BGOL/SOL Cheaters...Let me ask some ?'s

[Rennaissance man]

Ok I need someone to answer this question......
Why be in a committed relationship if you know you cant be faithful? Why not have all of the pussy you want as a single man?

Because there is more to life that fucking pussy. Why would anyone be single all their lives just because of pussy. How about raising kids? How about building a relationship with a woman?

Essentially, reasonable men will only cheat under the assumption that the wife/girlfriend will not know. Hence, in our minds, we are not really sacrificing much if she does not know. Like a lot of people have said, things can be perfectly ok at home and a man can cheat. However, if the wife is stressing you too much then we become more aggressive about cheating and actually start seeking it out.

Men cheat because we get major validation from sleeping with women especially beautiful ones. It makes us feel good.

 

[M.H.C.]

Have never cheated and will never cheat. What's the point?

 

[D-TOWN REP]

Monogamy is an illusion. Humans aren't wired that way. It's not a gender thing. Men however, possess more capacity to 'roam' because our procreational role is biologically and neurologically distinct from women. Nature bears this out by providing more women than men to procreate with.

Relationships are about BUILDING, not fucking. So it IS possible to be monogamous sexually. But in my opinion AND observation INFIDELITY IS A MENTAL THING, where the physical act is an inconsequential outcome of that mental openness to fulfill a need, urge, or desire.

People are born polyamorous, then get indoctrinated into the concept of monogamy. If there wasn't any negative blowback for satisfying our sexual urges, societies would look and be organized differently.

JG

 

[Blu Diablo]

Monogamy is an illusion. Humans aren't wired that way. It's not a gender thing. Men however, possess more capacity to 'roam' because our procreational role is biologically and neurologically distinct from women. Nature bears this out by providing more women than men to procreate with.

Relationships are about BUILDING, not fucking. So it IS possible to be monogamous sexually. But in my opinion AND observation INFIDELITY IS A MENTAL THING, where the physical act is an inconsequential outcome of that mental openness to fulfill a need, urge, or desire.

People are born polyamorous, then get indoctrinated into the concept of monogamy. If there wasn't any negative blowback for satisfying our sexual urges, societies would look and be organized differently.

JG

Though the differences are varied, one simple example calls into play the biochemical differences of testosterone and estrogen, which account for differing behavioral expressions of men vs. women along a whole array of actions.

Even though men and women possess both testosterone and estrogen. The primary difference in proportion (women with less test and more est, and the reverse for men) make up a good deal of both the physical AND mental differences in both genders. Our 'elevated' levels of cognition are outstripped by our genetic inclination to fuck, fuck, and fuck some more. That's why it takes iron discipline, an agreed goal/reason, and elevated levels of understanding to be both monogamous AND fulfilled. Monogamy for humans is simply artificial. It's an uncomforting thought for most, esp. women. But that's real.



JG

as for the rest of you question, there have been time's I've lied and times I haven't.

I've never had a woman leave because of "cheating".

Women seem to be simultaneously torn over being cheated on and validated in having a man that other women want. I've even heard women say out of their own mouths that they wouldn't be interested in a man that other women weren't attracted to.

 

[spicykjun]

dont lie n 1st place
been w my main chick ova 10 yrs and she knew about almost every chick i fucked (they all kno bout her as well) and i kno about every dude she has fucked also

relationship and sex are 2 different words

she jus recently graduated and we hav discussed moving n 2getha jus gotta iron out stipulations

 

[gameboy]

Interesting-lets discuss this:

How can you salvage a relationship if someone is cheating on their significant other? Now I can understand men being hardwired to chase pussy, but fucking another woman...Again why not just be single?

because if we are throwin the "D",,, ya'll don't want to let us be single,,, a chick just took me out to dinner today for fathers day & told me "whether you like it or not, you are my man now!",,, even tho i told her from jump i wasn't lookin' for relationship,,,, the meal wasn't paid for yet, so i didn't argue

 

[D-TOWN REP]

because if we are throwin the "D",,, ya'll don't want to let us be single,,,

now aint that the truth

 

[spicykjun]

because if we are throwin the "D",,, ya'll don't want to let us be single,,,

every pre fuck conversation starts out with me sayin"im not lookin for a relationship" ask me if they remember that shit
man i wish i could post sum text messages convos and voicemails

 

[Chicutie]

1-Really....Sometimes dont you cheat, just because the pussy/dick is available? Not because there is a problem at home?

