Black Women Submit To Black Men!!!

Like I said ... I don't wanna touch that:smh:That's not my style




Well maybe YOU shouldn't ASSume that I was going to diss another race ... and try speaking directly to me if you have something to say about one of my posts ... I'm just saying:hmm:

honestly, I was speaking in general. See, I've been in these discussions before. Once someone start bringing up other races, the dissing start. So I was just saying lets not open that pandora's box just yet.

Its cute that you put the ASSume in. Too bad I haven't seen your pix yet...
 
honestly, I was speaking in general. See, I've been in these discussions before. Once someone start bringing up other races, the dissing start. So I was just saying lets not open that pandora's box just yet.

Its cute that you put the ASSume in. Too bad I haven't seen your pix yet...

Yeah you have ... look at my avatar:cool:
 
This thread makes me sad....

1. How about we stop the "American Black Women" bashing. You don't know shit about being a black woman if you aren't one and you defintely don't know anything about being an "American" if you aren't. So how about we stop talking shit about the American Black Women unless you're willing to be me for a day!

2. To Oxy, I get what you're saying. My mom taught me that too. Let them talk and make them believe that they're runnin shit then go about your business and do what you gotta do.

3. We have names. Lets try using them instead of callin the women here sweetheart. I see what you're doing and it's lame.

4. Lonestar, how do you always end up in the center of every debate? :lol: Lonestar always scrappin!
 
Yeah you have ... look at my avatar:cool:

Yea Lonestar, You always fightin these ninjas:lol::lol::lol::cool:

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That's symantics at work...


This is generally percieved as an argument, I doubt many people here would buy into an argument as a structured debate or discussion on a porn board. With the key words being opposition and contention.



A discussion is objective conversation. I would hardly call, "your argument fails", the beginning of an earnest discussion. But, that may be objective communication to you. An argument(as in a rebuttle to) can in fact be a PART of a discussion, but I don't think you meant it that way...if you did, then I didn't perceive your statement as an open ended, objective rebuttle.

In any event, I was unable to find any "RELIABLE" sources to validate that
"70% of black childeren are living in single mother households". However, I misread your statement, you typed, "70% of black childeren are being born to single mother households". I was able to find quite a few sources to validate this statistic, with most leaning towards the 66% -70% range.:eek: But in saying this, the relationship to marriage and divorce is and was very relavent to your reply. A single mother, means unwed, it doesn't mean she's alone or without a partner. Statistically speaking, she is counted among the unwed, even with a live in boyfriend, baby's daddy...etc.

In terms of living arrangements, the U.S. Census Bureau says that nearly 53%of black children live with a single parent and more black children have lived with a single parent than in a family structure. What I found interesting is single black fathers are the largest growing sector of single parents. So the 70% statistic says, 7 out of 10 black women are having babies for their man and most black men are not willing to marry their Babies Momma:smh:

This is just sad all the way around...I was really hoping that none of these numbers were true. About the marriage and divorce thing, I found some interesting stats on that as well and it profoundly affects black families more than white, asian, mexican and other.


Marianne Page and Ann Huff Stevens find that in the first two years
following a divorce, family income among white children falls about 30
percent, while it falls by 53 percent among black children

In fact, three or more years after the divorce, the black families' income
remains 47 percent lower than if the parents had remained together. Marriage appears to have even greater benefits for black children whose single mothers marry than for their white counterparts, according to the study.

"Black children are only half as likely as white children to be living in a two-parent household, and are eight times more likely than white children to live with an unwed mother. For black children under six, 'the most common arrangement -- applying to 42 percent of them -- was to live with a never-married mother.'"

The Abolition of Marriage, by Maggie Gallagher p. 117, citing Andrew J. Cherlin, Marriage, Divorce, Remarriage, rev. and enl. ed., (Cambridge, Mass.: Harvard University Press, 1992), 98-99.


"Only 18 percent of black women who married in the 1940s eventually divorced, a rate only slightly higher than that for white women of that era. But, of that far smaller number of black women who married in the late sixties and early seventies, 60 percent have already divorced."

"'Exposure to single motherhood at some point during adolescence increases the risk [of a daughter's later becoming a single mother] by nearly [150 percent] for whites and.....by about 100 percent for blacks.'"
Sara S. McLanahan, "Family Structure and Dependency: Reality Transitions to Female Household Headship," Demography 25, Feb., 1988, 1-16. Cited in Amneus, The Garbage Generation, page 240


A whole other thread, but interesting reads and sources.



