Ok, I'll just make it clear as to what the problem and solution is...
Imagine a scale, you have Poindexter all around good guy, pure in morals pure in motive amazingly sensitive in feelings and never violent. He's a 1.
Next you have Jamal Jenkins, aka "Black" hardcore thug, gangster, drug dealer, don't give a fuck about shit and has no qualms about throwing a female from a moving car should she act up or refuse to give up the pussy. He's a 100. All men fall in between 2 to 99.
When Poindexter leaves the toilet seat up, he gets yelled at in front of his friends, family or has water thrown on him in the middle of the night because his girl fell in. He will adjust and try to remember to leave the toilet seat down but because his girl was able to get away with acting stank, she will continue to do so on any issue. Hence, she will eventually lose respect for him.
Jamal Jenkins leaves the toilet seat up without even caring if its an issue and if his girl raises stank, she knows he will shove her face in that same said toilet. She doesn't want to call the police because he's hustling in the home and she'll go to jail too.
Therefore Jamal Jenkins automatically recieves a higher level of respect over Poindexter and is never challenged. Hence, Poindexter walks on eggshells to his girl, Jamal Jenkins walks on water to his girl.
Solution: Never get married. Keep your options open. Make sure you're in a situation where you can kick your girl out the house anytime you please(keep her off the lease, etc) and she wont act shitty when she knows she has to leave if she doesn't please you.
Whats unfortunate, most sisters can only respect a man thats 85+ on that scale despite wanting a good guy all the way down to Poindexter.
