The Nice Nigga Theory

[True Real Info]

Good points made in this thread...

Sorry I didn't check it out any sooner...

What's a good black woman - I mean, no kids (check), good job (check), has her own place, car, etc. (check, check) and stays to herself (check) - to do with committing to a good black man who maybe doesn't want to be committed to?

He's cool with "playing house," but doesn't want to put the title - or ring - on it... Is a female supposed to stay around for that, or go onto the next one?!?

Me personally, I have my own single woman problems (sigh), but I know a lot of it has to do with me (lol), so I'm working on it...but, for a friend, how does this work out?!?

first I give you props for not throwin all niggas that age under the bus with the committed relationship version of "niggas aint shit," which sounds like "black men dont want to marry,etc"

Alot of women tend to judge off of material and social standing as opposed to individual character, there are plenty of women who thought they caught a simp who turned out to be a murderer or sadist of sorts.

U know dude aint tryin to be committed so break it off with him,u pretty smart for recognizing that off top, you sound like your in denial though.

why are you messin with a dude who does not want to see things grow into a possible marriage?

 

[JofromthaNO]

Now see u have turned the tables on this thread. U r talking about the dilemma of today's single black female in her 20's or 30's looking at dating and commitment when it comes to black men.

This goes back to my point. Dudes need to man up not only to pull some dime chick in a club or whatever to bang but to realize that he holds the cards to pursue further commitment and to set the standard as to whether the chick will deserve anything further or not. That is from the male dating perspective.

If u are looking from the female perspective then your radar needs to be sharp enough to peer behind any thug or whiny nice guy veneer. In the black community u might be waiting a while. U have to be picky but not too picky. U don't have to lower your standards completely but don't expect picture perfect perfection either.

It can get a little complicated on you female's side especially black females. It has happened time and time again that the baddest females can make the crappiest mating decisions. But that happens in every culture. It's just that the Black culture catches it harder than other cultures and ethnic groups.

Yeah, because a lot of time, we judge based on what the poster below said: social status and progress, etc. I choose to go after the guy I think is really doing good for himself: good job, good head on his shoulders, taking care of his business. He may be a "work in progress," but hey, so am I (as we all should be!) But, what I'm finding is this group of "work-in-progress" men don't want to settle down often, because they know how much of a catch they are, and herein lies the dilemma

first I give you props for not throwin all niggas that age under the bus with the committed relationship version of "niggas aint shit," which sounds like "black men dont want to marry,etc"

Alot of women tend to judge off of material and social standing as opposed to individual character, there are plenty of women who thought they caught a simp who turned out to be a murderer or sadist of sorts.

U know dude aint tryin to be committed so break it off with him,u pretty smart for recognizing that off top, you sound like your in denial though.

why are you messin with a dude who does not want to see things grow into a possible marriage?

Ah, a part of me thought I could bring him to see how good - and faithful, despite the bullshit - a woman can be. I was down with his frequent traveling, etc. because I thought, in the end, he'd see how I'm a ride-or-die chick for him, loyal to the end. BUT, that ended up backfiring on me because I'm meeting all of his needs, and not getting mine met. And, no, I don't have a laundry list of needs, but there are expectations EVERYONE should have in dating situations...

He's a good guy: thoughtful, articulate, intelligent and gives me, straight up, how he feels. But, this story has no happy ending, because we discovered we simply want different things. I feel like I do deserve a relationship, somewhere down the line, because I'm a good woman to a guy, period. Forget my degrees, all of that bs. He has some growing up to do, and I don't want to force that. It was me, though, that brought it on myself, though...

 

[Naha-Nago]

bump for knowledge.


*two cents*

 

[regulus]

Yeah, because a lot of time, we judge based on what the poster below said: social status and progress, etc. I choose to go after the guy I think is really doing good for himself: good job, good head on his shoulders, taking care of his business. He may be a "work in progress," but hey, so am I (as we all should be!) But, what I'm finding is this group of "work-in-progress" men don't want to settle down often, because they know how much of a catch they are, and herein lies the dilemma



Ah, a part of me thought I could bring him to see how good - and faithful, despite the bullshit - a woman can be. I was down with his frequent traveling, etc. because I thought, in the end, he'd see how I'm a ride-or-die chick for him, loyal to the end. BUT, that ended up backfiring on me because I'm meeting all of his needs, and not getting mine met. And, no, I don't have a laundry list of needs, but there are expectations EVERYONE should have in dating situations...

