Kobe's Parents at the Memorial: do you feel they were treated with respect?
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Fair point. Didn’t see that mentioned. In any event, Vanessa Bryant proved them wrong throughout the ordeal.
They should’ve apologized and didn't which speaks volumes on their character.
You’re exactly right!
But with certain decisions, bridges are burned and feelings never change.
And just because the parents are older, it doesn’t make them more mature. Throw in a couple of stubborn people who won’t admit that they’re wrong and you have a relationship that’ll never heal.
She didn’t hold him down she threatened him with divorce and he went out and bought $5 million in gifts.
Yessir
It’s the trade off like anything. We all have issues and problems. Nobodies immune to that, but the decision to remedy those problems with the information at hand, is the choice WE make.
Either humble yourself and make peace with your son and family, or live the rest of your life with that vitriol and guilt.
They seemed to have made their bed. It is what is.
And the ironic part is that Vanessa is more than likely gonna STILL allow them to be in the remaining grandkids life for the very reason she was outed by then in the first place...
.. because she’s Hispanic lol.
That’s some full circle shit right there.
This ain’t about being “fake” or dumb. He didn’t fuck with them. We get that. But parents at their child’s memorial can’t get a shout? Without them there is no Kobe to have a memorial for. Without Joe playing ball who knows if Kobe even takes a liking to the game? They didn’t need special recognition Or any of that but to not at least recognize they were there is ridiculous. You think that woman that carried him for 9 months and raised him isn’t hurt? You think that dad that created, schooled and taught him isn’t hurt? They don’t get respect for their pain over money? Y’all weird.
Same situation. Done with mine and it’s deserved. Even made sure he’s listed in my will as not to get ANYTHING if all the dominoes would somehow fall to him being next in line.
Your relationship with folks is a sum of situations, not just snapshots of the good, or bad, times.
It was a celebration of his life; key word being celebration.
Some folks just have the potential to fuck up the meaning of the moment. His parents could have been those types of folks, and perhaps the choice was made to not give them the chance or platform to do so.
If it was an issue with them, and they knew beforehand they were going to be regulated to being only spectators, they could have chosen not to attend. But they did, and there was their opportunity to celebrate with everyone else, and that cleared was deemed to be enough of the extent of their involvement.
Not to call you out but the stans really didn’t know shit about their idol which is why a lot of what is coming out our their mouths from them “fuck his parents!”, “his parents treated him like shit!”, “wow I didn’t know he had sisters” proved how much of a media creation he was that the stans became obsessed with.
So for them to believe anything the media says about him and take it as gospel is disingenuous at best.
Text book cases of the cult of personality or the king with no clothes.
Yo is that his real name? Pause
Kobe uncle on his mama side played for the Bullets 1 year. So dude was a 2nd generation NBA player on both sides. Kobe Bean comes from a basketball lineage. ADOS.
Kobe uncle on his mama side played for the Bullets 1 year. So dude was a 2nd generation NBA player on both sides. Kobe Bean comes from a basketball lineage. ADOS.
huh? I followed Kobe’s ”basketball career” like most people that are speaking on him. We followed what ”he” allowed the public to see. If his parents and sisters were standing right beside me I wouldn’t know who they were because “he” never showed that side to the public. We knew who his wife and kids were, we knew about the trouble he went through with his parents surrounding them selling stuff all because “he” shared it with the public. only a stan would know all that personal stuff
Folk kill me with extended family always having to get a shout out. MEN leave their family (mama and daddy) and create their own family and sometimes it is about the family that MAN created. Period. The wife he lays down and wakes up to every morning. The children he eats at the dinner table with in the evenings and talks to about homework and things they like. There is no need to include the WHOLE family in every vacation, every event and every instance. There are times when a MAN wants to be with HIS family and that is what Kobe understood...that he was now a provider for HIS family and FUCK anyone and everyone who doesn't understand that.
This was about Kobe's family...his wife and children. Period.
And for all ya'll who think no one else has any idea what was going on, then you clearly haven't read the things Kobe wrote and said about this very thing. He was very vocal on how a person with his wealth and success should deal with extended family.....read the shit he said if you want to know the things he thought.....
This was about Kobe's family...his wife and children. Period.
And for all ya'll who think no one else has any idea what was going on, then you clearly haven't read the things Kobe wrote and said about this very thing. He was very vocal on how a person with his wealth and success should deal with extended family.....read the shit he said if you want to know the things he thought.....
Dear 17-year-old self,
When your Laker dream comes true tomorrow, you need to figure out a way to invest in the future of your family and friends. This sounds simple, and you may think it’s a no-brainer, but take some time to think on it further.
I said INVEST.
I did not say GIVE.
Let me explain.
