If your main chick wanted to start talkin to other chicks...

[Destination]

..would you consider that cheating?

I was at work during lunch talking to a female friend. Now she's married but was telling me that she had started talking to another mutual female friend of ours. Now my friend is bisexual and she always likes to turn another female out. I had told her straight out that in my eyes, that's cheating if she's trying to fuck another person besides her husband. She then told me that her husband was just fine with it and "besides, it's another female, so how is that cheating?"

I told her, "Well, you're trying to have a sexual relationship with someone other than your husband. That's technically cheating to me, no matter if it's a male or female." She laughed and brushed it off but I was serious...





Now I know with all the situations a lot of cats on here have been in, this conversation has probably come up more than once. So what do yall think? Am I bugging?

 

[bham_brotha]

It really depends on the people. Ive seen couples go this route and the dude ends up getting made a fool of in the end when his chick ends up leaving him for another chick. At the same time...sometimes it works. I cant say that i'd want to go that route with my wife but someone i'm just fuckin I wouldnt really give a damn. As far as the dude, he better have his game on tight or else have his self-esteem fucked up in the end.

 

[vertigo]

So, how did she respond when you asked her about her husband fucking around with another man? Because that wouldn't be cheating either, right? (NO HOMO ) I have a feeling she might have a small attitude if she found out her man was on the down low.

Maybe her husband was trying to work out that 3-way action
so he told her that it doesn't bother him, as long as she brings those birds home.

 

[SupremoDivino]

What happened to the good ol' days when all you had worry about was keeping your eyes on the men around your woman? "Going out with the girls", nowadays, is not what it used to be. Dudes are going to end up not wanting their woman to have female friends either, lol...

Okaying all of this bi/les shit for a few minutes of satisfaction, is having long-term repercussions; ESPECIALLY when so many of ya'll do nothing but dog women out, and call 'em hoes like that's their first name.

 

[Brown Bear]

Honestly, I'd consider it cheating as well. And I've actually told my girl (jokingly) that "if I walk in on your ass and you in bed with another woman, you better jump up and yell out 'SURPRISE!!!'"

 

[SupremoDivino]

Honestly, I'd consider it cheating as well. And I've actually told my girl (jokingly) that "if I walk in on your ass and you in bed with another woman, you better jump up and yell out 'SURPRISE!!!'"

 

[SupremoDivino]

It really depends on the people. Ive seen couples go this route and the dude ends up getting made a fool of in the end when his chick ends up leaving him for another chick. At the same time...sometimes it works. I cant say that i'd want to go that route with my wife but someone i'm just fuckin I wouldnt really give a damn. As far as the dude, he better have his game on tight or else have his self-esteem fucked up in the end.

Chicks like that either are excited by the new experience of being with a woman, and think that's what they prefer MORE; OR, she was always into women more than men, and dude simply made the transition, to the other side, easier for her.

 

[OFF-BALANCED]

That is cheating

 

[bham_brotha]

Chicks like that either are excited by the new experience of being with a woman, and think that's what they prefer MORE; OR, she was always into women more than men, and dude simply made the transition, to the other side, easier for her.

Or the new bitch may just be doing a better job at pleasin the woman that her man. Trust me i've seen it happen to a dude firsthand.

 

[Simply_Black]

I am all for lesbianism ( as long as I can partake as the man in the middle ) .

 

[ShadyPat]

that shit is cheating i agree....but the husband probably wants that three some.

 

[BENBRIZZLE]

I DONT THINK THATS CHEATING IF ITS JUST A FUCK. TO ME IT BECOMES CHEATING WHEN FEELINGS GET INVOLVED. CHEATING WITH A WOMEN OR A MAN FOR THAT MATTER IS BIGGER THAN A FUCK. RELATIONSHIPS A BUILT ON WAY MORE THAN SEX ESPECIALLY AFTER THE HONEYMOON PHASE. I TOLD MY WOMEN ON MANY OCCASIONS THAT IT WOULD NOT BOTHER ME IF SHE HAD SEX WITH OTHER PEOPLE,(SHE CLAIMS THE SAME, BUT I DONT KNOW) BUT IT WOULD BOTHER ME IF SHE STARTED TAKE THEM CHECKS TO SOMEONE ELSE OR TRYING TO SELL OUR HOUSE FOR SOMEONE ELSE etc..... FUCKING IS FOR FUN BUT FUCKING ALSO GETS OLD FAST SO I SAY HAVE FUN AND HAVE (SAFE SEX) AND ITS ALL GOOD. PLUS IT WOULD BE WORSE FOR DUDE TO HAVE A THREESOME WITH HIS GIRL AND ANOTHER CHICK BECAUSE THAT HOW YOU CAN LOSE YO BITCH. LET YO BITCH SEE YOU FUCKING THE SHIT OUT SOME NEW PUSSY AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS. SHELL THINK THIS NOIGGA AINT FUCK ME LIKE THAT IN I DONT KNOW HOW LONG THEN SHE WILL START LOOKING FOR SOMEONE TO REPLACE YOU.