- I cheated once and it was because of problems in the relationship. When things were good I never would have even thought of someone else, but when things were bad it started with just spending to with someone else to having sex with that person. I will also say that I suspected the person I was in a relationship with was doing some things behind my back so that did kind of fuel of things.

All that said. . would it have been smarter just to end the relationship? Of course. But at the time I wasn't really thinking logically. This happened when I was about 20. . so there was a lot to be learned about relationships in general at that point.

2-If you got caught-What do you do when your significant other found out?

- I didn't caught but I do think the boyfriend knew.

3-Did the woman(bgol) or men(sol)dump you?

- He didn't dump me but the guilt of what I did was eating at me constantly so I ended up breaking it off.



I will add that on the receiving end of this my perspective is a lot less understanding. Knowing what I know now I wouldn't cheat on someone, I'd just break it off. And I would expect the same of someone I was with. With my most recent ex his cheating was the cause of the breakup. . . there was just too much lying and deception to heal that relationship. It was best to just move on.

 

[Mo-Better]

Ummmm no we didnt sir! I didnt think you would ever cheat! Shame shame shame!

Shame shame shame? If a relationship has lost its love is it really cheating. Its not like the relationship had a future.

Again I don't cheat when I'm in a solid relationship. But its a thin line between love and hate and once you erase that line, all bets are off.

 

[thighsneyez22]

I wish some of the ladies would chime in! The men are confusing!

LAWDAMERCY!
This thread has made me whooosah so many times.
I am sorry that I won't be able to shed any light on the why angle, because I don't cheat- but I couldn't help myself from responding to some of these comments.

Because the pussy may be new to you doesn't mean its new..............

ummmm yeah!~
Do 1,000 women/men the same way?
or

Do 1 woman/man 1,000 ways?
Which takes more skill?

words to live by.

QUANTITY vs QUALITY

Completely stupid and rude.

Cheaters just don't think.

Oh well,

not only do they not think- they don't think that their shit stinks. I've never been cheated on, but if I was I wouldn't be mourning losing the man- nope- he'd revolt me- what I would be mourning is all the shit I put up with from him thinking that he was worth the opportunity cost (more on that later).

don't get 60-70 yrs old and you only been hitting the same pussy for 30-40 straight years.

who says that the woman that the man cheated on wanted his crusty shriveled up man parts in the first place.

Since we are talking about lost opportunity, let's look at who has more to lose from being committed. In this day and age where a woman can earn as much or more than a man- you only need a man for sex.

A woman, no matter how busted she may look, will always have several more opportunities to boink than a man of her same level. I venture to say that every woman that you know could be doing a different dude every hour (some do and even get paid for it).

So who really is getting the short end of the stick with getting in a relationship.

It's called cheating because it's not fair. If you want to be with others, keep it above board- maybe I want to be with others, too.

Your penis, your tongue is not that good/unique.

wooooosah!

 

[thighsneyez22]

Have never cheated and will never cheat. What's the point?

Why not? According to some in this thread- it can't be helped!

 

[onyxfemme]

Chicute & thighsneyez22 the ladies have spoken and I appreciate your input. It is amazing how women and men have two completely different outlooks on the same topic.

Somethings that I want to ask/share:​

When you have a good thing at home that you say that you love and cherish-when you are cheating where is your mind? It baffles me and scares me that some men and women can go, plan and execute cheating. To look in someones face and say you love them then the same day go and fuck another woman or man is almost evil. To risk what you have at home for a fuck?
To say that you dont care about the person/jumpoff is something that is confusing to me. It would seem that you dont care about the person you are cheating on.