Purely giving material things to your siblings and friends may appear to be the right decision. You love them, and they were always there for you growing up, so it’s only right that they should share in your success and all that comes with it. So you buy them a car, a big house, pay all of their bills. You want them to live a beautiful, comfortable life, right?
But the day will come when you realize that as much as you believed you were doing the right thing, you were actually holding them back.
You will come to understand that you were taking care of them because it made YOU feel good, it made YOU happy to see them smiling and without a care in the world — and that was extremely selfish of you. While you were feeling satisfied with yourself, you were slowly eating away at their own dreams and ambitions. You were adding material things to their lives, but subtracting the most precious gifts of all: independence and growth.
Understand that you are about to be the leader of the family, and this involves making tough choices, even if your siblings and friends do not understand them at the time.
Invest in their future, don’t just give.
Use your success, wealth and influence to put them in the best position to realize their own dreams and find their true purpose. Put them through school, set them up with job interviews and help them become leaders in their own right. Hold them to the same level of hard work and dedication that it took for you to get to where you are now, and where you will eventually go.
I’m writing you now so that you can begin this process immediately, and so that you don’t have to deal with the hurt and struggle of weaning them off of the addiction that you facilitated. That addiction only leads to anger, resentment and jealousy from everybody involved, including yourself.
As time goes on, you will see them grow independently and have their own ambitions and their own lives, and your relationship with all of them will be much better as a result.
There’s plenty more I could write to you, but at 17, I know you don’t have the attention span to sit through 2,000 words.
The next time I write to you, I may touch on the challenges of mixing blood with business. The most important advice I can give to you is to make sure your parents remain PARENTS and not managers.
Before you sign that first contract, figure out the right budget for your parents — one that will allow them to live beautifully while also growing your business and setting people up for long-term success. That way, your children’s kids and their kids will be able to invest in their own futures when the time comes.
Your life is about to change, and things are about to come at you very fast. But just let this sink in a bit when you lay down at night after another nine-hour training day.
Trust me, setting things up right from the beginning will avoid a ton of tears and heartache, some of which remains to this day.
Much love,
Kobe
www.theplayerstribune.com
When your Laker dream comes true tomorrow, you need to figure out a way to invest in the future of your family and friends. This sounds simple, and you may think it’s a no-brainer, but take some time to think on it further.
I said INVEST.
I did not say GIVE.
Let me explain.
Purely giving material things to your siblings and friends may appear to be the right decision. You love them, and they were always there for you growing up, so it’s only right that they should share in your success and all that comes with it. So you buy them a car, a big house, pay all of their bills. You want them to live a beautiful, comfortable life, right?
But the day will come when you realize that as much as you believed you were doing the right thing, you were actually holding them back.
You will come to understand that you were taking care of them because it made YOU feel good, it made YOU happy to see them smiling and without a care in the world — and that was extremely selfish of you. While you were feeling satisfied with yourself, you were slowly eating away at their own dreams and ambitions. You were adding material things to their lives, but subtracting the most precious gifts of all: independence and growth.
Understand that you are about to be the leader of the family, and this involves making tough choices, even if your siblings and friends do not understand them at the time.
Invest in their future, don’t just give.
Use your success, wealth and influence to put them in the best position to realize their own dreams and find their true purpose. Put them through school, set them up with job interviews and help them become leaders in their own right. Hold them to the same level of hard work and dedication that it took for you to get to where you are now, and where you will eventually go.
I’m writing you now so that you can begin this process immediately, and so that you don’t have to deal with the hurt and struggle of weaning them off of the addiction that you facilitated. That addiction only leads to anger, resentment and jealousy from everybody involved, including yourself.
As time goes on, you will see them grow independently and have their own ambitions and their own lives, and your relationship with all of them will be much better as a result.
There’s plenty more I could write to you, but at 17, I know you don’t have the attention span to sit through 2,000 words.
The next time I write to you, I may touch on the challenges of mixing blood with business. The most important advice I can give to you is to make sure your parents remain PARENTS and not managers.
Before you sign that first contract, figure out the right budget for your parents — one that will allow them to live beautifully while also growing your business and setting people up for long-term success. That way, your children’s kids and their kids will be able to invest in their own futures when the time comes.
Your life is about to change, and things are about to come at you very fast. But just let this sink in a bit when you lay down at night after another nine-hour training day.
Trust me, setting things up right from the beginning will avoid a ton of tears and heartache, some of which remains to this day.