I don't understand this statement, please qualify it for me. Are you saying a family no longer needs to consist of a Married woman, man and/or child to be defined as a family? Because if you are, the federal govornment and the U.S. Census burea disagree with you. If that is not what you're saying, what are you saying? I have another question, were you raised by a single mother or father...were either one of your parents absent? My views may be different because I was raised in a two parent household with my siblings, so my idea of family is more traditional...As most people see family the same way.

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whoa buddy...

lets see...i pick out a few things to respond to cause im sorry but aint no way in hell im reading that in its entirity

i am the product of a 2 parent household...my parents have been married for over 30 years..

the reason i say marriage isnt the beginning of a family is because alot of people raise childern together without being married...people raise thier childeren outside a marraige moreso than those that do...thats my point

and as far as your argument argument...i took my defintion from the dictonary...not to mention i took a course on the art of argumentation in college....but hey what do the people who give out degrees gotta say:rolleyes:
 
Yeah.....ok :lol

*one day some people will just bite the bullet and keep on instead of trying to save face


Anyways...........

Don,

It's amazing to me. I'm not even religious....so I'm going to point this towards the people that are.

If a black person is Christian why do they choose not to follow the teachings? I'm in Atlanta where damn near every black woman is involved in the church. But... clearly the traditional Christian teachings state that the MAN is the head and leader of the household. The teachings also say that a wife is to "submit" to their husband.

I think women are PURPOSELY trying to be overdramatic with the meaning of the word "submit".

Gender roles are for the most part fucked in this county...and even more so in the black community.

Women Want Men to be the PROTECTOR/PROVIDER. Any decent man strives to be such.

A man worth a damn expects his woman to be the NURTURER/CAREGIVER. I aint talking about being some CAVEMAN TYRANT. A strong man is supposed to establish the DIRECTION OF THE FAMILY.....the woman is supposed to support and assist the man in that vision.

Ladies if you say you don't like that idea fine. Unlike 100 years ago you have a choice. You can position yourself to be CHOSEN by a man whom's "vision" you agree with....................OR YOU CAN REMAIN SINGLE.

BUT THEN AGAIN LADIES IT TAKES WORK FOR YOU TO PLACE YOURSELF IN A POSITION TO BE CHOSEN BY A MAN OF GREAT "VISION" THAT HAS SEVERAL QUALITY OPTIONS TO CHOOSE FROM.


LADIES ARE YOU WILLING TO DO THE WORK NECESSARY TO BE CHOSEN BY THE TYPE OF MAN THAT YOU DESIRE?
 
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whoa buddy...

lets see...i pick out a few things to respond to cause im sorry but aint no way in hell im reading that in its entirity

i am the product of a 2 parent household...my parents have been married for over 30 years..

the reason i say marriage isnt the beginning of a family is because alot of people raise childern together without being married...people raise thier childeren outside a marraige moreso than those that do...thats my point

and as far as your argument argument...i took my defintion from the dictonary...not to mention i took a course on the art of argumentation in college....but hey what do the people who give out degrees gotta say:rolleyes:


I don't feel two people raising children together without an obligation is considered..."A Family". At least they are not counted that way in the census, they are both single, raising children. I find it unusual that you were raised in a two parent household, I'm assuming by a married couple, but would consider a cohabitation arrangement a family. To each his or her own I geuss. I took both definitions from the dictionary as well, and I have two degree's, working on a third. I'm not sure what those people who give out degrees gotta say...:rolleyes:
 
Don,

It's amazing to me. I'm not even religious....so I'm going to point this towards the people that are.

If a black person is Christian why do they choose not to follow the teachings? I'm in Atlanta where damn near every black woman is involved in the church. But... clearly the traditional Christian teachings state that the MAN is the head and leader of the household. The teachings also say that a wife is to "submit" to their husband.

I think women are PURPOSELY trying to be overdramatic with the meaning of the word "submit".

Gender roles are for the most part fucked in this county...and even more so in the black community.

Women Want Men to be the PROTECTOR/PROVIDER. Any decent man strives to be such.

A man worth a damn expects his woman to be the NURTURER/CAREGIVER. I aint talking about being some CAVEMAN TYRANT. A strong man is supposed to establish the DIRECTION OF THE FAMILY.....the woman is supposed to support and assist the man in that vision.

Ladies if you say you don't like that idea fine. Unlike 100 years ago you have a choice. You can position yourself to be CHOSEN by a man whom's "vision" you agree with....................OR YOU CAN REMAIN SINGLE.

BUT THEN AGAIN LADIES IT TAKES WORK FOR YOU TO PLACE YOURSELF IN A POSITION TO BE CHOSEN BY A MAN OF GREAT "VISION" THAT HAS SEVERAL QUALITY OPTIONS TO CHOOSE FROM.

