Yo, ladies.. i just started dating a new lady.. i wanna do sumthin' real special and nice on Feb 14th.. what can i do that will put me over the top and make this lady say "WOW" i've done the flowers, cards and candy thing.. i wanna really go big with ole' girl.. any advice?
February 14th advice...
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What is something that she really likes, a big interest of hers? It would be nice if you could do something pertaining to her interests. For example, if she likes jazz music, taking her to a live jazz concert or so. Also, if the weather is nice (or even if it isn't), a picnic inside with candles and finger foods is very sexy.
Cook dinner. Make it a romantic night in. Make your place the restaurant, the movies, and the hotel....
Have it all done and planned out for her and make her feel like a queen....
Have it all done and planned out for her and make her feel like a queen....
sounds like a plan.. any gift ideas?
and that is the gift....or are u talkin somethin tangible?
If it was me I wouldn't need a gift.
But my first Vday gift from my fiance was a Victoria's Secret silk robe and matching slippers.
But I'm not sure you need a gift. I guess it depends on the girl. No jewelry though... May be too soon. How long you been together/dating?
If it was me I wouldn't need a gift.
But I'm not sure you need a gift. I guess it depends on the girl. No jewelry though... May be too soon. How long you been together/dating?
we been goin' out for about two months.. i was thinkin' of a perfume basket, for about $300.00
thats a bit much to spend... does she like perfume?
You'll probably want to have sex with her.
what kind of perfume are you getting for 300 bucks????? perfume and cologne have a shelf life and 300 dollars worth at one time is not a good idea.
$300 is a lot for perfume homie. Thats also simpin..
You have feelings but dont throw money at the relationship (even if you can afford it ) unless she's proven herself to you.
I'd say get her some flowers, and do something thoughtful so that she knows that you care. It doesnt have to be expensive, but the though its most important.
What you saying?? You think she might want a receipt for that gift???
How about fuck this commercialized day and make her ass feel special throughout the whole damn year. I'm not trying to go off on a tangent, but come on people. This shit's just like Christmas and any other holiday to get your money in just one day.
Show her she's special by doing some of this shit BEFORE the Feb. 14th...believe me, one fuckin' day that EVERYONE tries to make special isn't gonna make her feel special...
Just my .02 cents
Show her she's special by doing some of this shit BEFORE the Feb. 14th...believe me, one fuckin' day that EVERYONE tries to make special isn't gonna make her feel special...
Just my .02 cents
How about fuck this commercialized day and make her ass feel special throughout the whole damn year. I'm not trying to go off on a tangent, but come on people. This shit's just like Christmas and any other holiday to get your money in just one day.
Show her she's special by doing some of this shit BEFORE the Feb. 14th...believe me, one fuckin' day that EVERYONE tries to make special isn't gonna make her feel special...
Just my .02 cents
How about fuck this commercialized day and make her ass feel special throughout the whole damn year. I'm not trying to go off on a tangent, but come on people. This shit's just like Christmas and any other holiday to get your money in just one day.
Show her she's special by doing some of this shit BEFORE the Feb. 14th...believe me, one fuckin' day that EVERYONE tries to make special isn't gonna make her feel special...
Just my .02 cents
co-sign, a real man doesn't depend on a calendar to show his woman that he loves her.
Man, this is a baaaaaad precedent to set. Unless you intend to continue with buying fairly expensive stuff, cuz she's definitely going to expect it.
Listen to what the women are telling you, and keep it light, but show appreciation, and make her feel special. Just make sure whatever you do, you have already planned it out. This shows you put some time and THOUGHT into it, she'll really like this.
How about fuck this commercialized day and make her ass feel special throughout the whole damn year. I'm not trying to go off on a tangent, but come on people. This shit's just like Christmas and any other holiday to get your money in just one day.
Show her she's special by doing some of this shit BEFORE the Feb. 14th...believe me, one fuckin' day that EVERYONE tries to make special isn't gonna make her feel special...