He's a good guy: thoughtful, articulate, intelligent and gives me, straight up, how he feels. But, this story has no happy ending, because we discovered we simply want different things. I feel like I do deserve a relationship, somewhere down the line, because I'm a good woman to a guy, period. Forget my degrees, all of that bs. He has some growing up to do, and I don't want to force that. It was me, though, that brought it on myself, though...

He won't settle down because he hasn't done anything! HE CAN'T SETTLE DOWN!!!!!!!!! HE'D JUST BE GIVING UP... and he didn't work that hard to live like a loser.

 

[Laughing Man]

Good points made in this thread...

Sorry I didn't check it out any sooner...

What's a good black woman - I mean, no kids (check), good job (check), has her own place, car, etc. (check, check) and stays to herself (check) - to do with committing to a good black man who maybe doesn't want to be committed to?

He's cool with "playing house," but doesn't want to put the title - or ring - on it... Is a female supposed to stay around for that, or go onto the next one?!?

Me personally, I have my own single woman problems (sigh), but I know a lot of it has to do with me (lol), so I'm working on it...but, for a friend, how does this work out?!?

A decent man does not care about your job, your money, or other material things

All he cares about is weather you will be a good foundation to build his family and future with

Thats all any decent man cares and wants

Men who seem to be attracted to the material things of a female, are not really men, just simps on some patty-cake, role-reversal bullshit

Have you talked with this man about the issue, not leaving hints, actually talked, and if you have and he's avoiding it, you kinda have your answer right there

 

[JofromthaNO]

He won't settle down because he hasn't done anything! HE CAN'T SETTLE DOWN!!!!!!!!! HE'D JUST BE GIVING UP... and he didn't work that hard to live like a loser.

And, this I truly get and understand. Unlike some women, I'm not mad at him or angry about it, just frustrated I didn't figure it out earlier...

 

[JofromthaNO]

Have you talked with this man about the issue, not leaving hints, actually talked, and if you have and he's avoiding it, you kinda have your answer right there

We talked, and he feels where I'm coming from. He gets it, and he says he's "trying," but I know it's difficult for me to ask these things of him, when neither one of us was looking for a "relationship" when we first started kicking it...

He doesn't avoid it at all; he's willing to talk and "hash things out," which I appreciate cause I know guys don't like to do that shit I think we'll stay friends, but I gotta admit, I wanted more, but I know he can only give me but so much...

 

[Laughing Man]

We talked, and he feels where I'm coming from. He gets it, and he says he's "trying," but I know it's difficult for me to ask these things of him, when neither one of us was looking for a "relationship" when we first started kicking it...

He doesn't avoid it at all; he's willing to talk and "hash things out," which I appreciate cause I know guys don't like to do that shit I think we'll stay friends, but I gotta admit, I wanted more, but I know he can only give me but so much...

What age range are you if i may ask?

It might be so to just be proactive and seek out candidates for husband material, and if you seem true to your commitment to that, and to a better relationship, I wish you luck

 

[JofromthaNO]

What age range are you if i may ask?

It might be so to just be proactive and seek out candidates for husband material, and if you seem true to your commitment to that, and to a better relationship, I wish you luck

Late 20s...

I'm what some might describe as a serial monogamist , so, yeah, it took me aback when I met a man who DIDN'T want a relationship with me, I can't lie. Definitely a lil blow to my ego

To be honest, I don't want to appear all desperate and feel like I'm looking for a relationship. My goals for this year are to financially align myself in a better place, and continue working on my fitness goals I started last year. I feel, by working on me, I'm sure good things will come along

 

[Laughing Man]

Late 20s...

I'm what some might describe as a serial monogamist , so, yeah, it took me aback when I met a man who DIDN'T want a relationship with me, I can't lie. Definitely a lil blow to my ego

To be honest, I don't want to appear all desperate and feel like I'm looking for a relationship. My goals for this year are to financially align myself in a better place, and continue working on my fitness goals I started last year. I feel, by working on me, I'm sure good things will come along

Well, you just gotta make yourself know

There are too many out there who claim to be relationship material, only to fake and fuck over and poison the well

Again, I wish you luck, you seem genuine

 

[JofromthaNO]

Well, you just gotta make yourself know

There are too many out there who claim to be relationship material, only to fake and fuck over and poison the well