I cheated once in my early tweenties. And it is something that I vowed I would never do again in my life (unprovoked) because of how hurt he was. To see the hurt in someones face because of pain that I inflicted still haunts me to this day.

And yes I have been cheated on also. I can tell you that when a woman or man finds out that they have been cheated on...The pain is almost unbearable. It is something that takes time to heal. In the 1st stages of realization of what the partner has done there are sleepless nights, loss of appetite, crying, hurt and anger. How can cheaters actions NOT be clouded of visions of this? If the person decides to stay after knowing the grimy details then there is a moment of true love and hate as well as the risk of having the same thing happen again. There is also the STRONG possibility that the person cheated on will seek revenge as a way of coping and/or getting back at the person. Things will never be the same as he/she will NEVER fully trust you. Is that a relationship worth having?

 

[Upgrade Dave]

1. yes.. and i do it because its new pussy not because its a problem at home

2. Lie.. And stick to my story no matter what. Unless she caught me in the actual act of fucking then it didnt happen

3. No. havent been dumped because i was cheating but then i never actually been busted.. And i'm a pretty good liar...

1. Co-sign. It's fucked up but it's real. I can't get enough of my woman but when an opportunity presented itself, I took it.

2. Co-sign again.

3. Put out but then taken right back.

To answer the "Why not just leave?" question:
I didn't want to. I've built a lot with my wife and plan of continuing to build but I wanted to have sex with this other chick and let the side that knows better be overwhelmed.

Don't be believe it when someone says it can't be helped. Even as an admitted cheater, I've decided not to far more than I've given in and not just with women that would be considered "unattractive". Everyone is susceptible, a person just has to weigh what's important and what they may lose if they succumb.

 

[onyxfemme]

Thanks for the real talk-let me ask you this...When doing what your were doing-did you think about how fucked up your actions where?

1. Co-sign. It's fucked up but it's real. I can't get enough of my woman but when an opportunity presented itself, I took it.

2. Co-sign again.

3. Put out but then taken right back.

To answer the "Why not just leave?" question:
I didn't want to. I've built a lot with my wife and plan of continuing to build but I wanted to have sex with this other chick and let the side that knows better be overwhelmed.

Don't be believe it when someone says it can't be helped. Even as an admitted cheater, I've decided not to far more than I've given in and not just with women that would be considered "unattractive". Everyone is susceptible, a person just has to weigh what's important and what they may lose if they succumb.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

Chicute & thighsneyez22 the ladies have spoken and I appreciate your input. It is amazing how women and men have two completely different outlooks on the same topic.

Somethings that I want to ask/share:​

When you have a good thing at home that you say that you love and cherish-when you are cheating where is your mind? It baffles me and scares me that some men and women can go, plan and execute cheating. To look in someones face and say you love them then the same day go and fuck another woman or man is almost evil. To risk what you have at home for a fuck?
To say that you dont care about the person/jumpoff is something that is confusing to me. It would seem that you dont care about the person you are cheating on.

It's called "segmentation". I can absolutely separate how I feel for my wife from my actions in the moment. It takes a certain level of coldness and self centeredness.

I cheated once in my early tweenties. And it is something that I vowed I would never do again in my life (unprovoked) because of how hurt he was. To see the hurt in someones face because of pain that I inflicted still haunts me to this day.

And yes I have been cheated on also. I can tell you that when a woman or man finds out that they have been cheated on...The pain is almost unbearable. It is something that takes time to heal. In the 1st stages of realization of what the partner has done there are sleepless nights, loss of appetite, crying, hurt and anger. How can cheaters actions NOT be clouded of visions of this?

Same answer as above.
You really have to put your own temporary desires above your mate's feelings.

If the person decides to stay after knowing the grimy details then there is a moment of true love and hate as well as the risk of having the same thing happen again. There is also the STRONG possibility that the person cheated on will seek revenge as a way of coping and/or getting back at the person. Things will never be the same as he/she will NEVER fully trust you. Is that a relationship worth having?

