Dating Single Women W/Kids. How Many Before You Draw The Line?

[Give Me 3ft.]

never a muthafuckin' again!!!

no way, i want my 1st child to be the woman's 1st as well!

that shit is a waste of time for me.

i MIGHT fuck once, but more likely than not its a no from the door.

dont settle!!!

 

[^SpiderMan^]

A dude in his 30's with no kids and no woman is kinda suspect these days. Do you want kids? What are you waiting for? You ain't getting younger... The older you get, finding a woman without kids is hard.. and the ones you do find without kids are unwanted women.

Dumb.... Im over 30 and fuck/have fucked multiple women for years.Im just responsible enough to wear condoms.Is our society so fucked up where its wrong to be responsible?

 

[^SpiderMan^]

To answer the OP,1 child and only if the child is old enough to be home alone.Its a pain in the ass waiting to see if she has a babysitter when you want to go out.3 kids? Forget about it.

 

[JD Walker]

1 kid is 1 too many

^What he said.

 

[JD Walker]

get them young hoes nigga

^ What he said.

 

[JD Walker]

you want to take care of another niggas mistakes go right ahead

^ What he said.

 

[JD Walker]

I don't care how old I get I ain't settling

I seen people settle and still end up with shit

^ What he said.

 

[ron_mexico]

A dude in his 30's with no kids and no woman is kinda suspect these days. Do you want kids? What are you waiting for? You ain't getting younger... The older you get, finding a woman without kids is hard.. and the ones you do find without kids are unwanted women.

A man is expected to be a provider, so sometimes a brotha wants to have himself established before he settles down. This isn't the 50's, that process takes longer now a days. Having kids along the way will slow down that process even more.

 

[Lucky7s]

The older you get, finding a woman without kids is hard.. and the ones you do find without kids are unwanted women.

Kinda like your Momz huh? You are so ignorant it ain't even funny no more...stfu.

Not just that, if you find a woman in her 30's with no kids, 8/10 times there's a reason they are single, including, but not limited to:

~Being batshit crazy
~Emotional baggage from past relationships
~Financial drama
~Spent their 20's whoring around and now a new crop of 20-29 YO's have taken their former spot, they want to "settle down"

Only the bolded rings true in my observations...the rest is bullshit generalizations.

Yup! All the women I know in their 30's with no kids and never been married.. got issues and are hard to deal with.

Key words: "...I know..." Don't apply to the rest of the niggus. Quit being myopic.

...and they are single and have no kids for a reason.

Probably because they DON'T want any...be it for religious reasons, can't find the right man or they may be infertile. Or it could be abortions. Either way...they are still a notch above a woman with kids and no husband unless she is widowed.

Fuck that shit...kids or no kids, most chicks have issues...so if you messing with one with a kid, then she has issues + a kid which is an issue by itself. I think most times it's just because they had an abortion or are not really fertile..because the odds of them practicing b.c. 100 percent of the time are low.

True...

It's seems to be a lose, lose situation.

A man over 30 with no kids and never been married is said to have commitment issues, gay or just all around fucked up.

A woman over 30 with no kids and never been married is just all around fucked up!

And the woman with kids is off limits.

What exactly are us brothas looking for?

Get in where you fit in.

Agreed...

To be honest if you meet a woman and she has never been married and don't have any kids then there are probably other issues to deal with.

Possible...but not always.

Dumb.... Im over 30 and fuck/have fucked multiple women for years.Im just responsible enough to wear condoms.Is our society so fucked up where its wrong to be responsible?

Women are damed if they do have kids before 30 and damned if they DON'T have them after 30. Thing is, only black men think this way. Mainly because most black men are poor...no inherited wealth, no earned wealth to pass on to the next generation.

 

[fourth_retired]

I dont know how many people would automatically say no. with out even knowing the situation.

I know many single mothers out there they all aren't that bad. Some people can take the baggage some can't its as simple as that. But with out a doubt everybody has some sort of baggage.

 

[Give Me 3ft.]

finding a mid 20 to early 30s chick in dc with no kids good luck with that

depends on what circles you travel in.

Indeed. And a brother in his 30's, if he wants kids should be looking for someone to settle down with. Finding a woman in her 30's with no kids gets harder and harder the longer you wait.

dont necessarily want a thirty year old!