Again, I wish you luck, you seem genuine

Mucho gusto (much thanks )

 

[True Real Info]

Yeah, because a lot of time, we judge based on what the poster below said: social status and progress, etc. I choose to go after the guy I think is really doing good for himself: good job, good head on his shoulders, taking care of his business. He may be a "work in progress," but hey, so am I (as we all should be!) But, what I'm finding is this group of "work-in-progress" men don't want to settle down often, because they know how much of a catch they are, and herein lies the dilemma



Ah, a part of me thought I could bring him to see how good - and faithful, despite the bullshit - a woman can be. I was down with his frequent traveling, etc. because I thought, in the end, he'd see how I'm a ride-or-die chick for him, loyal to the end. BUT, that ended up backfiring on me because I'm meeting all of his needs, and not getting mine met. And, no, I don't have a laundry list of needs, but there are expectations EVERYONE should have in dating situations...

He's a good guy: thoughtful, articulate, intelligent and gives me, straight up, how he feels. But, this story has no happy ending, because we discovered we simply want different things. I feel like I do deserve a relationship, somewhere down the line, because I'm a good woman to a guy, period. Forget my degrees, all of that bs. He has some growing up to do, and I don't want to force that. It was me, though, that brought it on myself, though...

 

[JofromthaNO]

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Interestingly enough, I'm realizing the more education I pursue, the more it kinda turns some men off. Like, they think, if she's busy all the time, she won't have time for me

I'm trying to be a master at handling my business AND handling home too...it's tough, but the 21st century woman has GOT to be both...

 

[True Real Info]

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Interestingly enough, I'm realizing the more education I pursue, the more it kinda turns some men off. Like, they think, if she's busy all the time, she won't have time for me

I'm trying to be a master at handling my business AND handling home too...it's tough, but the 21st century woman has GOT to be both...

ok ok, u will get chose but u gotta understand where dude is coming from...this board is a good gauge of how alot of "educated" brothas who are single view marriage...they dont want to get hustled..some are bitter, some are wannabe players......some are just regular dudes...u will be fine though...women like u dont last long out here....just keep them spinster chicks away

 

[DiamondDeuce]

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Interestingly enough, I'm realizing the more education I pursue, the more it kinda turns some men off. Like, they think, if she's busy all the time, she won't have time for me

I'm trying to be a master at handling my business AND handling home too...it's tough, but the 21st century woman has GOT to be both...

Yo, I'm 33 live in Atlanta, MBA, professionally employed, no kids, physically fit, Know how to dress..blah blah blah.

Not saying the above to impress you with my stat line. Just mentioning it so that you can understand.... what type of women that I come into contact with.

It's not your pursuit of education in itself that turns men off. Like you said its your lack of time. Because when I meet women and they say that they are in any grad school program........I kinda take a deep breath to myself and think "wow this broad isn't going to have much time for me. If she is really handling her business...then she shouldn't have much time for me."

Because unlike WOMEN... Men (myself included) don't really care about how much postgrad education you have. It's not the primary thing we are looking at. As a man that has his stuff together...the primary trait I'm looking for in a LONG TERM MATE is a woman that I can start a family with. Meaning she can cook, take care of the house, and raise up some babies.

So a post-secondary education---really isn't going to assist with the main ojbective above.

It would be like YOU meeting a man that you were interested in, and he tell you that he is taking classes at night 5 days a week in sewing and interior decorating (gay jokes aside). You would probably be thinking as a woman "Wow this dude is spending a lot of time...time that he won't have for me...to acheive something...that you don't really expect for a man to do in a relationship".

Like I said as a man that has his stuff together, I care first about the woman's ability to TAKE CARE OF A HOUSEHOLD while I'm gone at work. I don't expect my wife to be a stay at home mom forever......... but at least have to be secure in her ability to do such if the situation should command. All the other degrees and stuff is just icing. But too many women are working hard on the icing and forgetting about the cake.