 

[bham_brotha]

^^^ for the MAJORITY of women (excluding ones with issues, prostitutes and porn stars) there's no such thing as sex without feelings...

Aint that the truth...

 

[BENBRIZZLE]

^^^ for the MAJORITY of women (excluding ones with issues, prostitutes and porn stars) there's no such thing as sex without feelings...

OH I MUST DISAGREE THAT'S A BOLD STATEMENT TO MAKE WHY ONLY WOMEN WITH PROBLEMS CAN FUCK OFF. I MUST SAY THAT THE MAJORITY OF WOMEN CHEAT AND COME HOME TO THERE MEN LIKE NOTHING HAPPENED IF IT WAS ALL THESE FEELINGS YOU TALKED ABOUT THEY WOULD BE FALLING APART TRYING TO KEEP THAT SHIT FROM THERE MAN. I DONT THINK YOU GIVE WOMEN ENUFF CREDIT IT AINT NOTHING TO GET FUCK AND KEEP IT MOVING THATS WHAT HALF THE GIRLS NIGHTS OUT CONSIST OFF. SO LETS KEEP IT REAL I CAN SEE YOU NOT AGREE WITH MY WHOLE STATEMENT BUT FOR WOMEN LUST IS ONE THING LOVE IS A COMPLETE OTHER.

 

[XXXplosive]

^^^ for the MAJORITY of women (excluding ones with issues, prostitutes and porn stars) there's no such thing as sex without feelings...

Amen.

No matter how much women today try to state the opposite, that is the fucking truth.

 

[BENBRIZZLE]

Amen.

No matter how much women today try to state the opposite, that is the fucking truth.

I THINK YOU ARE GETTING IT A LITTLE CONFUSED TODAYS WOMEN ARE BUSINESS WOMEN THEY ARE CATCHING FEELINGS FOR STABILITY NOT A GOOD FUCK. I SEEN MANY WOMEN CHEAT ON THERE RICH HUSBANDS FOR A GOOD FUCK BUT VERY RARELY WILL SHE LEAVE THE HUSBAND FOR A FUCK. BUT A BITCH WHO GOT A GOOD FUCK AT HOME WILL ALMOST ALWAYS LEAVE THE FUCK FOR THE NIGGA WITH MONEY AND THAT SHIT AINT GOT NOTHING TO DO WITH FEELINGS BUT THAT BITCH FEELING BROKE.

 

[gameboy]

monogamy is one of the most miscalculated concepts humans ever invented,,, it's her body, she's going to do what she wants to do with it,,, just like you.

 

[Blu Diablo]

"If your main chick wanted to start talkin to other chicks..."

Then I know it's time to pack it in and move on.

 

[SupremoDivino]

"If your main chick wanted to start talkin to other chicks..."

Then I know it's time to pack it in and move on.

End of story.

I'm not trying to be with a bisexual woman. All that is cute on and shit in porn; but in real life, it's too much of a headache, for me. I know being bi doesn't automatically mean unfaithful; but it's hard enough keeping the eyes on all the men trying to check her out....

 

[BENBRIZZLE]

Its not really that bold of a statement...MAJORITY of women are like that period - there are biological and environmental explanations, but simply its just common sense.

When women cheat again its usually because she isn't getting emotional attention yadda yadda, not because she was horny or the man looked better than her SO...

That is not to say that she loves the man/woman she is cheating with more than her hubby, but MOST often this other person is paying them attention...

TRUE STORY!

I REALLY THINK YOU ARE SPEAKING FROM YOUR LIFE BECAUSE FOR YOU TO SAY THE ONLY WOMEN WHO CAN FUCK WITHOUT FEELINGS HAVE PROBLEMS OR ARE IN PORN, OR ARE HOES IS RIDICULOUS WOMEN CHEAT DAILY WOMEN GET HORNY JUST LIKE MEN NOT SAYING THAT ALL OF THEM ACT OFF IT, BUT FOR YOU TO SAY ONLY THE CRAZY ONES DO IS CRAZY. IVE BEEN AROUND A WHILE I'VE HAD SEX WITH MANY WOMEN WHOM I'M COOL WIT THEY DIDN'T TRY TO DATE ME AND I DONT THINK THEY DO PORN OR HAVE MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES I CAN AGREE FOR THE SAKE OF AGREE BUT I REALLY THINK YOU GAOT IT BACKWARDS THE BITCHES WITH MENTAL PROBLEMS AND HOES BE THE ONES CATCHING FEELINGS.

