Need some advice, fellas

Bruh, focus on your money now!!! Enjoy your present while focusing on your future. Does money buy happiness? Who knows, but it's a damn good distraction! All of that energy you put into that relationship, redirect it towards your finances! Fall in love with your financial future, and everything else will fall in line. Also, lie low until this holiday season ends. This is the most depressing time of the year. Use this time to map out your gameplan. Focus on "what's coming up", instead of "what was". "Was" means "it's done".
Thank you. I am. I can’t wait to travel again! And yes, on the advice of my family, I am going to use the season to relax. It’s been a rough year and I can finally breathe.
 
Need some more details. Kids? How long was y’all together? Living together? Otherwise, if none that applies what Coldchi said ultimately the best way to get over a break-up.
We were together four years and we did live together. I packed a bag and grabbed my camera and walked. Left Dallas and came to Houston. I am not going back.
 
Wow. This is how I feel. She had a daughter who I tried to be a father figure for. I loved that kid like she was my own. I want to grieve but there is a part of me that is like “Uh uh… she ain’t worth the energy.” On the other hand, I hear a voice inside that says “It’s okay to feel it.” Thank you for sharing this affirmation.

She's not worth it. But you are. You're not grieving for her. You're grieving for you. So when you come out on the otherside, and you will, you won't have to worry about little goofy shit triggering you. When I was running from the feeling, as soon as I felt like I was getting over it, she'd call me, and I'd be triggered as fuck. It's almost like she could feel me disconnecting. But part of me wanted it to work still so her hitting me up would fuck me up, "You know (insert son's name) really misses you." Bruh! That shit was trash.

By grieving it, and her, and her son, and a part of me, I admitted that it all died. There was no running from it because none of it existed anymore. I acknowledged (to myself) that the woman I loved was gone. NOWWW when goofball finds a reason to DM me that shit doesn't even register. I don't even respond. I just smirk and scroll. The woman I loved died. I don't who tf that is in my inbox.

(for reference, this doesn't mean grieving 24/7. It's a mentality. Getcho ass up and do things you love)
 
Another plus of being a homeowner. At the end of the day my name is on the mortgage. You'll leave kicking and screaming but you'll leave. At least in my state.
 
We were together four years and we did live together. I packed a bag and grabbed my camera and walked. Left Dallas and came to Houston. I am not going back.
Cool, and the other saying that hasn’t changed either, finding another one is the best way to get over the old one. But don’t lock one down just get some pussy to feel like a man again. At least that’s what works for me. Knowing I still got options. :cool:
 
Best advice I can give you is to not look for relationship advice on this board.
 
She's not worth it. But you are. You're not grieving for her. You're grieving for you. So when you come out on the otherside, and you will, you won't have to worry about little goofy shit triggering you. When I was running from the feeling, as soon as I felt like I was getting over it, she'd call me, and I'd be triggered as fuck. It's almost like she could feel me disconnecting. But part of me wanted it to work still so her hitting me up would fuck me up, "You know (insert son's name) really misses you." Bruh! That shit was trash.

By grieving it, and her, and her son, and a part of me, I admitted that it all died. There was no running from it because none of it existed anymore. I acknowledged (to myself) that the woman I loved was gone. NOWWW when goofball finds a reason to DM me that shit doesn't even register. I don't even respond. I just smirk and scroll. The woman I loved died. I don't who tf that is in my inbox.

(for reference, this doesn't mean grieving 24/7. It's a mentality. Getcho ass up and do things you love)
Thank you for this perspective. Believe it or not, I blocked her from contacting me. When we were talking and I told it was over, she asked could we be friends and could she still contact me. She also asked if I was going block her on social media. I did, because I don’t want her contacting me or having any access to me. She had four years and then she asked for three more months. For what? I have four years. She didn’t appreciate and I had enough.

I’m about to roll a big fat blunt and relax with some Alice Coltrane.
 
It’s been a rough year. Probably the roughest of my life. I have had to endure a lot but I am a fighter. I really appreciate you brothers.
The essence of a true fighter. Not how many times you get knocked down, but how many times you get up. That's embedded in our DNA. For centuries, through the most adverse and toughest situations, we persevere. You got this, G.
 
Bro enjoy your new found peace. Do things that make YOU happy. Set goals 3 months 6 months and a year down the road. Enjoy every moment you can and meet people in places you frequent. The next woman will eventually walk into your life when you least expect it.

I would not even think about doubling back or regretting your decision. As someone before said grieve in the short term and move on knowing that you will not tolerate the toxicness you put up with before.
 
The essence of a true fighter. Not how many times you get knocked down, but how many times you get up. That's embedded in our DNA. For centuries, through the most adverse and toughest situations, we persevere. You got this, G.
Bless you and thank you.
 
Not if she got them squatters rights.

A girlfriend who is not on a lease or mortgage who's no longer welcome has no right to occupy after being asked to leave. And there is no common law marriage in my state anymore.

Georgia ended common law marriage on January 1, 1997:
No new common law marriages: No common law marriages can be created in Georgia after January 1, 1997.
 
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