Now Let me edit this response to let you know...how I have seen women in your position make themselves attractive for a man.
1) Workout and be physically Active.
2) Be presentable every time you step out (conservative but sexy) We men are visual creatures so if we see you out...and you aren't "put together" than oh well....lol. I know as a woman its takes time and money. But it is. what it is.
3) Be amongst the quietest chicks in the room.(trust me)
4) Smile and be inviting
5) When you meet a guy that you are "initially" attracted too, let him know that you EMBRACE feminine traits and responsibilities. You don't understand how far this can get you with a decent man. I remember a cute chick (with no kids) that I was interested in. During convo she told me how she had taken her young nieces and nephews for the weekend...and listed all the cool activities that she did with them. I almost fainted...because I was thinking wow this broad values family......and obviously knows what to do with children...if when the time comes.
6) You have to verbally let the man know that regardless of your education or job title... you would value and prioritize being a wife and mother 1st. ie. Michelle Obama.

Too many women try to impress me with stuff I could give a fuck about from a woman. As a man I don't care that you have an MBA. I don't care that you drive a BMW, I don't care thats a Prada Bag, I don't care those are Jimmy Choo's. I don't care that you got the latest and greates sew in weave. A FUCK IS TRULY NOT GIVEN. But this is are the things that these women focus on to impress us men with........and think these are the things that ELEVATE them from another woman in our eyes. *shaking head* Because these women are looking at what the traits THEY DESIRE FROM A MAN.............and assume that we are looking for the same things in return. Which is the ultimate fallacy.

Some women realize it too late. Don't be one of them. If you follow my advice many of your current peers of women will HATE ON YOU...and try to discourage you. Saying bullshit like "You ain't going to school to be no housewife" "Why you cooking for that nigga for? You work too don't you" "Girl if you have a MASTERS DEGREE, why would you mess with a nigga unless he has at least a MASTERS or better"

 

[Rick Ronson]

If you are looking for a girl and not just some pussy:

Test these women...as soon as they violate roll out.

Be nice....that doesnt mean spend money....be cool fun to be around.

But dont get stuck trying to please or amuse her if it doesn't come natural.

You can do/buy little shit if you think you want too but never feel obligated.

Those days are gone and you will be taken advantage of with that approach.

What you want to look for is what she does in return.

If she dont do shit.......thats not the one.....run.

Dont chase a bitch with good deeds and buying stuff...thats a poor position.

You will have to maintain that "please me" position if you come in on that level.

You gotta be on your shit diligently yet set time and energy aside for her.

A woman cannot be your main focus...that shit is very unattractive.

Being easy to manipulate is unattractive also.

Women think alot but they arent smarter than you

They just tend to think more....which means you should also.



Your momma will even tell you about these bitches.


​

 

[tuckdog]

Yo, I'm 33 live in Atlanta, MBA, professionally employed, no kids, physically fit, Know how to dress..blah blah blah.

Not saying the above to impress you with my stat line. Just mentioning it so that you can understand.... what type of women that I come into contact with.

It's not your pursuit of education in itself that turns men off. Like you said its your lack of time. Because when I meet women and they say that they are in any grad school program........I kinda take a deep breath to myself and think "wow this broad isn't going to have much time for me. If she is really handling her business...then she shouldn't have much time for me."

Because unlike WOMEN... Men (myself included) don't really care about how much postgrad education you have. It's not the primary thing we are looking at. As a man that has his stuff together...the primary trait I'm looking for in a LONG TERM MATE is a woman that I can start a family with. Meaning she can cook, take care of the house, and raise up some babies.

So a post-secondary education---really isn't going to assist with the main ojbective above.

It would be like YOU meeting a man that you were interested in, and he tell you that he is taking classes at night 5 days a week in sewing and interior decorating (gay jokes aside). You would probably be thinking as a woman "Wow this dude is spending a lot of time...time that he won't have for me...to acheive something...that you don't really expect for a man to do in a relationship".

Like I said as a man that has his stuff together, I care first about the woman's ability to TAKE CARE OF A HOUSEHOLD while I'm gone at work. I don't expect my wife to be a stay at home mom forever......... but at least have to be secure in her ability to do such if the situation should command. All the other degrees and stuff is just icing. But too many women are working hard on the icing and forgetting about the cake.

Excellent post.

 

[geist]

This thread took a good turn from where it started. I'll be back with some thoughts.

 

[tuckdog]

This thread took a good turn from where it started. I'll be back with some thoughts.

Whats wrong with how it started? This is where it was intended to go.

 

[SpiritualPorn]

the more I respect myself and see myself for what I am, the more transparent alot of women become....aint shit to figure out but yourself....

Truth.com/info

 

[Bigskinn2]

Yo, I'm 33 live in Atlanta, MBA, professionally employed, no kids, physically fit, Know how to dress..blah blah blah.

