Dating Single Women W/Kids. How Many Before You Draw The Line?

[Muttley]

Run, run, run!!!! and run again!!!! Run faster...If she's willing break it off (not be with) with a man she shared a very intimate bond (children) what makes you think she won't break it with you? 5000% x 12 cosign leave single mothers ALONE.....Its difficult dating a single woman already and think its even better with a child? Not all single mothers are bad, but finding that one that's real cool is EXTREMELY DIFFICULT....If you are black man in the US you have already have daily drama; dating a single with kids is even magnifying the situation....why do you need to deal with her responsibilities...If you were single with 3 stay at home kids and she didn't have any kids, do you think she would want to date you and feed/clothe those young ones....Just keeping real, women don't want to admit their stock drops after they have that first and especially if the single.

 

[DAYNE]

hey divine how many other niggas kids are you taking care of?

 

[GeeZnu]

If they even look fertile, I'm not fucking with them.

dam shame

 

[richlove]

Yup! All the women I know in their 30's with no kids and never been married.. got issues and are hard to deal with.

Fuck that shit...kids or no kids, most chicks have issues...so if you messing with one with a kid, then she has issues + a kid which is an issue by itself. I think most times it's just because they had an abortion or are not really fertile..because the odds of them practicing b.c. 100 percent of the time are low.

 

[divine]

If they even look fertile, I'm not fucking with them.

Now that shit is funny!!!

 

[REDLINE]

...and they are single and have no kids for a reason.

It's seems to be a lose, lose situation.

A man over 30 with no kids and never been married is said to have commitment issues, gay or just all around fucked up.

A woman over 30 with no kids and never been married is just all around fucked up!

And the woman with kids is off limits.

What exactly are us brothas looking for?

Get in where you fit in.

 

[DAYNE]

It's seems to be a lose, lose situation.

A man over 30 with no kids and never been married is said to have commitment issues, gay or just all around fucked up.

A woman over 30 with no kids and never been married is just all around fucked up!

And the woman with kids is off limits.

What exactly are us brothas looking for?

Get in where you fit in.

get them young hoes nigga

 

[streetdreamer]

Black men are racist against their own kind. If a woman has 5 or 6 baby daddies, run your ass off instead of concluding that these jokers were all thugs or didn't know how to treat a woman right. You can be sure that some of these men tried to treat her right and just couldn't keep her satisfied. Its like Malcolm X said, the fastest way to lose a woman is to treat her right.

 

[CPT Callamity]

It's seems to be a lose, lose situation.

A man over 30 with no kids and never been married is said to have commitment issues, gay or just all around fucked up.

A woman over 30 with no kids and never been married is just all around fucked up!

And the woman with kids is off limits.

What exactly are us brothas looking for?

Get in where you fit in.

I h ave commitment issues: I won't commit to just any ole raggedy woman that hollers she wants a relationship.

 

[the artist]

Didn't we just have a thread like this?
Nothing wrong with being a Father Figure. I'll take 3 well mannered children over ONE Bad Ass Seed anyday.

 

[divine]

Dudes need to be honest with themselves. Grow up. Decide what they want.

It's seems to be a lose, lose situation.

A man over 30 with no kids and never been married is said to have commitment issues, gay or just all around fucked up.

A woman over 30 with no kids and never been married is just all around fucked up!

And the woman with kids is off limits.

What exactly are us brothas looking for?

Get in where you fit in.

 

[DAYNE]

Didn't we just have a thread like this?
Nothing wrong with being a Father Figure. I'll take 3 well mannered children over ONE Bad Ass Seed anyday.

you want to take care of another niggas mistakes go right ahead

 

[mk23666]

It's seems to be a lose, lose situation.

A man over 30 with no kids and never been married is said to have commitment issues, gay or just all around fucked up.

A woman over 30 with no kids and never been married is just all around fucked up!

And the woman with kids is off limits.

What exactly are us brothas looking for?

Get in where you fit in.

I noticed that too.

 

[worldseries]

Man, you must be hanging in SE or PG County. There are women in their 30's without kids all over the place. Albeit, the are still looking for the "perfect man" and won't give any other man the time-of-day. I'm from Baltimore, and finding a chic over 17 without a kid is rare.

I hear you. I think a lot of girls in Baltimore feel left out if they don't have kids. It pretty sad. However, you can find plenty of women in college with no kids.

 

[BDR]

It's seems to be a lose, lose situation.

A man over 30 with no kids and never been married is said to have commitment issues, gay or just all around fucked up.

A woman over 30 with no kids and never been married is just all around fucked up!

And the woman with kids is off limits.

What exactly are us brothas looking for?

Get in where you fit in.

Get you a white woman

 

[divine]

This conversation is hard to have when some of the people in here are kids themselves (20's or younger).. totally different mentality than those 30+

 

[Ryokurin]

1. I'll do 2 if they were previously married but no more.

 

[donwuan]

There's no limit for dating if they are cared for. There are no rules. Play it slow and see what happens. Mess around and lose a 10 listening to these clowns living in there Momma's basement. Most have never dated outside the hood, or a chick with a degree, and they don't have one themselves. See this one out. You ain't got shit to lose.