It's seems to be a lose, lose situation.

A man over 30 with no kids and never been married is said to have commitment issues, gay or just all around fucked up.

A woman over 30 with no kids and never been married is just all around fucked up!

And the woman with kids is off limits.

What exactly are us brothas looking for?

Get in where you fit in.

ehh, yeah i guess.

im not settling!

Depends on the woman, circumstances and the amount of kids. I met 1 girl that had her own business and was fine but she had 3 kids by 3 different men and was never married. Another had 2 kids by 2 different men and was married to a 3rd guy that she didn't have kids by. If she is handling her kids and her career and if you don't want any then I don't see a problem with it. To be honest if you meet a woman and she has never been married and don't have any kids then there are probably other issues to deal with.

was with a 29 y.o, who handled ALL her business, children were ALL

well taken of. made $75k per/yr. is pretty, owns on home/ car. insurance

, etc. im good on the children, this is only hindrance!

You are correct.

Its best to find a woman without a child regardless of age.

My dawg was dating this brawd for 4-5 years who had 2 boys.

He loved those kids like they were his own.

He married her in 2008 and a little over a year later they "separated".

Dude was crying about it...

He couldnt even have a relationship with the kids that he bonded with

Dude was devastated.

Imagine how it feels not being able to see children that you made your own?

This is what I have learned.

Dont buy into that microwave family shit, bruh...and Im representing early to mid 30s cats.

Keep your standards high....you wont regret it.

yeah the add water fam, for me aint happening.

where im @ there are plenty of women 23-30 with no children.

The average decent guy has no problem taking care of HIS KIDS that he helped create, but being expected to pick up the slack emotionally, time-wise and financially for kids you didn't father just so you can have a relationship with their mother? I'll pass bruh.

they dont hear you though.

 

[JD Walker]

A dude in his 30's with no kids and no woman is kinda suspect these days.

No, he's very very smart...

Do you want kids?

Fuck NO.

The older you get, finding a woman without kids is hard..

That's why you fuck with young hoes...

and the ones you do find without kids are unwanted women.

True.

 

[ShortyCumStain]

Black men are racist against their own kind. If a woman has 5 or 6 baby daddies, run your ass off instead of concluding that these jokers were all thugs or didn't know how to treat a woman right. You can be sure that some of these men tried to treat her right and just couldn't keep her satisfied. Its like Malcolm X said, the fastest way to lose a woman is to treat her right.

What does racism have to do w/women w/kids???

And where'd that Malcom X quote come from???

 

[The Plutonian]

Man I recently met one with a 19, 17, 16, and 6 year old I think...and she 34. Look 24. I wore her ass out and its been all good. I dont deal with the kids at all, never even met em. But what you trying to do? Settle down or fuck...and negro is you all that yo damn self...just saying bru hell there are lots of good women with kids. I've met some. And I met some hoodrats

 

[Anthony-Cruz]

Right now, I'm gonna say 0. I've fucked with only one girl that has had a kid. I actually bumped into her today and she was like "we should hang out sometime" I honestly dodged a bullet fucking with that girl. I'm only 23, in school full time, only working part time. I wouldn't want to deal with that shit.

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

A dude in his 30's with no kids and no woman is responsible these days. Do you want kids? What are you waiting for? You ain't getting younger... The older you get, finding a woman without kids is not hard..if you take your time and the ones you do find without kids are wanted women.

Fixed

 

[blackman80]

Don't date no woman with kids..fuck that..it's not good..also, set your standards high..if you don't want no woman with kids..then don't...you're a man, you can find a good looking woman with no kids..keep you standards high..



DON'T GET IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH NO WOMAN WITH KIDS..

 

[Megatron X]

I'll fuck a bitch who has kids and that's it. As far as be being daddy and all that old bullshit. No!. I am not taking some already made family. I am not taking care of some other nigga's kid(s).

Other factors come into play: the bitch will have emotional issues; chances that her body will be sagging; you may have problems with the kid's father; the mother will not have enough time for you; the kids might mouth off to you; you'll have to bring money into the relationship not only for dating the bitch but also for helping the kids.