Not saying the above to impress you with my stat line. Just mentioning it so that you can understand.... what type of women that I come into contact with.

It's not your pursuit of education in itself that turns men off. Like you said its your lack of time. Because when I meet women and they say that they are in any grad school program........I kinda take a deep breath to myself and think "wow this broad isn't going to have much time for me. If she is really handling her business...then she shouldn't have much time for me."

Because unlike WOMEN... Men (myself included) don't really care about how much postgrad education you have. It's not the primary thing we are looking at. As a man that has his stuff together...the primary trait I'm looking for in a LONG TERM MATE is a woman that I can start a family with. Meaning she can cook, take care of the house, and raise up some babies.

So a post-secondary education---really isn't going to assist with the main ojbective above.

It would be like YOU meeting a man that you were interested in, and he tell you that he is taking classes at night 5 days a week in sewing and interior decorating (gay jokes aside). You would probably be thinking as a woman "Wow this dude is spending a lot of time...time that he won't have for me...to acheive something...that you don't really expect for a man to do in a relationship".

Like I said as a man that has his stuff together, I care first about the woman's ability to TAKE CARE OF A HOUSEHOLD while I'm gone at work. I don't expect my wife to be a stay at home mom forever......... but at least have to be secure in her ability to do such if the situation should command. All the other degrees and stuff is just icing. But too many women are working hard on the icing and forgetting about the cake.

Now Let me edit this response to let you know...how I have seen women in your position make themselves attractive for a man.
1) Workout and be physically Active.
2) Be presentable every time you step out (conservative but sexy) We men are visual creatures so if we see you out...and you aren't "put together" than oh well....lol. I know as a woman its takes time and money. But it is. what it is.
3) Be amongst the quietest chicks in the room.(trust me)
4) Smile and be inviting
5) When you meet a guy that you are "initially" attracted too, let him know that you EMBRACE feminine traits and responsibilities. You don't understand how far this can get you with a decent man. I remember a cute chick (with no kids) that I was interested in. During convo she told me how she had taken her young nieces and nephews for the weekend...and listed all the cool activities that she did with them. I almost fainted...because I was thinking wow this broad values family......and obviously knows what to do with children...if when the time comes.
6) You have to verbally let the man know that regardless of your education or job title... you would value and prioritize being a wife and mother 1st. ie. Michelle Obama.

Too many women try to impress me with stuff I could give a fuck about from a woman. As a man I don't care that you have an MBA. I don't care that you drive a BMW, I don't care thats a Prada Bag, I don't care those are Jimmy Choo's. I don't care that you got the latest and greates sew in weave. A FUCK IS TRULY NOT GIVEN. But this is are the things that these women focus on to impress us men with........and think these are the things that ELEVATE them from another woman in our eyes. *shaking head* Because these women are looking at what the traits THEY DESIRE FROM A MAN.............and assume that we are looking for the same things in return. Which is the ultimate fallacy.

Some women realize it too late. Don't be one of them. If you follow my advice many of your current peers of women will HATE ON YOU...and try to discourage you. Saying bullshit like "You ain't going to school to be no housewife" "Why you cooking for that nigga for? You work too don't you" "Girl if you have a MASTERS DEGREE, why would you mess with a nigga unless he has at least a MASTERS or better"

Dog, u just gave that sista the "playbook" from the multiple super bowl winning New England Patriots

 

[Naha-Nago]

[/B] But too many women are working hard on the icing and forgetting about the cake.

You killed it with this sentence fam.


*two cents*

 

[Naha-Nago]

...the more I respect myself and see myself for what I am, the more transparent alot of women become....aint shit to figure out but yourself....

Took me til recent for this to sink in.If only I knew this sooner...


*two cents*

 

[DiamondDeuce]

Dog, u just gave that sista the "playbook" from the multiple super bowl winning New England Patriots

You killed it with this sentence fam.


*two cents*

Fam, thanks!

But lets see what the WOMEN FOLK have to say about it.

 

[Rick Ronson]

Women know its fucked up but there is a union.



Just like we know niggas are fucked up but wont admit it in front of white people.

Some will admit it.


Bitches get a taste of their own medicine when they have sons that deal with bitches.

 

[mariano42]

Women know its fucked up but there is a union.



Just like we know niggas are fucked up but wont admit it in front of white people.

