I would like to share some thoughts about leadership.
I believe leadership has no gender.
Definition:
Leadership has been described as "a process of social influence in which one person can enlist the aid and support of others
in the accomplishment of a common task
Studies of leadership have produced theories involving traits, situational interaction, function, behavior, power, vision and values, charisma, and intelligence, among others.
That said, I do believe that both men and women should lead in relationships based on the particular goal, i.e. "in the accomplishment of a common task"
The problem with modern society is that you have individuals with NO GOALS.
A man without goals trying to control his women but not on the way to anywhere.
A woman without goals trying to possess a man but not on the way to anywhere.
The process of self-discovery, sense of purpose is lacking badly.
When a man discovers who he is and his relationship to the world, he is on a mission.
That discovery comes about by learning where you came from, where you are now and the context of now and then coming up with a framework on where you want to be in the future.
Without the past, you have no context for the present.
Black feminist don't have knowledge of the past so the context under which they operate is not real.
It's like the mixed kid who grew up sheltered from racism and it's context by white parents and then goes to school to only discover he is black.
Same with some of us.
We internalized the messaging in the society, put ourselves as the recipient and live out a value system that has no context for us as a people.
An example is education.
We go to school and become educated without context.
The context is generational wealth building yet we find ourselves living our entire lives without trying to change that context by molding the next generation towards wealth building tools such as business ownership, real estate, stock trading.
We think that because we have a certificate from an institute that networking has little value to our lives. Why join an association in our industry? Why go to conferences and trade shows? Why not work and go home to 4 hours of entertainment instead of 2 hrs a week networking?
So now we are a people need to pre-screen who walks into our lives to determine their purpose.
Negative people are not builders regardless of gender
So men have their roles that they take the lead on
So do women, they have their roles to take the lead on
Both need to exhibit and practice leadership for healthy relationships.
And these leadership socialization takes place by men passing on values, traditions to boys, not women and gay men.