Another thing why I would just fuck them and that's because chances are when these hoes were young and without kids, they would not give the average nigga the time or day. They were them cold, mean, and stuck up bitches. it's funny how shit turns around ain't it?

 

[Heist]

Been some interesting responses in here. I was just letting the thread breathe.

I'm glad to see I'm not the only who thinks it's odd when people think it's odd and question you as to why you're over 30 and have no kids or a wife.

Because:
(1) I dont settle
(2) I'm not running around knocking up chicks just to have kids.
(3) I'm not running around knocking up chicks.

It's called being selective and responsible.

I never understood the rush to get married, play house, and all that other bullshit anyway. It's to a woman's advantage to get married as soon as possible.
It's to a man's advantage to stay single as long as possible.

Just that simple.

 

[noreiga1]

dudes that are suspect have wife and kids

you make no sense here

unwanted women have kids all the time, hell 70% of black kids are born to single mothers

c/s

 

[SickMyDuck]

I'm glad to see I'm not the only who thinks it's odd when people think it's odd and question you as to why you're over 30 and have no kids or a wife.

Nah, you're not the only one fam... everytime I say I don't have any kids or a wife, people look at me like I have three heads, then say: "Well what'cha waitin' on?"

I'm like:

 

[Jagi]

1 kid is 1 too many

this..

i dated a few women with kids in the past.. then i realized something.. dont really give a shit about kids unless they mine. cant see myself raising someone elses bastard child..

i know dudes that flock to women with kids and try to set up shop..

if you got a good thing going on, hey do you. someone needs to do it right?

wont be me..


like someone else said, check your circles you run with..

i cut off friends and changed my hangouts and focused on me and work.. after that i met working women with no kids.. all the time.. the only women i meet with kids now are the bartenders/waitresses and an occasional hoe on the train..

chicks on the train be with new borns trying to flirt with a mofo like i find them on a work day with their kid not going anywhere cute and i want to be a part of that..

 

[Chitownheadbusa]

Suspect don't mean gay.. if I meant gay I would have said "Dudes in their 30's with no kids are Dayne like"

lol
Dude, just keep it real!
There is a gay stigma attached to what you typed and thats why you typed it.

Im currently 28 yrs old, single with no kids. And I never want kids. Ive actually contemplated getting a vasectomy. thats how bad I dont want em. The only reason I didnt get one was because I didnt want to be that "great exception" that got his dick fucked up because of a faulty procedure/healing.

Ive experienced living with a Child. From newborn to the age of 7. I cant imagine being financially/physically/mentally responsible for another Human being for 18+ years. Id rather have a puppy. I know for a fact that I dont want to be bothered w/ the BS. I love my solitude/freedom.

I know this might sound sick....but I actually have a separate bank account whereas I keep money in it for "emergency purposes" if you know what I mean.

Yeah....I dont want kids. And when eve I get some New Pussy, I make the female aware of this before we fuck.

To answer the OP,1 child and only if the child is old enough to be home alone.Its a pain in the ass waiting to see if she has a babysitter when you want to go out.3 kids? Forget about it.

Im the same. I'll have a seriously relationship with a Women with kids if she has kids that are basically old enough to be responsible for themselves.

My whole thing is I dont want to be a Step Daddy and I dont want drama with jealous ass Babby daddies. I dont sign up for the BS.

Now if its a female that Im just fucking....I really dont care if she got small kids or not. I keep it 100 with my ladies. If we fucking...thats all we doing...fucking. Aint none of that , "Im in having a relationship with you so I'll have a relationship with your Kid also." Fuck that!


Finding a female without kids is a hard task..but it varies depending on where you at and depending on the age of the females your looking for.

 

[Mentor B]

Lol, I have a date this Saturday with a chick who has a one-year-old. She got a big ol' booty, too. Through the BBM, she keeps asking me how serious I am about dating her. Of course, I'll say what she wants to hear, but I don't take any chick seriously by default (defense mechanism).

So to answer your question, it doesn't matter. One, two, three, four...if they look good, I'm just trying to smash and dash because most bitches ain't shit anyway.

 

[Joe Money]

Been some interesting responses in here. I was just letting the thread breathe.