 

[XXXplosive]

I THINK YOU ARE GETTING IT A LITTLE CONFUSED TODAYS WOMEN ARE BUSINESS WOMEN THEY ARE CATCHING FEELINGS FOR STABILITY NOT A GOOD FUCK. I SEEN MANY WOMEN CHEAT ON THERE RICH HUSBANDS FOR A GOOD FUCK BUT VERY RARELY WILL SHE LEAVE THE HUSBAND FOR A FUCK. BUT A BITCH WHO GOT A GOOD FUCK AT HOME WILL ALMOST ALWAYS LEAVE THE FUCK FOR THE NIGGA WITH MONEY AND THAT SHIT AINT GOT NOTHING TO DO WITH FEELINGS BUT THAT BITCH FEELING BROKE.

Nah, I ain't got shit confused.

The point being made is that most women will cheat because of a lack of emotional fulfillment at home, not simply because they just want some "new dick" or some "better dick"

If women simply wanted something new or bigger between their legs and nothing more, they would just go out and buy dildos all the time instead of cheating with another dude

Women that wanna get with other women are also doing it for emotional fulfillment, so that could lead to a whole new set of issues even though the thought of her being with another chick might seem like a turn-on at first

If that was my "main" chick, I'd have to keep it moving and find a new main chick

If it's just a fuck buddy, then it's cool

 

[BENBRIZZLE]

But it doesn't follow that because she won't leave her rich husband that she doesn't have feelings for the dude on the side...

MY POINT IS WHY DOES SHE HAVE TO HAVE FEELINGS WHY CANT IT JUST BE A FUCK, AND IF IT IS JUST A FUCK WHY DOES SHE HAVE TO HAVE EMOTIONAL ISSUES?

 

[BENBRIZZLE]

Nah, I ain't got shit confused.

The point being made is that most women will cheat because of a lack of emotional fulfillment at home, not simply because they just want some "new dick" or some "better dick"

If women simply wanted something new or bigger between their legs and nothing more, they would just go out and buy dildos all the time instead of cheating with another dude

YEAH AND IF I WANTED TO GO TO THE MALL I COULD CATCH THE BUS, BUT WHY I HAVE A CAR I'M SAYING WHAT NIGGA WANTS TO JAG OFF EVERYDAY IF HE CAN GET SOME REAL PUSSY. A MINORITY OF WOMEN CHEAT FOR EMOTIONAL REASON BUT MOST JUST WANT TO GET FUCKED.

 

[BENBRIZZLE]

^^^ for the MAJORITY of women (excluding ones with issues, prostitutes and porn stars) there's no such thing as sex without feelings...

AND HAVE YOU EVER THOUGH THAT BITCHES WHO ARE CATCHING FEELING FOR SOMEONE WHO JUST WANTS TO FUCK THEM ARE THE ONE WITH THE EMOTINAL PROBLEMS?

 

[BENBRIZZLE]

I think you are seeing it through your point of view as a man...women are different we are very verbal, nurturing and emotional by nature...even hardcore feminists don't deny this...it has a lot to do with our mothering instincts

I never said it was impossible or only "crazy" women don't catch feelings, I said the MAJORITY of women .

Of course some women can have sex without strings and of course even prostitutes can catch feelings for clients but its just not the norm - no matter what these women are telling you...or themselves.

I THINK YOUR SEEING IT FROM YOUR OWN EXPERIENCES. I MIGHT AGREE WITH YOU BUT I HAVE THREE WOMEN HERE RIGHT NOW (COUSINS) THAT I KNOW FUCK OFF ON THEY NIGGAS WITH NIGGAS THAT MEAN NOTHING BUT A FUCK ON THE SIDE.

 

[BENBRIZZLE]

There are soooo many theories on why women catch feelings a few include:

- From an evolutionary standpoint: unlike male sperm which is cheap and plentiful and thus can be passed around to many women, the female egg is expensive (as in takes a lot of energy to make) and is limited in amount. It is adaptive for a woman to have a man be faithful to her so that he doesn't invest his resources in other offsprings -- hence emotional attachment and its ugly cousin jealousy are also adaptive.

- Women are adapted to be more nurturing, emotionally expressive and affectionate because as mothers they spend the most time with children.

- Little girls are raised with more emotion than little boys. They are encouraged to talk about their feelings, to care for others, they are shown more affection etc.