That's something for both parties to think on. If the injured party is going to hold onto the hurt and can't move on, then they should split, at least for a while. Having some space probably helped my relationship. It gave her a chance to see what it would be like with me gone and me a chance to see what it's like not being here. Neither of us liked the way that felt.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

Thanks for the real talk-let me ask you this...When doing what your were doing-did you think about how fucked up your actions where?

Onyx
I knew when I was heading that way, it was fucked up. Everybody does but most people lie to themselves to make it feel better. I'm not one of those. I might lie to someone else but never to myself. The chick even asked me "Are you unhappy at home?". I told her "no". She asked, "Then why are you here?". My answer: because I'm a bastard.

 

[onyxfemme]

In all honesty...This hit home

It's called "segmentation". I can absolutely separate how I feel for my wife from my actions in the moment. It takes a certain level of coldness and self centeredness.



Same answer as above.
You really have to put your own temporary desires above your mate's feelings.




That's something for both parties to think on. If the injured party is going to hold onto the hurt and can't move on, then they should split, at least for a while. Having some space probably helped my relationship. It gave her a chance to see what it would be like with me gone and me a chance to see what it's like not being here. Neither of us liked the way that felt.

Well dayum

Onyx
I knew when I was heading that way, it was fucked up. Everybody does but most people lie to themselves to make it feel better. I'm not one of those. I might lie to someone else but never to myself. The chick even asked me "Are you unhappy at home?". I told her "no". She asked, "Then why are you here?". My answer: because I'm a bastard.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

In all honesty...This hit home





Well dayum

It's crazy but it's true. Most people cheat and then blame somebody else (their mate or the other person). Me, I know it was me. Yeah, the other chick knew I was married (she was too) and still came at me. I could have said no and we still would have been cool but I chose to fuck. That's on me.

 

[Lord-Byron Bartlett]

i have some deep seeded issues i need to work out

come out the closet faggot

 

[capcomq]

1-Really....Sometimes dont you cheat, just because the pussy/dick is available? I'm five years in but I haven't had a single incident. I've told my wife that taking care of home is the most important thing and that secrets not sex with someone else is what destroys the relationship. What do you think happens if both parties don't want to leave but do want to explore outside the relationship? You come to a mutual understanding because you were truthful, that's what. I wouldn't cheat because it's available, I would challenge that chick on how serious she is, if she want it that bad, I'd tell her to ask my wife for it. It's a great balancing system.

2-If you got caught-What do you do when your significant other found out? Before marriage when I "got caught" I would just tell the truth. Then offer her an option. If she chooses to stay, then she chooses everything that comes with it. Period.

3-Did the woman(bgol) or men(sol)dump you? I've only had three women in my relationship history that chose to leave after an indiscretion, the rest worked it out in their head so they could stay with me. On a side note, I spoil women so they will let me do what I want.



I hope I was helpful on this topic.

 

[onyxfemme]

Good info....wishes I was spoiled...

1-Really....Sometimes dont you cheat, just because the pussy/dick is available? I'm five years in but I haven't had a single incident. I've told my wife that taking care of home is the most important thing and that secrets not sex with someone else is what destroys the relationship. What do you think happens if both parties don't want to leave but do want to explore outside the relationship? You come to a mutual understanding because you were truthful, that's what. I wouldn't cheat because it's available, I would challenge that chick on how serious she is, if she want it that bad, I'd tell her to ask my wife for it. It's a great balancing system.

2-If you got caught-What do you do when your significant other found out? Before marriage when I "got caught" I would just tell the truth. Then offer her an option. If she chooses to stay, then she chooses everything that comes with it. Period.

3-Did the woman(bgol) or men(sol)dump you? I've only had three women in my relationship history that chose to leave after an indiscretion, the rest worked it out in their head so they could stay with me. On a side note, I spoil women so they will let me do what I want.



I hope I was helpful on this topic.

 

[mailboxpimp]

1-Really....Sometimes dont you cheat, just because the pussy/dick is available? Not because there is a problem at home?

