Dating Single Women W/Kids. How Many Before You Draw The Line?

[Heist]

Ok, guys. Here's a question I'm sure many of us come across and I'm sure the answers will be a bit varied with age (20 is going to answer differently than 30 or 40 y.o. on here because of different expectation levels).

So for you guys out in the dating scene, if you meet a single woman (not just a random smash off) what's the limit for you?

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My story: I met a girl this weekend at a German Beer House Oktoberfest celebration. It was girls night out for her and friends. We pretty much hit it off. Nice convo for an hour or so, we exchange numbers, blah blah blah.

Cute girl. Splitting image of Troy Beyer. Petite, 5'4", 120lbs or so. Has a college degree, works for a NGO here in D.C. as a Director of something or other.

We talked again last night and we set up another date for this weekend. Then she dropped the bomb on me at the end of the conversation...

She has 3 kids! A set of twins from her former husband and one "oops" baby for an ex-boyfriend who died. 4,4, and 6.

Man, that 3 kid shit was a complete turn off to me. I'm in my 30's, have 0 kids, and don't like the fact that I have to be subject to dating with strings attached and/or competing for attention with her kids or having to always compromise or work around the kids schedule.

Maybe if I had the money to hire a nanny at will or babysitter, I wouldn't mind as much. My friend's day nanny cost $2,500 a month so I know what the price is.

Now I'm going to have to break it off with baby doll, but fuck it - I could 1, but 3 is far too many for me.

I don't think I'm being shallow - I am just being fair to myself.

 

[DAYNE]

1 kid is 1 too many

 

[mk23666]

Actually her case sounds pretty good. Don't let her go just yet.
3 aint really that bad ... especially if they are young like that.

 

[jasonblacc]

Need body pic.....but I'll say one.

 

[OLDSCHOOL]

1 is my limit anything over that an i dont even bother

 

[hsm2448]

that's a lot. i find it kind of strange that you're already co-mingling your incomes though.

 

[RoomService]

Most women 30 plus will probably have kids but for myself none

 

[Autobot8655]

0

and no diss to the mothers who were married before having children....

I dont date women with children.



Id probably be on some male lion shit if I did...lol
j/k

Im 32 BTW

 

[mk23666]

3 teenagers are another story ... unless the mom has raised them right or you got in early and are still around when they become teenagers. ( 3 different daddies is another story too )

Remember they are her kids, not your's AND you don't live with her. So if/when you get tired of them you can always break camp and head home till the next time. If she's really digging you she will find time for ya'll to get the one on one time you need from her.

 

[divine]

A dude in his 30's with no kids and no woman is kinda suspect these days. Do you want kids? What are you waiting for? You ain't getting younger... The older you get, finding a woman without kids is hard.. and the ones you do find without kids are unwanted women.

 

[REDLINE]

It depends on what she's in my life for. My girl/future wife or just someone to hangout with.

 

[DAYNE]

A dude in his 30's with no kids and no woman is kinda suspect these days. Do you want kids? What are you waiting for? You ain't getting younger... The older you get, finding a woman without kids is hard.. and the ones you do find without kids are unwanted women.

dudes that are suspect have wife and kids

you make no sense here

unwanted women have kids all the time, hell 70% of black kids are born to single mothers

 

[freshnclean]

1 kid is 1 too many

Bingo

 

[divine]

dudes that are suspect have wife and kids

you make no sense here

Suspect don't mean gay.. if I meant gay I would have said "Dudes in their 30's with no kids are Dayne like"

 

[DAYNE]

Suspect don't mean gay.. if I meant gay I would have said "Dudes in their 30's with no kids are Dayne like"

what does suspect mean apple cocksucker?

 

[GeeZnu]

finding a mid 20 to early 30s chick in dc with no kids good luck with that

 

[oolong tea]

Leave women with kids alone. You're better off wooing some chick in Columbia like poster leading there soon.

Point blank, some of these women are selfish. They're not willing to bun up with some single fathers but they're hoping you will eventually support them. Fuck, some of them don't have the resources to raise that many children.