Much love,
Kobe
Letter to My Younger Self | By Kobe Bryant
The most important advice I can give to you is to make sure your parents remain PARENTS and not managers.
www.theplayerstribune.com
Some of ya'll are straight crazy. What happened yesterday was straight DISRESPECTFUL TO KOBE'S MOM, DAD AND SISTERS....PERIOD! They were and are his parents and should be accorded the respect as such. THEY DID NOT abandon him, Dad Did Not leave him. If you recall, they were always a close family up thru his rookie year. I understand they grew apart, thats fair, that KB started his own family. Got it. But in the case of this tragic death, and public ceremony, THEY SHOULD HAVE BEEN ACKNOWLEDGED. After all, KBs Mom, lost her Son...Period. As did Joe lose his Son and the Sisters lost their Brother. Could have easily been handled, but in all fairness, it was beautiful ceremony and they all died too young.
Kobe Bryant Taught Himself How to Play Piano to Stop His Wife Vanessa From Divorcing Him
BYCHRIS YUSCAVAGE
News Editor. @cyuscavage
Apr 19, 2016
Image via @kobebryant on Instagram
Yesterday was Kobe and Vanessa Bryant’s 15th wedding anniversary. Looking back now, it’s kind of crazy that Kobe and Vanessa got married just four days before the start of the 2001 NBA Playoffs, which ended with the Lakers winning the NBA championship. But that’s when they decided to get hitched, and they're still going strong all these years later.
As you probably know, though, marriage hasn’t always been easy for the couple. They nearly broke up after Kobe was accused of sexual assault in Colorado in 2003, and back in 2011, Vanessa actually went as far as to file for divorce from Kobe. She cited “irreconcilable differences” as her official reason for wanting a divorce, and at the time, numerous sources told TMZ Sports that infidelity was at the heart of her decision to divorce Kobe.
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But Kobe was determined not to let his marriage end in divorce. According to an excellent new The Undefeated story on Kobe—written by Ramona Shelburne—Kobe worked tirelessly to try and convince Vanessa not to divorce him. But he didn’t do it by sending her dozens of flowers (or by buying her a $4 million ring!). Instead, he did it by learning to play Beethoven’s “Moonlight Sonata” on the piano. And since this is Kobe we’re talking about it, he didn’t learn to play by hiring someone to teach him. He taught himself.
“I wanted to play something nice for Vanessa,” he told Shelburne. “Sitting down and taking lessons would be too easy. So I taught myself by ear.”
It wasn’t easy, but Kobe spent hours listening to “Moonlight Sonata” on loop, and eventually, he was able to learn how to play the song.
“If you just sit down and say, ‘I’m going to learn this thing until I do,’" he said, “there’s not really much out there that you can’t figure out eventually.”
Kobe was also able to convince Vanessa not to divorce him.
You can watch Kobe play the song here:
He also tweeted about playing the song after a loss to the Bulls in 2013:
Talk about setting the bar high for the rest of the guys in the world...
Shelburne’s Kobe story is filled with tons of gems just like this one. You can check it out here. You can also check out a great look at Kobe’s final game here.
BYCHRIS YUSCAVAGE
News Editor. @cyuscavage
Apr 19, 2016
Image via @kobebryant on Instagram
Yesterday was Kobe and Vanessa Bryant’s 15th wedding anniversary. Looking back now, it’s kind of crazy that Kobe and Vanessa got married just four days before the start of the 2001 NBA Playoffs, which ended with the Lakers winning the NBA championship. But that’s when they decided to get hitched, and they're still going strong all these years later.
As you probably know, though, marriage hasn’t always been easy for the couple. They nearly broke up after Kobe was accused of sexual assault in Colorado in 2003, and back in 2011, Vanessa actually went as far as to file for divorce from Kobe. She cited “irreconcilable differences” as her official reason for wanting a divorce, and at the time, numerous sources told TMZ Sports that infidelity was at the heart of her decision to divorce Kobe.
ADVERTISING
But Kobe was determined not to let his marriage end in divorce. According to an excellent new The Undefeated story on Kobe—written by Ramona Shelburne—Kobe worked tirelessly to try and convince Vanessa not to divorce him. But he didn’t do it by sending her dozens of flowers (or by buying her a $4 million ring!). Instead, he did it by learning to play Beethoven’s “Moonlight Sonata” on the piano. And since this is Kobe we’re talking about it, he didn’t learn to play by hiring someone to teach him. He taught himself.
“I wanted to play something nice for Vanessa,” he told Shelburne. “Sitting down and taking lessons would be too easy. So I taught myself by ear.”
It wasn’t easy, but Kobe spent hours listening to “Moonlight Sonata” on loop, and eventually, he was able to learn how to play the song.
“If you just sit down and say, ‘I’m going to learn this thing until I do,’" he said, “there’s not really much out there that you can’t figure out eventually.”
Kobe was also able to convince Vanessa not to divorce him.
You can watch Kobe play the song here:
He also tweeted about playing the song after a loss to the Bulls in 2013:
Talk about setting the bar high for the rest of the guys in the world...
