RIP Smoove2k6..I love you!

[melonpecan]

Onyx, my moms said the same thing about her funeral - make it a celebration.

That said you can still go - I think you need to for peace of mind even if he isn't being laid the way he wants to - but then have a gathering at your house, that celebration of life that he wanted for those that care to do so in his wishes.


In all honesty if this funeral is going down how he didn't want it to he needs someone there who knows what he would have wanted.

 

[CT's Finest]

Onyx, my moms said the same thing about her funeral - make it a celebration.

That said you can still go - I think you need to for peace of mind even if he isn't being laid the way he wants to - but then have a gathering at your house, that celebration of life that he wanted for those that care to do so in his wishes.


In all honesty if this funeral is going down how he didn't want it to he needs someone there who knows what he would have wanted.

Yeah, I agree with Mel.

 

[cocobeauty]

He specifically told me and his ex wife that he would not want that. It was in his will and testiment both times he went to Iraq. He said that he would want people to remember him the way he was. I wish she would just put a picture up of him...I am still praying on this. He wouldn't want this he said he wanted a party and people celebrating what they remembered...

Onyx go because you will hear the kind words others have to say about him, you will learn more about the loving man you already knew him to be. You really do need the closure.

I had someone very close to me to pass suddenly, and I was like you and said I couldn't do it because I didn't want to remember him that way, and every year on his birthday January 10, I become angry at myself for not saying good bye. And I really thought it wouldn't bother me, but it's been 7 years and I'm still bothered by it.

Go for him, your kids, and for yourself, I promise you will feel better.

My prayers are really with you for strength because just trying to weight this decision out, I know is very difficult for you.

((((HUGS)))))

 

[letsshoot]

I SORRY TO HERE ABOUT YOURE LOST....i know you loved him so much respect that an attend his funeral you owe it to yourself and him so he can rest in peace!! he gone but will stay in YOUR HEART FOREVER....HIS LOVE AND MEMORIES CAN NEVER DIE!!!

 

[14damoney]

I have giving this a lot of thought. I was the on his speaker phone when the truck crashed into him. I heard his last words. Why did God make me the one to hear this I don't know. But I do know this-he suffered major head trauma. I know that his head was split open and he was not in good shape. He said repeatedly that he didn't like funerals because he didn't want to remember the person that way. So why his mom is insisting on a open casket is beyond me. Me nor his ex wife will be attending. I can not go to the funeral but I will have my own memorial for him. My own way.

Onyx, I know this is a difficult time, but I'm not hearing you say that you or his ex have made it clear to his mom what his wishes were...

I would like to assume it, but you haven't said it (at least not to us)...

So again, have you (as the woman that was in his life), and his ex made it clear to his mother (without a shadow of a doubt) what his wishes were? If not, maybe you and the ex need to join up for the sake of his celebration...

If she is aware of her son's wishes, then I think that as his mother, she just
yearns to see him once again (no matter what his remains may look like) for her own closure (birth-to-death)...

My step-father's younger brother died recently, and the solace that he was able to keep was that he was there for his younger brother's birth and death...

What ever the case may be, I hope you'll find peace...

 

[CT's Finest]

Onyx go because you will hear the kind words others have to say about him, you will learn more about the loving man you already knew him to be. You really do need the closure.

I had someone very close to me to pass suddenly, and I was like you and said I couldn't do it because I didn't want to remember him that way, and every year on his birthday January 10, I become angry at myself for not saying good bye. And I really thought it wouldn't bother me, but it's been 7 years and I'm still bothered by it.

Go for him, your kids, and for yourself, I promise you will feel better.

My prayers are really with you for strength because just trying to weight this decision out, I know is very difficult for you.

((((HUGS)))))

I SORRY TO HERE ABOUT YOURE LOST....i know you loved him so much respect that an attend his funeral you owe it to yourself and him so he can rest in peace!! he gone but will stay in YOUR HEART FOREVER....HIS LOVE AND MEMORIES CAN NEVER DIE!!!

Onyx, I know this is a difficult time, but I'm not hearing you say that you or his ex have made it clear to his mom what his wishes were...

I would like to assume it, but you haven't said it (at least not to us)...

So again, have you (as the woman that was in his life), and his ex made it clear to his mother (without a shadow of a doubt) what his wishes were? If not, maybe you and the ex need to join up for the sake of his celebration...

If she is aware of her son's wishes, then I think that as his mother, she just
yearns to see him once again (no matter what his remains may look like) for her own closure (birth-to-death)...

My step-father's younger brother died recently, and the solace that he was able to keep was that he was there for his younger brother's birth and death...

What ever the case may be, I hope you'll find peace...

These folks have dropped some real shit.

 

[LoneStar29]

He specifically told me and his ex wife that he would not want that. It was in his will and testiment both times he went to Iraq. He said that he would want people to remember him the way he was. I wish she would just put a picture up of him...I am still praying on this. He wouldn't want this he said he wanted a party and people celebrating what they remembered...

I feel you sis

its a shame they aren't listening smmfh

But I still think you need to go for the closure

And you and his ex wife can celebrate it the way he wanted ... you bring the pic ... dont look at the casket ... play his fave songs and dance with his children

You can still do it the way he wanted it to be done You can be his voice

*hugs* sis

 

[BullaCake]

Condolences to your friend.

At least it was a car accident and not some "wrong place, wrong time" kinda thing.

I just attended a funeral of a friend last Saturday in Coney Island that was murdered to death. Now i'm hearing news of a young girl I attend college with who just passed. She's a recent May graduate. Now, her funeral will be this Saturday in Albany.

For some reason, I've been surround by a lot of deaths.

 

[Mad Genius]

Onyx, I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. Rest in peace, brotha Smoove.


Dedicated to Onyx & Smoove:

For all we know
We may never meet again
Before you go
Make this moment sweet again

We won't say goodnight
Until the last minute
I'll hold out my hand
And my heart will be in it

For all we know
This may only be a dream
We come and we go
Like the ripples of a stream

So love me, love me tonight
tomorrow was made for some
tomorrow may never come
for all we know​

 

[Geritol]

Hi Femme, Babygirl, please go.

Considering how he departed, with you on phone, there are things you wanna say to him that cannot be said when he's 6ft in the ground. You've got to be there to tell him, yourself, privately. Why???

CLOSURE!!!!!

This is how:
1. Go with at least 3 or 4 trusted, adult close friends. There's strength in numbers.
2. Ask funeral director for private time with him. They will set you up. Be sure to ask at least a day ahead of program.
3. If you have a pastor, talk to him/her. Ask for guidance.

Good luck, we all praying for you.

 

[DarkOne]

Hello Onyx,

Im so sorry for your loss, may he rest in peace.
Be strong sister, you are now the commander in chief of your family.

 

[RICDOGG_23]

Sorry for your loss...stay strong and may your man rest in peace!!

 

[big pimp]

Rip

 

[Dark Da Icon]

my condolences

 

[Real1]

Have a peaceful journey Smoove2k6. God's speed

 

[A to Dah K]

Stay strong sister

 

[godofwine]

It's so wild. I have been on this board for 20 years. I think I've met one or two of you, but there are many of you who I know through conversation alone.

There will come a time when I won't say your name and I won't know whether you have passed or just moved on to other things.

Rest in peace to all those who have passed on