Just my .02 cents
Well, I guess we see who WON'T be gettin' any ass on the 14th.
lol
Nigga, any gal I'm with it's Valentine's day all day, everyday, 24/7. I don't need to wait for crackas and their revisionist history which has been bastardized by commercialism and capitalism to tell me how to love my woman and make her feel special. If you are a real man, from the time she wakes up to the time she lays her head next to yours, it is "Valentine's Day". No amount of red balloons, roses, chocolates, and teddy bears to say "I love you" can make up for the fact you treat her like shit for the rest of the year. It ain't about February 14th bruh, it's about September 14th. And May 4th. And November 28th. And March 12th. Step ya fucking game up year round.
How about fuck this commercialized day and make her ass feel special throughout the whole damn year. I'm not trying to go off on a tangent, but come on people. This shit's just like Christmas and any other holiday to get your money in just one day.
Show her she's special by doing some of this shit BEFORE the Feb. 14th...believe me, one fuckin' day that EVERYONE tries to make special isn't gonna make her feel special...
Just my .02 cents
Why are you shakin' your head? Are you that brainwashed?
brainwashed no... but why make some poor girl feel bad cuz she got nothing on vday when all her girls did. if she believes in the holiday then celebrate it with her...
If you are in ATL (if not find similar in your hood) take her to:
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Imperial Fez. That should cover the $300. You will need to make reservations and I would suggest you do it now. She will remember it and if that plus your company can't elevate your score. You got some serious work ahead.
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Take her to a concert or a play. Give her the tickets for the event. The Fox Theatre has events.
I can't speak for OnS, but I don't fuck with low self-esteem having broads. Any femme I'm with is making simple-minded hoes jealous on a daily basis by the love I show. If they her girls, then they KNOW cause she damn sure telling them everyday.
Dude, if you believe most of the bullshit you wrote about everyday being v-day, and white mans revisionist, blah, blah, etc. Then you ain't been in real relationship, and you really don't know women.
Cuz, we all know this is about capitalistic commercialism, women included, but that ain't the point. Women EXPECT you to show them some special attention on this day. If you don't understand this, and you do manage to get into an LTR, then plan to sleep on the couch (I mean this figuratively, btw).
And that nonsense about V-day being everyday, shows naivete. This is not possible, nor would it be appreciated, because even if it were possible, it would become commonplace, and therefore NOT SPECIAL.
We're talking emotions here, and you can't experience the highs without the lows. Emotion is what generates passion, and thus the zest for life. Even keel is boring, and just don't cut it, especially where women are concerned. (one of the reasons women like to argue is to get you to show emotion for them)
But hey, I hope that, being all macho and not lettin' the capitalistic crackas get the best of ya, works out for you.
Really, good luck with that.
Dude, if you believe most of the bullshit you wrote about everyday being v-day, and white mans revisionist, blah, blah, etc. Then you ain't been in real relationship, and you really don't know women.
Cuz, we all know this is about capitalistic commercialism, women included, but that ain't the point. Women EXPECT you to show them some special attention on this day. If you don't understand this, and you do manage to get into an LTR, then plan to sleep on the couch (I mean this figuratively, btw).
And that nonsense about V-day being everyday, shows naivete. This is not possible, nor would it be appreciated, because even if it were possible, it would become commonplace, and therefore NOT SPECIAL.
We're talking emotions here, and you can't experience the highs without the lows. Emotion is what generates passion, and thus the zest for life. Even keel is boring, and just don't cut it, especially where women are concerned. (one of the reasons women like to argue is to get you to show emotion for them)
But hey, I hope that, being all macho and not lettin' the capitalistic crackas get the best of ya, works out for you.
Really, good luck with that.
Dude, if you believe most of the bullshit you wrote about everyday being v-day, and white mans revisionist, blah, blah, etc. Then you ain't been in real relationship, and you really don't know women.
