Why Black Men are Dating Other Races
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I'm Black And I've Dated A Few White Women Before And Don't Have A Problem With Doing It Again It Was Cool But I Do Prefer Black Women Cause I Connect With Them Better For As Having Things In Common.
peace
Not you, right?
Not attack you @ all, but arent you also the self proclaimed hermit with the belligerent, combative attitude who may be still actively healing from events from her past hurts or indiscretions (or is that just while in Amerikkka?)
No matta how much u suppress that, do u think that's a redeemable quality to most, male or female?
Or should they get over that because your a potentially fantastic person? Take yourself Out of yourself for a 2nd and read what and how you type what you type to understand a few of those type reactions
Just by observation and not taking any sides nor attacking you, but it seems many of your back and forth interactions between men and women on both boards(not the ignorant fools but ones with some sense) to you have seem to lost patience with that and address it their own way in attempt to point out to You that it is Your issue(s)
{Minus all the over the top ish, Maybe You and HustleHardah have more in common than you think, seriously & am just saying...}
Just a thought......
Observant, introspective with patience, which Ive learned is my type of Woman!
If everyone were as enlightened as yourself, we wouldnt even be having this problem/discussion/dead horse issue
{& Which 'type' is that as there are some who may have grown up within those environments and is all he may be used to or Want to get used to, some who'll wife a white woman, pay her, trick on her, just fuck, fall in love or get outsmarted by and some who subconsciously and secretly lust to acquire - are they all the same?; are all women the same?)
Too many generalizations & possible scenarios to justify any particular label
There seems to be a multitude of issues this kat hasnt covered but he seems to be speaking based on his personal opinion - Not the Gospel, End ALL Be ALL, but a message based on his observations toward looking at the 'issue'
(dude starts his whole discussion by two incidents where he feels the Woman should DEFINITELY have give himself or the dude on the train the time of day just because he was there
; Now is that a proper way to open up some dialogue on this 'issue'?)
some kats say sisters aint taking care of themselves like other races, per se, but have they met those hard working sistas in here who stay trying to improve themselves in the fitness forum or with self in general, probably not;
others say 'sistas' are golddigging and need this and that;
but have They stepped their game up to strive towards or even be thinking on the plane of those CEOs, Bosses, Queens of Industry and Self Made, secure within their issues/selves Women who dont NEED a man but the Right one to help compliment toward something real over the years while having the ability, strength, patience & vision?
(Have known and watched kats like that closely for their ways and actions past their justifications to see what lies beneath the surface)
Hence, all the rest, who arent striving to be the best they could possibly be, with confidence and security in self to know that they may come across that right individual when least expect it and are most prepared
VS
those who want what they want when they want it or think they NEED it to make em 'feel better'(about self and life) while having an attitude motivating their actions and ways underneath;
Just another lil thought
Like Someone said SO eloquently a while back "Hurt People Hurt People" which is another real issue;
yeah Tyra's ( who also has dated outside of her race) show dealt with the same issue and supposedly 73% of Black Women are unmarried but there is no one quantifiable answer nor solution to any of this without some deep introspection and collective cooperative real dialogs taken in proper context;
divorce is up, so is womens independence, earning potential and freedom of choice along with mens;
the mixing of the races has been happening throughout the World since the beginning of times;
not to mention everyone cant be no Pauletta Washington, Denzel's wife, who was caking more than him b4 he blew up and believed in HER Man;
many dont even know How to maintain nor have had a proper and healthy loving relationship with themselves first b4 bringing someone else into the pic of both sexes; some people deserve attitude also with their shit lol
everybody cant be a team player nor play their position either as some dont even like sports
& ALl that "Use Me, Use You " shit eventually is going to have some type of affect on people one way or the other
some of his perspectives are skewed as this kat needs a DIALOGUE on his YouTube with a secure, Woman who doesnt need to flex NO attitude to drive her proven points home, adding some of her food for thought for a better perspective IMO.
peace
Not you, right?