I agree with you, I think a lot of individuals have gone far and beyond the true definition of the words "submit" and "obey".


For those on the board, who are Christians, in the New Testament, slaves are told to obey their masters and children their parents, but wives are not told to obey their husbands; rather, they are told to submit to their husbands. In Ephesians 5:21-33, the wife’s submission is presented as one aspect of the mutual submission that should exist between all believers in Christ.

We tend to assume that when the Bible says, “wives or women, submit,” it necessarily means submit to authority; yet in the Ephesians passage authority is not the issue, but rather self-sacrificing love and mutual respect. Here husbands and wives are told to let their relationship imitate the relationship of Christ and the church in the sense that the church submits to the life-giving, self-sacrificing love of Christ for the church.

:):):)I think focusing on the true meaning of things will get us further in life!:):):)
 
I don't feel two people raising children together without an obligation is considered..."A Family". At least they are not counted that way in the census, they are both single, raising children. I find it unusual that you were raised in a two parent household, I'm assuming by a married couple, but would consider a cohabitation arrangement a family. To each his or her own I geuss. I took both definitions from the dictionary as well, and I have two degree's, working on a third. I'm not sure what those people who give out degrees gotta say...:rolleyes:

i mean this in the nicest way...but...fuck the census

how about u ask a child whose mommy and daddy isnt married and see what they call it

life isnt joan and bill cleaver...or wahtever their names are

my best friend's parents were together 15 years before they got married....people raise childern outside of marraiges more than not

just because they dont have a certificate to make the insitution "offical" doesnt automaticlly mean its more functional than the next

hell there are "marriages" that are mere co-habitations

and a gold star and a :dance: to your many degrees
 
i mean this in the nicest way...but...fuck the census

how about u ask a child whose mommy and daddy isnt married and see what they call it

life isnt joan and bill cleaver...or wahtever their names are

my best friend's parents were together 15 years before they got married....people raise childern outside of marraiges more than not

just because they dont have a certificate to make the insitution "offical" doesnt automaticlly mean its more functional than the next

hell there are "marriages" that are mere co-habitations

and a gold star and a :dance: to your many degrees

people raise childern outside of marraiges more than not

Maybe black people do...but other races do not...so does that make it o.k. for black people. And why can't a relationship be like the Cleavers....:lol: btw, that shit was funny. I don't think Love and the institution of marriage is hopeless, I do agree that it does not make relationships more functional....I agree with that 100%.

Why are sista's so against doing the relationship thing the right way? They seem to have their money right, their education on point, their career advancement path mapped out, but damn....when it comes to relationships, it's a huge struggle. Have kids, date whoever, collect child support, if the nigga is workin' and go on about life...whatever happened to an apple pie on the window sill...naw I'm playin' but you know what I mean.

BTW...it was the census that validated your 70% statement...so there must be some credibility in it.
 
Maybe black people do...but other races do not...so does that make it o.k. for black people. And why can't a relationship be like the Cleavers....:lol: btw, that shit was funny. I don't think Love and the institution of marriage is hopeless, I do agree that it does not make relationships more functional....I agree with that 100%.

Why are sista's so against doing the relationship thing the right way? They seem to have their money right, their education on point, their career advancement path mapped out, but damn....when it comes to relationships, it's a huge struggle. Have kids, date whoever, collect child support, if the nigga is workin' and go on about life...whatever happened to an apple pie on the window sill...naw I'm playin' but you know what I mean.

BTW...it was the census that validated your 70% statement...so there must be some credibility in it.

remember....we are talking about black people (hence my earlier statement...focus!)

as far as sistas not want to do a tradtional relationship...i would argue that alot of us have problems finding men who actually committ...so alot of women SETTLE for whatever they can get

personally i dont think there is anything wrong with a house with a pickett fence...2.5 kids...a dog...and a apple pie in the window...on the same token i am realistic and understand that although it was the norm its not moving in that direcion
 
This thread makes me sad....

1. How about we stop the "American Black Women" bashing. You don't know shit about being a black woman if you aren't one and you defintely don't know anything about being an "American" if you aren't. So how about we stop talking shit about the American Black Women unless you're willing to be me for a day!

2. To Oxy, I get what you're saying. My mom taught me that too. Let them talk and make them believe that they're runnin shit then go about your business and do what you gotta do.

3. We have names. Lets try using them instead of callin the women here sweetheart. I see what you're doing and it's lame.

4. Lonestar, how do you always end up in the center of every debate? :lol: Lonestar always scrappin!

so its bashing when I say "lets look at our own race first"?