Fuck if you're only trying to fuck but don't put in any real time with those women unless you yourself have a child. Otherwise, head to Asia. Single girls in their 30s are old maids here. And marriage hungry. And in some cultures they get scorned for having a child out of wedlock.

 

[divine]

It depends on what she's in my life for. My girl/future wife or just someone to hangout with.

Indeed. And a brother in his 30's, if he wants kids should be looking for someone to settle down with. Finding a woman in her 30's with no kids gets harder and harder the longer you wait.

 

[DAYNE]

Indeed. And a brother in his 30's, if he wants kids should be looking for someone to settle down with. Finding a woman in her 30's with no kids gets harder and harder the longer you wait.

a man can wait till his 40's and 50's to settle down if hes progressive with the paper

 

[dewitt9]

i think 2 would be my limit and their asses better be inline

 

[divine]

a man can wait till his 40's and 50's to settle down if hes progressive with the paper

A woman can't. And a man that is basing his woman off her liking how much paper he has is in for a bad relationship.

 

[Autobot8655]

finding a mid 20 to early 30s chick in dc with no kids good luck with that

if its that hard to find someone who fits your criteria in DC and you really want a brawd with no kids...then leave DC

For some its a priority...for others it isnt...

 

[cnc]

Indeed. And a brother in his 30's, if he wants kids should be looking for someone to settle down with. Finding a woman in her 30's with no kids gets harder and harder the longer you wait.

Not just that, if you find a woman in her 30's with no kids, 8/10 times there's a reason they are single, including, but not limited to:

~Being batshit crazy
~Emotional baggage from past relationships
~Financial drama
~Spent their 20's whoring around and now a new crop of 20-29 YO's have taken their former spot, they want to "settle down"

 

[sideshowfreak]

finding a woman without kids is hard.. and the ones you do find without kids are unwanted women.

 

[DAYNE]

A woman can't. And a man that is basing his woman off her liking how much paper he has is in for a bad relationship.

we ain't women

everyday a woman turns 18

rubbish, all women who aspire to get married want financial security

 

[BDR]

 

[divine]

Yup! All the women I know in their 30's with no kids and never been married.. got issues and are hard to deal with.

Not just that, if you find a woman in her 30's with no kids, 8/10 time there's a reason they are single, including, but not limited to:

~Being batshit crazy
~Emotional baggage from past relationships
~Financial drama
~Spent their 20's whoring around and now a new crop of 20-29 YO's have taken their former spot, they want to "settle down"

 

[CPT Callamity]

1 kid is 1 too many

^^^^^This.

Unless she was married before is about the only slide that I use to give. Now I just leave them alone altogether to save myself from the drama.

 

[simonmarcel]

finding a mid 20 to early 30s chick in dc with no kids good luck with that

Man, you must be hanging in SE or PG County. There are women in their 30's without kids all over the place. Albeit, the are still looking for the "perfect man" and won't give any other man the time-of-day. I'm from Baltimore, and finding a chic over 17 without a kid is rare.

 

[LSN]

Serious relationship...I can streeeeeeetch and tolerate 1 child even tho that hasn't happened...never had a real relationship w/ a chic w/ kids

Now if she a jumpoff...she could be Octomom and I wouldn't give a fuck

 

[Mello Mello]

1 kid is 1 too many

^^^^This...

Only way I date single women with kids is if I have kids myself. Then we'd have something in common as well. But other than that most single mothers to me are just monetary fun if that.

 

[CPT Callamity]

if its that hard to find someone who fits your criteria in DC and you really want a brawd with no kids...then leave DC

For some its a priority...for others it isnt...

Probably a formidable solution, unfortunately not an option for some of us.

 

[DAYNE]

Man, you must be hanging in SE or PG County. There are women in their 30's without kids all over the place. I'm from Baltimore, and finding a chic over 17 without a kid is rare.

them niggas in baltimore attend bone them young university

 

[divine]

Man, you must be hanging in SE or PG County. There are women in their 30's without kids all over the place.

...and they are single and have no kids for a reason.

 

[richlove]

If they even look fertile, I'm not fucking with them.