Cuz, we all know this is about capitalistic commercialism, women included, but that ain't the point. Women EXPECT you to show them some special attention on this day. If you don't understand this, and you do manage to get into an LTR, then plan to sleep on the couch (I mean this figuratively, btw).
And that nonsense about V-day being everyday, shows naivete. This is not possible, nor would it be appreciated, because even if it were possible, it would become commonplace, and therefore NOT SPECIAL.
We're talking emotions here, and you can't experience the highs without the lows. Emotion is what generates passion, and thus the zest for life. Even keel is boring, and just don't cut it, especially where women are concerned. (one of the reasons women like to argue is to get you to show emotion for them)
But hey, I hope that, being all macho and not lettin' the capitalistic crackas get the best of ya, works out for you.
Really, good luck with that.
I came to a decision long ago that I don't really buy big into holidays like Valentine's Day or Christmas. I don't really go big out of pocket on those "special" days. If you do, that's you. Anyone who knows who I am knows that about me and accepts it. Be that fam, friends or the wifey. Second, the shit about Whitey's history and all that was sarcasm and jokes. The shit about everyday being special is true. I get gifts because I think of her, not cause it's some date on a calendar (besides birthday). "Baby, I saw those earrings you liked and bought them", "I thought you'd look good in this, so I bought it", "Let's spend a weekend at the Plaza, just cause you had a hard week at work", shit like that. I've never had a complaint, not one, kept a woman for 6 years like that.
Just because you live your life inside the cookie cutter confines of conventionalism doesn't mean everyone else does. You're right, maybe I don't know most women because the ones I've ever been in a relationship with, even casual dating, haven't had a problem.
You're talking all this about naivete and treating your woman special everyday makes it commonplace and relationships should have highs and lows, what type of dumb shit is that? You say it is not possible to love and cherish your woman everyday? Occasionally sprinkle her with gifts. Instead of cooking chumpass heart-shaped pancakes on V-Day, you fix meals on the regular. Instead of a dozen roses that will all die in a week, you stop by the flower man on the way home every once in a while and pick her up some flowers (doesn't have to be roses) and put them in a vase in your kitchen so everytime she walks by the vase, she sees the FRESH flowers as a reminder of your growing love. You tell me the broads you mess with wouldn't accept that? Then you need to step your clientele up.
You say emotions generate passion, but even keel don't cut it? If her emotions are always high (as high as they can be), they why wouldn't I strive to do that EVERYDAY, as long as I'm able. When I fuck my women, I give them all the dick, till I can't give it no more. If I'm giving them good fucking everyday, you telling me that's bad? A woman won't accept that?? I gotta hold back on the dick on some days and pump it up on others cause of some bullshit holiday?? That don't make no sense at all. You call me naivete. Game recognize game and you looking real unfamiliar.
And I never said the wifey doesn't get a little extra on V-Day, but it's that, a little.
Alright buddy, respect.
I was mostly just fuckin' witcha anyway. I however, happen to like the special occasion, (V-day,Xmas,B-day). The planning, the excitement, the presentation, etc. but that's just me. I still do little stuff, but these days are special.
You right about one thing, though. I need to step up my "clientele", cuz I love really crazy women, ya know, the Bigirl type, liable to snap on you at any moment! Talk about making life interesting, LOL!
And I've never had a woman leave me, I normally have to move, and change my number and shit.
"chumpass heart-shaped pancakes"
Oh yeah, j/k about the moving, and number change.
Clearly the bro celebrate V day. Stop fucking up the thread with all this other bullshit and give the man some suggestion. Don't really think he cares that you don't celebrate it. Homie is trying to get in good on some love here. Help the man or let other people do but stop clogging up the thread.