Not attack you @ all, but arent you also the self proclaimed hermit with the belligerent, combative attitude who may be still actively healing from events from her past hurts or indiscretions (or is that just while in Amerikkka?)
No matta how much u suppress that, do u think that's a redeemable quality to most, male or female?
Or should they get over that because your a potentially fantastic person? Take yourself Out of yourself for a 2nd and read what and how you type what you type to understand a few of those type reactions
Just by observation and not taking any sides nor attacking you, but it seems many of your back and forth interactions between men and women on both boards(not the ignorant fools but ones with some sense) to you have seem to lost patience with that and address it their own way in attempt to point out to You that it is Your issue(s)
{Minus all the over the top ish, Maybe You and HustleHardah have more in common than you think, seriously & am just saying...}
Just a thought......
^^See^^, it May not all be 'hate' but just observations and reactions to that energy since everyone reacts differentlyfollowup said:
Shooting that mouth off to express that current emotion without thinking about the ramifications does that @ times but everybody does @ times - who will be the first NOT toB-Witty said:
STRAIGHT WISDOM, GIVE THANKS!!!!!thighsneyez22 said:
Observant, introspective with patience, which Ive learned is my type of Woman!
If everyone were as enlightened as yourself, we wouldnt even be having this problem/discussion/dead horse issue
{& Which 'type' is that as there are some who may have grown up within those environments and is all he may be used to or Want to get used to, some who'll wife a white woman, pay her, trick on her, just fuck, fall in love or get outsmarted by and some who subconsciously and secretly lust to acquire - are they all the same?; are all women the same?)
Too many generalizations & possible scenarios to justify any particular label
There seems to be a multitude of issues this kat hasnt covered but he seems to be speaking based on his personal opinion - Not the Gospel, End ALL Be ALL, but a message based on his observations toward looking at the 'issue'
(dude starts his whole discussion by two incidents where he feels the Woman should DEFINITELY have give himself or the dude on the train the time of day just because he was there
; Now is that a proper way to open up some dialogue on this 'issue'?)some kats say sisters aint taking care of themselves like other races, per se, but have they met those hard working sistas in here who stay trying to improve themselves in the fitness forum or with self in general, probably not;
others say 'sistas' are golddigging and need this and that;
but have They stepped their game up to strive towards or even be thinking on the plane of those CEOs, Bosses, Queens of Industry and Self Made, secure within their issues/selves Women who dont NEED a man but the Right one to help compliment toward something real over the years while having the ability, strength, patience & vision?
(Have known and watched kats like that closely for their ways and actions past their justifications to see what lies beneath the surface)
Hence, all the rest, who arent striving to be the best they could possibly be, with confidence and security in self to know that they may come across that right individual when least expect it and are most prepared
VS
those who want what they want when they want it or think they NEED it to make em 'feel better'(about self and life) while having an attitude motivating their actions and ways underneath;
Just another lil thought
Like Someone said SO eloquently a while back "Hurt People Hurt People" which is another real issue;
yeah Tyra's ( who also has dated outside of her race) show dealt with the same issue and supposedly 73% of Black Women are unmarried but there is no one quantifiable answer nor solution to any of this without some deep introspection and collective cooperative real dialogs taken in proper context;
divorce is up, so is womens independence, earning potential and freedom of choice along with mens;
the mixing of the races has been happening throughout the World since the beginning of times;
not to mention everyone cant be no Pauletta Washington, Denzel's wife, who was caking more than him b4 he blew up and believed in HER Man;
many dont even know How to maintain nor have had a proper and healthy loving relationship with themselves first b4 bringing someone else into the pic of both sexes; some people deserve attitude also with their shit lol
everybody cant be a team player nor play their position either as some dont even like sports
& ALl that "Use Me, Use You " shit eventually is going to have some type of affect on people one way or the other
some of his perspectives are skewed as this kat needs a DIALOGUE on his YouTube with a secure, Woman who doesnt need to flex NO attitude to drive her proven points home, adding some of her food for thought for a better perspective IMO.
peace
peace
Not you, right?