Shelburne’s Kobe story is filled with tons of gems just like this one. You can check it out here. You can also check out a great look at Kobe’s final game here.
And how exactly do you know that as fact?
Below is aKobe jersey retirement ceremony.
I watched again just to verify.
Kobe didn’t mention or thank his parents. Vanessa is tied to Kobe and knows everything about Kobe’s family via Kobe.
So if the man she loves and cherishes doesn’t communicate with his family in life, then...
Again, it would’ve been nice if she or others said something. But they weren’t apart of his life when he was alive.
Maybe the Mexican family treated him with love respect. But I dunno about their relationship.
A lot of parents don't understand this, and this destroys their children's marriages.
Why u think he disowned his parents? The same parents who didn't go to their only son's WEDDING. They not attending weddings but somehow they wanna show up for some money?
Man gtfoh with those types of parents. Like I said earlier, his parents ain't about SHIT.
600 million + . Black wealth transfer in effect
You gotta be a shitty person to disown your own mother, though. Tell your young sons to be careful the wife they choose. Vanessa won the whole bag, and the Bryant name will disappear in the next generation.
The wife should have at least acknowledged the parents. Man that has to hurt them.
Vanessa is the most eligible widow EVER.
I doubt she'll get married again, unless it's a long time from now.
I guarantee you that family did not agree with what he chose for HIS life and family....but he was disciplined enough to stick to his plan....even if it involved mama....
Type slower for the ones on the short bus.
They chose not to attend.
And then they sat back waiting on it to fail so they could say 'I told you so'...instead it flourished...
And Then mama tried to sell his MEMORABILIA...... behind his back....he had to fucking sue her. She clearly thought she deserved more than he gave her....and he was intent on not going broke like so many others who gave family and friends any and everything they asked for.......
They need to reread the letter he wrote to his 17 year old self....anyone with at least as 5th grade reading comprehension level can find everything they want to know in that letter.......he said put your parents on a budget BEFORE YOU SIGN THE FIRST BIG CONTRACT......LOL
This guy was so smart and made such foward thinking moves that most folk can't figure it out...even though it is staring them in the face.....but Vanessa knows and for her and him......that was clearly enough...
Type slower for the ones on the short bus.
They chose not to attend.
And then they sat back waiting on it to fail so they could say 'I told you so'...instead it flourished...
And Then mama tried to sell his MEMORABILIA...... behind his back....he had to fucking sue her. She clearly thought she deserved more than he gave her....and he was intent on not going broke like so many others who gave family and friends any and everything they asked for.......
They need to reread the letter he wrote to his 17 year old self....anyone with at least as 5th grade reading comprehension level can find everything they want to know in that letter.......he said put your parents on a budget BEFORE YOU SIGN THE FIRST BIG CONTRACT......LOL
This guy was so smart and made such foward thinking moves that most folk can't figure it out...even though it is staring them in the face.....but Vanessa knows and for her and him......that was clearly enough...
She has 2 more and she is still young.
I did not know this. It's wild how people believe that you must show respect for your parents, mother or father, regardless of what they do to you.
There is no one too big to get a "fuck off." Family might get a little bit more rope, but if you're deserving, you can get the fuck out of here. Mom, Dad, sister, brother, cousin.
If you deserve it, you can get it
2Q+2Q = ???
Equals 4Q
Get it?
Fuck you
Not necessarily. A guy I work with had a situation somewhat similar. He and his wife had all girls, just like Kobe. One of his daughters convinced her husband to allow the second son to have her maiden name.600 million + . Black wealth transfer in effect
You gotta be a shitty person to disown your own mother, though. Tell your young sons to be careful the wife they choose. Vanessa won the whole bag, and the Bryant name will disappear in the next generation.
The wife should have at least acknowledged the parents. Man that has to hurt them.
Vanessa is the most eligible widow EVER.
Her husband agreed. When she told her father at the hospital he cried like a baby
Seems like with the 'selling of his shit' incident, it's the mother who was the problem. She strikes me as the 'spoiled princess' type of person. She was going to use the proceeds to keep herself in gucci and benz. Father probably sat back and cosigned shit and Kobe couldn't respect the weakness.
Even his sisters sided agains the mom in the selling incident.
I cant stress enough how much a piece of shit a mother has to be to do that.
$5 million???? LOL.... We talking about Kobe Bryant bruh....this nicca got caught, and exposed all over the world...for allegedly raping a po white trash low life.....without a rubber.....and fucking her in the ass to boot. This bitch was humiliated in every language on earth and on every television known to human civilization.
Do you know how much money she could have walked away with AND HIS KIDS????? Five million was a fucking joke....
She held him down...bruh.... And chose to keep the family together......
Not as big of a piece of shit as someone who is worth over 100 mill cutting off the woman who raised him