- While growing up little girls are reinforced for being in committed relationships. For example: they see girsl/women who sleep around are
called names and outcasted, this is

I see your point about changing social roles (a quite recent phenomenon), but for an effect to take place on women's emotionality its gonna take several hundred years.

I FEEL WHERE YOU ARE COMING FROM WITH THIS ALSO,BUT THE THINGS YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT ARE VERY OUTDATED. THESE DAYS THERE ARE FATHERS WHO ARE NUTRING THE CHILDREN AND SPEND MORE TIME WITH THEM THAN THERE MOTHERS.THESE DAYS YOUNG PEOPLE DONT DEAL WITH EMOTIONS LIKE THEY USE TO BOYS OR GIRLS ARE COLD AND EMOTIONLESS, THESE DAYS THE RADIO AND T.V. DO NOT ENFORCE THE IMAGE OF WOMEN IN COMMITED RELATIONSHIPS, AND WOMEN ARE NO LONGER OUTCAST FOR BEING HOES JUST THE OPPOSITE THEIR EMBRASSED. SO I FEEL WHER YOUR COMING FROM IF THIS WAS 1707 AND NOT 2007 HEY THATS SEVERAL HUNDRED YEARS

 

[BENBRIZZLE]

I mean if its a situation where dude just picks her up and takes her to a hotel fucks her like a hooker and drops her home...yeah she probably has issues.

But if as in most cases, he spends a little time with her, talks to her on the phone - you know the mess we like (emotional foreplay if you may) - even if the routine is every monday night just to grab a bucket of chicken, rent some movies and have sex all night, a woman will catch feelings...guaranteed.

Go to any of the female forums and you'll find x amount of threads on how to turn a jumpoff into a husband....damn homie you act like this is news.

YOU JUST MADE MY POINT IF I GO TO ANY FEMALE FORUM I'LL HEAR HOW TO TURN A JUMPOFF INTO A HUSBAND AND YOU THINK THE WOMEN WHO JUST FUCK TO BE FUCKING GOT THE PROBLEMS. YOU JUST STATED THAT WOMEN BE LYING TO MEN AND THEMSELVES SO HOW CAN ANY FEMALE FORUM INFORM ME IT WILL BE FULL OF LIES. HEY TO EACH HIS OWN SHORTY I JUST SAYIN WE LIVE IN A TIME WHERE SELF GRATIFICATION MEANS MORE THAN FEELINGS AND WOMEN ARE BECOME MORE LIKE MEN AND I'M SAD TO SAY MEN ARE BECOMING MORE LIKE WOMEN. IT'S COOL TO KNOW ALL WOMEN AINT WENT TO SHIT. WISH IT WAS MORE WITH FEELINGS

 

[ArabianNite]

Fuck that shit, If my main bitch says she wants to fuck other girls and that aint cheating, I'll say, "OK me too. You wanna fuck other females, I'm gonna fuck other females too."

Seriously, fuck that shit, you dont do that with wifey.

 

[ANGRY MAN]

"If your main chick wanted to start talkin to other chicks..."

Then I know it's time to pack it in and move on.

True,if it was a fun girl he was dating then cool,but his wife is doing this,next thing you know she's going to be smashing guys as well!

 

[Makkonnen]

I hope you people realize that chicks spread HIV just like male homos

 

[Fredro]

Yes that IS cheating PERIOD.

Keep asking for threesomes with wifey and one day you'll be the third wheel and finally the spare wheel...

Some random girl you're dating - its whatever but your wife...naaaah just tooo messy a situation.

And what if the "other woman" isn't a hot bi chick but rather one of them masculine stud types...are you still down then?

Co sign

Doods keep promotin this threesome shit....and I keep tellin em....


If u want a threesome.....pay off some dykes to do it or somethin.....but dont let your main girl and especially not your wife get into that shit.

 

[jiggylo09]

Different couples have different rules.....the same rules don't apply to every couple

 

[Flawless]

fuck that yo, all these lesbian bitches trying to hook up with straight ladies but trip when a guy try to holla. I'm sure the other chic is just looking to hook up with your girl, becuase i'm sure she wont let you fuck. Anyways if you married, dont get into that three some crap because it might cause a domonio effect, for eg the next time she wants to hook up with 2 dudes

 

[BENBRIZZLE]

Different couples have different rules.....the same rules don't apply to every couple

THATS MY REAL POINT NO TWO PEOPLE ARE ALIKE SO ITS HARD TO SAY THE MAJORITY THINKS A CERTAIN WAY.

 

[BigUnc]

Different couples have different rules.....the same rules don't apply to every couple

True that

It's up to you and your spouse to determine what the boundaries are. Anything outside those boundaries is cheating. It's that simple.What other people think is irrelevent and what goes on between them is none of their damn business.