Not attack you @ all, but arent you also the self proclaimed hermit with the belligerent, combative attitude who may be still actively healing from events from her past hurts or indiscretions (or is that just while in Amerikkka?)
No matta how much u suppress that, do u think that's a redeemable quality to most, male or female?
Or should they get over that because your a potentially fantastic person? Take yourself Out of yourself for a 2nd and read what and how you type what you type to understand a few of those type reactions
Just by observation and not taking any sides nor attacking you, but it seems many of your back and forth interactions between men and women on both boards(not the ignorant fools but ones with some sense) to you have seem to lost patience with that and address it their own way in attempt to point out to You that it is Your issue(s)
{Minus all the over the top ish, Maybe You and HustleHardah have more in common than you think, seriously & am just saying...}
Just a thought......
Judge not lest thou be judged. Theres ALOTI could say but I will leave it for a different time. Go ahead and keep thinking you better than other people. Perhaps you need to do some self examination as well.
Just a thought.....
i woke up bored so i said fuck it i'm gonna watch it......
damn dude was on point with a lot of stuff that he said. Of course what he said doesn't apply to all black women but it applies to enough. It's not even about him justifying reasons to go running to another race of woman, because he's clearly not trying to make that case. He's just pointing out the obvious things that many a black woman do in this day and age.
everything he said was true.
damn dude was on point with a lot of stuff that he said. Of course what he said doesn't apply to all black women but it applies to enough. It's not even about him justifying reasons to go running to another race of woman, because he's clearly not trying to make that case. He's just pointing out the obvious things that many a black woman do in this day and age.
everything he said was true.
and you are correct. i am guilty myself of not watching the video before commenting.
thanks don...did u watch part 4 that i posted i think on page 2 of this thread?
peace
A judgement is "I dont know why I waste my time on even speaking to Amerikkans about ......."
Or someone commenting to your post and being called the epotome of stereotypes (his comments maybe made harshly but with a point in reactionj to your opinion where u said "Man, home women are friendly and smile alot and joke and have fun 99% of the time."
This may be true but when here, are you 'happy and smiling all the time or @ times angry with something? )
Or making a judgemnt call on how the Youtube kat is a certain 'ghetto type' without actually watching all of the videoses nor totally grasping his context @ first
(You even admitted to taking 'baby steps', showing you did not watch it @ that current time, so is why the OP told you to hold judgement until you finished watching the videoes)
Which is why Follouwup's response is quoted within my post
You've make judgements and people react to them
Yet, I still don't see in any of my comments how I acted as if better than anyone, but me pointing this out must be yet another 'judgement' Im making against you; Is a temp banning a judgement also? No one is out to get you, just asking about things that you stated; Maybe you missed what I was saying, Oh Well
peace
Never knew a simple obsevation nor a question could be considered a judgement
Judge not lest thou be judged. Theres ALOTI could say but I will leave it for a different time. Go ahead and keep thinking you better than other people. Perhaps you need to do some self examination as well.
Just a thought.....
A judgement is "I dont know why I waste my time on even speaking to Amerikkans about ......."
Or someone commenting to your post and being called the epotome of stereotypes (his comments maybe made harshly but with a point in reactionj to your opinion where u said "Man, home women are friendly and smile alot and joke and have fun 99% of the time."
This may be true but when here, are you 'happy and smiling all the time or @ times angry with something? )
Or making a judgemnt call on how the Youtube kat is a certain 'ghetto type' without actually watching all of the videoses nor totally grasping his context @ first
(You even admitted to taking 'baby steps', showing you did not watch it @ that current time, so is why the OP told you to hold judgement until you finished watching the videoes)
Which is why Follouwup's response is quoted within my post
You've make judgements and people react to them
Yet, I still don't see in any of my comments how I acted as if better than anyone, but me pointing this out must be yet another 'judgement' Im making against you
; Is a temp banning a judgement also? No one is out to get you, just asking about things that you stated; Maybe you missed what I was saying, Oh Wellpeace
he's not making excuses. watch the vid.
