we are complex, we wont come out of our shell for about a year or so because we want to make sure that the man likes "the real me".
Female Logic...
we are complex, we wont come out of our shell for about a year or so because we want to make sure that the man likes "the real me".
Hilarious. You should not talk to kids lurking on porn boards. Stick to posting with the adults
Oh no. Not the turd again LOL. Yes it does make sense. If I just want to call a guy up for some penis and nothing else, that is one thing. If I want to see a man outside of the bedroom *LOL* then I want to spend time and find out where he's at. I guess it's not "holding out" per se, but it is not jumping into the sack right away since I am not only interested in him for sex Get it?Your logic is funny Sis why would you hold back the sex on the dude you may want to date? That don't make any sense
Well to be honest, I was not feeling the grammar and the N word in the original post, so I just asked my own question and I've been rolling with thatI am feeling real Fantasia like and not feeling like reading all of the posts...Someone give me the short version of what is going on?
But "Good Men" want sex also. I know you not trying to hold out but why the "Good Man" got to wait for the goods?Oh no. Not the turd again LOL. Yes it does make sense. If I just want to call a guy up for some penis and nothing else, that is one thing. If I want to see a man outside of the bedroom *LOL* then I want to spend time and find out where he's at. I guess it's not "holding out" per se, but it is not jumping into the sack right away since I am not only interested in him for sex Get it?
Because the good man is not being used only for the goods LOL. He is needed for other things too so that might not be the first thing that happens.But "Good Men" want sex also. I know you not trying to hold out but why the "Good Man" got to wait for the goods?
Let's say I meet this gorgeous guy.
Very handsome,
He has a great personality and we have great conversations.
Physically I am very attracted to him,
with the cutest glasses
i guess the way i read the thread...i thought the emphasis was more on the quality of cooch...not the wait required to obtain it...thats mere logistics...and could be used to a man's advantage
Ok... Clear this up for me if you may.
So the "good guy", the one that you like, want to get to know, want to USEDfor things other than sex, gets rewarded by going a couple of rounds in the "waiting game."
While the other guy ,for the sake of using opposites, the "bad guy" , the guy you see no future in further than his penis, gets rewarded by going a couple of rounds in your bedroom.
Men, good and bad, useful and useless, complex and simple, want sex.
And you reward the bad, useless, simple man (If he was good, complex and above all USEful you would be trying to date him...right?) with sex when every the itch arise.
Men are observant by nature.
And apparantly, using your logic, it doesn't pay to be anymore than a dick to a women. And ya'll wonder why good men are hard to find.
Please explain...
*Sets down two cents, goes back to lurking*
Your too kind!
Thank you, thank you!
Glad to hear it.
DA FUCK!! OH HELL NAW!!! I DON'T WEAR GLASSES!!! WHERE'S THIS FOUR EYED FUCK AT!!
YOU JUST SHUT THIS WHOLE THREAD DOWN, IMO.
The only thing I take away from some of these (female) responses is....
- Their reward for the *good guy*...
- is to be stuck into the *friend zone* for an undetermined length of time....
- just hoping that she is truly *worth the wait*.
- But the *one-hitter-quitters*....
- are allowed to break-out the *baby oil* after midnight...
- then roll-over & *be ghost* like unused *mobile minutes*.
Because they had 'the talk' / an agreement.
And somehow there is some kinda logic to it all.
Not judging. Just saying.
So this is how terms like...
'Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?'
get started, huh?
(btw, I'm not calling anyone a cow so don't trip or take offense ladies, it's just a figure of speech)
Your problem is that you are seeing sex as the reward or the prize--which it is not. At least it is not the reward if you are looking for a wife. As soon as you stop chasing pussy, you will get it. I can't make myself any clearer than I did. The "good" and "bad" terminology came from the person who I quoted, not from me. I do not have any "bad" guys in my life.Ok... Clear this up for me if you may.
So the "good guy", the one that you like, want to get to know, want to USEDfor things other than sex, gets rewarded by going a couple of rounds in the "waiting game."
While the other guy ,for the sake of using opposites, the "bad guy" , the guy you see no future in further than his penis, gets rewarded by going a couple of rounds in your bedroom.
Men, good and bad, useful and useless, complex and simple, want sex.
And you reward the bad, useless, simple man (If he was good, complex and above all USEful you would be trying to date him...right?) with sex when every the itch arise.
Men are observant by nature.