ANY TIME THAT I'VE CHEATED... IT WAS BECAUSE THE PUSSY WAS AVAILABLE AND PRESENTED TO ME...... I HAVE FUCKED COUNTLESS CLIENTS I COULDNT EVEN GET TO HIT ALL OF THE ONES THAT WOULD COME AT ME.... IT WOULD HAVE BEEN ME BEING SLOPPY & GREEDY.... I WENT EXTRA HARD WHEN THERE WERE PROBLEMS @ HOME....

SHIT IVE GONE AS FAR AS TO LEAVE THE HOUSE TO GET HIT OFF & COME BACK SUPER EARLY IN THE MORNING......

THE ONLY THING BETTER THAN PUSSY IS NEW PUSSY & A WOMAN THAT DO THE SHIT THAT YA MAIN LADY DONT, WONT, OR CANT....


2-If you got caught-What do you do when your significant other found out?

KINDA HARD TO CATCH ME IN SOME SHIT LIKE THAT...... IM ALWAYS AROUND WOMEN..... LOTS OF THEM.... IM A HAIR STYLIST / EYEBROW & MAKE UP ARTIST....... IN MY LONGEST RELATIONSHIP... MY EX WAS WITH ME WHEN I STARTED COSMETOLOGY SCHOOL.... THEN WATCH MY TRANSITION TO BECOMING AN EYEBROW ARTIST..... SHE USED TO HATE TO MEET ME @ WORK OR AFTER WORK..... THERE WAS 1 TIME SHE FOUND OUT ABOUT A CHICK THAT I WAS DATING B4 SHE MOVED TO ATLANTA.... I TALKED TO HER FOR AN HR ON HER CELL PHONE.... BACK IN THE EARLY 90'S...... I JUST TOLD HER IT WAS OVER.. IT WAS.... THE SECOND TIME..... WE WERE BROKEN UP BUT STILL FUCKIN & MY NEW GIRL THAT WAS WAAAAAAAAY MORE ATTRACTIVE CAME TO MY HOUSE BECAUSE SHE LOST HER KEYS...... MY DUDE LET MY EX IN... SHE WENT THROUGH MY BAG ON THE FLOOR & SAW THE NEW GIRLS SHIT IN IT... AND WAS THEN THE NEW GIRL PULLS UP IN THE CAR THAT I BROUGHT FROM MY EX

SHIT WAS CRAZY....

WE STILL TALK....... IVE KNOWN THE EX SINCE 1990.... WE ALMOST GOT MARRIED....

OTHER THAN THAT I'VE NEVER BEEN CAUGHT CHEATING....... I CAN LIE LIKE 2 TRAINS ON THE SAME TRACK.......

I THINK ITS VERY HARD TO CATCH A MAN CHEATING THAT IS IN THE HAIR BIZ....... A STRAIGHT MAN... IN THIS GAME WILL ALWAYS HAVE ACCESS TO EXTRA PUSSY.... SIMPLY BECAUSE HE HAS A WOMAN, WOMEN SEE HIM MAKING HIS MONEY, & HE CAN DO FOR THEM WHAT THEY CANNOT DO FOR THEMSELVES......



3-Did the woman(bgol) or men(sol)dump you?]

I DONT LIKE EMOTIONAL CONFRONTATIONS....... SO I USUALLY CREATE A SITUATION FOR YOU TO LEAVE ME.... EVERY NOW & THEN I SIMPLY STOP CALLING BUT WHEN YOU FUCKING A CLIENT & THEN STOP..... SHIT IS CRAZY CAUSE THEY STILL COMING TO GET THEY SHIT TIGHT & JUST SIT IN THE CHAIR LIKE OR OR OR

I PRETTY MUCH CHEATED ON EVERY GIRLFRIEND THAT I'VE EVER HAD!!!!!!!!