Help me out.
What do ignorant women look like?
Or,
Do I have to talk to her first (and risk getting shot in the face) to determine
this?
To my sisters, both in the US and abroad-
Is it possible to discuss the issues laid out?
Or
"SHUT UP NIGGA DONT NOBODY WANNA HEAR THAT SHIT"
(If they aren't interested in repairing the sturcture, why should I be?)
Seem like we get caught up in tif the black man has the right to take an issue with the black womans behavior, and never even scratch the surface of the issues.
Classic smoke screen.
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(no Colin Powell please)
There is no look to them. Trust me, an ignorant woman can have a PhD. But it depends on you. I'll give you an example. I have girlfriends from all different walks of life. Raised in the hood, raised in the burbs, single moms, virgins, and straight hookers. My friend who is a single mom espouses a lot of the stereotypes that some men on here complain about (single mom without a steady job & letting her children's father stay in her Section 8 home). But none of that bugs me because that's her life and she likes it. The problem I have is that she fucks on the side with a dude down the street and she sees nothing wrong with that. That is an ignorant woman to me, but I love her & she's kind hearted. Any dude that is messing with her is bringing the problems onto himself. But it's not an issue for men who don't deal with women like that.
Another friend of mine (sweet, super smart & hardworking) used to go to clubs and party with us. Nothing off the hook and we really didn't get into dirt, but we used to have a good time. Now she's all into the church and says clubs are sinful, etc. We used to fuss over it, but now I don't care that much. She's an ignorant woman to me because even Jesus drank wine and partied in the bible. A man could be looking at her like "Oh she's so pure, she'd make a good wife". But if he gets with her and hates her lifestyle, then that's on him. He can't come back and then hate on all black women who are "into the church" because he chose to get involved with her.
No Colin from me. Im a reader, so be as verbose as required..
Can you address to the second part of my statement?
(The statement you quoted was menat to be sarcastic. I know
crazy looks just like sane)
How is a man to know that a woman is "ignorant" without talking to her?
(and risk getting shot inthe face (hypothetically)
peace
Never knew a simple obsevation nor a question could be considered a judgement
A judgement is "I dont know why I waste my time on even speaking to Amerikkans about ......."
Or someone commenting to your post and being called the epotome of stereotypes (his comments maybe made harshly but with a point in reactionj to your opinion where u said "Man, home women are friendly and smile alot and joke and have fun 99% of the time."
This may be true but when here, are you 'happy and smiling all the time or @ times angry with something? )
Or making a judgemnt call on how the Youtube kat is a certain 'ghetto type' without actually watching all of the videoses nor totally grasping his context @ first
(You even admitted to taking 'baby steps', showing you did not watch it @ that current time, so is why the OP told you to hold judgement until you finished watching the videoes)
Which is why Follouwup's response is quoted within my post
You've make judgements and people react to them
Yet, I still don't see in any of my comments how I acted as if better than anyone, but me pointing this out must be yet another 'judgement' Im making against you
peace
This coming from someone who likes to call the rest of the world "bitchmade" and thinks he is the only one who isn't
again I hold my tongue because if I even start I will say ALOT
after watching as much as I can stomach of that guy, my original vibe on him stands 1000% true and I didn't need to suffer through that much to know what I already knew which is why I stopped watching the original video in the first place.
this country fucking sucks. thats why everyone here men and women included are stressed out, angry, hostile and unfriendly. doesn't take a video nor a genius to figure that out.
During a conversation about marriage with my girlfriend (unrelated to this video or discussion),
She is a black woman for those that need confirmation...
