Why Black Men ARE REFUSING to Play Step DADDY!

Thought y'all was talking about this bullshit post I just saw on IG

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Like I said in another thread... social media has made it easier for cats with their shit together to screen out wack women like her.

It's a reason why some women with kids will be a revolving nut rag.
 
I am a step-father and under the umbrella of anonymity in this forum I can truly say that if I had to do this again I would keep walking. I know the thread says black father but this issue impacts any man in any culture in any space who becomes a step father. I got married to this woman and I did right by her and her daughter raising her as my own. But reading the comments here I agree with so many of them.

1. A baby father who still has interest in just sleeping with the woman
2. Interest in the child is only to get to the mother
3. The mothers family who don't accept you and favor a deadbeat father (crab mentality)
4. Threats (very real)
5. Accused of child abuse and child molestation - a very real issue as this is used as a weapon to fuck you up. How do you defend against that?
6. No thanks all around
7. Impact to any kids you have with that woman.
8. Disrespect from the step-child
9. No laws to protect or aid a step parents
10 Do not mention a custody case, your ass is open to scrutiny by all and sundry
11. A drain on your dreams and financial resources.

I have cut my step daughter off, at 20 years old living with your boyfriend why did she feel the need to take her mother to court for child support? (New York yep its 21) She is working he is working. Got my wife an attorney who ripped her to shreds (Yes I am an asshole) in court. I dropped paying for her
1. Car insurance
2. Car payment
3. Cellphone
4. Health bills (expenses outside of health insurance
5. Health insurance
6. College tuition and books - yes I told you I'm an asshole - 1 class a semester for three years doesn't seem like she is motivated, maybe I didn't do enough

I could say a lot more here but I'm in venting mode and now planning a vacation.

How old was the step-daughter when you and the woman got together?
 
Exactly! A lot of Sisters are quick to say "What's wrong with you?" when you don't have any kids, especially by a certain age. You be like, I use the head between my shoulders, well before I use the one between my legs!

And there you have it.
 
Like I said in another thread... social media has made it easier for cats with their shit together to screen out wack women like her.

It's a reason why some women with kids will be a revolving nut rag.

I know its the times we live in now, but that shit changed the dating game!..... Social media!
 
I'm a stepdad, no issues here. Lay down the law early ain't no thing.

Realist shit I've read in this thread. Be a fucking man and set the rules. I know cats that date chicks with kids and its not that big a deal. All my niggas are alpha males though, so they're not dealing with no bullshit.
 
Thought y'all was talking about this bullshit post I just saw on IG

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The sad thing about women like these is that she is reinforcing the idea that a man can not have a preference, without being under attack.

If a man says something simple as "I dont do single moms, because thats not for me", you will hear all of the backlash from these women assuming something is wrong with him because it's simply not his thing.

That shit is childish to say the least.

When a woman says I dont fit the criteria for what she wants in a man I dont get mad, but they do when the shoes is on the other foot...How does that work?
 
The sad thing about women like these is that she is reinforcing the idea that a man can not have a preference, without being under attack.

If a man says something simple as "I dont do single moms, because thats not for me", you will hear all of the backlash from these women assuming something is wrong with him because it's simply not his thing.

That shit is childish to say the least.

When a woman says I dont fit the criteria for what she wants in a man I dont get mad, but they do when the shoes is on the other foot...How does that work?

Yeah when she calls the dude lame for not paying for a babysitter for another man's child that is an illustration of how sad of a state this society has become
 
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