Some will admit it.


Bitches get a taste of their own medicine when they have sons that deal with bitches.

 

[big pimp]

And, this I truly get and understand. Unlike some women, I'm not mad at him or angry about it, just frustrated I didn't figure it out earlier...

Reasons men wont commit. I agree.
www.macklessonsradio.com

 

[B-Witty]

this thread has so many jewles in it... i love this thread.. y does it not have 5 stars?? blasphemy thanx for starting this topic fam... i appreciate the jewelz......... high 5.. YACE

 

[Rick Ronson]

Nothing confusing about that pimp.

Study this shit.

Study human behavior.

People take advantage of kindness niggas know this but totally
forget when dealing with women for one reason...pussy.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Yo, I'm 33 live in Atlanta, MBA, professionally employed, no kids, physically fit, Know how to dress..blah blah blah.

Not saying the above to impress you with my stat line. Just mentioning it so that you can understand.... what type of women that I come into contact with.

It's not your pursuit of education in itself that turns men off. Like you said its your lack of time. Because when I meet women and they say that they are in any grad school program........I kinda take a deep breath to myself and think "wow this broad isn't going to have much time for me. If she is really handling her business...then she shouldn't have much time for me."

Because unlike WOMEN... Men (myself included) don't really care about how much postgrad education you have. It's not the primary thing we are looking at. As a man that has his stuff together...the primary trait I'm looking for in a LONG TERM MATE is a woman that I can start a family with. Meaning she can cook, take care of the house, and raise up some babies.

So a post-secondary education---really isn't going to assist with the main ojbective above.

It would be like YOU meeting a man that you were interested in, and he tell you that he is taking classes at night 5 days a week in sewing and interior decorating (gay jokes aside). You would probably be thinking as a woman "Wow this dude is spending a lot of time...time that he won't have for me...to acheive something...that you don't really expect for a man to do in a relationship".

Like I said as a man that has his stuff together, I care first about the woman's ability to TAKE CARE OF A HOUSEHOLD while I'm gone at work. I don't expect my wife to be a stay at home mom forever......... but at least have to be secure in her ability to do such if the situation should command. All the other degrees and stuff is just icing. But too many women are working hard on the icing and forgetting about the cake.

Now Let me edit this response to let you know...how I have seen women in your position make themselves attractive for a man.
1) Workout and be physically Active.
2) Be presentable every time you step out (conservative but sexy) We men are visual creatures so if we see you out...and you aren't "put together" than oh well....lol. I know as a woman its takes time and money. But it is. what it is.
3) Be amongst the quietest chicks in the room.(trust me)
4) Smile and be inviting
5) When you meet a guy that you are "initially" attracted too, let him know that you EMBRACE feminine traits and responsibilities. You don't understand how far this can get you with a decent man. I remember a cute chick (with no kids) that I was interested in. During convo she told me how she had taken her young nieces and nephews for the weekend...and listed all the cool activities that she did with them. I almost fainted...because I was thinking wow this broad values family......and obviously knows what to do with children...if when the time comes.
6) You have to verbally let the man know that regardless of your education or job title... you would value and prioritize being a wife and mother 1st. ie. Michelle Obama.

Too many women try to impress me with stuff I could give a fuck about from a woman. As a man I don't care that you have an MBA. I don't care that you drive a BMW, I don't care thats a Prada Bag, I don't care those are Jimmy Choo's. I don't care that you got the latest and greates sew in weave. A FUCK IS TRULY NOT GIVEN. But this is are the things that these women focus on to impress us men with........and think these are the things that ELEVATE them from another woman in our eyes. *shaking head* Because these women are looking at what the traits THEY DESIRE FROM A MAN.............and assume that we are looking for the same things in return. Which is the ultimate fallacy.

Some women realize it too late. Don't be one of them. If you follow my advice many of your current peers of women will HATE ON YOU...and try to discourage you. Saying bullshit like "You ain't going to school to be no housewife" "Why you cooking for that nigga for? You work too don't you" "Girl if you have a MASTERS DEGREE, why would you mess with a nigga unless he has at least a MASTERS or better"

A very truthful post. And it's something to see from the males point of view. And it's ...well it's like i said very truthful. My question is, why do you think women at their base get those degrees?