She wanted to know if or when I would propose to her.
You know what she tells me?
"Why should I listen to or believe what you say? Youre a MAN.
You will only say things that are to your advantage"
Lets let that simmer for a moment....
She is a black woman for those that need confirmation...
She wanted to know if or when I would propose to her.
You know what she tells me?
"Why should I listen to or believe what you say? Youre a MAN.
You will only say things that are to your advantage"
Lets let that simmer for a moment....
I don't think I understand that part. You have to talk with her and go out/stay in with her. Or am I missing something?
Do you mean, why when men are meant with anger & frustration when they post certain topics? Because I have an answer to that
This coming from someone who likes to call the rest of the world "bitchmade" and thinks he is the only one who isn't
again I hold my tongue because if I even start I will say ALOT
after watching as much as I can stomach of that guy, my original vibe on him stands 1000% true and I didn't need to suffer through that much to know what I already knew which is why I stopped watching the original video in the first place.
this country fucking sucks. thats why everyone here men and women included are stressed out, angry, hostile and unfriendly. doesn't take a video nor a genius to figure that out.
CO-SIGN the parts in red. I really tried to watch some of it since the OP says it's so enlightening, but I couldn't. He's not saying anything I haven't heard before and his delivery is extra annoying
I assumed the vid had been watched by all.
I made an ass of myself...
Let me ask. Did you watch? If you did, I will explain....
Sounds like you said the reason we get cussed out and threatened to get shot in the face is because we talk to "ignorant women"...
We have all these bad experiences because we talk to the "wrong women". COrrect?
How, from across the room, while admiring your gorgeous body, your glowing skin
your beautifull lips, and working out my opening line, do i determine if you will flip out and come out on of the box on me for speaking?
To some, its not worth the risk (hypothetically of course)
* sigh *
I'm so over this topic. If a Black man doesn't want me, fine. I'll wait and find a good one that does. This board has shown that there are plenty of Black men who love Black women.
BTW, this theory that the "crazy black woman" syndrome only applies to American women is absurd. I live with a Nigerian, and have a number of Caribbean friends. Let me tell you, they are just as crazy as everyone else running around. Besides, I thought we were all in this together When people say things like "oh it's just the Americans, come get an African/Jamaican/Barbadian (is that right? sorry if it isn't), it's like you're just leaving your American sisters out in the cold to exisit all by themselves for the rest of their lives. This is reaching, but if that's the case, eventually all the Black American women are gonna be single and alone, and we're going to start hearing the same type of arguments put forth directed exclusively toward Carribean or African women. Then we're all gonna be SOL!
I'm so over this topic. If a Black man doesn't want me, fine. I'll wait and find a good one that does. This board has shown that there are plenty of Black men who love Black women.
BTW, this theory that the "crazy black woman" syndrome only applies to American women is absurd. I live with a Nigerian, and have a number of Caribbean friends. Let me tell you, they are just as crazy as everyone else running around. Besides, I thought we were all in this together
When people say things like "oh it's just the Americans, come get an African/Jamaican/Barbadian (is that right? sorry if it isn't), it's like you're just leaving your American sisters out in the cold to exisit all by themselves for the rest of their lives. This is reaching, but if that's the case, eventually all the Black American women are gonna be single and alone, and we're going to start hearing the same type of arguments put forth directed exclusively toward Carribean or African women. Then we're all gonna be SOL!
Nope. My post you quoted said that I wasn't going to watch it. Then I decided to watch the first part, but I couldn't get through it.
I think I get what you're saying though (without having to watch the vid & going by the statement your wife made). There are some men who are so hooked on telling black women what's wrong with them without offering solutions or finding out why black women behave and do some of the things they do. They don't really want to hear what a woman has to say about it herself. It's not a conversation, it's simply accusations. If somebody is pointing fingers at you & making accusations, would you really want to sit there and here it?
