Ok ... just a bit of background before I mention the life choices to follow. Keep in mind it's sort of a
3/4 life crisis of sorts, as she isn't someone in their 20s or 30s wildin' out.
- Parents divorced back in the 90s; neither remarried
- Pops dated someone for about 15 years thereafter, and upgraded to someone better after that (still with her) - he's been in AA since mid-90s
- Mom stayed single, but dated casually
- In the 2000s, we had dinner as a group with pops and he asked everyone what their 5-year plans were ... i.e. - college, work, life
- Mom said she planned to sell the family home and move to a heritage district (older, smaller homes)
- 2 months later she had sold the place and moved
- Pops was like ... "Whoa ... 2 months? Had I known that ... I would have moved back there ..." and now the past decade ...
- She lives there for a number of years & then decides to move about 4 hours away to an apartment building 3 floors from her sister
- Place needs serious renovations, so she moves to a condo in the meantime
- Moves to the apartment and begins daydrinking with her sister on the regular (beer and wine)
- Sells her car, and walks everywhere in the city
- Dates some randoms on PlentyofFish
- Finds "The One" and sells her apartment and buys a condo in his building
- Travels to India with him to be a part of his daughter's wedding party over there; they stay there for a month
- Comes back, they break up, she sells her condo & moves back to her old apartment building & buys the place nextdoor to her sister
- Daydrinking continues ... faceplants in the hallway one day walking around the corner in the hallway ... realizes she has a problem ... she starts AA
- Travels to Australia with a girlfriend for a couple of weeks ... housesitting a friend's place who was out of the country - end up staying 10 weeks
- Comes back, dates some other random briefly ... finds some other "The One" off PlentyOfFish
- Sells her apartment and moves in with him ... he sells his place & they buy a place together
- They break up a few months later, but reconnect and are on good terms (back together); they smoke weed on the daily & dabbled with edibles (some years back)
- Goes to the park this summer for a casual game of pickleball with a friend, trips and breaks her hip & has been recovering from same since, walks with a cane ... never a dull moment ...