Whenever I throw some shit on to make a run to target or the market real quick(unshaved, hair not even brushed) I hate to see a woman I might wanna talk to. I have no confidence and wind up avoiding her at all costs.
Pssshhh
A bitch can still see my flyness through my stubble...lol
But yeah....
I always keep myself together. ALWAYS! It was embedded in me. My Moms used to dress up me and my Sister...we used to win best dressed awards at school; i know thats some superficial shit, but thats what happened. My Pops was always fresh as well. Looked like he was a Mobster or Pimp in most of his pics..but he wasnt.
I think we all make adjustments to attract who we want to attract, but imho your "looks" just get u in the door, the other shit THATS LEAST VALUED is what keeps you around.
Id like to think that regardless of how I look in the morning I should still be able to pull a female. Ive been in situations whereas females would start frowning at the dirt on my shoes, wrinkled shirt or some other shit, but I didnt let that discourage me. I smiled, said the things that she wanted to hear and I still got the number.
I know we all judge a book by its cover a lot of times, but the older i get the more i learn that thats not always the right course of action.
Imho...if you were insecure while your were unshaven and not dressed up, then youre still ah insecure mofo after you shave and put on your costume....




you can't get with this!!! But in hindsight some of those women shared similar qualities as me when I wasn't being driven by my ego. My reasoning was that they were either too conservative in appearance, not creative types or not into so called consciousness or things of an esoteric nature like I was. At the core tho, they could have met all of my basic (And arguably the most fundamental) requirements of what I was seeking in a woman. Like compassion, attentiveness, decorum, virtue etc. I can't say the same for the "cool looking" chicks that I thought were my "equal" as a self professed "cool ass dude".

Wow...