Cook a nice, romantic, candle light dinner. Give her a full body massage and pedicure.
whoa!! 2 months and u spending $200?
so what happens when yall have your 6 month anniversary what are you gonna buy her?
start small pimpin...its early in the game...dont come out with your guns blazing
i think a $30 ($50 tops) is a good price to stay at
Co-sign...the times I've had on V-day have been more fucked up than any other time I spent with the different women I was with, primarily because they EXPECTED certain shit from me. Believe me, when you expect a person to do exactly what you want them to do, you're mostly likely going to be disappointed. That means this: I would do something unique on that day for them and because I didn't come with the box of candy, diamond ring, or dozen roses they were disappointed. SHIIIITTTT, I remember one time I caught a plane and a train from Providence to go see my girlfriend at the time, had bought her a teddy bear, flowers, a book she liked, and because I didn't get their until 3:00 AM (the plane was delayed), she threw a fit and the whole Valentine's day weekend was fucked up.
The times when women are the happiest with their man is when he does the unexpected, little things...like surprise her at her job on her lunch break to take her out, plan a getaway weekend when she's had it up to the hilt with all the shit she takes from her job, family, and others...have a "her" day where she gets pampered 'cause you know she deserves it for all the shit she does for you and others...That's the shit I'm talking about. If a woman can't see the bigger picture and know that those days (the days where she feels like shit to the world) are more important for you to make her feel like a queen than a fuckin' commercialized day to rake in money from countless drones doing what the status quo says to do, then she ain't worth my time, energy, or effort...
Homeboy, I ain't pressed to get ass. Those who know me on the board and off, know this...
And if this is what you do to get ass, I feel sorry for ya bro....
I feel like this Angel: If you need to feel GOOD because you got what all your girls got or got something when they got something, then you don't need to be in a relationship, you need to be in nursery school and daycare. If she wants to do something special then fine, I with that...but that happens regardless if it's Valentine's day or not...
Hey LD, yes you can brotha...I feel the same damn way. If she has to feel validated by what her friends say she should be gettin', then she doesn't need to be with me.
Dude, if you believe most of the bullshit you wrote about everyday being v-day, and white mans revisionist, blah, blah, etc. Then you ain't been in real relationship, and you really don't know women.
Cuz, we all know this is about capitalistic commercialism, women included, but that ain't the point. Women EXPECT you to show them some special attention on this day. If you don't understand this, and you do manage to get into an LTR, then plan to sleep on the couch (I mean this figuratively, btw).
And that nonsense about V-day being everyday, shows naivete. This is not possible, nor would it be appreciated, because even if it were possible, it would become commonplace, and therefore NOT SPECIAL.
We're talking emotions here, and you can't experience the highs without the lows. Emotion is what generates passion, and thus the zest for life. Even keel is boring, and just don't cut it, especially where women are concerned. (one of the reasons women like to argue is to get you to show emotion for them)
But hey, I hope that, being all macho and not lettin' the capitalistic crackas get the best of ya, works out for you.
Really, good luck with that.
I'm not sayin' that V-day is everyday when you're with me, but the feeling of V-day that most women experience is bullshit anyway half the time. Generic gifts from a nigga lookin' to just keep up with the status quo so he can get some pussy and she can feel wanted and shit. If that's not pathetic then I don't know what is. What I'M SAYING, is that a woman deserves to be made to feel special not just on Valentine's day, but throughout the relationship. Fuckin' people act like the expression of love, adoration, gratefulness, and sincerity are relegated to one on Feb. 14...
Preach brotha, Preach...where's that T.D. Jakes pic....
I gave him help nigga, I told him to fuck her. The fuck are you, thread police? You gonna arrest me officer? Nigga's always have conversations within conversations and you come in like Keystone Cops. Fall back.
I'm not saying anything about myself and how I feel if I don't get anything. Some people do need that validation and if they do then that's their prob to deal with. Doesn't mean they belong in nursery school. Fact of the matter is that his girl obviously celebrates the holiday. Why ruin it for her because of YOUR opinion. Give the man some suggestions because thats what he asked for.
Bottom line is don't ruin it for her because you don't agree with something. If that'll make her feel special then do it. And give the man some suggestions. Be positive. Be loving. In the spirit of VDay!
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