After 4 years of curving him... She finally saw something in him (or she settled, you be the judge)

Hey now.....
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Goo lawd she fine

This is the problem. Let's say the girl in question was this girl. Whole lot of us would forgive her ugly soul to be with her gorgeous exterior. By the time we realize the mistake it's too late (got her pregnant).

Luckily that's not my story but easily could have been. When I came to Atlanta at 18 I was overwhelmed. Never seen that many fine Black girls. If I didn't have good friends around me I would have been sucked into the Spelman vortex like so many before me.
 
I'm not broadcasting it online and airing chicks out if I did XYZ with a chick is my point. Plus the majority of dirt I did was long B4 I was even 20.

Think you're missing the point I'm trying to convey.

You can't have this stigma that all men or all BGOL men think like "this".

Nothing like that.

But in that same notion there's hoards of chicks who gladly tease guys along with the carrot they they never plan to give.

ie: I have friends who live on these dating apps. There's teams of women on there who use dudes only to line them up for their weekly eating plans in upscale restaurants.

Mike - lunch Mon
Tom - dinner Mon

Bob - lunch Tues
Harry - dinner Tues

Sam - lunch Wed

And so on and so forth.

Do I categorize all women in the same boat? No.
I can't, it's just majority of the dating circles apps, my single friends constantly tell me the same stories of majority of the women who lurk there are users. We've had threads on here about it.
A great number of women are hive-minded. That is why when you insult some females (like Oprah or Beyoncé), they get offended. Women's communication is mainly socialization (which is why they are better at it than us). As men, when we communicate, its usually for a purpose. We think of ourselves as individuals, even when we are crewed up, which is why we don't take it personally if a woman insults a specific man. Our attitude is "well, that's that knigga!"
And I agree with you. There is a difference between being used and feeling used. If you go out with a woman and y'all have a good time and at the end of it all, you blow her back out and call it a night - if both of y'all had fun, its even-steven. You could say that technically, both of y'all used each other. If she feels pressured to give up the box or if you string her along with promises but keep disappointing her after she does for you, then of course, she will feel some kind of way about that.
The problem is that a lot of women nowadays throw in a re-assessment after the fact. They go home, discuss the night with their female "frienemies" and those chicks shame them into believing they should have taken advantage of you instead of things being even. A lot of women shame other women for not taking advantage of a man. They also shame women for having their physical desires met. "You mean the nigga didn't pay none of your bills or nothing? He ain't shit." "If you're giving up the coochie, he could at least pay a light bill or something" "Why are you even dealing with him?" "He's trash!" I've personally heard many conversations like this. Females like this only think of men as utilities. A lot of them are bitter because they have a value assessment associated with their pussies and when they are not getting what they want, they blame the man they are dealing with and by default, all men because they see men through a woman's lens.
 
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A great number of women are hive-minded. That is why when you insult some females (like Oprah or Beyoncé), they get offended. Women's communication is mainly socialization (which is why they are better at it than us). As men, when we communicate, its usually for a purpose. We think of ourselves as individuals, even when we are crewed up, which is why we don't take it personally if a woman insults a specific man. Our attitude is "well, that's that knigga!"
And I agree with you. There is a difference between being used and feeling used. If you go out with a woman and y'all have a good time and at the end of it all, you blow her back out and call it a night - if both of y'all had fun, its even-steven. You could say that technically, both of y'all used each other. If she feels pressured to give up the box or if you string her along with promises but keep disappointing her after she does for you, then of course, she will feel some kind of way about that.
The problem is that a lot of women nowadays throw in a re-assessment after the fact. They go home, discuss the night with their female "frienemies" and those chicks shame them into believing they should have taken advantage of you instead of things being even. A lot of women shame other women for not taking advantage of a man. They also shame women for having their physical desires met. "You mean the nigga didn't pay none of your bills or nothing? He ain't shit." "If you're giving up the coochie, he could at least pay a light bill or something" "Why are you even dealing with him?" "He's trash!" I've personally heard many conversations like this. Females like this only think of men as utilities. A lot of them are bitter because they have a value assessment associated with their pussies and when they are not getting what they want, they blame the man they are dealing with and by default, all men because they see men through a woman's lens.
there is some truths in these statements
 
His homeboy: "Aight, listen up. I know y'all wanna clown, but chill. We know ain't no way in hell we'd do that, but let's just be happy for Simp. Cool?"
 
A great number of women are hive-minded. That is why when you insult some females (like Oprah or Beyoncé), they get offended. Women's communication is mainly socialization (which is why they are better at it than us). As men, when we communicate, its usually for a purpose. We think of ourselves as individuals, even when we are crewed up, which is why we don't take it personally if a woman insults a specific man. Our attitude is "well, that's that knigga!"
And I agree with you. There is a difference between being used and feeling used. If you go out with a woman and y'all have a good time and at the end of it all, you blow her back out and call it a night - if both of y'all had fun, its even-steven. You could say that technically, both of y'all used each other. If she feels pressured to give up the box or if you string her along with promises but keep disappointing her after she does for you, then of course, she will feel some kind of way about that.
The problem is that a lot of women nowadays throw in a re-assessment after the fact. They go home, discuss the night with their female "frienemies" and those chicks shame them into believing they should have taken advantage of you instead of things being even. A lot of women shame other women for not taking advantage of a man. They also shame women for having their physical desires met. "You mean the nigga didn't pay none of your bills or nothing? He ain't shit." "If you're giving up the coochie, he could at least pay a light bill or something" "Why are you even dealing with him?" "He's trash!" I've personally heard many conversations like this. Females like this only think of men as utilities. A lot of them are bitter because they have a value assessment associated with their pussies and when they are not getting what they want, they blame the man they are dealing with and by default, all men because they see men through a woman's lens.
Real fukn rap here!
Salute!
 
He met her during her ho phase and she had to get it out of her system.
Which is completely plausible.
Hopefully he did the same.

Good point but she still was simping this nigga out for 4 years, turning him down, using him for free meals and I'm guessing that nigga got nowhere near the pussy. He was probably flirting and she was probably awkwardly shutting him down.

What the fuck does she do when that relationship hits a snag? Respect is everything.
 
I guess I am reading this different than everyone else. Her post is only her point of view and tells things as she seen it. Hell I have women I have fucked that could tell the same story about how I was trying to fuck for five or ten years and she finally gave in this having curved me for a long time However trying to fuck only means that any time I ran into her in the streets or sent her a text I was trying to fuck. It does not mean I was not smashing fifty eleven other chics while shooting at her every so often. I do not believe brother was not smashing hella chics while still throwing shots at this chic. Just so happen they hooked up probably when he was in between hoes and it’s working out. Women love to tell the story about how men chase them for years and the whole time that man have been in five relationships and been engaged once.
 
Not my woman.
Not my problem.
Besides:
- He wanted her.
- He pursued her.
- He got her. (After 4 years).
If he's happy & can live with her particular "narrative", then who am I to question it....?
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I'm happy they're happy.
But what I will say is, the same chicks who will applaud his persistence would be telling other women that a man doesn't really love you and he aint worth it if he doesn't marry you in the first year. Patience and persistence is for men only in their eyes.
 
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