 

[DiamondDeuce]

A very truthful post. And it's something to see from the males point of view. And it's ...well it's like i said very truthful. My question is, why do you think women at their base get those degrees?[/QUOTE]
Interesting how you didn't choose to comment on the specific points of my post... but want to bait me into a convo about why women choose this.

But I'll take the bait today. I fault no woman for seeking higher education. I am an advocate and supporter of it. I know its a delicate issue for women, and a TOUGH PLIGHT.

But women spend their best MATING years seeking a degree. Then after their prime years are over.........then they try to seek a serious relationship with a man. Women spend those prime years preparing to be head of household, which ironically is what can doom you to ulimately wearing the HEAD OF HOUSEHOLD crown.

At some point you have to choose either FAMILY or CAREER. Too many women think that they can have both.

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

A very truthful post. And it's something to see from the males point of view. And it's ...well it's like i said very truthful. My question is, why do you think women at their base get those degrees?[/QUOTE]

Interesting how you didn't choose to comment on the specific points of my post... but want to bait me into a convo about why women choose this.

But I'll take the bait today. I fault no woman for seeking higher education. I am an advocate and supporter of it. I know its a delicate issue for women, and a TOUGH PLIGHT.

But women spend their best MATING years seeking a degree. Then after their prime years are over.........then they try to seek a serious relationship with a man. Women spend those prime years preparing to be head of household, which ironically is what can doom you to ulimately wearing the HEAD OF HOUSEHOLD crown.

As a woman go out get your education, and acheive in life. But understand that if you desire a HUSBAND of worth and means....... that you need to put all of that second to being a WIFE AND MOTHER.

At some point you have to choose either FAMILY or CAREER. Too many women think that they can have both.

OUCH

 

[Naha-Nago]

Women know its fucked up but there is a union.



Just like we know niggas are fucked up but wont admit it in front of white people.

Some will admit it.


Bitches get a taste of their own medicine when they have sons that deal with bitches.

Truth.com.


From what I have observed, women who get pumped and dumped by men -that they choose- tend to counter that by romancing on their sons. What that means is that they instill all the traits that THEY WANT IN A MAN AFTER BEING RAKED OVER THE COALS...

-be polite to all women.
-treat all women with respect.
-all woman are princesses and queens etc..

INSTEAD OF INSTILLING THE TRAITS THAT HE REALLY NEEDS WHEN DEALING WITH FEMALES...

-treat those with respect who have earned it.
-give everyone the common courtesy of being a human but you don't bow down to nobody...especially a woman, she WILL NOT RESPECT YOU.
-Some women are ladies, some women are hoes...treat each accordingly.


So she sends this 'gentlemen' out into the world ill equipped for it and then it backfires when...

A) Life kicks him dead in the teeth and he constantly crying to her as to why.

B) He realizes everything she told him was bullshit and he resents her for ill equipping him to deal with woman.



If she has any shred of a soul in her body, she will regret what she did. Even if she takes that regret in silence to her deathbed.


*two cents*

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

A very truthful post. And it's something to see from the males point of view. And it's ...well it's like i said very truthful. My question is, why do you think women at their base get those degrees?[/QUOTE]

Interesting how you didn't choose to comment on the specific points of my post... but want to bait me into a convo about why women choose this.

But I'll take the bait today. I fault no woman for seeking higher education. I am an advocate and supporter of it. I know its a delicate issue for women, and a TOUGH PLIGHT.

But women spend their best MATING years seeking a degree. Then after their prime years are over.........then they try to seek a serious relationship with a man. Women spend those prime years preparing to be head of household, which ironically is what can doom you to ulimately wearing the HEAD OF HOUSEHOLD crown.

As a woman go out get your education, and acheive in life. But understand that if you desire a HUSBAND of worth and means....... that you need to put all of that second to being a WIFE AND MOTHER.

At some point you have to choose either FAMILY or CAREER. Too many women think that they can have both.

I understand the nature of this board probably seems like every post or response is some kind of attack. But i thought i was clear. I said your post was a truthful 1. Maybe i wasn't clear enough i guess. I agree with your post. The post i replied too. I was just asking a question sir. No attack. I just wondered if you had given any consideration to why women did the things they did about this topic.

 

[DiamondDeuce]

OUCH

I'm not trying to be an ASSHOLE today. I'm just giving a dose of tough reality.
I deal with this too much in my personal dating life.

Women are preparing themselves for the wrong thing............

Every woman wants to be a bride, but very few actually desire to be a wife.