullshit, cute girls usually do academically well, they are the ones involved in sports and school activites getting all the scholarships

 

[LennyNero1972]

The paradigm shift has already started.... It becomes more visible with each passing year.


*two cents*

Ok.

 

[water]

I wonder why she can't find a man and always has to settle. At least she realises that she will be alone for the rest of her life.

She needs to find a dentist...........

 

[Rick Ronson]

girls were smart as fuck in school...at mine anyways

 

[max-dawg]

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It's her self-defense mechanism; she even admits so in the article:


Having gone through undergraduate and law school in Washington DC, I see these type of beautiful, successful yet lonely sistas everywhere. And just like any young brotha in the DMV, I have my share of experiences with these sistas.

A commonality that many of these sistas share is that they let their professional and academic achievements define them as individuals. Just because one graduates from a Top 10 University and a T100 law school does not mean that you are a good person, specifically a good black woman that a black man would want to marry. Being a "Bitch" is a cop out.

+ 1. they think the degree gives them the right to look "down" on ANY brother who hasn't achieved what she has academically.

i remember bill cosby talking 'bout college educated sisters wanting college-educated men. i don't have a problem with that... but i think he fails to realize that a degree isn't required for marriage, and a degree doesn't make either person marriage material.

I can see right now, we are eventually going to go back to the Conan days where dudes just snatched hoes up. In reality what women want is a powerful man to control them and care for them. However, the feminist mindset tells them not to ever admit to this.

+ 1. they cheer-on feminism in a crowd with their girlfriends.

they admit to wanting/desiring a dominant man to the woman in their mirror.

Because "Education is for ugly people".

Pretty women will always have a simp to save them, while ugly women have to save themselves.

colin cowherd: "do you know why there are no pretty, female engineers? it's because pretty girls don't HAVE TO BE engineers!!!"

 

[DAYNE]

Because "Education is for ugly people".

Pretty women will always have a simp to save them, while ugly women have to save themselves.

Tom Leykis and Tariq broke the shit down.

The more unattractive a woman is the more logically she thinks, hence the education. For ex. you ain't going to see a bitch with a phd have multiple kids by multiple different dudes.

What does your degrees and occupation have to do with you looking like fraggle rock?

These women take on masculine tones when they go out and get the lifestyle they want to live themselves, because they knew they couldn't get a man to give it to them. That in itself fosters anger and resentment.

They use their education and occupation as a replacement for beauty and women can't do that shit if your trying to get a man long term...

 

[Ill Paragraph]

I swear the Washington Post publishes articles about the "woe is me sista" shit every 5 or so years. This is the third on that I can remember.

-CTF

Peace,

Yep. This was the last one:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/03/25/AR2006032500029_pf.html

Sisters REALLY need to stop emotionally aligning themselves with the white female characters from Sex in the City.

 

[DAYNE]

bullshit, cute girls usually do academically well, they are the ones involved in sports and school activites getting all the scholarships

their are exceptions to the rule, however beauty and brains don't go well together.

Can you tell me with a straight face that Beyonce would have a phd if she didn't have a singing career?

 

[Ill Paragraph]

Tom Leykis and Tariq broke the shit down.

The more unattractive a woman is the more logically she thinks, hence the education. For ex. you ain't going to see a bitch with a phd have multiple kids by multiple different dudes.

What does your degrees and occupation have to do with you looking like fraggle rock?

These women take on masculine tones when they go out and get the lifestyle they want to live themselves, because they knew they couldn't get a man to give it to them. That in itself fosters anger and resentment.

They use their education and occupation as a replacement for beauty and women can't do that shit if your trying to get a man long term...

Peace,

Lousiest analysis I've ever read. There are plenty of attractive, educated, gainfully-employed women. The difference between them and the one-dimensional stereotypes that you love to revisit is how they were raised.

 

[LennyNero1972]

their are exceptions to the rule, however beauty and brains don't go well together.

Can you tell me with a straight face that Beyonce would have a phd if she didn't have a singing career?

Exactly Bee would be a stripper if she weren't world famous.

 

[electrik_relaxation]

Ok but what about attractive AND educated women of color who are in University trying to have a good career, cultured, worldly, not the Church type, work out at least 4 times a week, uninhibited in the bed, has intelligent conversation, likes to play video games, watch anime/cartoons, loves jazz music and indie movies, is slightly artsy without being hipster, aren't crazy or sick in the head, don't want children until marriage, etc, the list goes on. *coughMEcough*

Why can't women like that find a man? Personally, I don't care if a guy has a degree or not because a degree does not define a person. I just don't want a "thug" or "hood" guy. I also don't want a simp or loser either. Of course I dont want to date an asshole or "high risk man" as dumb ass Rihanna says, but it is incredibly hard for me to find a man who is nice, can put it down in the bedroom (like a "thug" lol) and still retains the essence of what it is to be a man without becoming a simp. The type of black men I am interested in are really hard to find or have been snatched up, at least where I live (chicago) and I usually have to resort to dating other races (which isn't a problem of course but i love brothers).

 

[DAYNE]

Peace,

Lousiest analysis I've ever read. There are plenty of attractive, educated, gainfully-employed women. The difference between them and the one-dimensional stereotypes that you love to revisit is how they were raised.

I would have to see what you deem attractive just to even entertain what your saying.

Shit half these knuckle heads think Michelle Obama is attractive.