BUT........ I REALIZED THE ERROR OF MY WAYS AND APOLOGIZED TO QUITE A FEW OF THE WOMEN THAT I HURT & TOOK ADVANTAGE OF & THEY THANKED ME FOR IT..... THE LOOK ON THEIR FACE WAS LIKE & THAT MADE ME FEEL SO MUCH BETTER.....AS A PERSON... I WOULD NOT WANT THAT TO HAPPEN TO MY MOTHER, SISTER, COUSINS, OF FUTURE DAUGHTER...

MST OF THE WOMEN KNEW I WAS DATING SOMEONE ELSE OR THEY JUST DIDNT CARE...

IM THE TYPE OF GUY YOU DONT WANT TO ASK QUESTIONS .... CAUSE IM GONNA TELL YOU THE TRUTH... EVEN IF IT HURTS YOU...... SO MOST OF THE WOMEN IN MY LIFE ALL TELL ME I DONT WANT TO KNOW OR I BETTER NOT FIND OUT ANYTHING..... THEY DONT ASK CAUSE I WILL TELL..


DONT GET IT TWISTED...... I LOVE WOMEN...... BUT @ THAT PARTICULAR TIME IN MY LIFE I HAD TRUST ISSUES & DIDNT LOVE MYSELF SO IT WAS HARD TO VALUE & LOVE SOMEONE ELSE....... I SEE KNOW HOW HARD IT IS FOR GOOD WOMEN TO FIND A GOOD MAN... ESPECIALLY IN THE A.... ME & MY EX STILL TALK & SHE GETS SOOOOO DEPRESSED ABOUT BEING SINGLE, NO KIDS & 39....... SHE'S NOT A HOOD RAT... OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT.... IT SEEMS LIKE MEN & WOMEN ARE OT INTERESTED IN BEING FRIENDS ANYMORE B4 DATING...... THEY DATING TO BECOME FRIENDS... & THAT SHIT DONT WORK.... + HER COMPITION NOW IS THE 20 SOMETHING CHICKS THAT GO HARDER & DONT NEED TO WEAR A BRA CAUSE THE TATA'S STILL STAND UP ON THEIR OWN LIKE THEY JUST GREW YESTERDAY.... OLD PUSSY IS GOOD BUT NEW / YOUNGER PUSSY IS ALWAYS GONNA BE A MANS CHOICE...........

 

[Mo-Better]

Hey Onyx enough about us men and our sexual exploits, what about you? Have you ever cheated? I noticed you said "you can't cheat" Does that mean you have? If so why did you do it? Did you feel your actions were justified.

I have noticed (for the most part) the women have avoided this thread (maybe 3 answered), yet I know they are out there lurking. Maybe these are the ladies we've been cheating with after all we had to have cheated with someone.

So since your here the question is directed to you. Do you think its any less hurtful for a man to find out his lady's been cheating?

 

[onyxfemme]

I cheated for no dayum reasons in my early 20's. I was like 21 or 22. Bottom line, I was wrong and lost a good man. I hurt him and I will never hurt another man again....
I did it because I was out w/ the girls getting attention and this guy who is very well known here in Indy asked to lick my pussy. THAT IS MY WEAKNESS. I was young and immature. It was the worst mistake of my life.

HOWEVER-
If I catch my man cheating on me...I am not responsible for amount of grimy revengeful acts that may happen.

If I say anymore this thread will self destruct

Hey Onyx enough about us men and our sexual exploits, what about you? Have you ever cheated? I noticed you said "you can't cheat" Does that mean you have? If so why did you do it? Did you feel your actions were justified.

I have noticed (for the most part) the women have avoided this thread (maybe 3 answered), yet I know they are out there lurking. Maybe these are the ladies we've been cheating with after all we had to have cheated with someone.

So since your here the question is directed to you. Do you think its any less hurtful for a man to find out his lady's been cheating?

 

[ScorpDiesel]

OP, I hope you realize that there's alot of generalization going on to disguise the simple fact that cheaters only give a fuck about themselves & what THEY want. You see this kind of selfishness & lack of empathy in children. Cheating comes from immaturity, not animal instincts or any other bullshit generalizing you've read.