 

[DAYNE]

This conversation is hard to have when some of the people in here are kids themselves (20's or younger).. totally different mentality than those 30+

I don't care how old I get I ain't settling

I seen people settle and still end up with shit

 

[the artist]

you want to take care of another niggas mistakes go right ahead

Wow!
It's not the child's fault that Father's bail.
Funny how Tupac, Shaq & Lebron's "Father's" wanna show up after the work is done.
That's what's wrong with society now.....folk just wanna throw kids away or sweep them under the rug.
We can just agree to disagree right here.

 

[MoneyInTheBank]

 

[cthomas0964]

Depends on the woman, circumstances and the amount of kids. I met 1 girl that had her own business and was fine but she had 3 kids by 3 different men and was never married. Another had 2 kids by 2 different men and was married to a 3rd guy that she didn't have kids by. If she is handling her kids and her career and if you don't want any then I don't see a problem with it. To be honest if you meet a woman and she has never been married and don't have any kids then there are probably other issues to deal with.

 

[Autobot8655]

I don't care how old I get I ain't settling

I seen people settle and still end up with shit

You are correct.

Its best to find a woman without a child regardless of age.

My dawg was dating this brawd for 4-5 years who had 2 boys.

He loved those kids like they were his own.

He married her in 2008 and a little over a year later they "separated".

Dude was crying about it...

He couldnt even have a relationship with the kids that he bonded with

Dude was devastated.

Imagine how it feels not being able to see children that you made your own?

This is what I have learned.

Dont buy into that microwave family shit, bruh...and Im representing early to mid 30s cats.

Keep your standards high....you wont regret it.

 

[mk23666]

You are correct.

Its best to find a woman without a child regardless of age.

My dawg was dating this brawd for 4-5 years who had 2 boys.

He loved those kids like they were his own.

He married her in 2008 and a little over a year later they "separated".

Dude was crying about it...

He couldnt even have a relationship with the kids that he bonded with

Dude was devastated.

Imagine how it feels not being able to see children that you made your own?

This is what I have learned.

Dont buy into that microwave family shit, bruh...and Im representing early to mid 30s cats.

Keep your standards high....you wont regret it.

I've been going through a similar situation myself.

 

[DAYNE]

Wow!
It's not the child's fault that Father's bail.
Funny how Tupac, Shaq & Lebron's "Father's" wanna show up after the work is done.
That's what's wrong with society now.....folk just wanna throw kids away or sweep them under the rug.
We can just agree to disagree right here.

it ain't my fault, nor my responsibility nigga

 

[Autobot8655]

I've been going through a similar situation myself.

shits ridiculous

at least if the children are genetically yours....you could still demand to see them

but when they arent...its complicated and perhaps completely up to the woman

 

[divine]

shits ridiculous

at least if the children are genetically yours....you could still demand to see them

but when they arent...its complicated and perhaps completely up to the woman

he chose the wrong woman. If she cared about her kids, and knew they loved and had a relationship with her ex, she wouldn't keep them from him... unless of course he was a shitty dude. She is bitter and is making her kids suffer.

 

[REDLINE]

he chose the wrong woman. If she cared about her kids, and knew they loved and had a relationship with her ex, she wouldn't keep them from him... unless of course he was a shitty dude. She is bitter and is making her kids suffer.

Women will do the same to the biological father. Many are immature and do what they can to hurt the ex instead of having the childs best interest at heart.

 

[divine]

Women will do the same to the biological father. Many are immature and do what they can to hurt the ex instead of having the childs best interest at heart.

Indeed. So to say you shouldn't date a woman with kids because of that situation is just being emotional.

 

[Autobot8655]

Women will do the same to the biological father. Many are immature and do what they can to hurt the ex instead of having the childs best interest at heart.

but at least the biological father has rights...not many..but he still has them

 

[Cross]

1 is my limit anything over that an i dont even bother

C/S. I want at least 1 of my own and definitely not more than 2.

 

[Autobot8655]

Indeed. So to say you shouldn't date a woman with kids because of that situation is just being emotional.

emotional?



Dude...its a possible reality that one doesnt control just like divorce after marriage.

Marrying a woman with children has an increased risk with emotional detachment in terms of nonbiological children that could actually be supported by data...so thats definitely not based on "emotion".

If someone wants to date a woman with children...more power to them, but I will still tell them my opnion.

Unfortunately, I never told my dawg, but thats my fault.

I assumed that he knew what he was doing....and I wasnt going to deny his pursuit of happiness.

 

[Cross]

Black men are racist against their own kind. If a woman has 5 or 6 baby daddies, run your ass off instead of concluding that these jokers were all thugs or didn't know how to treat a woman right. You can be sure that some of these men tried to treat her right and just couldn't keep her satisfied. Its like Malcolm X said, the fastest way to lose a woman is to treat her right.

Unfortunately, no truer words have been spoken.

 

[cnc]

That's what's wrong with society now.....folk just wanna throw kids away or sweep them under the rug.
We can just agree to disagree right here.

The average decent guy has no problem taking care of HIS KIDS that he helped create, but being expected to pick up the slack emotionally, time-wise and financially for kids you didn't father just so you can have a relationship with their mother? I'll pass bruh.

 

[mk23666]

shits ridiculous

at least if the children are genetically yours....you could still demand to see them

but when they arent...its complicated and perhaps completely up to the woman

I know what you mean. The girl isn't mine genetically, and thus the greater dilemma. I know she'd like to see me because she sneeks calls to me when she can. Maybe things will get better after she graduates and moves out. It's hard as hell turning off "daddy mode" when you've done it so well for so long.