And apparantly, using your logic, it doesn't pay to be anymore than a dick to a women. And ya'll wonder why good men are hard to find.
Please explain...
*Sets down two cents, goes back to lurking*
Stop chasing pussy and stop seeing it as the reward, then you won't be worried about cows and milk.YOU JUST SHUT THIS WHOLE THREAD DOWN, IMO.
The only thing I take away from some of these (female) responses is....
- Their reward for the *good guy*...
- is to be stuck into the *friend zone* for an undetermined length of time....
- just hoping that she is truly *worth the wait*.
- But the *one-hitter-quitters*....
- are allowed to break-out the *baby oil* after midnight...
- then roll-over & *be ghost* like unused *mobile minutes*.
Because they had 'the talk' / an agreement.
And somehow there is some kinda logic to it all.
Not judging. Just saying.
So this is how terms like...
'Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?'
get started, huh?
(btw, I'm not calling anyone a cow so don't trip or take offense ladies, it's just a figure of speech)
Stop chasing pussy and stop seeing it as the reward, then you won't be worried about cows and milk.
Nope. You're wrong. Go back and read what I typed, then try again. O.K.?Umm.. correct me if I'm wrong but aren't you the one who just admitted in this thread that she just has sex with guys she wouldn't even consider dating?
But guys that you REALLY like, have an even smaller chance of having sex with you.
So for them, it's like rolling the dice. Regardless of the length of time of the waiting period.
With you, Sex is never a reward.
The *pleasure of your company* is the reward, right?
So doesn't that mean that you use sexuality to your advantage...
to get exactly what YOU want out of a relationship?
Like companionship, among other things.
But the men in your life should never look at it that way, huh?
It's never about rewards, or prizes, or milk, it's only about companionship, love and commitment.
There's no so-called bad guys in your life.
Only guys who definitely get sex...
and guys who might get sex.
But it should never be considered a reward.
Under no circumstances.
Ok, I get it.
I was confused for a sec, but you cleared it all up.
Thanks.
followup said:If I just want to call a guy up for some penis and nothing else, that is one thing. If I want to see a man outside of the bedroom *LOL* then I want to spend time and find out where he's at. I guess it's not "holding out" per se, but it is not jumping into the sack right away since I am not only interested in him for sex
Ok... I think I understand. Stop seeing pussy as a reward and stop chasing it. Got it.
Questions however...
Since pussy should not be a reward then why do women hold out on a man they like and give it to a man they just tolerate? Why is gauntlet free pussy the prize for the man you really don't see a future with? And if you don't see a future with this person why are you letting him INSIDE YOU? And if you would just let someone you know you have no future with run up in it strings free, what does that say about how you value yourself? And if you value yourself on a level that a man with no future in your eye can get the ass why would a man you value have to wait? Why not just give him some ass, you like him and the guy you don't like is getting it right?
And inspite of that, what are you bringing to the table to compensate for having him have to wait?
Pussy may not be an reward but it damn sure seems like a prize awarded to men with no "future".
Explanation please.
*sets down 2 cents and goes back to lurking*
Thanks jucurious, because I definitely am not going to repeat myself again *SMH* I guess it depends on what a man is looking for...hmmm there goes that prize thing again
Nope. You're wrong. Go back and read what I typed, then try again. O.K.? Get it? If you don't get it now, you never will...
hmmm there goes that prize thing again
Actually, i read this whole thread. (a few times)Thanks jucurious, because I definitely am not going to repeat myself again *SMH* I guess it depends on what a man is looking for...
See this response is one that is appreciated.Damn, I never thought of sex or pussy as a "prize" nor "reward". If I feel like fucking I fuck and if I don't I don't. It's that simple.
^^^
Does it matter though?
Rudey, what do you think about women having a sex buddy?
Is the issue with accepting the fact that women do this or is it that we won't necessarily jump right into bed with a new guy we're dating? Does it make a difference if the sex buddy is a good friend of the woman's or at least she has known him for a while? If the woman and the new guy are going to have sex eventually, what is the big deal with getting to know him first? (I am not saying what I do or do not do in my private life, these are just hypotheticals. @ shane: I have never dated a tall, handsome, spectacled man in my life LOL. I was just saying IF I happened to meet this type of person)
LOL!! I swear I do not know where these characters come from. Calling someone a hoe on the internet to get a rise... but only making himself^^ aww shit!
HE CALLED MOFO's HOES!!!
*grabs popcorn*