I'm glad to see I'm not the only who thinks it's odd when people think it's odd and question you as to why you're over 30 and have no kids or a wife.

Because:
(1) I dont settle
(2) I'm not running around knocking up chicks just to have kids.
(3) I'm not running around knocking up chicks.

It's called being selective and responsible.

I never understood the rush to get married, play house, and all that other bullshit anyway. It's to a woman's advantage to get married as soon as possible.
It's to a man's advantage to stay single as long as possible.

Just that simple.

 

[Hellfish]

Its like Malcolm X said, the fastest way to lose a woman is to treat her right.

when did he say that?

 

[divine]

There is a difference in being 30+ and not wanting kids and being 30+ and wanting kids but are unable to find a woman to have kids with. Save the bullshit story about not settling.. maybe it's you who is the problem not that you aren't settling. But the fact remains, finding a woman in the same age group or older with no kids and never been married is not easy.. and when you do, more likely than not, it's because she's just like you--nobody wants to deal with her.

 

[mc2]

1 kid is 1 too many

Cosign

 

[Deacs]

I honestly count the baby daddies more than the number of children... but if you courted the female properly you would already know the type of woman that you are dealing with.

 

[Autobot8655]

There is a difference in being 30+ and not wanting kids and being 30+ and wanting kids but are unable to find a woman to have kids with. Save the bullshit story about not settling.. maybe it's you who is the problem not that you aren't settling. But the fact remains, finding a woman in the same age group or older with no kids and never been married is not easy.. and when you do, more likely than not, it's because she's just like you--nobody wants to deal with her.

WTF are you talking about?

Cats are not saying that they are 30+ and want kids.

They are saying that they dont want to settle for a brawd who has kids already in their age group (30+).

 

[Jamaicafunk]

Don't Do It, RUN!

Back in the day I dated a chic with one child. Trust me, that baby daddy (ex-husband) will ALWAYS be in the picture. I learned from that and never did it again. Its just too much drama

 

[freshnclean]

Every man without kids deserves a woman that is able to give him a virgin birth. No man should have to settle for that bullshit if he doesnt have any kids himself. As for all the dudes in this thread saying its hard to find women with no kids in their late 20's-30s, I say bullshit!!!!, Because that just means you have to change your locations, go to new cities, and/or try out new recreational hobbies. You'll be surprised at who you meet when you change that

Another thing why I would just fuck them and that's because chances are when these hoes were young and without kids, they would not give the average nigga the time or day. They were them cold, mean, and stuck up bitches. it's funny how shit turns around ain't it?

Real shit right here. Most of them broads would have never gave the dude they are fucking with play back in the day, or if they didnt have kids at the current the time

Nah, you're not the only one fam... everytime I say I don't have any kids or a wife, people look at me like I have three heads, then say: "Well what'cha waitin' on?"

I'm like:

This is a big issue in the black community. The expectations to have kids are at a younger age than at a white community. We are expected to pop them things out between 18-24 to be honest, but in the white world they wait till their 30's to get it poppin, which is smarter in my opinion, because you have more time to establish your career before the kid gets here. I also think oral sex has a correlation with this as well, because a white girl will suck and swallow all day, but a black girl won't, she will "just fuck". And when you "just fuck" you up the possibilities of being impregnated...

 

[freshnclean]

Don't Do It, RUN!

Back in the day I dated a chic with one child. Trust me, that baby daddy (ex-husband) will ALWAYS be in the picture. I learned from that and never did it again. Its just too much drama

Some of these cats will never learn, the baby daddy can get pussy whenever he wants most of the time

 

[DAYNE]

Another thing why I would just fuck them and that's because chances are when these hoes were young and without kids, they would not give the average nigga the time or day. They were them cold, mean, and stuck up bitches. it's funny how shit turns around ain't it?

superficial, shallow, sexually liberated, irresponsible assholes I will never save

those bitches deserve to pay and I CHALLENGE ANY NIGGA ON BGOL TO DEBATE ME OTHERWISE

 

[p5ych3]

if i wasn't married i'd do it. my daughters are 15 and 17. i have no interest in going
thru pregnancy, raising a baby etc. i'd rather the lady have 1 or 2 kids around the age
of my daughters.