This is exactly what we are talking about.
BAsically what you are saying is the shit that we are complaining about is
part of being a black woman...
I love black women. I hate attitude.
Can the two be separated?
In the first part of the videos the guy told a story about a guy conversing with a woman on the train and it appeared to be going nicely and when the woman got up to get off the train she told the guy "I wish I had a 380 so I could shoot you in your face" which actually made me
but I believe that is what Jody is referring to.
I did not see the attitude in her post at all
She said if one man doesn't want her she doesn't care cause theres another one who will and there are plenty of black men who love black women.
Please point out the "attitude"
To me she is very positive as opposed to "there are no good men out there" which many many females feel is the case.
Sorry...
Are there any women who watched the entire series?
Does any of the responsibility for the state of the black relationship fall on the black womans shoulders? Or does the "fix" start and end with me as a black male?
What do the women think they are doing wrong?
(100% YOU, not some shit you ultimately blame on me?)
me= black males
you =black females
Its a vibe thing my friend.
When I see a gorgeous man, how do I determine if he is a rapist, a gangsta, a murderer, or a cool guy to talk to?
I did not see the attitude in her post at all
She said if one man doesn't want her she doesn't care cause theres another one who will and there are plenty of black men who love black women.
Please point out the "attitude"
To me she is very positive as opposed to "there are no good men out there" which many many females feel is the case.
Supp fam..
I was speaking figuratively. Not her personally. I was speaking of the collective...
Do I need to post a photo guide?
I can give you some GREAT guidelines!
And
What are the chances that he will flip out on you for speaking to him?
I was illustrating the point. Its no different on either side of the fence. A vibe thing. Body language, general demeanor, facial expression, smile(if they don't smile I don't even want to speak to them at all), just how they carry themselves. This tells you an enormous amount about a person, male or female.
Darling you got me wrong.
followup said:
mrjody said:
I have stated my stand on this issue many times on BGOL & SOL. I do not want to deal with ANY black man who gives reasons why he does not date black women. I do not care what that reason is. Any black man who discounts all black women based on his few relatinships is not a man I will waste my time trying to have a discussion with. I'm the same offline too. Especially a man in his 30s & 40s. I have had plenty of negative experiences with black men, but NEVER has the thought of being with a man who wasn't black crossed my mind. Most black women I know are always down for a discussion with black men about our relationships, but when the attacks start nobody wants to deal with that. Search through SOL; there are plenty of mature threads with good healthy discussions about the problems between black men & women.
So back to my first post. If a man finds himself saying he's been with so many women who all fit a certain stereotype, how is he then going to blame the women? It's his fault for dealing with those type of women. As soon as he sees the behaviors he doesn't like he should bounce and try to avoid it in the future.
THe femi-nazi angry bitch is just a pretty and her smile dazzles just like her sane counterpart....
Im am looking to address one particular statement
A girl above said the reason why we get cussed out for hitting on you is because we pick "ignorat women" to hit on.
How do I know, and avoid getting cussed out...
Im starting to think this discussion is an excercise in futility...
what we are saying is that 75% of our beautiful black queens have an attitude and disposition not befitting her royal status...
Which means I got a 3 in four chance of running into some foul chick that will test the limitations of my otherwise chivalrous nature...
I don't like those odds
Hows that?
In the first part of the videos the guy told a story about a guy conversing with a woman on the train and it appeared to be going nicely and when the woman got up to get off the train she told the guy "I wish I had a 380 so I could shoot you in your face" which actually made me
Thanks mama.
@ mrjody: The woman sounds insane. Buuuuutttt, going from my own reaction to the guy in the video, she probably was trying to nicely show that she wasn't interested and he couldn't take a hint. His annoying self probably made her go insane.
Every woman is different. The sad thing is that alot of the men on BGOL want answers to certain questions, and the women on BGOL have no way to answer because for the most part we don't fit the women described (even though we might know some people who do)
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