I'm a throwback. I don't need a woman to take care of me. So if I move a woman in it's not because I need help paying bills it's because I want a family. If I'm a man and the only person I can afford to feed is myself then how can I dare start a family.
So men were providers because they wouldn't allow women to work. Now that we allow women to work we shouldn't provide anymore. I don't get it. Seems like we are throwing out the good with the bad. Men are providers by nature. We do the hunting. Just because we live in a society where women can hunt too doesn't mean we shouldn't be sharing our feast with our loved ones. A real man can feed himself and others. If I can only feed my self I'm surviving but I'm not leading anything. I want a woman that CAN step in if needed to help support the family but I don't need her to do that.
I know this is going to ruffle some feathers but if you are looking for a chick to go 50/50 on expenses then you a bitch 50% of the time. Are you cooking 50% of the meals how about cleaning the house 50% of the time. So what you really want is a woman to do 100% of the woman shit and 50% of the man shit.
I need a woman that's gonna do 100% of the woman shit and I'm gonna do 100% of the man shit so I'm looking for 100/100. And if she can pay a bill from time to time and I can cook a meal from time to time then we both got extras.
So if it's women shit and you view 50/50 as being a bitch, do you or did you view yourself as a bitch when you aren't in a relationship or married? If your wife worked two or three 12 hour shifts, are you not going to cook or clean for yourself or your kids? I'm not judging, but that's an immature mindset to have.
People automatically go to 50/50 being expense related. Most people in a relationship simply look at it as sharing responsibilities in the household. Both people should be contributing and that includes financially. If you're both working, both clean and cook. Maybe you have preference that you both agree on. Maybe it's actually your house so you pay the mortgage and she pays for food and utilities, cable etc. Maybe you like to cook and she prefers to clean. End of the day it's not literally 50/50 based on financially responsibilities.
Personally, I can afford to have my girl stay at home and it's never happening. One reason being we live in the modern world, so most chores aren't really time consuming especially if you spread it over the course of days. Most people don't even have a huge house to clean. Even with kids, they are generally in school by age 5 if not earlier. More importantly, I believe over time your partner will start resenting you or feeling trapped in the relationship. The fact that you are leaving the house with a purpose or have a life outside of the house will be an issue. If she's not working, that means all of her financial needs are approved or denied based purely on your thoughts.lets not act like most people in general don't have the im paying so it's my way or else mindset.
Women generally out live men right? Why is that? Could it be because men are/were working harder in addition to taking on the stress of providing. Imagine killing yourself working two or more jobs and your wife/girlfriend won't do shit. Your kids grow up not spending any quality time with dad and their primary memories are being disciplined. You're a great provider for your kids, but ultimately you weren't the best father.Your kids don't care about the house you provided, private school, car you bought etc. They only remember the things you didn't do like play games with them because you were too tired from work or too busy at work. Meanwhile your wife gets all the support and care needed without question in old age. In whole, did black women even live the stay at home wife lifestyle?what is it these women want to go back to; struggling with one income?
Somewhat unrelated, but when a content creator mentions Kevin Samuels, they often forget to mention he died under a whore. Not his wife or long-term girlfriend but a woman he was paying for. He wasn't with someone who potentially could have cared enough to tell him he needs to get a physical in general or notice he may have been off in someway.For all the advice he gave, apparently he couldn't make his own relationship(s) work. No disrespect and life happens, but my real point is people should be careful about who they take life lessons from. The majority of these people aren't living by the things they are selling to their audience. Honestly, most are guys who were hurt by women who they probably overly supported and never got over it. In turn, you have women selling a dream but leaving out things like allegedly their kids being molested until they can profit from further harming their kids.