Whoever black women bashing are lame to begin with. The truth of the matter is, a lot of single women in general are crazy. However, who said thats a bad thing? I figure this, if a woman is crazy about my dick, I'm doing something right....

i dont know who number three is pointed towards so im staying out of that.

I'm not scrapping with lonestar. In fact, we see things the same on the most part. Hell she might be my bgol soulmate........... :lol:
 
Lonestar, how do you always end up in the center of every debate? :lol: Lonestar always scrappin!

Yea Lonestar, You always fightin these ninjas:lol::lol::lol::cool:

It's true I am always fightin' with one of them:lol::roflmao2::lol:I think I'm a ease up off them though cuz some of them are really startin' to hate me ... this I know cuz they argue any point I make ... it's like if I say the sky is blue they fightin' me that it's purple:smh: ................. :lol:

I'm not scrapping with lonestar. In fact, we see things the same on the most part. Hell she might be my bgol soulmate........... :lol:

:eek::eek::eek:A man on BGOL that doesn't hate me:confused:another first:yes:
 
It's true I am always fightin' with one of them:lol::roflmao2::lol:I think I'm a ease up off them though cuz some of them are really startin' to hate me ... this I know cuz they argue any point I make ... it's like if I say the sky is blue they fightin' me that it's purple:smh: ................. :lol:



:eek::eek::eek:A man on BGOL that doesn't hate me:confused:another first:yes:
Ace doesnt hate you. Ace doesnt hate anyone.
 
Thank you:) ....... but why is Ace talking in 3rd person:confused: ................................................ :lol:
I do that some time, the cat above did make a good point though. What do you look like? You can tell much more about a female by her face then you can by an ass shot. Will you reveal yourself?
 
I do that some time, the cat above did make a good point though. What do you look like? You can tell much more about a female by her face then you can by an ass shot. Will you reveal yourself?

The first pic I put up of myself on here was a full face and body shot(not naked or anything) ... I have no problems showing my face ... like I told him when I get home I'll send him something ... and you too I guess since I remember you asking from before and I forgot to do it
 
Fellas after seeing her pics I acknowledge that she is attractive. I would let her choose me.

hey she don't like me enough to show me...

hell, bgol needs to get a userplane.com chat room with WEBCAMS....

oh yea lone, you can see me on my myspace...same name as this.

btw, I have dreads now.

*edit* she just showed me her pix..... very nice...
 
hey she don't like me enough to show me...

hell, bgol needs to get a userplane.com chat room with WEBCAMS....

oh yea lone, you can see me on my myspace...same name as this.

btw, I have dreads now.

*edit* she just showed me her pix..... very nice...

That Travis Barker vid on your page is hot! You cute
 
This thread makes me sad....

1. How about we stop the "American Black Women" bashing. You don't know shit about being a black woman if you aren't one and you defintely don't know anything about being an "American" if you aren't. So how about we stop talking shit about the American Black Women unless you're willing to be me for a day!


co-sign!!!!!!

that type of shit makes me want to stop coming to sol. I am me, and I don't sit here trying to compare myself to any other race. I'm tired of these elitist attitudes *shrugs* maybe they hating extra tough to cover up bullshit in their own race.




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First off FLASH, you gave yourself away with the screen name. Either you can't spell, like THE FLASH, or you're some effiminent White Boy who likes Avril Lavigne and all that other bubble gum pop rock. Then the run-on sentences, lack of syntax, lack of proper punctuation, spelling all to SHIT. Nigga, WHAT THE FUCK IS "mariige"?? Is that some African tribal shit?? How about "pionts"? Or "independece"??? Is that Italian for dumbass post??

:lol: Hilarious throwback thread.
 
Women just looking for a reason to argue.

Context context context

submit in a relationship doesn't not mean slave...jeez.

Bitches submit all day at work...but when it comes to their man and the person their in a relationship with its a problem. :smh::hmm:

Just be cooporative is the point.

Even I at 20 know this.

Everything has a structure and within that structure there must be some type of order. Submit in a relationship mean just get out the nigga face with all that "me, me me! " bullshit and think about other people for a change. :hmm:
 
Geez.

I am so tired of all this white/latina/thai/native american/easter island indeginous women don't act like this bullshit. There will ALWAYS be someone in every race that acts in that way! The reason you don't see this is because you are conciously or subconciously looking for women who are opposite from those you are used to dealing with. Hence, since you associate this independent spirit with Black women, you're going to not bother even getting to know women of other races or backgrounds that even exhibit that trait in the least.

:smh: You young men kill me.

Classic
 
"submission" within a relationship isn't a curse word...


but whatever, life is a better teacher than any dude, myself included.
 
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