 

[onyxfemme]

YEP!! That was my overall general consensus!

OP, I hope you realize that there's alot of generalization going on to disguise the simple fact that cheaters only give a fuck about themselves & what THEY want. You see this kind of selfishness & lack of empathy in children. Cheating comes from immaturity, not animal instincts or any other bullshit generalizing you've read.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

OP, I hope you realize that there's alot of generalization going on to disguise the simple fact that cheaters only give a fuck about themselves & what THEY want. You see this kind of selfishness & lack of empathy in children. Cheating comes from immaturity, not animal instincts or any other bullshit generalizing you've read.

 

[TheyCallMeBe]

Onyx be having niggas open up like they on Oprah...

 

[Upgrade Dave]

Onyx be having niggas open up like they on Oprah...

 

[WorldEX]

I refuse to believe all black men/women cheat. I know we are not hardwired this way. But in having a conversation with a soon to be married couple I wanted to ask some questions that we were discussing and getting schooled on by her fiance.

FIX
I refuse to believe all men/women cheat. I know we are not hardwired this way. But in having a conversation with a soon to be married couple I wanted to ask some questions that we were discussing and getting schooled on by her fiance.


The truth is whites have used recycled cultural beliefs on black sexuality by using whites the "control group" and middle class white's value against us.
Every race cheat, it is not race or sex id issue. Women cheat as much as men do that is reality.

 

[EATUGOOD1]

come out the closet faggot

Halo? is that you?

 

[Upgrade Dave]

FIX
I refuse to believe all men/women cheat. I know we are not hardwired this way. But in having a conversation with a soon to be married couple I wanted to ask some questions that we were discussing and getting schooled on by her fiance.


The truth is whites have used recycled cultural beliefs on black sexuality by using whites the "control group" and middle class white's value against us.
Every race cheat, it is not race or sex id issue. Women cheat as much as men do that is reality.

Nice. Good job on this one.

 

[John_Gault]

OP, I hope you realize that there's alot of generalization going on to disguise the simple fact that cheaters only give a fuck about themselves & what THEY want. You see this kind of selfishness & lack of empathy in children. Cheating comes from immaturity, not animal instincts or any other bullshit generalizing you've read.

YEP!! That was my overall general consensus!

Then facts and evidence are probably useless to you. Sure one could define one aspect of 'maturity' by one's capacity to exhibit restraint . . .

. . . but THAT doesn't explain ANYTHING, especially WHY SO MUCH RESTRAINT IS NECESSARY IN THE FIRST PLACE. Nature has a tendency to organize life in such a way that animals purposefulness or UTILITY is - well, 2nd NATURE.

Meaning if we, humans, were intended to be life mates, or anything of the like, we'd have chemicals expressions that wold COUNTERACT or turn OFF temptation after we 'bonded' with a mate.

Simple unfounded explanations and conclusions like the ones you and scorpd believe may be comforting, but NATURAL HISTORY and the statistics suggest otherwise.


Str8 talk,

JG

 

[Mo-Better]

I cheated for no dayum reasons in my early 20's. I was like 21 or 22. Bottom line, I was wrong and lost a good man. I hurt him and I will never hurt another man again....
I did it because I was out w/ the girls getting attention and this guy who is very well known here in Indy asked to lick my pussy. THAT IS MY WEAKNESS. I was young and immature. It was the worst mistake of my life.

HOWEVER-
If I catch my man cheating on me...I am not responsible for amount of grimy revengeful acts that may happen.

If I say anymore this thread will self destruct

We wouldn't want your thread to self destruct, its a good one. But based upon your comments women cheat for the same reasons men cheat, SEXUAL FULFILLMENT!

A woman needs sexual fulfillment as much as any man. I've heard women say it and you just confirmed their statements. If a woman has experienced oral sex and its her main technique to reach orgasm and her man won't do it, she's going to seek the satisfaction she needs somewhere else. She will cheat.

So its not just us men who seek sexual fulfillment its women too. I do appreciate your honesty on this matter.